A little background info…
When our son was 3 months old, we split up. My son ended up living with me for 3 months. I then got a job opportunity in a town 3 hours away. My son stayed with his father for about a month until I got on my feet and had a place ready for him. We agreed verbally to share custody half and half while I was living in that town. Well, a week later I received court papers and he was filing for sole custody. I had no resources to hire a lawyer, so I went to court without backup. My ex was granted sole custody and we share legal custody. I moved back home after that and he only allowed me two visiting days a week. I have no record with the law, drug addictions, or alcohol addictions. There is no legitimate reason for this. It’s been a year and a half now and I took him to mediation trying to get him to allow me more time with my son. He’s not budging. I don’t know what to do, what to say in court, anything. I have little money for a lawyer and have never been through this before so I don’t know the process……HELP. PLEASE. My son needs me and his father doesn’t see how much this is affecting our son.
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my 16 year old son has a 17 year old girlfriend and i do not approve of her coming over. She comes over everyday…doesn’t come into my room or the kitchen or wherever i may be to say hi before she offically enters my home. My “romeo” plans a romantic evening for her by filling up the bathtub with rose petals and candles and champagne (i find this out later…when i wasn’t home…i would never allow alcohol and it’s all because of her). I do not like this. A 16 year old boy is supposed to study, read and earn good grades. This ***** is tyring to seduce my son into having se/x with her i think. when i came into their room to check up on them yesterday (because i heard heavy panting from outisde his door) my son was on top of her dry humping away and kissing her bare breasts until they saw me and stopped (his fly was undone and he was turned on….this is a sign she wanted him to have se/x with her!). How should i get rid of this ***** and save my baby boy from this ***** who’s only talent is spreading her legs without ruining the relationship with my son?
this **** will definitely ruin everything! my son is a good boy from a good jewish family and this russian prostitute comes along in her gucci, yves saint lauren crap that has been around the block and with a good figure will do anything to have her way with him. The day before yesterday she came in wearing skinny jeans and NO bra in a white shirt (which was obviosuly a little see-through) with her b cup breasts! He’s a boy and all boys think with one thing!
i know how boys are this age…all the girl has to do is spread her legs and she succeeds…here’s her pics from one of her networking sites i found on my son’s laptop….typical **** …what honourable girl would pose like this…i bet she sends these pics to him
http://yfrog.com/j3nca2c5smicau77e8kcaqshyj
http://yfrog.com/86ncannzi20cav6k0picaj1x7j
http://yfrog.com/j1fcax4fhsxcac22k0fcanpi0j
http://yfrog.com/6u3caosbg3ocasun9w9cae0muj
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the worst part is that my husband thinks it’s great and likes the girl as our son’s girlfriend! and gives our son a high-five…makes my job 200 times harder. For the people responding please give me your age and tell me if you have any kids…preferably boys…
my 16 year old son has a 17 year old girlfriend and i do not approve of her coming over. She comes over everyday…doesn’t come into my room or the kitchen or wherever i may be to say hi before she offically enters my home. My “romeo” plans a romantic evening for her by filling up the bathtub with rose petals and candles and champagne (i find this out later…when i wasn’t home…i would never allow alcohol and it’s all because of her). I do not like this. A 16 year old boy is supposed to study, read and earn good grades. This ***** is tyring to seduce my son into having se/x with her i think. when i came into their room to check up on them yesterday (because i heard heavy panting from outisde his door) my son was on top of her dry humping away and kissing her bare breasts until they saw me and stopped (his fly was undone and he was turned on….this is a sign she wanted him to have se/x with her!). How should i get rid of this ***** and save my baby boy from this ***** who’s only talent is spreading her legs without ruining the relationship with my son?
this **** will definitely ruin everything! my son is a good boy from a good jewish family and this russian prostitute comes along in her gucci, yves saint lauren crap that has been around the block and with a good figure will do anything to have her way with him. The day before yesterday she came in wearing skinny jeans and NO bra in a white shirt (which was obviosuly a little see-through) with her b cup breasts! He’s a boy and all boys think with one thing!
