How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

my wife is an alcoholic and doesn’t see that she is – so we’ve grown apart and don’t have much of a relationship now. Our son is now grown up and out of the house. If you have any experience with getting or trying to get a divorce in this situation I’d like your advice. My wife and I each have our own careers.

but now my brothers & sisters are sending me there children??? what do i do???… the young / youths of today dont even know me…”i” am a well rounded individule, & am marrried,, have been for 21 years,”i”love my family but they have always been disfuntional, “drug addicted” & “alcholics” im feeling a lil lost in this??? the children seem to be sick, they are in the ages of 15 yrs. to young adults of 25 yrs of age….. i cant help everybody here!!!! “this ” situation seems to be a bit “bizzare”..!!! what do i do!!?? my oldest “brother” has been in prison for meth 3 times & has sold his soul to the “demond” or the devil……. my lil sister works with the medical office & gets chemicals for free & sells them on the street. “my” mom, is an alcholic…& all the mentors / the “REAL” MEN HAVE DIED IN OUR FAMILY.. SOO NOW I HAVE BEEN SENT “MY NIECES & NEPHEWS TO TRY & CORRECT THE BAD / NEGITIVE LIFE THAT THEY HAVE HAD TO INDURE…….HELP MEEE….. “WHAT WOULD YOU DO”??

over a year ago i adopted now a 5 year old boy. His mother is a addicted to crack and when she was pregnant she smoked crack too. Since he was younger he was in foster care. While in foster care he attended special education preschool. Now that i have him he is attending regular kindergarten since there is no special education kindergarten offered.
He’s been going to kindergarten(school) for past 3 months, but he is not getting any work done and does not focus on his work. His teacher told me that my son is not focusing and is always last one in class to finish his work, if he even finishes.At home he dose the same thing whether he is putting his close on or eating or doing his homework, always he takes way to long and cant sit still. I have been talking and trying anything just to get him to do what he is supposed to do but IT’S NOT WORKING. I am desperate and in need of some wisdom from you out there how do i get him to focus and do what he is supposed to. PLEASE HELP!!!

My husband quit drinking for over 9 years and has started drinking again for the past few months. He has been laid off and after being bored for some time went back to drinking. Basically, the economy is what did him in. I hate when he drinks and he knows that but he does it anyways. What should I do? I can’t take it when he drinks as he is a total idiot when he’s drunk! Not to mention my 2 teenage sons seeing him like that.

my son was in prison 17 months of the time they say he was out makeing meth with someone I dont think they let you out of prison to make meth. His Mom has all of the evidence to prove him not guilty.

My bf 2 years ago overdoses on cocaine and now has been clean ever sence I have a 1 year old by my sons father and now me and my new bf are trying to concieve.we have tried for almost 7 months and nothing I haven’t got pregnant.could his over dose or cocaine use 2 years ago affect use now?
He has been clean for 2 years I’m not gonna judge his past like he don’t judge me.I help to keep him clean

Ok this song don’t know who sings it or what it is called but it goes a little something like this, Somwhere smoking crack now in and out of lock down I ain’t got a job now. It is about a women who strips to feed her son. If anyone knows who sings it or the name of it please let me know, Thanks

my future mother in law says that her adopted son which is my bf has a bad temper cuz he was born a coke baby so is it true and if so wut other side effects are there?
Like seriously i just found this out and can’t find anything about it on the internet and have no idea what to do. I don’t know if its something I should know about for future references. I mean he’s not abusive or anything he just has a bad temper and I just want to know what other side effects he has that I don’t clearly see if it’s dealing with bein born the way he was.

