How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My son had recently turned 19, I notice every year since the age of 13 he changes for the bad. Now, don’t get me wrong he is a great kid, However, extremely lazy and do not take school seriously at all. Well, since his 19th birthday this past March, he decided to drop out of highschool secretly, he began to hang around his long time friend since the age of ten more than often. This friend of his never made it into highschool and refuses to work, his friend is homeless and a total bum. I tried everything to keep my son away from this negative behavior. “My son and his friend is not on drugs, they do not smoke cigarettes and can’t stand alcohol.” There just two young fools.

It hurts me to my heart that my son refuses to listen to me, I begged and pleaded to him about the importance of school, and how he was a second senior around because of his foolishness, lately my son has decided to stay out with his friends, he comes home every other night to eat, he is not street smart and is a total follower, I’m so afraid for him, but I’m tired of being tired. I have two other children I’m trying to raise. I feel like if I let him be the bum, I meant the man he told me to let him be, then I have lost my son to the streets.

Im so sad and I worry about him. And I wonder why he never listens to me. I’m a single mom and soo many people seek my advice, I once held a job as a counselor, and turned so many people lives around. I can’t understand why I couldn’t turn my own son life around, when he lives or use to live in my house hold.

Someone please give me an answer.

Thanks

My 16 year old son left school campus for lunch. During that time he took a shot of Jack Daniels with a friend and then returned to school. While talking with a teacher, she smelled the alcohol. The school priciple was notified who in turn called the police to breathalyse my son. To sum it up, my son now is facing an expulsion. What are his rights?

I normally have my child on the weekends but this time my ex asked to take him with her and her husband to his parents 6 hours away for labor day weekend bash but at the last minute she gets sick and stays home by herself. My sons stepdad is a nice guy(what little I know about him) but he is not his dad and also is not very good at disciplining my child and making him “mind”. From what I have heard about these “shindigs” is there are lots of people and lots of alcohol and I am worried that my son(who is 9) will sneak away unsupervised and get to doing something he hadn’t oughta be doing.

I was not informed that she did not go until it was too late, otherwise I think my son should have stayed with me.

Is this wrong of my ex to allow this to happen? Should I jump her a$$ about this? Is this something I could use against her in court?

I am re posting this and adding some information.
I normally have my child on the weekends but this time my ex asked to take him with her and her husband to his parents 6 hours away for labor day weekend bash but at the last minute she gets sick and stays home by herself. My sons step dad is a nice guy(what little I know about him) but he is not his dad and also is not very good at disciplining my child and making him “mind”(from what I am told he doesn’t do that with his own child who isn’t going on this trip). From what I have heard about these “shindigs” is there are lots of people and lots of alcohol and I am worried that my son(who is 9) will sneak away unsupervised and get to doing something he hadn’t oughta be doing since his mom has let him “taste” alcohol and mixed drinks at her house.

I was not informed that she did not go until it was too late, otherwise I think my son should have stayed with me.

Is this wrong of my ex to allow this to happen? Should I jump her *** about this? Is this something I could use against her in court?

Some info on my ex: she cheated on me for years and allowed my son to be involved with her boyfriends and their families during their outings and even(when asked about it) told the judge during our divorce she didnt see anything wrong with it. I know for a fact that she is cheating again now with my sons teacher because I saw her kiss him outside in public and my son told me beforehand she was doing this.
So I doubt she was sick and if she was it was very coincidental.

I am re posting this and adding some information.
I normally have my child on the weekends but this time my ex asked to take him with her and her husband to his parents 6 hours away for labor day weekend bash but at the last minute she gets sick and stays home by herself. My sons step dad is a nice guy(what little I know about him) but he is not his dad and also is not very good at disciplining my child and making him “mind”(from what I am told he doesn’t do that with his own child who isn’t going on this trip). From what I have heard about these “shindigs” is there are lots of people and lots of alcohol and I am worried that my son(who is 9) will sneak away unsupervised and get to doing something he hadn’t oughta be doing since his mom has let him “taste” alcohol and mixed drinks at her house.

I was not informed that she did not go until it was too late, otherwise I think my son should have stayed with me.

