I am having the hardest time getting over it. He was so in love with me and then out of the blue started using bad drugs (meth) and one day just left!! He left me with our 3 yr old son and now he has a new girlfriend (a known drug addict). I can’t seem to understand how he could do this to me, what should I do to get over it…
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I already asked this question in the Society & Culture section but didn’t get enough answers. While I appreciated the answers very much, I would really appreciate it if anyone with knowledge about Hookahs, good or bad, will share their opinions of hookah smoking with me. My 18-year-old son recently purchased a hookah & assures me it is safe, despite the very small amount of tobacco used. To me it looks like a bong. My son doesn’t smoke cigarettes, take drugs or drink alcohol. He has smoked an occasional cigar since he turned 18, but believes smoking in general is unhealthy. This is why he justifies hookahs. He says they are refreshing and help him to feel relaxed. I’ve researched them, but all I can discover is that coffee houses often have them, they are the rage w/teens and young adults, and they are harmless for the most part. Still, tobacco is tobacco & I can’t help thinking this is unsafe. I welcome and appreciate any opinions from those who’ve used one to anyone else.
For anyone not sure what a hookah is, it isn’t a female prostitute! It is a bong-like device used to inhale/suck in vapors/smoke that is flavored. Also, I appreciate all answers, including the hooker one (cute), but I want to say that my son is very health conscious & also very open with me about stuff. He has always been very opinionated against drugs of any form & wouldn’t consider doing drugs. So that isn’t the issue. He just likes the mellow feeling he has after smoking. I keep thinking this is very unhealthy & he says it’s safer than cigarettes. He’s 18 & thinks he knows it all & I’m 45 & clueless about this sort of thing. I just want to be informed so that I can talk to him more about this. Thanks again for all your answers. I truly appreciate it!
While I couldn’t find anything at the Surgeon General’s website as one person suggested, I’m glad it was suggested because it got me to thinking about the American Lung Assn (ALA) According to the ALA, hookah smoking that lasts 45-50 minutes, versus the 5-10 minutes of cigarette smoking is equivalent to inhaling as much smoke as a person smoking 100 or more cigarettes during a single session. Yikes!! According to the ALA, hookah smoking is at LEAST as toxic as cigarette smoking. Additionally, many sources of heating the liquid in a hookah can create carbon monoxide gases that are being inhaled as well. The article also says that existing evidence shows that hookah smoking (they call it waterpipe smoking) carries many of the same health risks & is linked to many of the same diseases caused by cigarette smoking. I want to thank you all for your help with this. The website I found can be accessed in PDF format at: http://www.lungusa2.org/embargo/slati/Trendalert_Waterpipes.pdf
my sons father passed away. he was originally in the hospital for pnemonia. they did a lot of different tests to determine the actual cause of death and ultimately they put as his cause of death “methamphetimine ingestion” he hadn’t used in three days and had eaten and slept. i dont understand why they put this as cause of death.
well, they did an autopsy and that came back undetermined and then they did a biopsy and thats when they decided with the meth thing. also he had been put on life support in the hospital and ultimatly his dad pulled the plug…wouldnt that have something to do with cause of death?
okay so if it is possible then HOW is it possible?
We know she is a prescription meds abuser, with a long track record in all hospitals within a three hour radius. She has had to move from towns brfore because of her and her mothers abuse of prescription meds. She has my husbands almost 18 month old son and it is not a good situation. We know she is using drugs again, maybe even cocaine. She begs his parents for money and even for meds. We are tired of knowing his son is unhealthy and neglected and paying child support is a joke because it just goes up her nose. My husband is afraid to call Children’s Services and her end up running. We haven’t seen the baby in over four months because she won’t comply to visitation. We are just tired of seeing the baby dirty and in crappy old clothes and being left with her pill head mother for days at a time while she parties. She even drives with him while drugged up. Has anyone else ever dealt with this and have any idea of what Children’s Services will do? We just don’t want her to run.
His behavior is really aggressive, when I picked up my son today, my ex came out dressed only in a pair of pajama pants and screaming obscenities at me over nothing. My son had pooped his pants and had obviously been sitting in it for a long time, it appeared his pullup hadn’t been changed all day. I don’t think my ex has been sleeping or eating and his behavior is really bizarre – one day he’s telling me he loves me the next he’s shouting and acting crazy. I can’t just stop letting him see our son, I need proof not just a suspicion. What can I do?
