Okay, i am 27 years old with my first child and I have a bachelors degree. I live with my grandparents. I am in the process of going back to school. I have been unemployed for a year. Anyhow, my grandparents have a 50 year old son who is an alcoholic and he has been living with us for 2 years or more. He goes from his childrens mother house, to his women, and back to my grandparents house to stay when he gets put out. In over 2 years he’s mostly stayed at my grandparents. He fights, cusses everyone out when he gets drunk hence the reason he has bounce from one house to the next. He recently lost his job and when he had a job he would not get an apartment of his own. Now hes broke and still drinking and has moved back in with my grandparents and I. I personally, do not want him here but I have no control over it. Also, I cant stand to be around him is this normal?
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Ok I hv an ex that is the father of my son. Complete ass and an alcoholic to boot. i kicked him out after numerous time of drunkness and abusiveness. Yet it is still all my fault according to his family. His life is hell because I took everything away from him. I am the reason I got pregnant, the only one, I guess I impregnanted myself. Things were good for awhile until I filed for child support. Now he is pissed cause he has to pay legally for his son and things just keep getting worse. Today his grandma proceeded to tell me that I was irresponsible for getting pregnant and that I chase him. I only tried to contact him after I found out I was pregnant. So like I said he dose no wrong even though he wrecked my car while drunk and hit a couple of older ladies and left the scene of the accident. Then when he got home he assaulted me. But yet again it is all my fault. Please explain to me why it is never ther persons fault that does the actions?
Hello, everyone 
I have a 25 yeasr old son who was addict to crystal meth. He went to the rehab center last year in may 2010, and will be coming home next month in march. Since he left to rehab, I haven’t spoke with his girlfriend. The last time I’ve spoken to her was november 2010. She use to call me everytime but I haven’t heard a thing from her.
I left a message on facebook in janaury 26 telling her to give me a call, she called me. I ask have my son gotten in contact with her she said he write her the other day! All of a suuden, her phone started to mess up. I told her to call me in ten minutes, she agreed. Well, she never cakled me back I had to call her back! When I called she never answered my call. Its been almost a month from the message i’ve sent to her and still’ no call. What do you think is going on? I’ve been calling but no answer? I’m concered because they suppost to be geting marroed when he gets out! DETAILS PLEASE!
FACTS: Stern was fully aware that Anna Nicole’s son died of a drug overdose. Anna Nicole died of an overdose. Stern claims to be the baby’s father. Anna Nicole tried to kill herself in a pool and Stern told her ‘she could have put him in jail if he did this’, Anna tried to call family and her best friend for help but ‘someone’ hung up in the middle of her calls, she was on Meth and other drugs during her pregnancy.
Drugs, the death of her son, depression, drugs throughout the pregnancy. If Sterms cared so much about her, why did he not get her into rehab even if he had to have her committed.
If the baby is brain damaged due to those drugs, did he think she would die or he could put her in some institution while he profits from all these drugs.
What, my sensible friends, is your opinion? Why doesn’t Stern just take the DNA test? Does anyone think he really cares about this baby.
There seems to be no justice in this situation.
No, I do not watch ‘E’ t.v. I got may info from Court TV, MSNBC and FOX as well as my local channels.
So, I’m 5 months pregnant and my unborn son’s father has never been around. When I contacted him to tell him the gender of the baby, he said, “I didn’t realize you were still pregnant”. We were together for 8 months and decided we wanted kids. Two weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he dissapeared and reappeared with a girlfriend (girl’s are stupid. Who would date a guy with an unborn child on the way?) Anyway, he is STILL not around. I have all these emotions and needs for an expected mother, and he refuses to return my e-mails or phone calls. He asked for ultrasound pictures. When I brought them to him he hardly even glanced at them. He has a DVD made of the ultrasound which I want back, but I don’t even want to see him. It took me a week to get over my rage after seeing him last time. It has been 5 months (minus the ultrasound visit) since I’ve even seen him. I ran into him and his girlfriend in public, and he dissapeared…as usual. I don’t deserve this. I know he is an alcoholic and I don’t want my child around that. I want to ask him to relinquish his rights so I can not always wonder what he’s doing and why he isn’t calling ona 24/7 basis. Is it wrong of me? This resentment and dissapointment is already too much, I couldn’t imagen the issues when my child is actually born.
