My boyfriend never wants to come to my parents house, and refuses to do things that are family related. (His excuse: “I work everyday and like my weekends to have time to myself” My parents are very welcoming and always ask where he is, they like him. (People always ask where he is and I feel sad that he is absent to everything.) I began to feel like I’ve had been making excuses for him and beginning to think he was selfish, when one day he decided he’d come to my grandmother’s birthday party. He put his laundry in the laundry mat next door and kept leaving to switch the laundry.. He admitted he was anxious during the birthday party–This issue has been going on since we met and is progressively getting worse and worse. I spoke to my mom who thinks that it may have to do with his dad being an alcoholic.. Can growing up with an alcoholic dad make you so anxious that you humiliate the ones you love? I’m humiliated and depressed that he doesn’t love me enough to tough it out and come to events that are very important to me. I don’t want to end our relationship over this one issue..