There is a girl that i was really into in my early 20′s. We were high school friends, pretty good friends & always flirted. We started hooking up some but i was away at college & so was she, i really really liked her, basically the picture of my optimal mate would be her personality & looks. I didn’t want to get to serious at this point cuz i had bad experiences with LDR’s so kept casual & so did she but we would talk everyday & she would come visit her girl friends where i went to school, but ended up staying with me, but nothing official. After a while i heard she was kinda talking to another guy back in our home town but whatever she wasn’t my girl friend. She started dating this guy & he was abusive to her which made me wonder why she would rather be abused then be with me? Any way they were together for about 2 years & we had kept in touch every now & then i didn’t hold a grudge cuz she wasn’t mine to begin with. She would contact me when they were on the rocks, this & that. They broke she started calling me instantly im still in college at this point, then the calls stopped again, there was an accident with this guy & she got preggers. Being from a catholic family every one heard the story shot gun wedding & they were married, so in my mind that’s then end of that. I hear the stories from mutual friends about how the guy is controlling her not letting her & getting physical which bummed me out cuz this was the sweetest girl ever. Then dude started doing drugs also hard stuff, stealing crazy doing addict type behaviors. So finally now after they were married for 3 years or so she finally left him. During this time i was in an 2 year relationship with a girl that i was hoping to marry someday, till she ended it. So now we’ve became single at the same time & talk some. I know she is a single mom now & still has this crazy dude stressing her out in her life so i know she going through a lot & really just try to let her know im there for her as a friend if needs anything. She moved back home from a town 20 miles away. Here’s the real thing the whole time she was married which was pretty much never stable she would insinuate she wished had chosen me the “nice guy” then her ex, but she deff. didnt run into my arms. So i don’t know how to proceed with this girl who ive had this crazy thing for going on 10 years? I know we are different people know but there still is a spark there, but i give her plenty of space cuz i know this inst how she planned her marriage to go, and has a son now. but does anyone have any advice on what i should do to let her know when she is ready i would like to be able to give it a shot?