Is this wrong of my ex to allow this to happen? Should I jump her *** about this? Is this something I could use against her in court?

Some info on my ex: she cheated on me for years and allowed my son to be involved with her boyfriends and their families during their outings and even(when asked about it) told the judge during our divorce she didnt see anything wrong with it. I know for a fact that she is cheating again now with my sons teacher because I saw her kiss him outside in public and my son told me beforehand she was doing this.
So I doubt she was sick and if she was it was very coincidental.

every day theirs parents that insult everybody, including their own, that their’re abandon from their family, except a son or their daughter. that with all the insult they take , till they take care of them. without support of another member. and without doing a intervension.

if my sons so called father has been abusive towards me around my son but has never hurt my son but has hurt me with him in the room and spit in my face and pushed me with my son in my arms and is an alcoholic and a pill head and his name is not on the birth certificate and has had a DNA test down without my consent
what i his rights to my son and can i stop from him seeing my son ever and his parents too.

Its not happening for a while but in november there is going to be a night or 2 where i have to leave my son, he will be 16 months old at the time. I have never left him before so im worrying about it already.

Anyway, my mum smokes and she ALWAYS has a few glasses of wine a night, there have been times where i have asked her to take me somewhere in the evening and she makes my dad do it because she HAS to drink. She denies being an alcoholic but we (me and my partner) believe she is. She also goes to bed very early, around 7.30-8.30 everynight and my son doesnt usually go to bed until 9pm at the earliest, it can be anywhere from 9-12pm depending on his mood. She also NEVER listens to what i say for him, i have a set routine and she will not stick to it. I go there every saturday and she wont listen to me about anything.

She called me and i told her about these nights we have to go out and leave him and she asked who will be looking after my son and i told her that my cousin said she would like to do it (her sister has 2 kids that she looks after a lot so i trust her). However he doesnt really know her very well, he would only see her maybe once a month and thats only for maybe 2 hours. I dont have any other friends or family he could stay with, so im not sure what to do.

if my sons so called father has been abusive towards me around my son but has never hurt my son but has hurt me with him in the room and spit in my face and pushed me with my son in my arms and is an alcoholic and a pill head and his name is not on the birth certificate and has had a DNA test down without my consent
what i his rights to my son and can i stop from him seeing my son ever and his parents too.

My ex and I split up nearly 2 years ago. He had been seeing our son nearly every week and said that when he left he left me “not our son”. Well, I haven’t heard from him for the past 4 months. I’m very confused and pretty livid for my son. He asks about him and I’m not sure what to say. I tell him that his father loves him and that I know he misses him.

Some people have mentioned that he’s probably in a new relationship but I still can’t understand how that would make him want to totally cut off all communication with his child who he was actively involved with up until 4 months ago.

I wonder if it could be drugs? He was very inconsistent over the summer when he was watching him. Would show up late most days, couldn’t seem to get himself up on time and would call with every excuse in the book day in and day out. He’s 35 years old and I know he did Meth recreationally before we got together, when he was 23. But he didn’t do that when we were together.

However, in the past year he’s lost his job (was fired after working there for 8 years) due to being late all the time. Said he was denied unemployment. And he’s just hanging out with 21 year old girls and has 2 bachelors living with him now.

I’m just trying to understand how someone can so completely change. I wonder why he wouldn’t be reachable or interested in seeing his own son for so long?

How can men (or people) do this to their children? Last we talked we were amicable and all was civil.
I have seen my ex driving around town, so he’s not incarcerated. He acts like he doesn’t see me. I texted him 3 months ago. Never heard back from him. I see that he’s adding friends to his facebook page, so I know he hasn’t fallen off the planet and isn’t in jail or worse.

