Sounds like he needs help ASAP. Get him in for counselling somewhere and soon.

have u tried adjusting his diet? mayb hes having tooo much sugar and junk food and its causing him to go fruity. or mayb he just wants to be a cross dresser.

You should call the children’s county mental health department (or whatever it is called) as he needs help fast. He probably needs to be in a different home environment and in a different school and needs help mentally, before he becomes a serial murderer or something as bad.

I know this girl who used to crap in her underwear in her room and then transfer it to the outdoor litter box like the cat did it. She was severly abused as a child and was treated like a slave (fetch this, fetch that). I can’t understand why they do that but seriously this child needs help and counseling. Get a counselor and if the kid doesn’t click with the counselor than try another one. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the suitable one but the effort in the long run will pay off. Don’t let this go. the girl i know had this as an adult carried from childhood.

He needs to be in the mental health system for sure. And I think he needs to be out of your house away from your young boys.

Has he been sexually abused in the past? The fact that it’s women’s underwear specifically sounds like his anger is both sexual, and specific towards females. That could be because he was sexually abused by a woman in the past, or a somewhat less direct reaction to having been abused by a man.

Another possibilty: what’s the attitude in your community and family towards transexuals and homosexuals? I could imagine that if he were feeling like he should have been a girl, or he was attracked to other boys, and he wasn’t ok with that then this could possibly be a response to extreme frustration.

It could also not be something about underwear specifically, but just the fact that they’re yours. It’s not uncommon for kids to have trouble accepting a step parent, especially if they’ve had a rough time leading up to it, and it could be related to that. That doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re doing anything wrong (for all I know you could be beating him with a hot iron every night, but you could also be an absolutely perfect step-parent and he could still have issues with your being there that have absolutely nothing to do with anything you’ve done appart from marrying his dad).

No matter what’s behind it, he should see a psychiatrist ASAP. What you described definitely isn’t normal behavior. I doubt he’ll hurt your kids since his aggression isn’t directed at other people, but he definitely needs some serious professional help.

this may a bit too harsh but Boot Camp might set him straight
but then again if he’s been through hell as a small child i don’t think he needs anymore yelling it may make him worse…
like everyone else says on here counseling would probably be your best bet but sometimes that doesn’t work if not maybe a boy’s home here are some websites that may help you out
of course i don’t know your location but hopefully these help
if none of these are in your area you can simply go to http://www.google.com type in “boy’s home” and you may find one in your area