We have been married for about four years now. His drinking problem got noticeably worse after his return from deployment about five years ago. At first I just delt with it, he would have waves of sober periods and then binge. He gets pretty mean when he’s drunk but has never hit me. He did however pass out on the bed with a loaded gun once. Anytime I bring up the subjest he either blow it off or just comes back with “I like to drink”. We have been to marriage counceling ( not just for the drinking) and I have suggested he attend meetings but he refuses. We have a one year old son and since then I have had VERY little tolerance for any of his drinking. A few months back he dissapeared for a few days after telling me he had to go to drill that weekend. When he didn’t come home I called the unit and they said they had no overnights that weekend. He ended up calling right before I filed a missing persons report, saying that he could’t call because they (his unit) had a last minute overnight drill. I immediately called his bluff and he admitted to being drunk in some parking lot. After that event I told him that I could not deal with his BS anymore and he promised that he would stop but he still refused treatment. Yesterday, I received a phone call from him at about midnight (I work night shifts) saying that he had been pulled over after being out with his buddy’s from work. He claims the reason he got pulled over was because he was tired and swirving, but then tols me that he blew a .13 on a breathalizer test. He ask me if I would come pick him up and take him home (over 40 milesfrom my job). I said “no you can stay there with the police, I have to go back to work”. Later that night, I went home, gathered some belongings for me and my son and left. He called later saying that the police let him go and that he was on the way home, the whole time saying that he didn’t get a DUI and that he would walk away with almost nothing after his courtdate. At that point I told him that I would not be home when he got there and that I would be staying at my parents for a while. I said that I believed he had been drinking behind my back since the last incident and I did’t trust him anymore. His last words to me where basically that I was playing games with him. So now I am stuck with what to do!!!! I know from the outside it looks like an easy answer, but this is almost seven years of my life, on the other hand I do have a child now and I DO NOT want him exposed to that kind of reckless behavior. Right now I have no trust in my husband and I really don’t think he’s going to change or even fight for his family.