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My son ran away 7 years ago?
7 years ago my son ran away with his girlfriend at 16. They have been best friends since preschool. When they were 16, i caught them having sex and drinking alcohol. so i kicked her out of the house. about a few hours later, the girlfriends parents called saying there daughter ran away. that was the last time i heard from them. seven years later my daughter started yelling at me saying that my brother and his girlfriend are on tv. my son was on tv as a LAPD detective and with his girlfriend, as his wife. i just dont understand how my son could get married and and become a police detective and being a alcoholic without my input. i just dont think he is ready for such a change and i think i still need to care for him, hes still my son.

i dont care if you believe this or not,it is true, i just want som advice should i trace him and surprise him, he left at 16, and i feel i should try to still raise him. I called the girlfriends parents and they started crying thinking they will never see there baby girl again, because of my son being a cop and her husbend.
i know it was him, because his name was on the screen

i dont think my son is old enough to be a detective in LAPD and have a gun with all the crime. I dont think he is old enough to mary a girl and have those feelings for someone and i dont think he is old enough to support a wife and take care of her. what should i do about the wifes parents, because they are scard they will never see there little girl again, because of her husbend.

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My son ran away 7 years ago?
7 years ago my son ran away with his girlfriend at 16. They have been best friends since preschool. When they were 16, i caught them having sex and drinking alcohol. so i kicked her out of the house. about a few hours later, the girlfriends parents called saying there daughter ran away. that was the last time i heard from them. seven years later my daughter started yelling at me saying that my brother and his girlfriend are on tv. my son was on tv as a LAPD detective and with his girlfriend, as his wife. i just dont understand how my son could get married and and become a police detective and being a alcoholic without my input. i just dont think he is ready for such a change and i think i still need to care for him, hes still my son.

i dont care if you believe this or not,it is true, i just want som advice should i trace him and surprise him, he left at 16, and i feel i should try to still raise him. I called the girlfriends parents and they started crying thinking they will never see there baby girl again, because of my son being a cop and her husbend.
i know it was him, because his name was on the screen

Im worried about my baby boy being a alcoholic and a LAPD detective and a husbend in his twenties
im worried about my baby being a LAPD detective with a gun? I dont think hes old enough to take care of and support a wife? what should i do with the girls parents? som advice would be great

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My son ran away 7 years ago (i know i keep sending this i havent seen my son in 7 yr?
My son ran away 7 years ago?
7 years ago my son ran away with his girlfriend at 16. They have been best friends since preschool. When they were 16, i caught them having sex and drinking alcohol. so i kicked her out of the house. about a few hours later, the girlfriends parents called saying there daughter ran away. that was the last time i heard from them. seven years later my daughter started yelling at me saying that my brother and his girlfriend are on tv. my son was on tv as a LA detective and with his girlfriend, as his wife. i just dont understand how my son could get married and and become a police detective and being a alcoholic without my input. i just dont think he is ready for such a change and i think i still need to care for him, hes still my son.

i know i already sent this. i dont care if you believe this or not,it is true, i just want som advice should i trace him and surprise him, he left at 16, and i feel i should try to still raise him
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i know it was him, because his name was on the screen

Im worried about my baby boy being a detective and a husbend in his twenties

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my son ran away 7 years ago What should i do
My son ran away 7 years ago?
7 years ago my son ran away with his girlfriend at 16. They have been best friends since preschool. When they were 16, i caught them having sex and drinking alcohol. so i kicked her out of the house. about a few hours later, the girlfriends parents called saying there daughter ran away. that was the last time i heard from them. seven years later my daughter started yelling at me saying that my brother and his girlfriend are on tv. my son was on tv as a LAPD detective and with his girlfriend, as his wife. i just dont understand how my son could get married and and become a police detective and being a alcoholic without my input. i just dont think he is ready for such a change and i think i still need to care for him, hes still my son.

i dont care if you believe this or not,it is true, i just want som advice should i trace him and surprise him, he left at 16, and i feel i should try to still raise him. I called the girlfriends parents and they started crying thinking they will never see there baby girl again, because of my son being a cop and her husbend.
i know it was him, because his name was on the screen

i dont think my son is old enough to be a detective in LAPD and have a gun with all the crime. I dont think he is old enough to mary a girl and have those feelings for someone and i dont think he is old enough to support a wife and take care of her. what should i do about the wifes parents, because they are scard they will never see there little girl again, because of her husbend.