i know how boys are this age…all the girl has to do is spread her legs and she succeeds…here’s her pics from one of her networking sites i found on my son’s laptop….typical **** …what honourable girl would pose like this…i bet she sends these pics to him
http://yfrog.com/j3nca2c5smicau77e8kcaqshyj
http://yfrog.com/86ncannzi20cav6k0picaj1x7j
http://yfrog.com/j1fcax4fhsxcac22k0fcanpi0j
http://yfrog.com/6u3caosbg3ocasun9w9cae0muj
http://yfrog.com/4o5cazkkmhqcadg0sgtca3pc8j
http://yfrog.com/j3lcascx7m4ca437ko8ca4q2uj
the worst part is that my husband thinks it’s great and likes the girl as our son’s girlfriend! and gives our son a high-five…makes my job 200 times harder. For the people responding please give me your age and tell me if you have any kids…preferably boys…
my 16 year old son has a 17 year old girlfriend and i do not approve of her coming over. She comes over everyday…doesn’t come into my room or the kitchen or wherever i may be to say hi before she offically enters my home. My “romeo” plans a romantic evening for her by filling up the bathtub with rose petals and candles and champagne (i find this out later…when i wasn’t home…i would never allow alcohol and it’s all because of her). I do not like this. A 16 year old boy is supposed to study, read and earn good grades. This ***** is tyring to seduce my son into having se/x with her i think. when i came into their room to check up on them yesterday (because i heard heavy panting from outisde his door) my son was on top of her dry humping away and kissing her bare breasts until they saw me and stopped (his fly was undone and he was turned on….this is a sign she wanted him to have se/x with her!). How should i get rid of this ***** and save my baby boy from this ***** who’s only talent is spreading her legs without ruining the relationship with my son?
this **** will definitely ruin everything! my son is a good boy from a good jewish family and this russian prostitute comes along in her gucci, yves saint lauren crap that has been around the block and with a good figure will do anything to have her way with him. The day before yesterday she came in wearing skinny jeans and NO bra in a white shirt (which was obviosuly a little see-through) with her b cup breasts! He’s a boy and all boys think with one thing!
i know how boys are this age…all the girl has to do is spread her legs and she succeeds…here’s her pics from one of her networking sites i found on my son’s laptop….typical **** …what honourable girl would pose like this…i bet she sends these pics to him
http://yfrog.com/j3nca2c5smicau77e8kcaqshyj
http://yfrog.com/86ncannzi20cav6k0picaj1x7j
http://yfrog.com/j1fcax4fhsxcac22k0fcanpi0j
http://yfrog.com/6u3caosbg3ocasun9w9cae0muj
http://yfrog.com/4o5cazkkmhqcadg0sgtca3pc8j
http://yfrog.com/j3lcascx7m4ca437ko8ca4q2uj
the worst part is that my husband thinks it’s great and likes the girl as our son’s girlfriend! and gives our son a high-five…makes my job 200 times harder. For the people responding please give me your age and tell me if you have any kids…preferably boys…
I am trying to locate my childrens father so I can have him served with court papers waiving him the rights to his children since he has a violent relationship with his pill popping girlfriend which caused him to loose his oldest son (from previuos relationship not my kid) to the state of Florida, he is an alcoholic, and he has warrants out for his arrest. He works but off the books so I cant even track him through employment. My fiance wants to marry me and adopt my children but I cant locate their dad because his p*ssy ass hides from the law. What can I do to track him or even his girlfriend (cause that will lead to him) so I can get him in court? I cant afford a private investigator so does anyone have a clue?
