What to do about wife using drugs?

07/12/2010 admin 3 comments

My wife was heavy into drugs before we met. She had my step-son, then a meltdown and went into rehab/therapy at that time (about 10 years or so ago). Since that time, she was an occasional pot smoker. I was under the assumption that she was done with drugs until after we were married. We went on vacation at our 1 year ann. and she smoked pot in front of me. When I pretty much lost it, we got into an actual physical confrontation. We talked a little more about it, and I told her my personal views on ALL drugs. Pot isn’t all bad, and I try to deal with the occasional time that I know she does it (never at home, nor tells me when). Just the other day, she told me that about a year ago, she went to an ex-friends house, and they were doing crack. She said she did some, and left about 45 minutes after. She does not deal with this person any longer. She didn’t mention any hesitation, nor did she apologize for it. Am I wrong to think that she should apologize for doing something that hurts us?
Sorry, there wasnt enough room for all of this. I am at the end of my rope with this. We do have an appointment that she finally made with a marriage counselor on Tuesday. Do I take this as a possible first step for her again? The larger dilemna is, do i treat this as the last straw and just leave? I know she is hooked on drugs for whatever reason-if there is a documentary on tv she will watch it, and she watches intervention almost religiously. The showtime series weeds, she is into that right now. She will say at least once a week how she wishes she had a joint, or how somethign would be better if she were stoned. I am SOO sick of it. I dont understand this at all, and i dont really want to understand it i guess.

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Written by steven c about 1 year ago.

Yes, she put her life in danger, and by doing so basically said that drugs are more important to her than her on son or you. Im sorry but you have given your view on what your belief is about that and if she doesn’t respect you enough to quit that habbit then I would definately get a lawyer and divorce. Nothing ever good came from drugs.
Written by munkees81 about 1 year ago.

I would be upset too, mostly because you know she’s an addict. Ten years ago or not, the woman needed rehab to stop. She is not one to be dabbling. Tell her that you wish she would be more open and honest about her interactions with drugs, and you are always willing to talk about it if it becomes hard for her to say no. Don’t ever let her feel like you are attacking her for it, it will only lead to negative things. Good luck to you and your family.
Written by Cochy about 1 year ago.

Apologize? I guess… but the real problem is a possible relapse here. Doing drugs every so often can turn into a full blown return of the problem. She shouldn’t be touching ANYTHING. She needs to go back to rehab if she hasn’t sorted out her addiction. She is an addict. She does things that hurts those she loves… but she doesn’t really mean it. You realize that her apologizing won’t really do anything, right? It won’t fix the problem. It will still be there. Sure it might make you feel better (temporarily)… until it happens again. And don’t go saying that “she promised me she won’t do it.” You know that is not the truth. I think you know that deep down. Stay strong, my friend. Help her fully recover. She cannot keep doing drugs. She needs them out of her life… COMPLETELY.
Written by rightio about 1 year ago.

About 20 years ago, pot was thought to be ok. Nothing about any drug can be published with any accuracy until the drug has been tested for 10 years. Thats a long time to get addicted to a drug then find out how bad it is for you. Look at smoking, it has only been over the last 5 years that claims are being made that smoking tobacco will cause lung cancer. Previous to that, it used to say tobacco may cause lung cancer. All the tests have been done to know for a fact how bad smoking is for you. The same applies to marijuana. Maybe look up some sites on the net and print out the bad effects marijuana has on the body. Give your wife the printouts….maybe she is under the impression that pot is OK too. Its not OK and is very dangerous. The fact that she smoked crack not long ago says that she has no fear of what drugs can do to her. She may think what she is doing is OK, but it will impact on her later in life. It is having an impact on all of you reight now. Your son is learning that its ok to use drugs.

Your wife has a problem and the first step in you realising this is getting yourself informed. Find out just how bad marijuana is and you may take a firmer stand with her. She needs to stop ALL her drug activity….none of it is OK. You need to be firm and suggest that she goes back into rehab. She should not be using any kind of drug. It is all harmful.

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