How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

…and the earth? I know it then goes on mention two kids who get it on together while they eat fruit and some brother smiting his brother (I think this occurs on the streets of East Gethsemane). I LOVED this book as a kid and now that I’m regressing, I’d really like to find it again. Lots of blood & gore, an alcoholic named Noah who exacts revenge on his own son for seeing him naked, sacrifices of wives and children…but all in a child-like setting called “Babel” wherein God removes all remnants of free will by making it impossible for people to understand one another . Does ANYONE know the title and author? It would be so appreciated!
(((Tash))). Forgive me. I’m a wee bit cranky. Seeing you has cheered me, though.

…and the earth? I know it then goes on mention two kids who get it on together while they eat fruit and some brother smiting his brother (I think this occurs on the streets of East Gethsemane). I LOVED this book as a kid and now that I’m regressing, I’d really like to find it again. Lots of blood & gore, an alcoholic named Noah who exacts revenge on his own son for seeing him naked, sacrifices of wives and children…but all in a child-like setting called “Babel” wherein God removes all remnants of free will by making it impossible for people to understand one another . Does ANYONE know the title and author? It would be so appreciated!
(((Tash))). Forgive me. I’m a wee bit cranky. Seeing you has cheered me, though.

I just want to know what everyone thinks about this. I recently found out that my 16 year old son has been having sleepovers at his “friend’s” house, who is a gay 24 year old male. I didn’t know that he had such a friend, as he has never introduced us. Whenever he said he was staying at a friend’s house, I naturally assumed that it was someone his age. I’m worried and I feel like an idiot for not knowing about this man. Apparently he lets him drink alcohol and they share the same bed together, but my son has told me that nothing sexual is going on. What do you think?
Yes, my son has always been trustworthy to me. It really makes me suspicious though, because he has never had a girlfriend before or expressed interest in either sex, so I don’t know what’s going on. As far as I know, this man is studying to be a lawyer so he knows the difference between right and wrong.
I will always love and accept my son no matter what. I just want to know what is going on and why he didn’t tell me about this man earlier. Also, I know that he is not allowed to drink alcohol and I never wanted him to at this age. I won’t contact the police YET. I’ll go over to his apartment and make him tell me what’s going on.
Okay, I just talked to my son about it. I told him to tell me everything and he’s being very forthright with the information. He swears nothing is going on and the man only gave him a glass of wine. He said that they have shared the bed once before and nothing happened, but I’m still worried. He also said that this man gave him a key to his apartment so he can come over whenever he likes to get away? That’s REALLY weird. I asked my son about his sexual orientation, and he said that he doesn’t know but he is not sleeping with this man. They’re just friends, and he thinks that he’s an interesting person. I’m not sure if I should believe this or not, and I’m not letting him see the man anymore. Thank you all for your help.

I am on the methadone program and have been clean and sober for 1 year 11 months and two days, up until Sunday evening that is. Now I didn’t use down which is good, but I did use meth. For what reason I don’t know, or I don’t know if I know. What I don’t know is what to do now. My idiot side feels like ‘oh well I used so maybe I should just keep on using’, but then the practical side says to just keep working one day at a time. So what if I had a slip. Obviously there is a reason I feel I should go back on drugs full time so maybe I need to figure out what is wrong. Or something. To be honest I am pretty disgusted with myself right now. I wasn’t even craving dope. I am so disapointed in myself I think it would be easier for me to continue on high rather than deal with being mad at myself. I promised my son (now 7) when I got clean that I would never use again and I let him down. He was not with me when I did it. I can’t tell him. & I have 2 know I failed him. I am so mad. What do I do?
‘Down’ is what I call morphine or heroin
I use to do both ‘up’ (meth) and then ‘down’ (heroin). That is why I am on the methadone program, it helps ppl get off and stay off ‘down’. The category that both heroin and morphine falls into is: ‘Opiates’
I have not done any of that. Only meth (speed).