First off, the father can sign to give up his rights. Secondly, I am also talking about the option of soul custody. I understand all the legal crap. To spare details in a lenghty message I didn’t go on and on.
Also, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN’T WANT TO BE AROUND, OTHERWISE HE WOULD!!! DUH!!! I am not pressuring him. I hardly EVER contact him. Read people!!! I contacted him to invite him to the ultrasounds, which he declined. And contacted him to tell him his an asshole. And once more to tell him it is what it is, and I’d like him to be there, yet still NO ACTION!!!
So, I’m 5 months pregnant and my unborn son’s father has never been around. When I contacted him to tell him the gender of the baby, he said, “I didn’t realize you were still pregnant”. We were together for 8 months and decided we wanted kids. Two weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he dissapeared and reappeared with a girlfriend (girl’s are stupid. Who would date a guy with an unborn child on the way?) Anyway, he is STILL not around. I have all these emotions and needs for an expected mother, and he refuses to return my e-mails or phone calls. He asked for ultrasound pictures. When I brought them to him he hardly even glanced at them. He has a DVD made of the ultrasound which I want back, but I don’t even want to see him. It took me a week to get over my rage after seeing him last time. It has been 5 months (minus the ultrasound visit) since I’ve even seen him. I ran into him and his girlfriend in public, and he dissapeared…as usual. I don’t deserve this. I know he is an alcoholic and I don’t want my child around that. I want to ask him to relinquish his rights so I can not always wonder what he’s doing and why he isn’t calling ona 24/7 basis. Is it wrong of me? This resentment and dissapointment is already too much, I couldn’t imagen the issues when my child is actually born.
First off, the father can sign to give up his rights. Secondly, I am also talking about the option of soul custody. I understand all the legal crap. To spare details in a lenghty message I didn’t go on and on.
Also, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN’T WANT TO BE AROUND, OTHERWISE HE WOULD!!! DUH!!! I am not pressuring him. I hardly EVER contact him. Read people!!! I contacted him to invite him to the ultrasounds, which he declined. And contacted him to tell him his an asshole. And once more to tell him it is what it is, and I’d like him to be there, yet still NO ACTION!!!
So, I’m 5 months pregnant and my unborn son’s father has never been around. When I contacted him to tell him the gender of the baby, he said, “I didn’t realize you were still pregnant”. We were together for 8 months and decided we wanted kids. Two weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he dissapeared and reappeared with a girlfriend (girl’s are stupid. Who would date a guy with an unborn child on the way?) Anyway, he is STILL not around. I have all these emotions and needs for an expected mother, and he refuses to return my e-mails or phone calls. He asked for ultrasound pictures. When I brought them to him he hardly even glanced at them. He has a DVD made of the ultrasound which I want back, but I don’t even want to see him. It took me a week to get over my rage after seeing him last time. It has been 5 months (minus the ultrasound visit) since I’ve even seen him. I ran into him and his girlfriend in public, and he dissapeared…as usual. I don’t deserve this. I know he is an alcoholic and I don’t want my child around that. I want to ask him to relinquish his rights so I can not always wonder what he’s doing and why he isn’t calling ona 24/7 basis. Is it wrong of me? This resentment and dissapointment is already too much, I couldn’t imagen the issues when my child is actually born.
First off, the father can sign to give up his rights. Secondly, I am also talking about the option of soul custody. I understand all the legal crap. To spare details in a lenghty message I didn’t go on and on.
Also, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN’T WANT TO BE AROUND, OTHERWISE HE WOULD!!! DUH!!! I am not pressuring him. I hardly EVER contact him. Read people!!! I contacted him to invite him to the ultrasounds, which he declined. And contacted him to tell him his an asshole. And once more to tell him it is what it is, and I’d like him to be there, yet still NO ACTION!!!
