My son is 19 years old and his fiancee and him attend UF And live around 4-5 hours away. Well anyways his fiancee is pregnant with there first child she claims she missed a pill and that is how she got pregnant. And well anyways my son made it clear before that, that he was not ready to become a father until they were out of school. Well he somewhat flipped out on his fiancee and that is why his fiancee and him came to my house when she broke the news to him. Well anyways his fiancee are close i consider her a daughter i never had. Well anyways we were talking the other night and she told me she has noticed that my son has been drinking a massively amount. He was in the ER the day before her and i talked for alcohol poisoning. And he is still talking she say’s she trys to talk to my son and comfort him and everything but he is just pushing her away. I am thinking about driving down there and sitting down with my son and having a talk with him because if he keeps up at this pace he will hurt himself or even die and i do not want to lose my son. And i also want him to understand that he can not be like this around his baby or his fiancee and that he could lose them both. Advice?
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You have a son. He is 16, almost 17(girlfriend 16) He wants to go see his girlfriend saturdays and sundays and maybe once during the week after football practice for a couple hours. You see him every day. Would you tell him he needs to be home on Sundays because you never see him on weekends?
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Your son’s girlfriend is very depressed because you yell and fight with eachother all the time(parents) and you yell at your son. You try to keep him away from her much as possible because you don’t like her? Because she takes your son away from you on weekends. She gets very depressed and starts thinking thoughts of suicide. She has had a very bad past. If she told your son she was going to kill herself and didn’t answer her phones, her parents didn’t know where she was, would you let him go see her and try to find her?
I am his FRIEND not his PARENTS and the girlfriend has been raped and abused that’s why she can’t handle stress. His parents are alcoholics.
She has been to counselors and they all say it is HIS FAMILY’s problem. They won’t go to counseling. You can say what you think too. They love eachother too much to break up. (yes they really do love eachother)
she was also pregnant with his child and the stress made her have a miscarriage(the doctor told her this)
what would you have done and what do you think he should do about his parents?
dumb b*tch with the whole “they can’t take care of themselves” ……THEY’RE MORE MATURE THAN HIS PARENTS ARE….and it was an accident …i was just giving an example of how stressed out they make her!!
jesus people READ THE QUESTION ALL THE WAY THROUGH………….
they’ve been together for a couple years now, and the pregnancy thing was an accident and she was on birth control, and they even used protection…her bc wasn’t working, the condom broke …ok? so quit saying stuff about that…..please people keep answering….we are planning on taking some of your opinions to his parents to show what “normal” parents would do…..her parents know that she loves him so they just keep her away from the parents….but when the son is on the phone with her she can hear them yelling and cussing about her…that’s why she still gets stressed out
actually yes stress can cause a misscarriage
Severe stress can induce a misscarriage and some health issues can cause a misscarriage.
I DONT WANT YOUR FRIKIN OPINIONS OF THE BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JUST THE PARENTS ……god u people are DUMB
My husband and I are trying to get full custody of his son. The mother is on drugs, was arrested last year for pos. of meth, and then indicted this year. We have pictures that show where she put bruises all over my step-son’s legs for spilling something on a new rug. Her and her mom have taught Dalland, my step-son, to act like a girl. He hardly plays with boy toys, he is attracted to girl things. He is better some, but he gets picked on at school. We just don’t know what to do. We have a lawyer, but we don’t have the money to go to court. Is there anyway around the money issue?
My son had to get lab work today and he got stuck twice. I notice the after the first stick the phlebotomist threw away the equipment in the biohazard box and touched the rim with a bunch of dried blood. She didn’t change her gloves and continued to stick my son. She wiped the site with alcohol but then proceded to feel for the vein and didn’t wipe the site again. It happened so fast and I wondered if I’m being paranoid but now that I think about it I can’t get it out of my head that my son might contract something. What can be passed on with dried blood. What are the chances please anyone respond thank you.
In the past two years I have lost my father, underwent an enormous home renovation while living there, had a breast cancer scare, lost my year old granddaugther when her mother abruptly moved away with her, put my son through drug rehab for cocaine addiction, lost my job of 9 years and am now looking for a new one, my second son decided to live with his father, I will be turning 50 next week and my husband and I are separated because he feels I haven’t been there for him. My extended family all lives 1200 miles away and my few friends I have locally are married with busy lives of their own. I feel so alone and depressed. I don’t know how to handle all of this. I cry all the time despite the fact that I exercise regularly and eat healthfully. I go to church but dont know how to fit in. It seems no one really needs friends but me. I’m certain there are others out there who do, but I don’t know how to find them. Any help or advice would be appreciated.
My ex and I were together for 11 years. When we first got together he was 23 and was partying a lot. He said he used meth recreationally but quit when he met me because I wasn’t okay with that. Well, 2 years ago he ended up leaving me because our relationship had gotten rocky and he met a much younger coworker he was interested in. He remained involved with our son for about a year and a half, although it was mainly only when I would call to ask him to babysit while I worked. Otherwise he would choose a different fun recreational activity to do.
