even though she was the abuser and adulterer, for the last three years she has still mentally abused my son, driving him almost to suicide. He is a dedicated father who has access to his children EVERY weekend and two days during the week – in fact almost more than she sees them. She poisons them calling him names and although they have now their own views, they are frightened and loyal to her as they love her, which is expected, but the courts never believe my son, they always believe her even though she tells blatant lies which the children could verify if they dared. Because their son who is 8 has been staying constantly with his father for the last week and didn’t want to return to his Mother, even though my son has tried to persuade him, probably because he is frightened as his Mother is constantly threatening to take his father to court. Today, without any warning he has been served an injunction with threat of arrest if a breech occurs, he has no right to reply. She says that he is verbally abusive and does not comply with his access rights – the majority of times he fails to return them on time it is because she is NOT at home, however, no-one apart from family knows this and naturally our word does not mean anything. She is still not happy in her new relationship and is also violent, in fact the police have been called to her house on four occasions in the last year to break up violent arguments obviously this proves that it was not just my son that caused her problems – she is the one with problems of control but unfortunately she always presents herself well at court and she is more than half way there with her claims as the MOTHER is always right !!!! Any advice on how to deal with such a woman would be very much appreciated, I would add that she has a problem with alcohol which plays a big part of her life, hence her allowing my son access EVERY weekend, which NO-ONE seems to find unusual. The children NEVER see their Mother on a weekend. Children are 10, 8 and 5yrs.
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I stay with an 83 yr old woman who is crippled up, doesn’t drink or do any drugs, has never been in any kind of trouble in her entire life and the city just sent a notice to pay a fine for giving a minor alcohol even though no police ever came to her door and no children have been in her house since her own 60 yr old kids left home.
If she is arrested as it says she will be if she doesn’t pay the fine can she sue the city? She said she plans to let them arrest her just to sue the city on grounds of false arrest. Can she do that?
It has to be a clerical error on someones part, but before the city starts locking people up shouldn’t they at least send an officer to investigate? I would think so anyway.
I don’t drink either and have not given alcohol to any kid and never have except my own son who was 17 at the time in my own house. He’s now 26 so that’s not it either.
She hasn’t given any alcohol to any kid anywhere. She did give me a sip of brandy once, but I’m 49 yrs old, clearly old enough.
We have no idea who accused her, what the fine might be and there is no set court appearance date, just a paper saying to pay an undetermined fine as though she has already been found guilty without any kind of trial, investigation or anything.
also, are you allowed to drink alcohol as a seventh day adventist?
Do seventh day adeventists believe in the trinity? father, son and the Holy spirit?
I just wondered because I just asked if Americans approved of foreigners taking drugs in the US and I got “oh yes that’s fine” answers
My son is five months old. My mother is an alcoholic. She said she would take care of him. I said “You can’t drink on nights where you watch him the next morning.” She’s is very angry with me now. Am I right? Am I not his parent? Should I not worry about such things? Someone please give me some insight. I am now paying for a babysitter because my mother refuses to listen to reason. Which is fine. I’ll do it. But I don’t want to listen to her whine for the next 10 years.
My son is five months old. My mother is an alcoholic. She said she would take care of him. I said “You can’t drink on nights where you watch him the next morning.” She’s is very angry with me now. Am I right? Am I not his parent? Should I not worry about such things? Someone please give me some insight. I am now paying for a babysitter because my mother refuses to listen to reason. Which is fine. I’ll do it. But I don’t want to listen to her whine for the next 10 years.
Long story !! – Been with (now ex fiance) for 7 years – hve 5 yr old.
We split up, got back together, split again etc etc. All our arguments were based around his coke addicton – I tried everything to help – love,support,leaving relevant phone numbers, though him out, you name it, I tried it – he became violent, very verbally abusive. When we first split (he left) he found a new woman within days – threw this in my face, said she was wonderful, so much better than me,he was stopping his addiction – it tore me and our son apart. Anyway, he came back – they had obviously split – I was happy as I did miss the good times and father for our son. It was obvious coke was still there, and again we argued – he left, back to her again!
Last week (after buying me a new engagement ring and our son a dog – he left again, back to her.
He now says that this is it – he has got as low as he can – so much debt.
I feel really agrieved that I tried so hard for so long, for us as a family to get through this, and now he appears to be happily loved up with new woman, I went through all the pain fr her to get all the good.
Is this all typical behaviour? Am I going to have him crawling back again, without the drugs, I would probably take him, but with, she is welcome. For our son Iwant him to stop ,but I want him to be the family man with us then, not the single man with her.
Is it likely he will stop for her – it has been going on (the drug use)for over 12 years. He loves his son more than anything, so I would have thought he would stop for him, but he hasn;t. At the mo, I am ignoring his calls/texts etc as it is still too painful.
