basicly my son will soon be turning 17, nearly all of his mates are 17 too, some older than 17, and a few younger. and he wants to have a big birthday celebration with about 40 of his friends. Now I don’t have a problem with that number of people around our house and garden, but i was wondering what would happen if the police we’re called out over a noise complaint or something, and they turn up to find a lot of drunken 17 year olds? Would i be fined or anything because they were at MY house?
Now i will point out to any people un-aware of the laws regarding alcohol in england, that in england the age you can drink and buy alcohol is 18. The law also says that if you are having a meal in a pub/bar you can buy beer/cider/wine at 16, aslong as someone over 18 buys it FOR you, i.e it’s not your money. And the law also says that in the privacy of your own home, a child as young as 5 can be GIVEN any alcoholic beverage they wish by a parent/guardian. (yes, i know that last law is ridiculous, but it’s still the law).
so as my son and most of his friends would be underage by 1 year, would the police mind? or would they turn a blind eye because at least these teenagers arent going around getting drunk on the streets, but are in a safe controlled enviroment?
thanks for any answers (sorry if this was a bit long)
And a quick note to anyone here who says anything about my ‘bad morals’ or “he shouldn’t drink anyway hes too young”, i wasn’t asking about that, i was wanting to know what what likely happen if the police were called down and saw the party. I think people need to face the fact that teenagers have ALWAYS drank underage and ALWAYS will, so it’s up to us as parents to make sure they know the conesequences of it and the dangers of it. Other than that i don’t mind my son drinking as he is only underage by 1 year…
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My wife and i been married for 10 years i came from a family of alcoholics my grandfather and father was both alcoholics they both died from it shes afraid that i might become one to i reassure her that won’t happen but she told me that she doesn’t want to lose me to alcohol we have a year old son together i don’t know what should i do?
we also have a 2 year old son
Anyone who has millions of dollars and who would like to fly to Las Vegas right now and snort cocaine and violate women should let me know…..lets make a move right now..I have lots of frequent flier miles…and a hook up for some sick fish scale….party till your nose falls off son!….
I am 23 years old, and am concerned that if something happens to my mom custody of my six-year old brother would go to her abusive/alcoholic ex-husband. Can she write a valid will at home to give me custody just in case? Her ex-husb. has a long criminal record incl. repeat DUI, DWI, Drunk in Public, and Possession charges, so maybe I don’t need to even worry, because a court would see that he is unfit. I work full-time, have my own car, and make enough to support my brother & I, so I like to think I could get custody. Still, I want to know how I can get a will for her done, we don’t have the money for a lawyer….Thanks!
I am 23 years old, and am concerned that if something happens to my mom custody of my six-year old brother would go to her abusive/alcoholic ex-husband. Can she write a valid will at home to give me custody just in case? Her ex-husb. has a long criminal record incl. repeat DUI, DWI, Drunk in Public, and Possession charges, so maybe I don’t need to even worry, because a court would see that he is unfit. I work full-time, have my own car, and make enough to support my brother & I, so I like to think I could get custody. Still, I want to know how I can get a will for her done, we don’t have the money for a lawyer….Thanks!
My husband has not been with his ex since the beginning of 2007. They are somewhat cordial as they were good friends before they dated. To make a long story short she really screwed him over. She cheated on him with 3 other men, wrote bad checks on their joint account then took her name off leaving my husband with the debt, stole his car and had sex with another man in it on his birthday while he was at work and didn’t bring it back for 2 days leaving him stranded, and she also has a crack cocaine problem. When she got pregnant with her son she told my husband and 3 other guys that the child was theirs. DNA tests proved the child is not my husbands. Keep in mind all of this happened before my husband and I meet back in the summer of 2008 at which point his ex had her baby. Anyway, she recently contacted him when she found out I had a baby and now she wants to meet up with us so that our boys can play together. My husband is a great guy and he still cares for her as a human being and I respect that but he is seriously considering setting up this play date between our kids. I don’t have an issue with my husband meeting up with her for lunch or something (I trust him and I know he has no feelings for her nor does she have any feelings for him, it’s more like a big brother little sister relationship they have now) but I don’t know how I feel about my kid being around her. I have nothing against her kid but it is her I do not trust manly becuase of her drug problem. She says she is clean but people we all know says that her mother has filed for custody of her son due to her continued use of drugs. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be rude but at the same time I don’t want my son around someone who is on hardcore drugs. Any thoughts, opinions, advice would be greatly appreciated.