He lies, fights, is very bad in school, he screams at me and my girls. His mom is on drugs and dont want him, he was living with his memaw for like 4 years, she could not handle him so we got him like a year ago and he is just awful. he said that his mom told him to give me hell and I ask him y he listens to her and he said what and i suppose to do not listen to my mom. , he is old enough to make his own decision, he always has an excuse for everything and is always blamin it on the other person, like when he got caught stealing at a sex store, he said that his friend put it in his pocket, he is very over weight, he weighs 165 pounds and is just turning 12, he is almost 5 feet tall.he cries if i limit his food punches walls, slams doors and tells me you havent seen nothin yet. he caught my cat in its mouth with a fish hook after i told him to stop b4 the cat gets the hook so it got stuck in tiggers mouth he kicks our dogs around and says it was an accident.what if he lies on me, Jail
His is gone most of the time working, I tell him what has happened when he gets home everyday, instead of hi honey, how was your day, I have to always be upset and tell him what his son done wrong, I wont whip him nor his dad will whip him, he just usually grounds him and I hate for him to do that to him cause he needs to get out and exercise b4 he dies from being over weight. his dad says give him all the food he wants he is a growing boy so i dont know what to do, i hate see his dad whip him too. we just need advice,
I think he does have ADHD. He has all the symptons and he heard us over talking about it and now when he gets in trouble he blames it on having ADHD. If he goes and gets counciling which I am looking into then I am afraid that he will lie on me or his dad and get my kids taking away and me or both of us put in jail. He has already threated it to me when he caught the cat with the hook, I told him to pick the knife up that his dad had to cut the fishing string from the hook that was in the cats mouth. He said no so i said pick it up he said no i said if yo dont i am going to whip you you he said yeah and when you do i am going to put u in jail, so he did not pick it up so i smacked him on his butt and he said i am calling the police and your going to jail so i came home and handed him the phone and he said if you punch me again i will call them i didnt even punch him. He said hookin the cat was an accident and his dad believed him and he did not get into any truble
anytime he gets in trouble he says that is all my mom did so I get that from her like its heritary or something, Or he says my cousin i used to live with lied alot so i picked it up from him

I know this sounds horrible but this is the thing.. my sister was raised with her dads family… she might be one of the worst people i have ever met, i come from a very drug addicted family and this is not the reason that i think she is so terrible either. She has been using drugs since she was about 9 years old, i know people are going to say she needs to be loved and all that crap, but over the last 15 years we have all tried, she will steal anything from you, and doesnt care what kind of a high she gets as long as she gets high. She has spent 5 years in prison, and the years she was out she spent the majority in a juvenile detention center. She is currently in prison at this moment, for running 5 meth labs in the same house as her grandma and kid live, she was pregnant when she went to jail and had the baby there, and now her 75 year old grandma has the baby. Anyways my 8 year old nephew ate 8 of his adderall pills and was rushed to the emergnecy room. I don’t know what to do
I do a lot of things for him but im only 19 and struggeling to pay the bills… I don’t want him to be just like my sister, because thats a horrible life.. anyone have any suggestions?? and child services will not take the kids a way from the grandma because i called them before.. she is like a 300 pound lady who can barly walk.. and they expect her to care for 2 children…
At first i was mad at his grandma because dont understand why he is able to just get into the pill cupboard and eat them…

My son’s father came back into our life after 6 years. He was a big drugy.
He has been clean for 2 years.

I made a promise to myself to keeo moving forward and discuss or dwell in the past.

Things have been going well. He is shaping up to be a great dad and my son loves as if he was never away.

He and I are getting a long swimmingly. I even thought we were friends. He calls me almost everyday and talks about his day, talks to me about our son, etc. He even confides in me.

BTW we were each others first like real love. We were together 5 years before we split.

On Friday night he called me to hang out together. My son was sleeping over his aunts so I excepted I mean we have known each other since we were 13. He asked me once before but I was busy.

So he told me was madly in love with me back then.

Then his stupid ass kissed me. Then I went to pick up my sons bike from his house and he tells me he had a good time the other night.

Ummm, did I mention he has been dating someone for 2 years? He says he doesn’t love her.

Bottom line is I know he loves me. He always has and always will. I’ve always trumped any women in his life including his mother. I would almost feel bad for his gf but turns out she is crazy.

It must be hard to see him look at me the way he does. As girlfriend to see the way he speaks to me and treats me. Honestly, if he hadn’t got hooked on drugs and done all the ish we’d still be together I think.

I don’t know how I feel about him. I get a sense that he still has a bit of liar in him left over from his drugy days.

What do you think go with the gut or give him a chance? He hasn’t given me any reason not to believe him since he has been back.

Hmmmm, opinions, advice, etc?

Yes this is really happening! Lol, I know my life is like some dramatic comedic movie, lol.
Artmom, I would see your point about his current gf except I meant it literally when I said she is crazy. He has had a restraining order against her and she is a drug user. She has stepped on my toes many times trying to get in good with my son. I did not appreciate that.
Lol, I am not putting up with anything.

I do not want him back but I know he wants me back. I guess I was kind of confused when I wrote this.

I guess I mean should I continue to be his friend even though he is still in love with me?
@Dogma: Lol, I know how this question must sound. There is much more to the story and much more to our history together but it’s to much to write. His gf? I have no sympathy for her. She is a dope fiend and has 2 lovely girls that she just got taken away from her due to a drug habit.

Again I don’t want to be with him though I know he wants to be with me. The question is more can I continue to be friends with him though he is still in love with me?
@PullMyEFinger: Thank you for actually giving some useful advice!!