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Getting pregnant by an illegal alien who is married to someone else and having a baby out of wedlock when he is not even around, or smoking a joint? I’m the one who smoked a joint by the way, and I’ve always been considered the bad guy by my stepmother, this other girl’s mother. I think my stepmother has been abusive to me for many years because I smoked a joint. Big deal, I tried drugs, didn’t like them and quit many years ago. I thought I was normal like many people. My stepmother is a bigot and doesn’t think so. She came from an alcoholic family when she remarried my father and is always pointing the finger because I smoked a joint. But her daughter is perfect. I think my stepmother is mean. Her son smoked weed and it was fine for him to smoke weed! She’s a bigot.

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Started dating this guy in high school, we both moved when i went to college. everything was great. 2 1/2 years into it i find out he’s been cheating since the beginning. keep in mind he also has a felony record, drug and alcohol problems, and is a chronic liar. ever since i got pregnant, he’s been faithful and tried to change the rest. we have again moved, and he’s holding a good job, off drugs, and doing well with the alcohol. He’s a great dad, when he wants or has to be. but otherwise, he’s pretty selfish and childish. the more time i spend thinking about leaving the less hard it seems. i really do want to salvage the relationship for my son, but i know that getting into a bad marriage is worse than no marriage at all. i’m really sick and tired of being his mom too. he’s never lived on his own and can’t take care of his own bills and needs, how can i expect him to take care of me and our son? not much time to decide!!! stay and get married, or leave and be a single mom. i know i can

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My husband, myself and my son are furious. My parents never admitted they were alcoholics. I had discussion with my sister & she is supporting him? Why? We love them now that they aren’t drinking. I never thought I would have to beg my sister to support them.

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My husband, myself and my son are furious. My parents never admitted they were alcoholics. I had discussion with my sister & she is supporting him? Why? We love them now that they aren’t drinking. I never thought I would have to beg my sister to support them.

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My husband, myself and my son are furious. My parents never admitted they were alcoholics. I had discussion with my sister & she is supporting him? Why? We love them now that they aren’t drinking. I never thought I would have to beg my sister to support them.

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Everytime i start ignoring him he starts looking for me when he knows i love him he ignores me again im an alcoholic thats the reason he left me i think he met someone else but it did not work out he is not seeing anyone he says his scare of me drinking again i know i hurt him but its killing me that his insicure of what he wants

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I am having the hardest time getting over it. He was so in love with me and then out of the blue started using bad drugs (meth) and one day just left!! He left me with our 3 yr old son and now he has a new girlfriend (a known drug addict). I can’t seem to understand how he could do this to me, what should I do to get over it…

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He doesn’t miss work at all and continues with his daily activities. He drinks alot when he plays golf. He is drinking more and more. There are so many nights when I come home from work and he is drunk. I absolutely hate it!!! I also hate being with him in public when he is drunk. I am at my wits end. Should I leave him. I have a 19 year old daughter in college and a 16 year old son that is a junior in high school. I’ve been to alanon and read every book on alcholism. I have prayed and prayed I just cannot come to terms with it. I have a good life except for this that eats at my soul. Help!!

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What can I do, I am a workaholic, have a daughter who is using meth, a son who does not have a rewarding job.
I have a good husband, make good money, but I smoke, drink, and my blood pressure is up. I tried Chantix, but it made my blood pressure even worse. What do I do…..I feel like I am dying…..my coping mechanism is shot…………….how do I get help…..does anyone have any answers for me. I just feel like I have no control. I can’t quit smoking, I love drinking beer. I am a walking time bomb. Will religion help me, meditation, maybe some counseling, maybe religion……..I am lost … and I cannot find my way………is there anyone out there that can help me, please………I have always helped others……don’t like to ask for help, but I feel like I am at the end of the road….any understand people with knowledge of what I should do out there. If your out there….please help me, I really, really, really need lots of help……God bless……
Thank you for your answers……I will really think about getting some therapy….I guess I didn’t want to think that I may need help…….and maybe AA … thanks …
I feel like crying right now. i can’t believe the response I’ve gotten from all of you, and you don’t even know me. Thank you so much……..