First off, his father is not allowed in his life – this is by order of CPS and the court system. His father has a serious meth problem and exposed him to god knows what when he was around him. He is also an only child and is very very spoiled material-wise by myself and my family. Lately, he has had a very bad temper when I don’t give him his way. He threatens to kill me with various weapons, hurts himself or takes a toy of his and destroys it. Today, I took him to the movies, the park, then he got to play with his friends for 2 hours, when I told him it was time to go he threw the biggest tantrum. I put him in time out when we got home and he urinated on the floor in his bedroom and on a stuffed animal. I don’t know what to do.
I have a 7 yr old son from a deadbeat. He was court ordered to pay child support in 2000 and w/ the exception of a check here and there, he has never really paid. With very little if any help from him I still allowed him to see his son. However I stopped my son from visiting him because my son was learning negative things and taking it to school with him. I am teaching him right and his dad and his family is teaching him bad. My son has a slight learning disability, and Instead of his father helping him to do better in school he is subjected to an environment of dirty rap lyrics, bad language,drugs and alcohol which he shares with everyone at school.Though I never bad talk his father to him, his father and his family talk bad about ME to him, because I keep him away. I want the best for my son, and I know its hard to raise a little boy the right way, especially if his own father and family is the negative culprit. Am I wrong for keeping my son away from him? What can I do?
John: 2 Jesus turns water into wine
Matthew 9: 14-17 Jesus uses wine and wineskins in a parable
Matt: 11-19 “the Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say ‘Look, a glutton and a drunkard’…”
Matt 26: 27-29 “Then he took a cup and after giving thanks he gave it to them saying, Drink from it all of you….I tell you, I will never again drink of this fruit of the vine until that day when I drink it anew with you in my Father’s Kingdom.”
drinking, not getting drunk!
my older sister is 20 years old. she has been manipulative, and a liar as long as i can remember. she will lie to get herself out of things, or even lie to make a good conversation. she lives with my mom and i, and her boyfriend and 7 week old baby live with us as well. she won’t do dishes, or even wash her son’s bottles, my mother has to do it. it’s not that she outright refuses to do it, she just leaves the things next to the sink for my mom to deal with, or just asks my mom as sweet as possible to do it for her. she is a part-time student, and she takes care of her baby, and that’s about all she does. but she tells my mom and i that we’re lazy, because of something simple like the trash can being full. my mom had 2 young kids at the same time, kept her house clean, cooked for all of us, took care of us and our dad, washed the dishes, and had a full-time job as well. she is by no means lazy, and she did twice as much work as my sister does, and didn’t have complaints, or three other adults in the house to help take care of her kids.
i am only slightly worried for my nephew, because i don’t know if his parents will stay together, or what his mother will make him think about us. she loves him unconditionally. she has always loved kids, and she’s really great with him. but it’s scary to think of how a kid will be able to understand how his mother can be completely fine with her family one day, and the next day, degrading us and telling us we’re worthless.
it’s hard to live with her, because if we don’t give her what she wants, she yells at us and starts a fight. the smallest thing can make her yell. i’m not sure if it’s because she’s actually angry, or if it is because she wants to hurt us. just an example of how she can be: tonight the baby was crying, and she was obviously frustrated and tired. she didn’t know why he was crying, so she sent me downstairs for a bottle. when i came back, i handed the bottle to her. a few minutes later she yelled at me for bringing the bottle, because she found that he’s not hungry. and that i’m a “fat piece of ****” because i didn’t get the mail today. all my mom said to her was “tara, that’s ridiculous, she didn’t do anything. you’re tired, let me have the baby” and she continued to give my mom an attitude. my mom told her “you have a problem” and she said, “you two are the ones with the problem, i’m leaving.” and went downstairs.
to summarize (i should have done this in the beginning, lol.)
– my sister lies constantly, sometimes for no reason.