My sons dad has not been involved since he was 3 weeks old. he is not on the birth cert. he was violent and an alcoholic. i told him he could see my son supervised but he has never bothered.
he does pay CSA.
my partner im with now has brought him up since he was 4 month and we changed his name to his surname by deed poll (before that he had my surname NOT his fathers)
we live in the uk.
does anyone know if my partner could adopt my son without his dads consent and how to go about it?
AND TO STORMY S!
you totally wrong because my sons dad has NO PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY what so ever. he was born within the years of the new laws but he wasnt there when i registerd the birth, therefor he is not on the birth cert so then he has no parental responsibilites at all. He can only get parental resp by going to court and getting a court order to do so. and solicitors gave me that info so i know its right. And i can decide whether my son goes to see him supervised or un-supervised. he was a violent alcoholic towards me and my son, any mother in their right mind would not let their child be left alone with anyone like that. im not one of these mothers that stop the children seein their fathers, i believe dads should be involved unless there is certain reasons why he shouldnt, and my sons dad shouldnt

He’s 22 and a college student and just doesn’t have much of an appetite. He just keeps getting thinner. Is this something to worry about? He has no other symptoms and seems happy and healthy. No drug use or alcohol, and no depression.

I have been bulimic since 1997. I would binge and purge and starve myself in between. I would also exercise like a mad woman. I was so skinny my family wasn’t sure what was going on. My ribs were showing and my face looked skeletal. When I became pregnant with my daughter in 2001 I slowly stopped the binging and purging and began to eat healthy and not worry about my weight. I was normal for the whole pregnancy but right after her birth I began just not eating.. and when I couldn’t take it any more the binging and purging began again. In summer of 2007 my son had a terrible accident and again I began just not eating from the stress and then slowly but surely began binging and purging again. I was so happy with the way I looked I didn’t want to stop. But when my boyfriend moved in with me I couldn’t hide it from him so I have slowly been eating here and there and only purging occasionally. I have gained 9 lbs. I am 5’7 and my size 4 pants are now snug on me. Anyone else that was that size I would say was skinny but when I see myself in the mirror I look like a moose. My boyfriend is very weird that way too.. he likes his girl skinny and has mentioned things when he is mad about me not exercising as much and that I am getting flabby. I am not sure what to do. I am on the verge of becoming full fledge again because even when I eat less than a normal person and exercise I still seem to put on weight if I am not vomitting. I need help. I don’t know how to eat and be normal and still be able to maintain my weight anymore. If any one has any answers for me I would greatly appreciate it. My world is just consumed with thoughts of food and how I am going to get rid of it. I am tired of feeling this way. it has been way too many years.

I love my boyfriend but this relationship isn’t right for me. He just is very insensitive to my needs. He is a great dad and tries to be a good boyfriend but theres a lot of things that I can’t deal with. Hes controlling – tells me what to do and when to do it. Hes best friends with his ex girlfriend who he had a pretty frequent sexual relationship with and he even brought her to the hospital when i gave birth!! that really pissed me off! plus his parents don’t want us together and his dad calls me a liar and says my home is unsafe for my son which is total crap considering his dads a former alcoholic and they swear and scream all the time. I just can’t deal with this anymore and I know he wont give all that up for me so i need to leave him but I dont want to hurt him. How can I break up with him?

I SOOO bad want to get the fact about fetal alcohol exposure , out there, but I get the feeling that a lot of women who do/did drink feel that I am judging, when that is not at all true.

You can’t take away what has already been done, but know what the effect are the the baby is very important for appropriate care/treatment.

Drinking during the first 8 WEEKS is the most harmful to the baby, even though some women didn’t know they were pregnant…. it just is.

I want people to think twice before drinking even 1 drop while pregnant…. no amount is safe. Docs might say 1 drink is “okay”, but “okay” is relative. Some people think it’s okay to get tattoos (my husband and I both have them), but the fact is, tattoos are painful, cause scarring and have risks attached to them.

So the risks may be “okay” with some people, but it’s still there.

I am raising a son with FAS and have to someday explain to him why simple things are so hard to understand, why a breeze causes him pain, why he is so tiny, why his heart is in the wrong place causing a choking sensation.

—- It’s not because he’s not love or becuase someone wanted to hurt him, but because of the myths of what alcohol can really do to a baby, the myth that if you don’t know your’re pregnant, that the baby will be okay, the idea that you HAVE to binge drink everyday to have an effect….. this is why he had FAS, because people tell pregnant women that it “okay”….. well it’s NOT okay, it hurts.
Why won’t people believe what alcohol REALLY does to babies.