My grandaughter was born June 05 with meth found in maconium. Parents had phsyical custody and State of NV having custody. They rec. custody just at deadline. In July 06 grandson born, again meth . CPS took custody placing them out of home & with me. CPS has plan for parents to follow & to be done by 7/07. were voted into drug court 12-15mos.. had 4-5 weeks in, fathers UA failed, arrested for 5 days. starts over with DC .CPS states to me: to think if I want to adopt .Don’t believe parents will make the deadline date.. (I ‘m 49, kids are 16 mo and 4 mo It has been a hard 4mos. Parents want me to then let them live with them.. I”M sure you can’t do that. I feel, I’m the one doing the WORK,some 0 nites sleep .0 LIFE., My man of 7 yrs has left.cuz of it all! They go do whatever , no clue what it takes for 2 kids 24/7. I LOVED JUST BEING GRANDMA ANY SUGGESTIONS? love my babies more than ever.also wonder if later theyhave prob from meth? the father is my son not 1 bit proud of

I remember when I was in Kindergarten my mom literally had to pull me off the pole because I didn’t want to go to class because I was afraid of other child. It kind of effected my whole life because when I was in school I never mad any friends. I was teased & taunted all the way up to High School so I decided to drop out of high school when I was in the 10th grade plus I started a new relationship (9 years ago) with my now husband but he is currently incarcarated & I think he might be Bipolar. I was diagnosed with ADD in the 7th grade. 2 years ago I was diagnosed by a doctor (for Child Welfare Services) because I have a bad temper which caused me to lose my son plus the lifestyle we live that makes me think my husband might be bipolar (he smokes crystal meth, uncontrollably spending habbits, can never hold a job etc….) any way like I was saying they said I had Anxiety, Depression & Borderline Personality but do you think my Anxiety could be Social? Can someone help me please?

My husband is an alcoholic, though firmly denies it. He is at the bar right now, blowing the money in our checking account. He has my car. He has 4 DUI’s. He hasn’t come home yet. My son kept asking me when dad was going to be home before he went to bed. I didn’t know what to say. I have threatened to leave unless he goes to rehab, and that has fallen through. He’s a stay at home dad, i’m active duty Navy, and have no childcare if he leaves. He has no money to go anywhere, and I honestly don’t want to just kick him out, because he has been homeless before and pretty much didn’t mind it. It’s almost as if he’s dragging across rock bottom and doesn’t care. Nothing has changed him. I need your advice. If you have been in a relationship with an alcoholic, please tell me how you changed things, and what works and doesn’t work. I’m at my wits end and my kids don’t need to be around this any longer!!!! Thank you!
Dawn- Your post made me tear up. The part about your mom taking you to look for your dad is about what I’m at right now, but at this point I refuse to take my kids out and let him learn his lesson.

My friend has an alcoholic mother who has had three D.U.I’s in the past 4 years. Not only is she an alcoholic but she treats my best friend, her 17 year old son, absolutely horribly. Today she was screaming at him, got in his face, tried to hit him and he held her back. She slammed her self on the wall to make bruises and say that HE was the one who hit her. My friend took his cell phone and hit record as she was screaming at him and while it was recording she said “I’m going to kill you, hide your body in the woods, and turn you in as a missing person.” Later tonight my friend went to church and let his youth pastor listen to this and he called the cops on her. She got arrested. Considering this situation, how long should she be in jail?

My friend has an alcoholic mother who has had three D.U.I’s in the past 4 years. Not only is she an alcoholic but she treats my best friend, her 17 year old son, absolutely horribly. Today she was screaming at him, got in his face, tried to hit him and he held her back. She slammed her self on the wall to make bruises and say that HE was the one who hit her. My friend took his cell phone and hit record as she was screaming at him and while it was recording she said “I’m going to kill you, hide your body in the woods, and turn you in as a missing person.” Later tonight my friend went to church and let his youth pastor listen to this and he called the cops on her. She got arrested. Considering this situation, how long should she be in jail?

