My FH’s sister has 2 children with this guy we’ll just call John.
John and her are not together, although I guess they do hook up from time to time. ANYWAY, this guy is your basic looser…No job, drug addict, in and out of jail, and currently doing jail time for running from the cops.
Back when my FH and I first started our guest list, I made it very clear to him that John was not invited. (His sister has a tendency to bring him to things, although I don’t know why). FH agreed because he doesn’t like John at all either. Our wedding is an outdoor wedding at our home and being the type of person that he is, neither of us trust him enough to have him at our home. So, FH’s sister informs us that John will be attending the wedding, and FH says no, that he is not on the guest list and not invited. So, she now says that if he is not allowed to come, that her and her children will not be attending either, which creates an even bigger problem because her son is supposed to be our ring baerer. Now FMIL is siding with the sister and refusing to speak to us as well. I do not want this guy at my wedding, but I want my FH’s family to be there. Am I wrong for standing my ground? (BTW FH is completely on my side, even though I think he would actually give in and invite the guy just to keep the peace if it wasn’t for me being so adamant about not wanting someone like that on our property).