– she manipulates (for instance, getting my mom to cosign her truck loan, and refusing to get rid of the truck after she lost her job and couldn’t afford it)
– she doesn’t seem to appreciate people close to her.
– she has a short temper.
– she is insecure about her boyfriend being loyal, and i don’t think she has a reason to.
– she uses terrible language constantly, which is embarassing, and it makes it seem like she was raised in a house that used bad language.
– she doesn’t have a problem degrading her family members.
– she asks for favors from her family, even after she fights with them.
– she doesn’t think she has a problem.
– she confides in her boyfriend’s aunt like a mother, and i’ve heard her tell lies to her, so we seem like terrible people.
– she is NOT an alcoholic, or drug addict.
– she is very stubborn.
– she would never shoplift, but she takes things from my mom and i because she can, not because she needs it (such as an entire week’s pay from me when she had a better job than i did)
my mom has researched narcissism, and thinks that is my sister’s problem. however, my sister refuses to think there is anything wrong with her, so she won’t get help. living with her is taking its toll, and if i were a weaker person, i would have broken years ago.
what can i do about this? does anyone know what might be wrong with her? i know that in a lot of cases, people like this won’t get help so what can we do about living with her? i seriously can’t take it anymore, we need help.
I know that a lot of innocent children are harmed during the making of coke, but to think that cocaine is getting profit out of their teeth is just wrong and makes my feet warm. How are we supposed to protect our children if propane is making profit out of both cocaine and coca cola and the only ones to thank for gas is the children? I’m assuming this is why we’re supposed to tell our kids the tooth fairy exists, so we can give their teeth for coca cola’s cocaine, but how do they get it? I guess the general question is me wondering if cocaine is made out of children’s teeth and if this can be prevented by telling them the truth about the tooth fairy. My son is fifteen now and I think he’s getting suspiscious, I had to take him out of school because his friends were telling him that the tooth fairy wasen’t real, and I’m not going to let my bills pay for what cocaine is doing to our children!
This is for all the parents out there who don’t want Coca Cola being the new Google!
My inlaws have accused me of being a bad mother because I cosleep with him, enjoy an occasional alcoholic beverage (after he has gone to bed and only 1-2 a week) eventhough I am still breastfeeding (he is 18mos old), and because he is a small boy; in the 25th % for height and weight. (he was born @ the 5th %) They have accused my husband of being a bad father and indicate that he lets me run all over him and that he needs to take the reins in his own house. These are people who are smokers, alcoholics, drug users and compulsive gamblers. My FIL is a male chauvenist lazy pig who never lifts a hand to help with household chores and since I have become a stay-at-home mom, neither does my husband. That man (the FIL) is degrading towards women as well. My concern is that I don’t want my son to think that any of these behaviors are okay, but to be a loving, responsible, compassionate, caring human being. He is already a sensitive boy, but I don’t want them to ruin that. Please help!
Recently, I went to a nutritionist where I was diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder, and she recommended I go to therapy. From this diagnosis I decided to tell my parents I have been having suicidal thoughts on and off for the past 7 or 8 years (I’m 17 now). They are extreme, and I have thought about it seriously, but they are not all the time. My moods go from high to low really quick, and in my low moods all I think about is suicide. I could have planned the best day of my life, but if I wake up in one of these moods I will still be sad and angry and have constant suicidal thoughts the whole day. I also cry and break down over the smallest things, such as one day when my teacher told me I couldn’t sharpen my pencil. Or I cry over nothing at all. These dark moods only last a few days, but then I eventually return to my extremely happy mood. These dark moods make me a completely different person inside; it’s like night and day. Although these dark moods are bad, I can hide them pretty well.
I’ve decided to tell my parents about this because one day I am afraid I will get into one of these moods and harm myself. I’ve come really really close, once when I was 9 then once when I was 13, but over the past few months they have become more frequent. I also told my pediatrician at my physical recently, but did not tell him nor my parents the severity of this. I do, however, plan on being truly honest with the therapist I have an appointment to go see very soon.