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He was at my mother-in-laws. His aunt is 16 & her b-friend is 23 & he bought alcohol & gave it to my son. My mother-in -law don’t care cause she lets her daughter drink, smoke, take pills, & have sex. She told my son he can smoke weed with them only. She asked him if he has already & he said no. Thank God. What would you guys do besides put him on restriction & take his phone & computer away? Any suggestions will be much appreciated.
My mother-in-law gets really snotty with me but not her son, so as far as his father & I are concerned, he’s not allowed to go there anymore, My husband told them so. Unless were there with him. Thanks everyone who didn’t have a snotty response since this is a very serious matter to us.

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because we found out i was prego so his parents kinda pressured “us” to get married so the baby wouldnt be born out of wedlock. anyways so we got married about a month after finding out about the baby. at this point he was still cought in partying and doing his own thing. i knew he liked to drink alot and smoke weed. and use cocaine .which i really hate. so i told him he needed to quit doing drugs or i’d leave so he said ok. but little did i know that he was hiding it everywhere in our apt so i wouldnt find it. which i found like 3 times and each time left for a short period of time . i’m so fed up with it i’m going crazy. but i dont want 2 leave beacuse i want him to be a father 2 my son and i dont want my son 2 be part of a broken family. also he swears up and down that ever since my son has been born he NO longer uses cocaine. but i cant trust him so i accuse him. and then we end up fighting and its just getting old. i dont know what to do please help with ur opinons

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Please read story before commenting . A man convicted of raping a 15-year-old Glenwood Springs High School student on graduation night in 1995 has been sentenced to seven years in prison.

Javier Rojas Delgadillo, 33, received seven years in prison for a count of first-degree sexual assault. Two years of prison each for two counts of contributing to the delinquency of a minor will run concurrently.

Delgadillo fled to Mexico after being accused of the rape in 1995. His attorney, Ted Hess, said it was because he was not receiving “zealous” representation. Delgadillo came back several years later and worked using false personal information. Detectives discovered his identity after a bad reaction to cocaine landed him in the hospital in April 2006 and his fingerprints matched outstanding warrants. A jury convicted Delgadillo of the three charges in February.

Ninth Judicial District Judge Denise Lynch said the sentence would provide punishment, and also a chance for rehabilitation and treatment.

“Instead of facing the charges at that time, you absconded and went back to Mexico to avoid prosecution, and that is a fact that this court cannot ignore,” Lynch said.

About 10 family members and supporters of Delgadillo watched as he walked out of the courtroom Friday afternoon on his way to jail.

“Throughout the case they said the family has never felt sympathy for the victim,” said Mario Delgadillo, Javier’s brother. He spoke outside court through a female Spanish interpreter who did not want to be identified. “They do feel bad for her, but (Javier) has also been a victim to have this hanging over his head for 12 years.”

“They convicted me of a crime that I didn’t do,” Javier Delgadillo said. “It’s very difficult for me and my family. I have a son who’s 6 years old. He needs me.”

He had a photo of his son and what looked like a child’s colored picture to present to the court. Hess said the family plans to appeal the case.

Mario Delgadillo and Maria Delgadillo, Javier’s mother took the stand; they painted a picture of a hard working family who had come to America to better themselves. Maria and Mario are both American citizens, according to them and Hess, but Javier is not.

“I’ve never missed a visit with him,” Maria Delgadillo said. “My largest dream was to be able to have my son Javier get his papers.”

Javier likely faces deportation after his prison term, Hess said. Hess also had a psychosexual evaluator testify via telephone that Delgadillo poses a low to moderate risk of re-offense.

Deputy District Attorney Amy Fitch said the victim wanted the maximum prison sentence, but couldn’t travel here to testify because she was too distraught over the recent death of a sibling.

“Javier Delgadillo came to our country illegally without permission,” Fitch said. “He entered the home of a 15-year-old girl while she was asleep and alone.”

Fitch said Delgadillo awakened the girl, blindfolded her and brutally raped her.

“He left illegally while on bond,” she said, adding that the victim did not get any closure in the 12 years since the incident.