What is the likelihood that someone can use Meth “recreationally” several times a week and not be hooked?
My ex recently came back in the picture claiming that he dropped out of my sons life 6 months ago because he went down the wrong road and started hanging around bad people and started using meth. He said “it’s not like I’m addicted or anything. I quit a week ago. I just used it to help me deal with the feelings I was having about my life sucking so bad.”
Would you buy it? Believe him?
I have no intention of getting back together with him. we’ve been split for two years. He left because he wanted his “freedom”. I’m just concerned about my son. He’s 4 and my ex says he wants to start coming back into the picture regularly now.
What is the likelihood that someone can use Meth “recreationally” several times a week and not be hooked?
My ex recently came back in the picture claiming that he dropped out of my sons life 6 months ago because he went down the wrong road and started hanging around bad people and started using meth. He said “it’s not like I’m addicted or anything. I quit a week ago. I just used it to help me deal with the feelings I was having about my life sucking so bad.”
Would you buy it? Believe him?
I have no intention of getting back together with him. we’ve been split for two years. He left because he wanted his “freedom”. I’m just concerned about my son. He’s 4 and my ex says he wants to start coming back into the picture regularly now.
What is the likelihood that someone can use Meth “recreationally” several times a week and not be hooked?
My ex recently came back in the picture claiming that he dropped out of my sons life 6 months ago because he went down the wrong road and started hanging around bad people and started using meth. He said “it’s not like I’m addicted or anything. I quit a week ago. I just used it to help me deal with the feelings I was having about my life sucking so bad.”
Would you buy it? Believe him?
I have no intention of getting back together with him. we’ve been split for two years. He left because he wanted his “freedom”. I’m just concerned about my son. He’s 4 and my ex says he wants to start coming back into the picture regularly now.
HE HAS LOST TONS OF WEIGHT! His girlfriend and son left him he lost his appartment. So he moved in with my parents. My mom just found out he got into her bank account used checks and credit card. What can I do or tell my mom to make her feel better what can she do?!
My wife was heavy into drugs before we met. She had my step-son, then a meltdown and went into rehab/therapy at that time (about 10 years or so ago). Since that time, she was an occasional pot smoker. I was under the assumption that she was done with drugs until after we were married. We went on vacation at our 1 year ann. and she smoked pot in front of me. When I pretty much lost it, we got into an actual physical confrontation. We talked a little more about it, and I told her my personal views on ALL drugs. Pot isn’t all bad, and I try to deal with the occasional time that I know she does it (never at home, nor tells me when). Just the other day, she told me that about a year ago, she went to an ex-friends house, and they were doing crack. She said she did some, and left about 45 minutes after. She does not deal with this person any longer. She didn’t mention any hesitation, nor did she apologize for it. Am I wrong to think that she should apologize for doing something that hurts us?
Sorry, there wasnt enough room for all of this. I am at the end of my rope with this. We do have an appointment that she finally made with a marriage counselor on Tuesday. Do I take this as a possible first step for her again? The larger dilemna is, do i treat this as the last straw and just leave? I know she is hooked on drugs for whatever reason-if there is a documentary on tv she will watch it, and she watches intervention almost religiously. The showtime series weeds, she is into that right now. She will say at least once a week how she wishes she had a joint, or how somethign would be better if she were stoned. I am SOO sick of it. I dont understand this at all, and i dont really want to understand it i guess.
Me and my boyfriend been together for almost 3 years. He used to have a really bad problem with meth. He stopped using once i found out i was pregnant with our son. after about a year he relapsed. he told me he was sorry and didn’t now what he was thinking.
About a few days ago he will go out for hours and go to his friends house that i know uses. He will be gone all day until i call and ask him what is he doing. His pupils are also really ddilatedand hasn’t eaten much. He will stay up most of the night then come to bed only to have sex. He does all these weird things like when i woke up this morning he had jackets all layed out as if there were people in them. Like on the computer and the couch. I confronted him but tells me that he hasn’t been on anything and i need professional help cuz im crazy. im about ready to leave with our son cuz he doesn’t need to be around that. But am i over reacting or does he sound like hes on meth?