I never thought of how this could lead to the two of us sizing each other up but I think you guys are all right as far as that matter is concerned. I just feel really bad for her son becuase he has hardly any friends due to the fact that none of her friends want to have play dates with their kids either. But at the same time I need to do what is best for my kid.
My husband has not been with his ex since the beginning of 2007. They are somewhat cordial as they were good friends before they dated. To make a long story short she really screwed him over. She cheated on him with 3 other men, wrote bad checks on their joint account then took her name off leaving my husband with the debt, stole his car and had sex with another man in it on his birthday while he was at work and didn’t bring it back for 2 days leaving him stranded, and she also has a crack cocaine problem. When she got pregnant with her son she told my husband and 3 other guys that the child was theirs. DNA tests proved the child is not my husbands. Keep in mind all of this happened before my husband and I meet back in the summer of 2008 at which point his ex had her baby. Anyway, she recently contacted him when she found out I had a baby and now she wants to meet up with us so that our boys can play together. My husband is a great guy and he still cares for her as a human being and I respect that but he is seriously considering setting up this play date between our kids. I don’t have an issue with my husband meeting up with her for lunch or something (I trust him and I know he has no feelings for her nor does she have any feelings for him, it’s more like a big brother little sister relationship they have now) but I don’t know how I feel about my kid being around her. I have nothing against her kid but it is her I do not trust manly becuase of her drug problem. She says she is clean but people we all know says that her mother has filed for custody of her son due to her continued use of drugs. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be rude but at the same time I don’t want my son around someone who is on hardcore drugs. Any thoughts, opinions, advice would be greatly appreciated.
I never thought of how this could lead to the two of us sizing each other up but I think you guys are all right as far as that matter is concerned. I just feel really bad for her son becuase he has hardly any friends due to the fact that none of her friends want to have play dates with their kids either. But at the same time I need to do what is best for my kid.
We have been married 3 years and i have finally know that i have to quit alcohol and save me my marriage and for our 22mo old son. She will not go to counseling because she thinks that my problem is the whole thing. I take accountabilty for my mistakes and trully want us to work.
My teen is 17 yrs old. I kicked him out recently cause he has made a change in the last 3 months. All he wants to do is talk on his phone during all hours of the night. He is falling alseep in the bathroom in the morning when he goes to school. I have talked to him since it started 3 months ago. He is smart and his grades have dropped. He has became a slob.He is the type of teen that never wore his cloth twice. Now he wears the same clothes over and over. Dirty socks and underwear in his room all over the place. Like i said before he was always a clean teen. He gets offeneded for every little thing. In my home when u have a chore u have to do it. I told him that he could’nt go out until he shapes up. I gave him a talk a few times to see what’s up. He says he is stressed cause I am telling him what to do, so i said there are rules and if u dont like it u know what to do. Get out! He is also eating more junk food than ever. Is my son on some drug? He has always been a good kid and a home kid. I think I gave him too much freedom and look what happened. He knows about drugs and alcohol. He had the talk with me and my husband plenty of times. I am not a drug addict or alcoholic. My husband either. Should I take him back when he knocks on my door? Do you think he is on drugs? This kid is a kid that respects others. He gave me back talk that I have never seen in him. I am concerned more about school. Had a 85% average and now it is 72%. That is a big drop. From getting b’s to getting d’s and maybe a C somewhere. He curfew used to be 10pm and he used to come at 11pm alot. I let him slide on that, but I can’t do this anymore. I was reading about the signs of drug abuse in a teen and he has more than 3 of them, but does that mean that he is using? If he cooperates with me I will give him a blood test, if not then he cant come to my home. I just want an adult who has a teenager to give your opinion on it. Teens dont respond to this cause I dont want to here your ignorant comments plz.