Advice/thoughts greatly appreciated
x
She’s an alcoholic and 2-3 mo. pregnant and won’t stop drinking. What can I do to save the unborn baby? Is there anything I can do? She already lost her 3 mo. old son last year and she drank during that pregnancy too.
I couldnt leavem if i tried
these are my people strugglin,hustlin
duckin police
livin illegal
Ive seen fist fights turn lethal
but he stands strong
black skin
with a gun gripped inside his palm
u can find me on his arm
where im never leavin
some call him a heathen
he tells me callem when i need him
duckin police and keepin freedom
he tells me I complete him
and if they talk to the police
then we may need to bleed’em
he handles deadly situations
with no hesitation
he never leaves the door
without equips prepared for war
and now im sure
I never knew a love like this before
sometimes I shoot his gun
he tells me im gone have his son
and if he goes to jail
I’ll come with cash to pay the bail
police are asking me questions
but I will never tell
the cops could offer me a deal
and I would never squeal
and say hes selling coke
were rollin up the weed to smoke
I gotta watch his back
I see the pigs and hide the crack
one time to hide the rocks
i had to stuff them in my crotch
we gotta do what we gotta do
because our love is true
who cares what muthafucas say
thats why we paid today
We have three kids 9,3,11/2. We separated 4 yrs ago because I used her mistake as an excuse for my leaving. We both have made many mistakes and have very deep issues but we are willing to work on and aware of many of our faults. She was honest about her mistake. But I used the painful feelings as another excuse run away and to go on a pity driven drug binge for 6 months. After 6 months she drove me to the V.A. (Desert storm disabled vet) because I was really close to death or homicide or both. After 9 months inpatient psych-ward ( 8weeks lockdown 7 mo. inpatient program) and 4 months transition house. She took me back. (Diagnoses bi-polar..lots o meds) I’ve made many changes and reversions “good months bad months” but stopped meds a yr after I left transition (felt they were masking/ hindering getting to the deep real issues) I put my wife through incredible emotional abuse and neglect every month of every year of our relationship. My eldest son as well.
Well I found a civilian psychotherapist 9 months ago. 4 months ago I started having some really enlightening realizations of the true pain and scars I’ve caused. 2 months ago my wife said something I perceived as a horrific hurt and I reacted as I usually do when hurt (perceived or real) with scary rage and horrible words the worst blow up ever (only 2 minutes long but 119 seconds toooo long) and I cant express in strong enough words the feelings of guilt and shame I feel. Well after that my wife wants to separate for a while so she can get herself in order. I understand and can’t blame her for a nana second. Well since then my therapist and I have gotten even deeper…scary deep but I asked him for a no bull-shit evaluation of my personality. Last week he gave it and I’ve researched and nervously agree. I have NPD (narcissistic personality disorder).My question..Long overdo I know) T he research and most people agree there is no cure but I truly want to change… for myself..Ha ha.
.alittle irony there. But I also want to save the love of a beautiful, smart truly incredible woman who never deserved an ass like me. I want to change. Is it possible and how the hell can I ever make up for the mountains of crap I’ve piled on my wife.
We have three kids 9,3,11/2. We separated 4 yrs ago because I used her mistake as an excuse for my leaving. We both have made many mistakes and have very deep issues but we are willing to work on and aware of many of our faults. She was honest about her mistake. But I used the painful feelings as another excuse run away and to go on a pity driven drug binge for 6 months. After 6 months she drove me to the V.A. (Desert storm disabled vet) because I was really close to death or homicide or both. After 9 months inpatient psych-ward ( 8weeks lockdown 7 mo. inpatient program) and 4 months transition house. She took me back. (Diagnoses bi-polar..lots o meds) I’ve made many changes and reversions “good months bad months” but stopped meds a yr after I left transition (felt they were masking/ hindering getting to the deep real issues) I put my wife through incredible emotional abuse and neglect every month of every year of our relationship. My eldest son as well.
Well I found a civilian psychotherapist 9 months ago. 4 months ago I started having some really enlightening realizations of the true pain and scars I’ve caused. 2 months ago my wife said something I perceived as a horrific hurt and I reacted as I usually do when hurt (perceived or real) with scary rage and horrible words the worst blow up ever (only 2 minutes long but 119 seconds toooo long) and I cant express in strong enough words the feelings of guilt and shame I feel. Well after that my wife wants to separate for a while so she can get herself in order. I understand and can’t blame her for a nana second. Well since then my therapist and I have gotten even deeper…scary deep but I asked him for a no bull-shit evaluation of my personality. Last week he gave it and I’ve researched and nervously agree. I have NPD (narcissistic personality disorder).My question..Long overdo I know) T he research and most people agree there is no cure but I truly want to change… for myself..Ha ha.