“It seems to me that Mom’s lessons about respecting women didn’t stick,” Fitch said, adding that Delgadillo was caught peeping on an aunt when he was 13 and would do inappropriate things to punish his wife when she didn’t want to be intimate with him.

Fitch argued that if Delgadillo didn’t get a prison sentence he would be immediately deported and would not seek sex offender treatment. She said he could then pose additional threat to the community.

“We know what he does,” she said. “He comes back here illegally, under a different name.”

http://www.postindependent.com/article/20070908/VALLEYNEWS/109080066

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Please read story before commenting . A man convicted of raping a 15-year-old Glenwood Springs High School student on graduation night in 1995 has been sentenced to seven years in prison.

Javier Rojas Delgadillo, 33, received seven years in prison for a count of first-degree sexual assault. Two years of prison each for two counts of contributing to the delinquency of a minor will run concurrently.

Delgadillo fled to Mexico after being accused of the rape in 1995. His attorney, Ted Hess, said it was because he was not receiving “zealous” representation. Delgadillo came back several years later and worked using false personal information. Detectives discovered his identity after a bad reaction to cocaine landed him in the hospital in April 2006 and his fingerprints matched outstanding warrants. A jury convicted Delgadillo of the three charges in February.

Ninth Judicial District Judge Denise Lynch said the sentence would provide punishment, and also a chance for rehabilitation and treatment.

“Instead of facing the charges at that time, you absconded and went back to Mexico to avoid prosecution, and that is a fact that this court cannot ignore,” Lynch said.

About 10 family members and supporters of Delgadillo watched as he walked out of the courtroom Friday afternoon on his way to jail.

“Throughout the case they said the family has never felt sympathy for the victim,” said Mario Delgadillo, Javier’s brother. He spoke outside court through a female Spanish interpreter who did not want to be identified. “They do feel bad for her, but (Javier) has also been a victim to have this hanging over his head for 12 years.”

“They convicted me of a crime that I didn’t do,” Javier Delgadillo said. “It’s very difficult for me and my family. I have a son who’s 6 years old. He needs me.”

He had a photo of his son and what looked like a child’s colored picture to present to the court. Hess said the family plans to appeal the case.

Mario Delgadillo and Maria Delgadillo, Javier’s mother took the stand; they painted a picture of a hard working family who had come to America to better themselves. Maria and Mario are both American citizens, according to them and Hess, but Javier is not.

“I’ve never missed a visit with him,” Maria Delgadillo said. “My largest dream was to be able to have my son Javier get his papers.”

Javier likely faces deportation after his prison term, Hess said. Hess also had a psychosexual evaluator testify via telephone that Delgadillo poses a low to moderate risk of re-offense.

Deputy District Attorney Amy Fitch said the victim wanted the maximum prison sentence, but couldn’t travel here to testify because she was too distraught over the recent death of a sibling.

“Javier Delgadillo came to our country illegally without permission,” Fitch said. “He entered the home of a 15-year-old girl while she was asleep and alone.”

Fitch said Delgadillo awakened the girl, blindfolded her and brutally raped her.

“He left illegally while on bond,” she said, adding that the victim did not get any closure in the 12 years since the incident.

“It seems to me that Mom’s lessons about respecting women didn’t stick,” Fitch said, adding that Delgadillo was caught peeping on an aunt when he was 13 and would do inappropriate things to punish his wife when she didn’t want to be intimate with him.

Fitch argued that if Delgadillo didn’t get a prison sentence he would be immediately deported and would not seek sex offender treatment. She said he could then pose additional threat to the community.

“We know what he does,” she said. “He comes back here illegally, under a different name.”