I’m just wondering ahead of time, is it the therapist who will tell me what’s wrong? Does this sound like depression to anyone? I was thinking Bipolar Disorder, but I know someone who has Bipolar Disorder and he has severe anger issues, which I don’t have. My neighbor who I have kind of been talking to about this believes I have ADD. I don’t know why she thinks I have ADD, but she has it herself and so does her son. My sister also has ADD as well.
Now I’m blabbering, and confused, but any help with this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
My son is 21 . He has anger problem that has to do with disfunctional family history. he does not want to be like his alcoholic father but acts up exactly like him when drunk. His father is away overseas indefinitely and I am the only one left to deal with the problem. I love my son very much and want to help him get therapy for he needs it badly. One nite he break up with his GF and had to move out, he got very upset and breaking things and punching his GF. My friend came to help me to deal with the situation and end up wrestling the mad son down. Police had to be called to resolve the situation. Now he called me and promise to kill me ,my friend and himself. I had him arrested and pushing the court to force him to get therapy. he co-operates but still very angry. Have I any hope to ever get my son realize I love him and want to help him for better life. Will he forgive me?
2 yrs ago my husbands son came to live with us full time cause his mother is a alcoholic & the social took him off her due 2 her neglecting him. his mother wud get drunk & rather pick him up from school drunk & embarrass him or forget 2 pick him up completely. She is a very violent woman, hence y my husband left her in the first place & she often got in2 fights or arguments where the police wud b called, she wud wee on the floor or the chairs in her house & obviously my step son wud b witnessing all this.So eventually she agreed 2 sign liam over 2 us. We always saw liam every 2 weeks & iv known him since he was 1 so he was very familiar with us. His mum was never violent 2 him, infact i think they were quite close. The problem is we r having trouble with him now, & i dont no wether his past has done some damage. hes in constant need of attention, no matter how much u give him, he rarely does as he is asked, he grumps constantly over the most stupid things, always looking 4 sympathy.
Ok, here is the situation. I used to be really good friends with Tom. Tom wasn’t the greatest character in the world to hang out with. Lazy, mooched off of his parents, made every excuse in the book not to go to work, or get a legitimate job, and is in his twenties. Then, he meets this girl, who had a 5 year old kid, never graduated HS, no GED, mooched off of her parents, never worked, never even got a driver’s license, admitted to smoking crack when her son was two, and after 3 months of dating, he moves her and her son into his parents’ house. Here comes the real kicker, he wants to have a child with her. Now, mind you they are filthy, I mean beer bottle with cigarette butts in them, turned over, never cleaned up ashtrays, clothing everywhere, dirty food containers, used condoms, just grossness in the bedroom… that they shared with her son!!! So I tell him, before you guys get married and have children, get a real job, an apartment and be independent, and clean. He said “Yeah, yeah, yeah, I will, I really will.” He pops the question a month later, and, she is pregnant. He was still not working. I stop talking to him after I screamed my head off.
Now, she never quit smoking cigarettes, and smoked her entire pregnancy, they lived with his parents, she has the baby, and less then a year later, they want another baby and get pregnant again, they get kicked out and move back into her parents ONE BEDROOM APARTMENT!!!! Tom’s sister moves back in and cleans the room they were in. Dirty diapers mixed in with clothing, cigarette butts everywhere, insects crawling all over, it was disgusting.
Tom’s wife never applied for government assistance, (she came up with the excuse that she wasn’t eligible) so they were living on her father’s wages, because she is just like mom, lazy, never worked, never even drove, does nothing, and whatever cash Tom brings home form working measly jobs for cash. No hot water in the apartment, she is still smoking, and the apartment also has 3 rabbits and two cats. So finally, Tom’s sister helps out with all the assistance paperwork and all this stuff, and the other baby is born…. with cystic fibrosis. Mind you, the other kid is in and out of the hospital with severe asthma, and no one cleans the apartment with the animals in it!!!! Tuesday, I get a phone call from our mutual friend, DYFUS took away the kids.