.alittle irony there. But I also want to save the love of a beautiful, smart truly incredible woman who never deserved an ass like me. I want to change. Is it possible and how the hell can I ever make up for the mountains of crap I’ve piled on my wife.
We have three kids 9,3,11/2. We separated 4 yrs ago because I used her mistake as an excuse for my leaving. We both have made many mistakes and have very deep issues but we are willing to work on and aware of many of our faults. She was honest about her mistake. But I used the painful feelings as another excuse run away and to go on a pity driven drug binge for 6 months. After 6 months she drove me to the V.A. (Desert storm disabled vet) because I was really close to death or homicide or both. After 9 months inpatient psych-ward ( 8weeks lockdown 7 mo. inpatient program) and 4 months transition house. She took me back. (Diagnoses bi-polar..lots o meds) I’ve made many changes and reversions “good months bad months” but stopped meds a yr after I left transition (felt they were masking/ hindering getting to the deep real issues) I put my wife through incredible emotional abuse and neglect every month of every year of our relationship. My eldest son as well.
Well I found a civilian psychotherapist 9 months ago. 4 months ago I started having some really enlightening realizations of the true pain and scars I’ve caused. 2 months ago my wife said something I perceived as a horrific hurt and I reacted as I usually do when hurt (perceived or real) with scary rage and horrible words the worst blow up ever (only 2 minutes long but 119 seconds toooo long) and I cant express in strong enough words the feelings of guilt and shame I feel. Well after that my wife wants to separate for a while so she can get herself in order. I understand and can’t blame her for a nana second. Well since then my therapist and I have gotten even deeper…scary deep but I asked him for a no bull-shit evaluation of my personality. Last week he gave it and I’ve researched and nervously agree. I have NPD (narcissistic personality disorder).My question..Long overdo I know) T he research and most people agree there is no cure but I truly want to change… for myself..Ha ha.
.alittle irony there. But I also want to save the love of a beautiful, smart truly incredible woman who never deserved an ass like me. I want to change. Is it possible and how the hell can I ever make up for the mountains of crap I’ve piled on my wife.
please don’t answer if you’re a right wing Christian or a member of the Temperance Union
My cousin has been in rehab 2 or 3 times previously and has been treated for cocaine and crack addictions. She also drinks and has been diagnosed maniac depressive and has been on anti-depressants since the age of about 15. She is currently in rehab again after relapsing into crack and heroin. She admits to using while pregnant with her now 15 month old son who is currently in foster care. What are the chances she may actually clean up for good?
My cousin has been in rehab 2 or 3 times previously and has been treated for cocaine and crack addictions. She also drinks and has been diagnosed maniac depressive and has been on anti-depressants since the age of about 15. She is currently in rehab again after relapsing into crack and heroin. She admits to using while pregnant with her now 15 month old son who is currently in foster care. What are the chances she may actually clean up for good?
but he is her son he have send her to the hospital many times all she says he is my son and he is 58 years old lives with her but does not help her in any bills of the house which he lives there with her 24/7 drinking alcohol but not pays any bills and send her to the hospital all the time she have heart problems and scares her what to do in this situation
i live in NEW JERSEY AND HE WORKS BUT DOES NOT HELP HER IN ANYTHING HE ALWAYS SAYS TO HER HE DOES NOT HAVE MONEY TO PAY FOR BILLS BUT FOR ALCOHOL HE COULD
HE DRINKS IN HER HOUSE BECAUSE HE LIVES THERE AND HE DOES NOT WANT NOBODY TO VISIT HER OR GO BY THE HOUSE
I just thought I would get a little bit more insight on the subject…I’m not planning on trying to break up a marriage or anything like that…I’m just confused. Let me give you a little more info before ya’ll start bashing me…
I’m married but seperated pending a divorce and child custody hearing. My wife has been smoking crack and snorting coke while I’m working my a$$ off and I told her to get out. I have our 4 month old son and I’m going to try to terminate her parental rights. I found out she has a long history of alcohol/drug abuse and mental illness. I can’t even begin to tell you how evil she is. She once told me that she wished I would kill myself and said another time that she would kill our son and then herself…so basically SHE’s OUT THE DOOR! FOREVER! I did love her at some point because of our son and enough to marry her…now i’m struggling through this divorce. My best friend that I have known all my life and grew up with found out that we could be friends again because my wife is out of the picture and never let me contact my friends (which I honored cause Im an idiot ok I got it) Anyway, since I moved away from her when I was 9 we have always remained close and still visited each other and I have always been in love with her and even got ballsy enough to tell her when I was probably about 13-14 (Im 23 now). She moved off farther away and met her now husband…got married and had a baby…now they moved back closer to home and she has a lot more contact with me almost on a daily basis. I met her husband and he seems like a great guy. I’m so proud of her and I am glad that she has a happy family but these feelings that I have had ALL MY LIFE, even when we were so far apart, won’t go away EVER and I don’t feel like they ever will…I’m just stuck and don’t know what to do…Just looking for some advice…