Things didn’t work out with that girl he left me for. She ended up staying with her fiance, got pregnant a couple of months after he left me (by her fiance) and stopped contacting him. He ended up partying a lot, was late to work a bunch and about 9 months ago was fired from his car sales job where he worked for 8 years. He was denied unemployment because they fired him for cause.
Over the summer before he cut off all contact he agreed to watch our son while I worked because he didn’t have a job and said he wanted to help out. He would be late every day (hours late) or wouldn’t show up at all. Then he started canceling visits and stopped coming around altogether.
He now hasn’t seen or talked to our 4 year old son for over 6 months. I filed for child support 2 months ago and he won’t respond to their calls or papers. I sent him a message on facebook requesting property back that is at the residence we used to share (photo albums) and he won’t respond.
I heard from a friend of his that he was arrested and released for marijuana sales and possession a month ago. But I heard that he had a birthday party (his 35th) right after and seemed to be living it up, partying.
I’m shocked at what’s happened. I never thought he would drop our son. I never thought after 12 years with someone you could feel like they’re a complete stranger. I know he has a young girlfriend, but I think he’d miss his son, and I think he was seeing her for a while before he cut off contact, so I don’t think it’s that.
I wonder if him being late and acting so irresponsible, etc. could be the result of him starting to use drugs (harder drugs) again?
I SOOO bad want to get the fact about fetal alcohol exposure , out there, but I get the feeling that a lot of women who do/did drink feel that I am judging, when that is not at all true.
You can’t take away what has already been done, but know what the effect are the the baby is very important for appropriate care/treatment.
Drinking during the first 8 WEEKS is the most harmful to the baby, even though some women didn’t know they were pregnant…. it just is.
I want people to think twice before drinking even 1 drop while pregnant…. no amount is safe. Docs might say 1 drink is “okay”, but “okay” is relative. Some people think it’s okay to get tattoos (my husband and I both have them), but the fact is, tattoos are painful, cause scarring and have risks attached to them.
So the risks may be “okay” with some people, but it’s still there.
I am raising a son with FAS and have to someday explain to him why simple things are so hard to understand, why a breeze causes him pain, why he is so tiny, why his heart is in the wrong place causing a choking sensation.
—- It’s not because he’s not love or becuase someone wanted to hurt him, but because of the myths of what alcohol can really do to a baby, the myth that if you don’t know your’re pregnant, that the baby will be okay, the idea that you HAVE to binge drink everyday to have an effect….. this is why he had FAS, because people tell pregnant women that it “okay”….. well it’s NOT okay, it hurts.
Why won’t people believe what alcohol REALLY does to babies.
Here is a timeline of what systems are effected by alcohol at different staged of pregnancy
http://www.acbr.com/FAS/Graphics/teratogens.jpg
Why won’t people believe what alcohol REALLY does to babies.
Here is a timeline of what systems are effected by alcohol at different staged of pregnancy
http://www.acbr.com/FAS/Graphics/teratogens.jpg
All it takes is 1 drink at the time when the heart moves from the center of the fetus to the left, for there to be malrotation and for the heart to noe get to the right spot. In my son his is over his trahea and when his blood pressure or heart rate goes up or he gags. There are many things that take years to show up.
“perfectly healthy” is relative. I dont know many kids who were NOT exposed that are “perfectly healthy”. Just wait until you kids get older, the effects will start to shine through.
My cousin has been in rehab 2 or 3 times previously and has been treated for cocaine and crack addictions. She also drinks and has been diagnosed maniac depressive and has been on anti-depressants since the age of about 15. She is currently in rehab again after relapsing into crack and heroin. She admits to using while pregnant with her now 15 month old son who is currently in foster care. What are the chances she may actually clean up for good?
My cousin has been in rehab 2 or 3 times previously and has been treated for cocaine and crack addictions. She also drinks and has been diagnosed maniac depressive and has been on anti-depressants since the age of about 15. She is currently in rehab again after relapsing into crack and heroin. She admits to using while pregnant with her now 15 month old son who is currently in foster care. What are the chances she may actually clean up for good?
he’ll be 19 did not finish school did attend rehab detox
Basically, Obama is currently trying to push through an all inclusive bill protecting human rights. I have no problem with this except for one small part. There is an addition to this bill that prohibits a parent from invading their child’s privacy.
So basically this means if my son/daughter is smoking crack, having sex with their boyfriend/girlfriend, or getting ready to blow their brains out I can’t kick in the door to stop them without telling the police and getting a warrant. And before anyone starts saying that I’m going over the top the bill clearly states, “A parent may not invade or violate the privacy of anyone living within the household for any reason that might want to be kept private.”
Source:
www.msn.com/news and www.cnn.com
I found them yesterday.
My son just completed drug rehab and I’m wondering if any company will give him health insurance now.
My son went through drug rehab one year ago and is doing great. He has not relapsed at all and has set some quality goals for his life and is pursuing them. He is only 21 years old and is currently in vocational training and cannot afford his own medical insurance at this point in time, but I would like to provide that for him. Does anyone know if he’s eligible since he has a history of drug abuse?
