My mom had me right after she turned 20. My dad turned out to be a deadbeat loser, and she kicked him out when i was two before my little brother was born. He is now living a life without any of his children (he also has another son) as a meth addict. I feel like my mom has always resented me. Like my life ruined her life, because she couldn’t live to be a normal young adult. She use to tell me how I have been nothing bit a burden since the day I was born (I ten weeks premature). I’m 21 now, married and have two beautiful daughters. I had my first daughter right after my 19th birthday and not once have I ever felt like my daughters are a burden. She has never been happy. She has been married three times now, and even in her happiest marriage, she still treats me and even my brother horribly. She isn’t happy that I’m happy and somehow got it in her head that I have a controling husband, which is conpletely outrageous. He is the most wonderful, patient, loving, caring husband and father a woman could ask for. She is literally the only person I know who thinks this way of him, and everybody else has been around him much more than she has. Because of her accusations about my husband she and i haven’t been on good terms in over a year. I haven’t seen or nor have I spoken to her. She texted me over a christmas saying she wanted to take me to lunch and see the girls. She said this as if she hasnt said the horrible things she has said about me or my husband. She never apologizes for anything. The last time I allowed myself to forgive and forget without an appology (over this same situation) she was horrible to hubby and me again in a matter of weeks! That was the final straw, so I told her no she will not be seeing me or my babies until I get an appology. Her response was completely off topic she “lol”ed and mocked me and said I hope nothing ever happens to Joel or you’rescrewed. I didn’t even respond. She gets so mean if you just keep fueling the fire. Why is she like this
This is a really sensitive subject for me. Don’t be a jerk.
I doubt it’s menopause…she’s been this way my entire life. She won’t have ANY of her kids if she doesn’t soften.