I just want to point out again that I would never have ANY intentions of breaking up a happy marriage I swear to God. I know it’s not right by the church, law, etc. but that doesn’t help the feelings that I have. I would never interfere and I am very grateful to her husband for letting us remain friends, I would never dishonor another man like that…I just trying to find some coping skills to deal with it because thats all I can do is deal with it and live with it forever. But since I can not ask her the “why” question it will always be pondering in my mind…not looking to harm her marriage in any way whatsoever…
I have been married to him for eight years, together 13 total. We lived apart because he got addicted to drugs and now that he has been sober for over six months I let him move in with me and our 7 year old daughter and my 19 year old son. Everything was going okay except that he kept telling me that my son was more important and treated him like a king and my husband like crap. NO one seems to understand that my son has had alot of eye surgeries and we almost lost him to meningitis last year in 2008. My son is still taking medications due to his eye issues this is why I worry about his so much, most of my attention is on my son and daughter. I recently found texts on my husbands phone asking him what room #? He told me was going out of town to do some work over night…come to find out he met up with his whore. I am so hurt and of course I kicked him out and now he is seeing that married woman. I think he is really falling for her and done with me because he isn’t chasing me like he usually does when we would break up. I keep texting and calling him but I think I realized that I should just leave him alone. I miss him so much and cry throughout the day when I’m alone. I never left him while we were apart when he was sprung out on drugs, he would be so broke and I would take him food because he wasn’t eating and I would give him money for gas and cigarettes. I have lost almost 15 pounds in the last three weeks and can’t imaging life without him. He loves his daughter but I told him I will not let him see her anymore while he continues to see his whore. I know I shouldn’t take it out on our daughter but It seems like he has the best of both worlds, his daughter and his lover and I am left alone and devestated. A part of me wants to win him back but another part doesn’t have the energy it will take to fight for him. I know I deserve better but It’s too hard to live without him. He is so funny and great in bed and the father of my daughter who needs her daddy. Please give me some advice, I will be honest and say that I had two one nighters with two exes while my husband was hooked on drugs. He was so hooked on drugs and then would call me to have sex but I told him that if I did that I was rewarding him for his habit. I felt like I was sleeping with a drug addict If I gave into him. I love him so much and now that he’s sober I want to make it work but he’s told me that I’m pushing him to hard if I keep chasing him down and he will move back to his home state if I didn’t back off. I don’t know what to think or do anymore….I can’t talk to family because they will judge me this is why I’m seeking advice from strangers. I DO LOVE HIM and miss him so much….even started smoking cigarettes and each night alone is so hard because I just keep thinking of him with her….I don’t feel like dating anyone and It wouldn’t be hard to find a guy but I will only be putting up a front, I am in love with my husband too much to do that. Thanks for reading.
. We have three kids 9,3,11/2. We separated 4 yrs ago because I used her mistake as an excuse for my leaving. We both have made many mistakes and have very deep issues but we are willing to work on and aware of many of our faults. She was honest about her mistake. But I used the painful feelings as another excuse run away and to go on a pity driven drug binge for 6 months. After 6 months she drove me to the V.A. (Desert storm disabled vet) because I was really close to death or homicide or both. After 9 months inpatient psych-ward ( 8weeks lockdown 7 mo. inpatient program) and 4 months transition house. She took me back. (Diagnoses bi-polar..lots o meds) I’ve made many changes and reversions “good months bad months” but stopped meds a yr after I left transition (felt they were masking/ hindering getting to the deep real issues) I put my wife through incredible emotional abuse and neglect every month of every year of our relationship. My eldest son as well.
Well I found a civilian psychotherapist 9 months ago. 4 months ago I started having some really enlightening realizations of the true pain and scars I’ve caused. 2 months ago my wife said something I perceived as a horrific hurt and I reacted as I usually do when hurt (perceived or real) with scary rage and horrible words the worst blow up ever (only 2 minutes long but 119 seconds toooo long) and I cant express in strong enough words the feelings of guilt and shame I feel. Well after that my wife wants to separate for a while so she can get herself in order. I understand and can’t blame her for a nana second. Well since then my therapist and I have gotten even deeper…scary deep but I asked him for a no bull-shit evaluation of my personality. Last week he gave it and I’ve researched and nervously agree. I have NPD (narcissistic personality disorder).My question..Long overdo I know) T he research and most people agree there is no cure but I truly want to change… for myself..Ha ha.
alittle irony there. But I also want to save the love of a beautiful, smart truly incredible woman who never deserved an ass like me. I want to change. Is it possible and how the hell can I ever make up for the mountains of crap I’ve piled on my wife.
