My son is 19, will be 20 in July. He attends community college full time he is in the USAF national gaurd and has a 8-10 hr week par time job. Sounds like the perfect kid huh? Well he has found alcohol like most 19 yr olds, put on 40 pounds in the last 4 months, stays out until 2-3 ever morning, he goes to class I think but not sure I am not home when he goes to school. There have been times I didn’t work and he was still at home instead of at school. He has attended a yr at community college 2 A’s in art classes a lot of C’s 3 D’s and 2 F’s, he says he wants to tranfer to 4 yr school, but the D’s and F’s wont transfer. The USAF is paying for tuition and gving him 250 a week to go to school. He agreed with us to save 300 a month towards tranfering (apartment, and utilities) and we said we would pay the rest for him to get him set up when he left. Up to today he has saved 0.00 he plays in a “band” he is quiting his job this summer to go on “tour” which he will have to pay to go,
He will not get money from USAF during summer. He doesn’t help at home the only rules we did give him were to be home by 1am and take out trash, doesn’t do either one. We have 2 younger children 15 and 11 and he treats them like crap. He doesn’t talk to them, but when the few times he is at home he kicks them off of family computer and tells them to get out. He doesn’t attend family functions Easter b-days, and on last xmas trip he stayed in hotel room for 2 days. We don’t know what to do with him. He seems to be pissing away his USAF money and the opportunity at an education to hang with his “band”. He has 5 tattoos and the word RAGE on his calf and he wears shorts all the time. I don’t want to kick him out of the house he needs our medical coverage becasue he has a heart issue that he wont be able to pay for by himself. But he doesn’t take his meds or eat right and rufuses to stop drinking. Is there anything we can do?