My question: Am I wrong to be happy that the kids were taken away and might be adopted out if those two don’t clean up their act? I mean, he is 28, she is 26, and they are dirty, and the kids are sick. If I am called to court as a character witness, would it be wrong of me to say they shouldn’t get the kids back? Is it so important that children be with their parents, versus children being in a stable, healthy environment instead? What is your opinion on the situation?
Update:
Just found out that the apartment was so filthy, that the DYFIS workers had to run out and throw up. The kids were found malnurished as well.
I know that sounds stange.. but my nephew who is 3 monthes old is in the custody of his grandma.. ( me and my sister have different dads) my sister is horrible addicted to drugs, and just got sentenced to 5 years in prison.. they gave custody to her grandma.. i know she loves this child and all but she raised my other nephew who is the worst behave child i have ever met.. she is not able to take care of these children properly. shes over 300 pounds and in a wheel chair.. she doesnt have any money.. and the house is infested with so many cats, and 3 huge dogs.. it smells so bad of cat pee in there it makes me sick.. i am in no posistion myself to take care of a child.. im only 19 and struggle everyday to pay my bills.. but why would the state give her custody.. she cant take care of these children… she calls me and asks me to bring diapers because he doesnt have any.. i dont have any money either.. .but i somehow manage to get the money to get the diapers.. and when i get there.. the baby literally has NO diapers left but the one he has on… somone would love to adopt a baby and take care of it.. but I cant just make the state take the baby away… i dont know what to do…
cupidgirl- shes not my grandma.
My ex back and forth whatever is on cocaine real bad, she still goes to work, but falls behind on rent, etc and I have to pick up the slack, after paying my share.
Saturday, we were on a date and some how ended up @ her mom’s(she said she needed to pay her mom some $$$) where her dope selling brother lives, she went inside, came out starting a fight from no where, got so loud her mom came out looking @ me like what did you do, instinctively I said , This is your daughter on drugs.
I know her mother is desensitized to that shit(offspring on drugs), b/c her other two daughters are bad on it, and one of the sons smokes it, and the youngest brother supplies it to them all! And they idolize him like he’s the best, if he gave a shit about them would he keep them hooked taking their money? I don’t think so.
Like I’d said this happened on Sat. today she started her shit brought it up told me to get out, after I just gave her all my money yesterday for rent, and paid on her furniture and TV. She’s making me feel really guilty as well.
I just kicked my 19-year-old schizoaffective son out of the house – took him to a homeless shelter. It was the hardest thing I’ve done in my entire life but he/we were driving each other crazy, he would say indirectly threatening things to me (told me that he’d thought harmful thoughts towards me – not death, but torturous-like), was deceitful, disrespectful, manipulative, and would not stop at least verbally communicating with an older man from whom he’d obtained and smoked crack cocaine with 1.5 years ago. He cannot work due to social anxiety and I was angry and nit-picky and we were in constant fights. Many of the fights were caused by my underlying anger and nit-picking, and that mostly because of my suspicions. He is full of anger about his lot in life, which I can understand. My heart grieves for him.
I left him at the City’s rescue mission hoping that in a month or so, a bed at a nice residential facility for mentally-ill people will open up for him. He has no friends and his father has his own family won’t let him stay there (due to stepmom, is what he tells him).
We’ve battled his illness for 6 years and we’ve been through hell and back too many times to count. I’m teetering on a mental breakdown due to all the worry and stress. There is tremendous guilt that I’m doing this as I blame myself (and probably duely so) that we can’t get along, but yet, the straw that broke the camel’s back is that he won’t cut off contact with an ex-convict who still deals drugs and is in a gang.
As you can probably tell, this is deeply upsetting and I welcome your input.
He is medication intolerant and his doctors grew frustrated. He had a series of ECT’s last fall that did not work. I have tried anything and everything.
Many doctors, countless, ineffective medications. Believe me – it’s all been done, but he refuses to see a counsellor for more than a couple times. I’ve spent thousands of dollars and tried everything humanly possible. Also, I do have a relationship with NAMI.