Mature advice only please. I am serious. I need honest mature opinions to this problem. I am trying to save my marriage. I have a big problem. My husband is a recovering alcoholic. He has been sober from alcohol for almost 6 months. He is also addicted to pills, mainly xanax and lortabs. He does good for a while, then relapses. I understand this is one of the hardest addictions to try and stop on your own and I am trying to give him all the support I can to help him through this. The problem is… his mother keeps giving him pills behind my back. He finally confessed it to me and now I am stuck with a hard decision to make. What to do about his mother. Do I cut her out of our lives? She is on parole for drug charges herself as she is an addict.. Family traditions huh? I am so angry, I am considering calling her Parole Officer explaining my situation and informing him that she is still doing drugs and every time they call her in for her drug test, she has been using a detox to pee clean, and the shampoo for the hair follicle test. I know this because she told me this. She has already peed dirty once and she denied it and I guess the PO let it slide. Should I go to her PO and tell him what I know to get her out of our lives and away from my husband? Shouldn’t I do something to keep her away? I need help… Please
I have talked to her repeatedly about giving pills to her son and the last time I talked to her, she said, “Well you know he’s never going to quit taking pills”, so I told her, “Not if you keep supplying them he won’t” and she left mad. She knows how I feel, but she doesn’t care. She has been giving him pills since he was a young child, only then she gave him Valium so he would go to bed early so she could stay up and party with her friends. I know this because my husband told me this. He and I are being honest with each other at last. I hate making my husband feel like he is stuck in the middle as he is going through a hard enough time trying to kick his addictions, but his mother has been an enabler to him for so long now. I told him I don’t want her coming to my home that she is not welcome because I can’t trust her to support him or me in our marriage and his recovery. He and I have been going to a church for a year now to find help through the Lord and trying to get our lives straightened out. The devil keeps sending people in our lives trying to mess things up. And on top of all that, his mother decided to come to our church this morning. But not alone…she had brought along a woman who my husband used to go out with and has recently “befriended”, and she knows I can’t stand her. She is trying to cause problems in my life. How do I put a stop to it
he is now arrested for fraud and it was dumb like he wanted to get caught. but he is confused is there anyway i can point out he is very sick?don’t get me wrong i am happy he is caught but would like him to get help should the judge be told he almost died of living on the streets with blood poisioning and staff infection this happen 15mos ago. he was evaluated 72hrs but they released him as he had drugs in his system so could not evaluate . the only thing i found out was he was an out patient and never showed up . he was 22 at the time. should i do nothing? i am afraid just lock him up no help. he was a meth addict at the time and he said recently he never ever done drugs if so he would of been so mental it is unreal. he has looked better as once out we fatten him up and he looked better but never right. not sure on anything or just damaged he is confused in thinking and what day it is. he has lived away from us last 4mos. i want help for him. speaking out help him?
So, been marriend for almost 8 years. At about 3 years we planned and had a pregnancy that we lost, our daughter lived for 4 hours and died. After that I told my wife that I did not love her anymore and that I was in love with another, which was a lie to push her away because I wanted to hate everything around me, I was 25 she was 23. She pushed it aside and stayed with me, the 3 years we after we lost our daughter were hell on both of us, she wanted us to go through all of the loss together and i was in my own world of hate and discontent, mad at the world for our loss and wanting somebody to blame. I never blamed her, abused her physically. Emotionally though I was not there for her. Before the 3 years were up, we decided to try again, even thought we might lose that one as well. It ended beautifully, we had our son, who is now 3. I eventually, at around the 3 year point, came out of my darkness of hate and discontent and started seeing the world as a good place. I told her that I would spend the rest of my life trying to make up for the hell i had put her through by being emotionally unavailable to her. I started doing my best to be the man that she married, being happy go lucky and just loving life. Times we good for about a year were I though she was actually forgiving me, however, shortly after I transfered from shore duty to sea duty and I went underway, while I was out to sea(I am Navy) she cheated on me. She told me she did via email while I was on deployment. This devistated me because I thought things were getting better. Neither one of us had ever been unfaithful to one another before and she was never the type to cheat, or at least I thought. By that time, our son was 1 1/2. I traded my career to come home from my deployment to basically try to fix or figure out what was wrong and see if we could salvage it. For the next 6 months things were bad, we fought, i miss trusted her and I second guessed her every move, i didnt want to get caught blind to cheating again. I never abused her, not even emotionally for this, she told me that part of the reason she had done it was to see if she still wanted to be with me after everything that had happened. She said that she did and she would spend the rest of her life making it up to me. I have slowly come out of my second guessing her ever move and have accepted that in order to move on i have to take a leap of faith again to trust her. Our son is three now and once again I thought that things were