My friend has an alcoholic mother who has had three D.U.I’s in the past 4 years. Not only is she an alcoholic but she treats my best friend, her 17 year old son, absolutely horribly. Today she was screaming at him, got in his face, tried to hit him and he held her back. She slammed her self on the wall to make bruises and say that HE was the one who hit her. My friend took his cell phone and hit record as she was screaming at him and while it was recording she said “I’m going to kill you, hide your body in the woods, and turn you in as a missing person.” Later tonight my friend went to church and let his youth pastor listen to this and he called the cops on her. She got arrested. Considering this situation, how long should she be in jail?

Her father is a career criminal that has been in and out of prison for the past 35 years. His offenses range from making meth to counterfeiting. Also a long history of making fake checks.

My wife seams to think that is it okay to have my son around him and I don’t. My wife has a serious gambling habit and has been “86″ from most of the casinos in our area. One casino sent a certified letter to us telling her she is not welcome on the property. I also had my bank call me and tell me that she was trying to cash a check she forged from my bank account.

My wife was supposed to take our son back yesterday but she never showed up and still hasn’t called (about 17 hours late so far). She is pro-per and I am trying to hire an attorney but haven’t yet because when she left she took every penny with her and left us dead broke..

There are many more disturbing facts but the ones I listed above should be enough to get custody I would think.

So my question is…can anyone give me advise on the best way to present my case and get custody of my son.

My friend has an alcoholic mother who has had three D.U.I’s in the past 4 years. Not only is she an alcoholic but she treats my best friend, her 17 year old son, absolutely horribly. Today she was screaming at him, got in his face, tried to hit him and he held her back. She slammed her self on the wall to make bruises and say that HE was the one who hit her. My friend took his cell phone and hit record as she was screaming at him and while it was recording she said “I’m going to kill you, hide your body in the woods, and turn you in as a missing person.” Later tonight my friend went to church and let his youth pastor listen to this and he called the cops on her. She got arrested. Considering this situation, how long should she be in jail?

My friend has an alcoholic mother who has had three D.U.I’s in the past 4 years. Not only is she an alcoholic but she treats my best friend, her 17 year old son, absolutely horribly. Today she was screaming at him, got in his face, tried to hit him and he held her back. She slammed her self on the wall to make bruises and say that HE was the one who hit her. My friend took his cell phone and hit record as she was screaming at him and while it was recording she said “I’m going to kill you, hide your body in the woods, and turn you in as a missing person.” Later tonight my friend went to church and let his youth pastor listen to this and he called the cops on her. She got arrested. Considering this situation, how long should she be in jail?

My ex and I were together for 11 years. When we first got together he was 23 and was partying a lot. He said he used meth recreationally but quit when he met me because I wasn’t okay with that. Well, 2 years ago he ended up leaving me because our relationship had gotten rocky and he met a much younger coworker he was interested in. He remained involved with our son for about a year and a half, although it was mainly only when I would call to ask him to babysit while I worked. Otherwise he would choose a different fun recreational activity to do.

Things didn’t work out with that girl he left me for. She ended up staying with her fiance, got pregnant a couple of months after he left me (by her fiance) and stopped contacting him. He ended up partying a lot, was late to work a bunch and about 9 months ago was fired from his car sales job where he worked for 8 years. He was denied unemployment because they fired him for cause.

Over the summer before he cut off all contact he agreed to watch our son while I worked because he didn’t have a job and said he wanted to help out. He would be late every day (hours late) or wouldn’t show up at all. Then he started canceling visits and stopped coming around altogether.

He now hasn’t seen or talked to our 4 year old son for over 6 months. I filed for child support 2 months ago and he won’t respond to their calls or papers. I sent him a message on facebook requesting property back that is at the residence we used to share (photo albums) and he won’t respond.

I heard from a friend of his that he was arrested and released for marijuana sales and possession a month ago. But I heard that he had a birthday party (his 35th) right after and seemed to be living it up, partying.

I’m shocked at what’s happened. I never thought he would drop our son. I never thought after 12 years with someone you could feel like they’re a complete stranger. I know he has a young girlfriend, but I think he’d miss his son, and I think he was seeing her for a while before he cut off contact, so I don’t think it’s that.

I wonder if him being late and acting so irresponsible, etc. could be the result of him starting to use drugs (harder drugs) again?