I’ve found out that my son is using drugs including marijuana, ecstasy, methamphetamine, cocaine, acid, etc. I can’t get him to talk to me. He hates me right now. Honestly, he sickens me to death right now as well with all of the trouble he is causing, and I can barely stand to look at him, let alone talk to him or try to reason with him. He is currently injured from drug related injuries. He is in serious trouble with the police, but luckily we have a great lawyer, and he shouldn’t have to do any jail time. I don’t know what is going to happen to him in regards to school. I don’t know what to do with him anymore. His father died two years ago, and we don’t have any family around to help us with this. I can’t kick him out of the house. I know that many people would recommend this, but I can’t live with the thought of my son being on the streets in the winter time, possibly killing himself. He is constantly angry and standoffish. Anytime someone tries to talk to him about anything personal, it turns into a yelling match. He doesn’t seem to trust, relate to, or care about anyone, and he won’t open up. He seems to hate being around others besides his friends, who I’m sure are using as well, and if he is not out of the house, he is holed up in his room by himself. It kills me to see that he’s so angry and upset all the time, and I can’t get through to him, despite countless efforts. I know some things have happened in his later childhood that have probably left him emotionally scarred, but he refuses to get help, mouthing off to me and the doctors and making threats if I try to send him back. I just want to help him. I don’t want to enable him, but at the same time, I can see that he is hurting or that something is bothering him, because he’s incredibly smart and would not be doing this otherwise. He never used to be like this. I noticed changes in him after his father’s death, and I’m sure that could have something to do with it among other things, because he never used to be this way. I’m just a concerned mother, and I’m worn out and so lost as to what to do with my child.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/10/17/obama-weekly-radio-addres_n_324648.html
“The history is clear: For decades rising health care costs have unleashed havoc on families, businesses and the economy,” the president said Saturday in his weekly radio and Internet address. “And for decades, whenever we have tried to reform the system, the insurance companies have done everything in their considerable power to stop us.”
“It’s smoke and mirrors,” the president added. “It’s bogus. And it’s all too familiar. Every time we get close to passing reform, the insurance companies produce these phony studies as a prescription and say, ‘Take one of these, and call us in a decade.’ Well, not this time.”
http://www.politico.com/news/stories/1009/28397.html
At a meeting last April with corporate lobbyists, aides to President Barack Obama and Sen. Max Baucus (D-Mont.) helped set in motion a multimillion-dollar advertising campaign, primarily financed by industry groups, that has played a key role in bolstering public support for health care reform.
The role Baucus’s chief of staff, Jon Selib, and deputy White House chief of staff Jim Messina played in launching the groups was part of a successful effort by Democrats to enlist traditional enemies of health care reform to their side. No quid pro quo was involved, they insist, as do the lobbyists themselves. ………………..“What you’ve had was the Senate and the White House sitting down and cutting deals with special interests,” he said. “I don’t think that’s quite what the American people signed up for when the Obama campaign said that they were going to limit the influence of special interests in this White House.”
Criticism — from the left and the right — of the PhRMA deal and the coalitions became more pointed after it was revealed in August that the coalitions were paying two firms with close ties to the White House to cut ads: AKPD Message and Media, which was founded by White House senior adviser David Axelrod, still owes him $2 million and employs one of his sons — and GMMB.
Liberals contended drug companies were being let off the hook. And congressional Republicans distributed talking points asserting the PhRMA deal raised “serious questions as to whether the drug lobby is helping to bankroll a multimillion-dollar severance package for one of the president’s senior advisers.”
So after coordinating one of the biggest and most costly corporate advertising campaigns in recent memory in support of his healthcare “reform” bill, Obama has the balls to not only say others are using “smoke and mirror” tactics, but his chief advisor is out criticizing Fox News claiming they’re illegitimate because they only express their point of view.
WTF is wrong with this guy??
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/10/17/obama-weekly-radio-addres_n_324648.html
“The history is clear: For decades rising health care costs have unleashed havoc on families, businesses and the economy,” the president said Saturday in his weekly radio and Internet address. “And for decades, whenever we have tried to reform the system, the insurance companies have done everything in their considerable power to stop us.”