25 y/o son has a non violent felony charge that cannot be expunged. No prison time. He sees a probation officer monthly. Has worked really hard at rehabilitating himself but cannot find an employer who will give him a chance to prove his worth in the job market. He turned his back on drugs and alcohol.
He wants to go back to school and work as a emergency medical tech. Needs more than a minimum wage job as he has finally realized that he is worthy and needs to help raise his daughters. Any suggestions as to how he can realize his dream and be self sufficient and a plus to the community? Thank you.
He just turned 18. He graduated from military school (was being horrible) in Dec and was doing pretty well for a while. He wanted to join the military or learn a trade. Now he has a friend that he plans to move out with. They say they’re moving across the country to be the next Nirvana. My son is getting his license and buying a car but the friend hasn’t graduated from high school, has no driver’s license and no money. How will they do it? Here’s the kicker: the friend’s dad is a loser who lost his license on DUIs because he’s an alcoholic and he said he’ll pay the way if he can go along (he’s 60). My son is a wild child if he’s around wild people-drinking, getting high. I’ve tried talking sensibly, tried to tell him the pitfalls but I don’t know what else to do. The only thing I can think of is to not take him driving and let him fail his driver’s test. I’m afraid he’ll be needing big time rehab in 6 months being around an old guy who doesn’t care about anything. What can I do? HELP!
Both good answers. But the winner is the first answerer. You are right, time to chill, let go, and be there for support. Thanks
Looking for answers from actual law enforcement please. My son is in high school and wants to be a state trooper when he gets older. His father (which he doesn’t have any contact with because I have had sole custody for the last 5 years) is a criminal. He has been in jail for burglary,breaking and entering, recieving stolen property, providing a minor with alcohol, drug paraphanalia, 2 OUI’s, 3 OAS’s, and the last child molestation (he molested our daughter). My son is worried that because of his father’s bad reputation and criminal record that it may hurt his chances of getting into law enforcement. As his mother, I have never been in trouble for anything and he has never been in trouble for anything himself. Being in law enforcement have any of you seen someone get turned down because of criminal history in the family, or are we just worried about nothing? It would really crush him if he found out this could ruin his chances, he has talked about nothing else for the last 4 yrs.
She wants the person who introduced us, who is her best friend & our babysitter, to supervise in our home, without us here. She lived w/us for 3 mon. before his birth, and broke our trust by doing 1 dose of meth the day he was born (1 month early). Birthdad fire 2 months later because of meth. Says clean, but they just took her 5 year old out of state. I say I stay in house, unknown to her (say I’m at work), w/ adopted dad 1 mile down road, cell phone contact, we take their keys. She didn’t want to give him up, private adoption, but DHS said they wouldn’t prosecute her if she let the adoption go through. She looked good last time I saw her. Do you think I ought to let her have some supervised private time with our son, and should I just be quietly hidden, just in case? Thanks! She literally can’t run because of ankle injuries. Birthdad not with her.
No, the sitter is definately not an addict, and I don’t believe she has ever done any drugs. Luckily, the birth parents once again didn’t show up. I wish she would stay clean (I believe she is, but she confused me with the wanting to see him all by herself). I think the mother in me wants things to work out between us all, and I truly wish that for Jacob’s sake, it could.
Also, no, I would never let my son around a meth addict without someone there that I trusted. That’s the purpose of the babysitter to be there. I just know that at 19, the sitter could be conned into letting the bmom hold the baby while she had to use the restroom, and bmom running. That’s why I wanted to be there. I wish we could incorporate her into our family, but now I know that it is her wish not to, that she misses him some, but not enought to straighten up and do anything about it.