My son is 13 and says the reason he wants to move in with his dad is he never gets to see his dad when he visits with him on the weekends because he works and most of the times during the week he works later than normal. When I talk to him about this the only reason he wants to live there from what he has told me is because he can’t see him all the time because he is working. His father moved in with another woman and her son about a year ago. A few months after that my sons dad let his girlfriends son call him dad since his dad wasn’t involved in his life. I think about 3-4 mths later my sons dad was saying that our son wanted to move in with him. Several months have gone by and now the same issue has come up again. My sons dad is an alcoholic and drinks all the time and when he is in the car with my son. I have already told him how I felt about this and he still does it. My son has alot of freedom when he is at his dads and when he comes home is very tired and doesn’t want to wake up for school the next day. And then he tells me they either stayed late playing video games or didn’t go to sleep at all. My son needs structure in his life and I don’t want to keep him from his dad but I also don’t think it is a good idea to live with him. I said he can see him anytime he wants and spend his summers with him. I feel alot has to do to the fact that the girlfriends son lives there all the time and calling him dad and that is a big issue for my son even though he says he doesn’t have a problem with him. Please help I am not sure how to approach this or how to talk to my son about it.

My son is almost 8 and doesn’t know that daddy isn’t his birth father. He’s never met or even seen his birth father. At the time he was born his father decided he didn’t want anything to do with him. Since then I got married when my son was 3. I met my husband when my son was just under 1 year old. So to him my husband has always been his dad. My husband adopted him when he was 4 and we kept it a secret since he didn’t know anything anyway. I would just like some input on when is the right time to tell my son about this. I don’t want to traumatize him!! He’s a great kid and I also don’t want his biological father back in the picture because he’s an alcoholic. My son has a daddy and to me that’s enough! They’re great together and have a strong bond, but I don’t want his biological father to hurt his feelings by not wanting him. Please help a concerned mommy!!

It will be two of us for about 12 months. This is how long I have been told a meth user needs to be clean to have any kind of chance. A woman and her son. I don’t have any experience with motor homes. Thinking of truck and 5th wheel.

My son is 13 and says the reason he wants to move in with his dad is he never gets to see his dad when he visits with him on the weekends because he works and most of the times during the week he works later than normal. When I talk to him about this the only reason he wants to live there from what he has told me is because he can’t see him all the time because he is working. His father moved in with another woman and her son about a year ago. A few months after that my sons dad let his girlfriends son call him dad since his dad wasn’t involved in his life. I think about 3-4 mths later my sons dad was saying that our son wanted to move in with him. Several months have gone by and now the same issue has come up again. My sons dad is an alcoholic and drinks all the time and when he is in the car with my son. I have already told him how I felt about this and he still does it. My son has alot of freedom when he is at his dads and when he comes home is very tired and doesn’t want to wake up for school the next day. And then he tells me they either stayed late playing video games or didn’t go to sleep at all. My son needs structure in his life and I don’t want to keep him from his dad but I also don’t think it is a good idea to live with him. I said he can see him anytime he wants and spend his summers with him. I feel alot has to do to the fact that the girlfriends son lives there all the time and calling him dad and that is a big issue for my son even though he says he doesn’t have a problem with him. Please help I am not sure how to approach this or how to talk to my son about it.

My brother is an alcoholic. My father is a classic enabler. My father has rediscovered his Catholic faith…my father believes he cannot do anything to change his son. My father is 72, brother is 41. My brother “works” for my father..lives on his property…my father pays him, his legal bills, etc. If my father can see something from the bible that would inspire him to believe that he can still help….it might work.

my son and i have a very good relationship. he has always been able to come to me and answer me honestly. i had just picked him up from his best friend after spending the weekend. we went out to dinner and he was acting silly. i asked him if he ever smoked weed before. he said he tried it for the first time friday at his friends house. then he asked me if he was in trouble. i asked him the who, what, where, why, and hows. i did not get crazy because it’s more important to me that he feels that he can come to me. i did print some information about teens and alcohol and drugs. i would like some other things i could talk about that is not so textbook. straight to the point and hopefully he would so no if there is a next time. please help.