“It’s smoke and mirrors,” the president added. “It’s bogus. And it’s all too familiar. Every time we get close to passing reform, the insurance companies produce these phony studies as a prescription and say, ‘Take one of these, and call us in a decade.’ Well, not this time.”
http://www.politico.com/news/stories/1009/28397.html
At a meeting last April with corporate lobbyists, aides to President Barack Obama and Sen. Max Baucus (D-Mont.) helped set in motion a multimillion-dollar advertising campaign, primarily financed by industry groups, that has played a key role in bolstering public support for health care reform.
The role Baucus’s chief of staff, Jon Selib, and deputy White House chief of staff Jim Messina played in launching the groups was part of a successful effort by Democrats to enlist traditional enemies of health care reform to their side. No quid pro quo was involved, they insist, as do the lobbyists themselves. ………………..“What you’ve had was the Senate and the White House sitting down and cutting deals with special interests,” he said. “I don’t think that’s quite what the American people signed up for when the Obama campaign said that they were going to limit the influence of special interests in this White House.”
Criticism — from the left and the right — of the PhRMA deal and the coalitions became more pointed after it was revealed in August that the coalitions were paying two firms with close ties to the White House to cut ads: AKPD Message and Media, which was founded by White House senior adviser David Axelrod, still owes him $2 million and employs one of his sons — and GMMB.
Liberals contended drug companies were being let off the hook. And congressional Republicans distributed talking points asserting the PhRMA deal raised “serious questions as to whether the drug lobby is helping to bankroll a multimillion-dollar severance package for one of the president’s senior advisers.”
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/10/18/axelrod-emanuel-criticize_n_325097.html
White House senior adviser David Axelrod and Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel continued the Obama administration’s criticism of Fox News during their interviews this morning on ABC and CNN, respectively. Both Axelrod and Emanuel cautioned that one of their main concerns is that other news organizations not follow Fox’s lead in coverage, which the White House does not see as ‘fair and balanced.’
bleached……….If you think Fox News is propaganda for the right (some of it is), then surely you feel the same way about MSNBC with regards to the left’s propaganda, RIGHT??
dbc……..Who is “he”??
My 24th birthday is in 4 days, meaning I’ve been an addict for 7 years. My adopted sister had her son eight days ago, and they want me to be the godfather, except they’re worried about my drug use around my nephew. Her husband, my best friend, broke down crying to me because he was so worried for my life. It’s scary, because he is a hard ass and is not known to cry at all. My twin brother has distanced himself from me. He is so disappointed that I have heard him denying that we’re related. Another good friend of mine is a former alcoholic, so he understands. He is trying to help, but I’m just a little jerk and won’t stop. All of them are trying to help me.
I have been using meth, coke, heroin, and pot. So far, I’ve only been able to get off weed.
I have been to rehab countless times and have overdosed twice. I really want to stop, but it’s like I’m sharing my body with someone else who refuses to cooperate and stop using. I’ve become very depressed about it.
Am I beyond getting assistance to kick my habits? Is it all up to me, even though my addictions have become so strong that I can’t break them? If you could give mr any advice or suggestions, that would be great. Thanks for your time.
Re-action for these drugs: Marijuana, Ecstasy, Crystal Meth.
I’m just curious haha xD would you be mad or try to help them? What would you do?
Why can this happen? He lives in another country and when I went to visit him for 10 days, he didn´t have any patience to me at all, he felt stressed with me, even though he just saw me at nights because he works during the day. I know for sure that he is not using drugs anymore and goes to meetings with people that had same problem like him and he is very happy doing this. But my worry is his conduct with me has changed so much. Thanks
Since I knew my son was gay about 10 years ago, I felt guilty and very sad, but after thinking about this reality I said to myself that homosexuality exists, and he is my beloving son (I have to sons) great guy, very sincere and excellent human being. That´s what more matters to me and my husband. He knows we love and admire him always, and the most important thing for us is his happiness. He´s a great architect and loves what he does.
he dont know I think this he used in past and I think he might be using again?
My son lives with me and I found out he smokes marijuana, abuses cough syrup, and occasionally uses cocaine. I know he uses these drugs for sure and not sure about what other drugs he does that I do not know about.
He has dropped out of college and now is a bartender part-time and seems to have little motivation to do anything.
What is the best way to approach this situation?