My son is almost 19months old. His biological has not seen him since he was 3 weeks old, nor has he called. He does not pay child support. My son does not have his last name, and the biological is not on the birth certificate. I havent heard from the biological since like I said my son was 3 weeks old. I am now married and my husband has been the daddy of my son landon. He is in the military, has taken care of landon, paid for his circumcision.. and anything else you can think of, my husband has done it. My husband would like to adopt Landon.. however Im afraid if I start this process they will contact the biological and send him paperwork. I highly doubt he would fight it, since he hasnt had a care in the world since Landon was born. But theres always that chance. His bioligical I have heard from mutual friends has started doing Meth, and still smokes Marijuanna. (I found out after I got pregnant.) I couldnt imagine if he was to fight this, and have visitations to landon. I couldnt imagine handing landon over to someone who does drugs, and wasnt in his life in the first place. I live in California. Does anyone know how about this would go? Do I have a good chance at winning? Would the judge look at how the biological just disappeared and hasnt been a father? All answers helpful. Thank You!
He is a very responsible kid. He is above average in school. He is not into drugs or alcohol. And believe me, I would know. He has an older sister who was into drugs I’d never heard of and we caught on very quickly. The friend he wants to go with is a nice kid when he comes to our house. I do know he has been in trouble in the past with drinking and the like. But he is always great when he’s here. His parents are complete nut jobs and he is the most normal person in his family. Examples: The father drinks heavily, Mom does pills. They would be driving from Connecticut to New Hampshire and staying with the other boy’s uncle, whom I do not know. My son and this boy did do a weekend camping in June about 20 miles away and there were no problems. Any thoughts?
The son-in-law is a self-proclaimed “recovering alcoholic” (doubtful) and active pothead. He’s a control freak lord-it-over-the-wife husband. I find his request to be invasive and unreasonable. What do you guys think?
The son-in-law is a self-proclaimed “recovering alcoholic” (doubtful) and active pothead. He’s a control freak lord-it-over-the-wife husband. I find his request to be invasive and unreasonable. What do you guys think?
he doesn’t want fallow home rules. He drinks alcohol with his friends and some times want permission at nigths to do this.
The son-in-law is a self-proclaimed “recovering alcoholic” (doubtful) and active pothead. He’s a control freak lord-it-over-the-wife husband. I find his request to be invasive and unreasonable. What do you guys think?
I married my husband just under a year ago, we had a baby in August…his mother wanted nothing to do with any of it until 2 weeks before my baby was born. The entire time I’ve been with my husband I have never met her, (her choice) She is a raging alcoholic, and a habitual liar. fast forward..against my better judgement I allowed her to come to my home to see her grandchildren for the first time like 2 weeks ago I told her DO NOT DRINK before coming my home she could at least respect that. Well, she was basically drunk off her A*&! She drinks and gets drunk daily. She totally ignored our 7 year old son while she was here and totally disrespected our home, family and acted as if our values mean crap. She also put down my husband and FIL in front of our 7 year old. We agree she’s not to be around them again since alcohol is more important and the boys are nothing but “show off trophies for her”. Are we wrong for wanting to keep her away? I say no, hubby says no…but she’s bitchin.
She was drunk my husbands entire life, and extremely abusive towards him. Even if I’m dying I wouldn’t call her to watch my babies. She made a mistake when she was here…more than what I wrote…she introduced herself as “donna” to my older son..so since that is what she said, both my boys will only know her as “donna” . My hubby hopes someday she would change, but after 30 years he finally realized it wasn’t going to happen even for grandkids!
All of you that have answered so far I TOTALLY LOVE YOU!!! She has already made the comment VERY clearly known that it’s her life and she will do as she pleases…I told her I agree it’s her life, but that if she’s going to be in the boys’ life that she can go without drinking for 2 hours…well I opened the flood gates of hell on that one! I’m so sticking to my guns. P.S. When she did come over that day…she brought nothing for my older son, just stuff for the baby (which my husband took it all back to the store) and she made a big fit about “old used toys” at her house that my older one could have…I think not! I’ll buy my son new ones… UGH I’m getting so pissed thinking about her! Thanks everyone…you’re great!!