Here is a timeline of what systems are effected by alcohol at different staged of pregnancy

http://www.acbr.com/FAS/Graphics/teratogens.jpg

Why won’t people believe what alcohol REALLY does to babies.

Here is a timeline of what systems are effected by alcohol at different staged of pregnancy

http://www.acbr.com/FAS/Graphics/teratogens.jpg

All it takes is 1 drink at the time when the heart moves from the center of the fetus to the left, for there to be malrotation and for the heart to noe get to the right spot. In my son his is over his trahea and when his blood pressure or heart rate goes up or he gags. There are many things that take years to show up.

“perfectly healthy” is relative. I dont know many kids who were NOT exposed that are “perfectly healthy”. Just wait until you kids get older, the effects will start to shine through.

I love my boyfriend but this relationship isn’t right for me. He just is very insensitive to my needs. He is a great dad and tries to be a good boyfriend but theres a lot of things that I can’t deal with. Hes controlling – tells me what to do and when to do it. Hes best friends with his ex girlfriend who he had a pretty frequent sexual relationship with and he even brought her to the hospital when i gave birth!! that really pissed me off! plus his parents don’t want us together and his dad calls me a liar and says my home is unsafe for my son which is total crap considering his dads a former alcoholic and they swear and scream all the time. I just can’t deal with this anymore and I know he wont give all that up for me so i need to leave him but I dont want to hurt him. How can I break up with him?

Ok so here is the situation..I got pregnant at the age of 16 and my sons father went to prison for trafficking meth (I know yukky but im doin better now) 3 days after I found out I was pregnant. He didn’t get out until last July. 4 days before he turned 3. So my sons father will be on parole for a long time and cant leave the state. I waited 17 months for him but I was young and could not wait anymore. It didnt seem fair at all. But I have been with my sons step dad for 3 years in December. We had to move out of state from Idaho to Oregon because we have a chance to live a better life and plus we dont fight here.

I have had my son in my custody all the time that his father was locked up and I feel bad for taking him away from him and his grandma but we have a better life here in Oregon. I just dont know how to tell them because the fathers mother is crazy and said she would hunt me down if I ever took him away. But she doesnt get the point that Im not trying to just take him away to hurt her. I just want to give my baby a better life. My family lives in Idaho and wont get to see him either but they arent threatening me.

I just need some advice ppppplllllllllllzzzzzzzz!!!!! thank you
There has never been any type of custody order he was locked up for 3 years of his sons life so there for didnt have those rights. Even when he got out I still had my son all week and he went to their house on the weekends.

But also I took my son because I have heard many times that his father is doing drugs again and that his girlfriend is a crackhead too. I changed my life and finished school and got off drugs so my son can have a better life!

Ok so here is the situation..I got pregnant at the age of 16 and my sons father went to prison for trafficking meth (I know yukky but im doin better now) 3 days after I found out I was pregnant. He didn’t get out until last July. 4 days before he turned 3. So my sons father will be on parole for a long time and cant leave the state. I waited 17 months for him but I was young and could not wait anymore. It didnt seem fair at all. But I have been with my sons step dad for 3 years in December. We had to move out of state from Idaho to Oregon because we have a chance to live a better life and plus we dont fight here.

I have had my son in my custody all the time that his father was locked up and I feel bad for taking him away from him and his grandma but we have a better life here in Oregon. I just dont know how to tell them because the fathers mother is crazy and said she would hunt me down if I ever took him away. But she doesnt get the point that Im not trying to just take him away to hurt her. I just want to give my baby a better life. My family lives in Idaho and wont get to see him either but they arent threatening me.

I just need some advice ppppplllllllllllzzzzzzzz!!!!! thank you
There has never been any type of custody order he was locked up for 3 years of his sons life so there for didnt have those rights. Even when he got out I still had my son all week and he went to their house on the weekends.

But also I took my son because I have heard many times that his father is doing drugs again and that his girlfriend is a crackhead too. I changed my life and finished school and got off drugs so my son can have a better life!

I’ve got two birthday parties to plan for April and I am looking for punch recipes. Non alcoholic for my sons and alcoholic for my mom’s.

My son is 30 years old, unemployed with no insurance. He is using methadone, but would like to get off of that and get his life back together.