getting better, then I realized that somewhere in all this mess my wife has become somewhat of an alcoholic, seemed like every day she would be drinking. In a way I didn’t want to see it cause I didn’t want to admit that there was a problem. Finally I accepted it and I confronted her about it. She would go through good period and then she would go right back to it. She has like 3 generation of alcoholic before her. I understand alcoholism very well, I have six generation before me and I have been able to stay away from it even though I do drink on occasion. She finally adimited to me a few days ago that she was still mad at me for telling her that i did not love her anymore, even though she has, for the most part acted like everything is fine. We got into fight, minor things, money, our son, decision that were made about something about the house and it always seems to come to her saying maybe we have to much between us. I believe in my vowels in that i am very old fashioned for my age, not to say that i don’t believe in divorce, but i dont believe in quiting just because it gets hard. I told her that I wish she would have told me she was angry soon, instead I believe she has been holding it all this time, letting it eat at her and turn into hate and resentment. When she drinks she is completely irrational and that make the fights worse. We dont fight until the kid goes to bed but i am worried he is going to start seeing and hearing it. I wish more than anything to make this work and figure it out. When i get really frustrated I think about divorce but cant bring myself to actually voice it cause it mean i am giving up. I am up at 4:38 in the morning talking about this cause we fought tonight becaues it seems that she has the inability to understand that as a man and at this point in our relationship i need to know that she needs me, sexually, usually it is me that engages this. I get tired of the fact that she never engages me in this. There is alot of detail that goes into the build up of the fight but lets just say is was a very nice evening, quite romantic per her definition and i still went to bed by myself and she followed and went to sleep with her back turned. I was still awake and asked her what i had done wrong, she said, why cant i just want to be close to you even though. Now I dont expect sex 24/7 and I really dont pressure her, however, I really wanted her tonight, I mean we danced together this ev
As far as the first answer goes, I understand what you are saying and that is not the case, we havent had sex in a month and this is not the first night we have had a good night, this was just a really great night, its not all about sex, its about her letting me know that, besides seeing me as provider, father, friend, shoulder to cry on, supporter. That I can still be her lover!? But I know you are right, women are wired differently and men shall always try to figure it out and never be able to quite grasp it.
I satisfied all the requirements to get my daughter back from
DCFS, yet they would not give her back. They told me I could raise one child but not two, which is bogus. My little girl has been stuck in the foster care system since age 7 and now she is 15. I had some health problems which were temporary and resolved, and they still would not return her to me. A few months ago I read in the paper that the public defender that I had was arrested for being part of a cocaine ring in the county where my case was held. Please let me know what I can do now to get her back. Can I get a new hearing?? I will also add that I have been good enough to raise a healthy and happy high functioning autistic son during this whole time and he is now 20. So for then to claim I am unfit is just bull. I know my daughter loves us and misses us terribly!! Help!! I live in Illinois.
where from los angeles, ca.
i never smoke…don’t drink alcohol..
and what things that i should know for getting life insurance? and what is the best coverage? advice pls?
He’s 22 and a college student and just doesn’t have much of an appetite. He just keeps getting thinner. Is this something to worry about? He has no other symptoms and seems happy and healthy. No drug use or alcohol, and no depression.
My sister and her husband just had to remove their 18 year old son from their home due to his extreme anger and threatening violence to them, especially to his mother and her pets. He has dialated pupils often, flares out with inexplicable anger/rage, and they just found something called a “crusher” in his truck. Does anyone know what a “crusher” is used for? Does this sound like meth or crack or something else?
These are very strange days we live in. Wars and wierdness sums it all up nicely I think. What bothers me at the moment however is the ever growing pressure for people to fit in. Even the misfits and losers are organized in to tightly nit “clicks” (cliques). Society is always changing its mind, putting on a new show, where fashion crazy, foaming, ravenous teens are eagerly waiting with bills in hand to spend there parents income on a new pair of pre-torn jeans, or over sized sunglasses. Completly ready to conform to whatever new craze is thrown at them. I know of houses that contain under the same roof, a goth, a shitkicker (redneck) and a thug. Not counting the parents. Diversity is great, I know, but son of a bitch. Really? People need to research there fashion roots before they get out of hand, I have compiled a (or made up) a brief list of facts based upon stereotypes, maybe you can learn somehing:
1.Putting a fishing hook in your hat and chewing skoal doesnt make you country. And its not original, punk rockers and emo kids already started putting pointy objects through there clothing, and other places.
2. Redbull is not hard core. Its just not.
3. Wearing all black does not make you gothic, a vampire, or give people insight to your shadowy soul, it means you like wearing black and/or you want people to think your crazy.
4. If your a whiteboy from the cornfeild (Indiana) your not a thug from the ghetto. No amount of South Pole clothing will change that. Grow up and start a farm for fucks sake.