This is my first question! LOL.
Sex? Oh my goodness.

please tell me what to do about him and the drugs without cops

Years of fighting doctors that have him hooked, mood swings, depression, living in a fog, can’t focus, behavior problems that showed up when he started these chemicals at two years old – but it doesn’t “exist” and I’m a “bad parent”. It’s clearly stopping him from accomplishing what HE wants to do in life, the talents he has are not coming out as they should.

Yes, I’ve been all over the FDA website, was on this years ago regarding Singulair that they FINALLY acknowledged as a major problem in many adolescents, but he just gets shoved from one to another. I try to take him off, use food high in antioxidants & anti-inflamatories, lots of vitamin C, but I can’t keep up or control it nor influence him.

I need to find an experienced way that works. He can’t function without these meds now. Playing the trumpet & clearing lungs works, but he’s so fogged, with “A.D.D.” that comes out as O.D.D., so he resists any homeopathic or natural approach. Not a “controlling parent”, just very concerned as I watch this bright kid lose himself – he’s essentially a drug-addict with the help & blessings of pediatricians over the past 15 years, and I’m just a “dingbat”. But I have watched this correlation between behavior patterns and increased chemical usage for 15 years now, it’s so obvious to me but I cannot convince anyone else.
Tired of this pill factory this country has got us on – any tried & true suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Any direct messages to this young man would also be very helpful – my sole voice & efforts have diminishing returns – no good at this point – I’m a “nag”.

Don’t try to sell me anything. Looking for real people who have managed their symptoms or weaned themselves or a loved one off of this stuff.

Thanks much.
Thxs Aeriol- We’ve been thru specific allergies tests, no change in protocol.Asthma has never been acute enough to land him on a nebulizer, but only once 10 years ago.Clearing his lungs via exercise & trumpet works well, but sitting or laying down causes him to cough during allergy season especially.It strongly appears that his body has been relying on these chemicals for so long, that he does need to be re-trained.Switching doctors in July, we’ll see if we can’t get a different approach as you’ve suggested.For any parent with a young child with mild asthma, BE WARNED about this chemical cycle that many doctors put your kids on.There is more data to back up my “gut” feelings about this, I’m no genius, but somebody’s making a lot of money off of these meds & doctors go along with it.Took me 4+ years to get the FDA to support my concerns re: SIngulair & it cost my son, as he lived in a “cloud”, basically “stoned”. With the new “healthcare reform”,it’s only going to get worse. Thx.

My son used to not drink or drug. when he went to college he started doing a litle here and there. It did catch up with him. Now he is not married no kids and lives his mother and I. He has a job. Works very well. He has been on a Meth. program for 2 years. He has stolen some of my drugs. In the last 7 years i have had to fight 3 types of cancer and problems. Many surgeries etc. He may could walk away after a detox i don’t know. His job may have medical benifits in about another month or two. Idon’t know if the benifit would be drug rehab. My wife and I are stable but have been sinking slowley because of dying mother in law and two grandchildren that we help over 70 percent in there finances. Actually i see no reason for him to quit. Her goes to work and when he gets home he lay’s in bed and watches t.v. He is paying off debts etc. for when he was away from home for a few years. He used to be everybody’s buddy but they all grew up and had families. he does have it made.

My son used to not drink or drug. when he went to college he started doing a litle here and there. It did catch up with him. Now he is not married no kids and lives his mother and I. He has a job. Works very well. He has been on a Meth. program for 2 years. He has stolen some of my drugs. In the last 7 years i have had to fight 3 types of cancer and problems. Many surgeries etc. He may could walk away after a detox i don’t know. His job may have medical benifits in about another month or two. Idon’t know if the benifit would be drug rehab. My wife and I are stable but have been sinking slowley because of dying mother in law and two grandchildren that we help over 70 percent in there finances. Actually i see no reason for him to quit. Her goes to work and when he gets home he lay’s in bed and watches t.v. He is paying off debts etc. for when he was away from home for a few years. He used to be everybody’s buddy but they all grew up and had families. he does have it made.

I have heard of an MRI checking for brain damage. He has expressive language disorder, also problems with comprehension, retention of information, and receptive language. He is 5, still puts things in his mouth, cannot understand me sometimes. I’m scared hes misdiagnosed. No one will help. I have tried a Pediatrician (medi-cal) the school speech person, an aoption social worker, etc.
They all pass it onto someone else…. he’s falling WAY behind.

I remember Jeb’s son speaking & I really liked him even though I very seldom like republicans. I have heard his kids were all hooked on drugs but wasn’t sure if this is what happened has anyone any info. on him. If he is active in politics he would be a good one for the republicans. Except of course that he is a Bush & many have had it with that family.