http://www.postindependent.com/article/20070908/VALLEYNEWS/109080066

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So, been marriend for almost 8 years. At about 3 years we planned and had a pregnancy that we lost, our daughter lived for 4 hours and died. After that I told my wife that I did not love her anymore and that I was in love with another, which was a lie to push her away because I wanted to hate everything around me, I was 25 she was 23. She pushed it aside and stayed with me, the 3 years we after we lost our daughter were hell on both of us, she wanted us to go through all of the loss together and i was in my own world of hate and discontent, mad at the world for our loss and wanting somebody to blame. I never blamed her, abused her physically. Emotionally though I was not there for her. Before the 3 years were up, we decided to try again, even thought we might lose that one as well. It ended beautifully, we had our son, who is now 3. I eventually, at around the 3 year point, came out of my darkness of hate and discontent and started seeing the world as a good place. I told her that I would spend the rest of my life trying to make up for the hell i had put her through by being emotionally unavailable to her. I started doing my best to be the man that she married, being happy go lucky and just loving life. Times we good for about a year were I though she was actually forgiving me, however, shortly after I transfered from shore duty to sea duty and I went underway, while I was out to sea(I am Navy) she cheated on me. She told me she did via email while I was on deployment. This devistated me because I thought things were getting better. Neither one of us had ever been unfaithful to one another before and she was never the type to cheat, or at least I thought. By that time, our son was 1 1/2. I traded my career to come home from my deployment to basically try to fix or figure out what was wrong and see if we could salvage it. For the next 6 months things were bad, we fought, i miss trusted her and I second guessed her every move, i didnt want to get caught blind to cheating again. I never abused her, not even emotionally for this, she told me that part of the reason she had done it was to see if she still wanted to be with me after everything that had happened. She said that she did and she would spend the rest of her life making it up to me. I have slowly come out of my second guessing her ever move and have accepted that in order to move on i have to take a leap of faith again to trust her. Our son is three now and once again I thought that things were getting better, then I realized that somewhere in all this mess my wife has become somewhat of an alcoholic, seemed like every day she would be drinking. In a way I didn’t want to see it cause I didn’t want to admit that there was a problem. Finally I accepted it and I confronted her about it. She would go through good period and then she would go right back to it. She has like 3 generation of alcoholic before her. I understand alcoholism very well, I have six generation before me and I have been able to stay away from it even though I do drink on occasion. She finally adimited to me a few days ago that she was still mad at me for telling her that i did not love her anymore, even though she has, for the most part acted like everything is fine. We got into fight, minor things, money, our son, decision that were made about something about the house and it always seems to come to her saying maybe we have to much between us. I believe in my vowels in that i am very old fashioned for my age, not to say that i don’t believe in divorce, but i dont believe in quiting just because it gets hard. I told her that I wish she would have told me she was angry soon, instead I believe she has been holding it all this time, letting it eat at her and turn into hate and resentment. When she drinks she is completely irrational and that make the fights worse. We dont fight until the kid goes to bed but i am worried he is going to start seeing and hearing it. I wish more than anything to make this work and figure it out. When i get really frustrated I think about divorce but cant bring myself to actually voice it cause it mean i am giving up. I am up at 4:38 in the morning talking about this cause we fought tonight becaues it seems that she has the inability to understand that as a man and at this point in our relationship i need to know that she needs me, sexually, usually it is me that engages this. I get tired of the fact that she never engages me in this. There is alot of detail that goes into the build up of the fight but lets just say is was a very nice evening, quite romantic per her definition and i still went to bed by myself and she followed and went to sleep with her back turned. I was still awake and asked her what i had done wrong, she said, why cant i just want to be close to you even though. Now I dont expect sex 24/7 and I really dont pressure her, however, I really wanted her tonight, I mean we danced together this ev
As far as the first answer goes, I understand what you are saying and that is not the case, we havent had sex in a month and this is not the first night we have had a good night, this was just a really great night, its not all about sex, its about her letting me know that, besides seeing me as provider, father, friend, shoulder to cry on, supporter. That I can still be her lover!? But I know you are right, women are wired differently and men shall always try to figure it out and never be able to quite grasp it.

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He has major problems with crack cocaine and keeps stealing from us. We kick him out and lock him out but he breaks in and steals from us while we are sleeping. He has a long list of offenses and has been in and out of Harris county(texas) jail and Texas Dept. of Corrections. He is ruining my life and I am 80 yrs old and can’t handle it anymore. If i had a legal way to ban him from my home I would do it. HELP

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I’m 41, single, and on disability because of a mental condition..
If I’m still alive, I’d like to move to the Pacific Northwest.
By then, my son will be an adult, but my widowed Mother will be alone.
I have two brothers. One who did move away and another who’s a worthless alcoholic.
I feel like I will never be able to move to a more desirable place and/or find companionship because of my circumstances.
What does the future look like in your life?

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