5. If your a punk, slacker, grunge, or any other type of the lower class sect, dont hang out in front of stores just because you think your supposed to, there are drugs that need to be sold, get to it
My nephew is 3 1/2 and his mom left him 6 months ago. She is heavily involved in drugs. He has had no contact with her but occasionally speaks about her. He is in a stable environment and well taken care of although we are trying to find information on counseling or therapy for him. Because of his age and all he has been through we don’t know what would be a benefit to him. Any help is greatly appreciated! Thanks!!!
He was being erratic in his behavior and I saw him emotionally wavering up & down. He spilled his guts to his Uncle, my bro, who came to me with the info. There was no real accusations but I think he feels embarassed about it. I hear he is just being careless with his attitudes towards others and I worry about him. The last time I saw him he wanted to borrow my vehicle and I said no, he wasn’t on my ins. and had already dented my front bumper. I have always thought that he may have bi-polar , and that is not because it seems to be the answer everyone throws out there anymore, but because he is very volatile, and then fine, easygoing, funny the angry. It has been a pattern for his life. His dad is his stepfather and we are now divorced. He does not like the stepdad but is torn between the love/hate thing. His brothers are as close as he will let them but they do remain in contact. I don,t know where he is exactly, I miss him and he won’t answer when I’ve tried to contact. we were close.
He’s 17 …… and …… does he need to be in a rehab or can it be done by himself at home ??? What things would be an aide ?
Just wondering if I am in the wrong here. My husband and I are expecting a baby, I am due in three months. Well I’m feeling concerned about how his mother is going to be once the baby is born. We need to set some serious boundaries, but I want to know if I am going too far?
To give you a little background, my MIL has a serious problem with alcohol, she has been an alcoholic since my husband was a baby. When my husband was young she was verbally abusive and he was even taken away from her to live in foster care for a period of time. And now, she is drunk every single night. She has come to our house completely unannounced when she is drunk, and every time it has happened it is always late at night, around 10-11 pm. Completely unacceptable. My husband and I have been together for 8 years and have been married for 3. This entire time she has either acted like I don’t exist when I am in the same room with her, or has said horrible things about me behind my back. But now that we have a baby on the way, she is finally wanting to get to know me. The problem is, I would rather just have a polite relationship where we are civil when we do see each other, but I really don’t want to get close to her because I have seen how she treats her son and other members of their family. She is very manipulative and delusional about reality (I am guessing due to her little drinking problem) and throws a fit if she can’t have her way. I have no idea how my husband turned out so normal.
These are the guidelines I am going to put in place when my son is born.. do these seem reasonable?
1. She will not be allowed to watch our son alone when he is at least a baby/toddler because I do not trust that she will keep him safe or that she will stay sober while he is with her.
2. She can come over to our house and visit my son as much as she wants DURING THE DAYTIME if she calls ahead and checks that we are able to have company. There will be no barging in unannounced, especially late at night.
3. We will not bring our son over to her house, even if we will be there with him, because it REEKS of smoke and is completely filthy (we are talking cat poop smashed into the carpets that she never cleans up and a thick layer of cat fur covering EVERYTHING).
We are in an area where there is a lot of need for this and my son being a recovering addict himself and my husband with military background, we feel like we could form the correct environment for these people who are hurting so bad. We feel that prison is not the answer for drug addiction.
How would i find him He is over 18 and supposedly moved in with a girlfriend. i ran into an ex friend of his who said he is hooked on drugs now but she does not know where he lives. i tried phone books and looking on the internet- no luck She said he was bad off the last time she saw him on hard drugs. Any ideas what I can do for him?
and she is going to counseling to.She cheated on him with her boss out of state at a meeting. He is in AA for alcohol due to stress and them both losing a bussiness. He has never cheated in his marriage and she says he is a good husband and father and she forgives him. But today she told him she wants to stay seperated and may want to see other people. She wants him to come home Saturday night to stay overnight with his 2 young children while she stays with her mother and goes out with her girlfriend dancing and drinking. She says she needs time away from the kids and needs a night out. They have been married for 10 years and at the begining of their marriage took in her young sister and brother for 2 years because her mother had issues. In the last year her father had a stroke and now lives in their home with them. What do you guys think about this relationship and is there hope?
Thanks everyone for answering me I am staying out of it as much as possible but she put him on my door step. Things are so hard right now because his step mother whom he loves dearly just died at 4:30 this morning.
