How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

The babys father and i have been dating off and on for almost 2 years. He has cheated on me numerous times.. i cant even count on both hands and those are just the ones i know about not to mention the lying, verbal and emotional abuse, and even a few physical encounters that i will admit i started. Since ive been pregnant he has started using cocaine heavly and recently got off probation and has started smoking weed again. He has a house full of people and all but his grandma and his younger siblings are using some sort of drug. His mom lives there and is so into tweak its not even funny. I dont want him to have custody of my child because his house is disgusting there is really trash everywhere and the dog goes to the bathroom in the house not all of it gets cleaned.. there is plenty of violence drug use profanity and abuse of every kind in this home and i dont want my son raised in a mess that way. how can i prove to the courts that he is an unfit father and should not have custody?
Also he has warned me that if i try to take his son from him he will fight dirty and he can guarentee that he will drop clean.. so if he already plans on quitting for an extended period of time so that he will drop clean for the courts how can i catch him unprepared? i have also used cocaine 2-3 times during my pregnancy. i know there is no good excuse for it but i felt that he would like me or want to be around me more if i did. believe me i regret it everyday but im afraid he will use that against me. i want his name on the birth certifcate becuz im only 17 and i will need his help finacially. again please help if you can its very important to me. thanks ASHLEY

Okay, a little more depth about this question- I feel like I am like way different then everyone else because well I look at things differently then anyone else. My logic seems to make sense to me and only me and no one else can understand what and how I come to my conclusions. Honestly, I have found absolutely no one who can relate to me. More over, I look at death as a not bad thing-to me, death doesn’t matter. Even if it is a loved one who you care about greatly and just you say “Oh my god, I couldn’t live without you.” or something like that like I just don’t seem to have that same view on life. Everyone is so careful about everything and doesn’t wanna take chances but then they are also hypocritical because they say also that life is short so live it. And I look at rules, laws, restrictions, everything that is around me, and I think it is the dumbest thing, but no one else seems to understand my logic behind these realizations. For instance, drinking age in america. I am 15 years old. I don’t really like to drink, and I don’t like the taste of alcohol but I think that it is ridiculous that the drinking age in america is 21 years old. This is the reason why most of the teens in america die from alcohol related deaths. They aren’t allowed to drink in public, so they stock up, and binge drink and get really f**ked up. This to me is like retarded because if the drinking age was 15 like it is in france then there wouldn’t be this problem of binge drinking with teens. Does anyone else understand that? So far, everyone that i have talked to about it is like “You’re really stupid Dane” (that’s my name…) and so yea. My parents rules are so terrible and I just cant stand them. My mom is SO safe and doesn’t let me do anything. I mean, seriously. I know it is the parents jobs to protect your child, but this is just ridiculous what she does. I cant even get started on that cause I’ll just keep blabbering on about how much I hate it. I, myself, am a outgoing, not thinking teenager. I do the stuff I do, then think about it later. I almost never back out of anything unless it means certain death and I can see it that way. Like jumping onto a bottle of dry ice of extreme pressure. I was dared to do that but I backed out because the danger issue of that is huge. But other things like jumping off of a 15 foot cliff on my old school hard tail mountain bike I do not deny because it looks and sounds fun to me. I of course got hurt on that one but I didn’t care. I did it anyways and didn’t think about it. Even though I am like this, I am still very responsible. I don’t drink, I don’t do drugs, I am like the purest teen there can be now days without being nerdy (sorry if that offends anyone). Haha anyways, seems like I got a little carried away here. Well if anyone reads all the way through this, be sure to answer the question if this is a normal thing or not normal and if I am a bad person for thinking the way like I do…? And if my morals are straight… I’ve been told I’m like the devil’s son the way I think about how death is not a bad thing and how reckless I am and how I don’t think about things. Anyways thank you so much for answering, if you answer. Haha that is all. xoxo

my son was diagnosed with adhd at a young age and over the years the doctors have had him on many different medications. i never saw a difference in his behavior (except for the ones that made him sleep) which scared me. we have been in and out of counseling for a long time. well last year i decided enough is enough and quit giving him medication. now the school is sending him to a psychiatrist and i know she is going to recommend medication. well, now my son refuses to take pills. so i cant make him……. but what my question is….. does anyone know the side effects of taking ritalin, adderal, stratera over a long period of time? has there been long term studies what these drugs do to the kids (like liver damage). i know some people that took ritalin as children and are now hooked on speed as adults. i dont want that to happen to my kid. but his teacher said if we dont give him medication he will self medicate (take street drugs) i dont know what to do.

i am a junior and i found out for sure what i want to be i want to write and direct movies. Is this to late? Can i do both of those things? Wht kind of classes should i do? What are the main jobs of beeing a director like wht do u mostly do? please help. heres an idea of somethighting about

its called after. Its about this guy he has a fiance who he adores and shes pregnant and hes all happy. But she cheats on him and he moves away abandoning his new born kid. But when the kid is born he has cancer and he died his mom is crushed. But the father has no idea. So the father has been away from the girl who broke his heart and she misses him and is on her knees begging for him because he was everything to her. Well now the main character the father. Is depressd all the time hates his job his new girlfriend is mean and hates him and flirts around. he has no friends. One day he gets in a car wreck and dies. He wakes up in this afterlife and its so dark and he is alone. Well this elleven year old kid comes up to tell them if we travel to the other side we can get your soul back and you can start over. The main character ask the kid why are you here your a kid your happy you should be where its happy. The kid says im not happy i died at age 12 i had bad cancer my father left me and my mom cryed all the time. The main character realizes that thats his son. So towards the end he finds the soul but instead of taking it he gives it to his son. and his son gets to live happy and cancer free. But the main character gos to a afterlife where he can rest in piece. So what do you think? Also the main character gets hooked on drugs. there is no heaven or hell. But once the kid leaves what happends is that the main character just fades away as if he never exhisted. So how about that. And when the kid comes to life everything rewinds and the dr says the cancer is gone. So the main character gave his whole life for someone. even his afterlife even though he wanted happyness he found out seeing someone else happy would make him happy even though hed be forgotten

My nephew who is only a few months old makes me rethink my sober life (I’m 19). When ever I see him or my sister and brother in law I want to not drink or use drugs. I only use at night. But whenever I see them I always think of getting messed up that night. Like today, I’m really drunk but I’m also constantly thinking about earlier today when I wasn’t and they were talking to me about being sober. Just the thought of what my brother in law has gone through (he lost an older brother to drugs, his younger brother is addicted and his mom is also addicted) has made me want to not drink or use drugs. But I have been since an earily age. Why is this situation making
me want to be sober at all times? I know I only get fucked up at night but hearing his own struggles with alcohol and his familes has made me feel bad when I get drunk or fucked up..what would do this? Seeing my nephew makes me want a kid…even after seeing the bullshit he does to them. I would think it would keep me away from wanting kids…why do I want it more?

i am a junior and i found out for sure what i want to be i want to write and direct movies. Is this to late? Can i do both of those things? Wht kind of classes should i do? What are the main jobs of beeing a director like wht do u mostly do? please help. heres an idea of somethighting about

its called after. Its about this guy he has a fiance who he adores and shes pregnant and hes all happy. But she cheats on him and he moves away abandoning his new born kid. But when the kid is born he has cancer and he died his mom is crushed. But the father has no idea. So the father has been away from the girl who broke his heart and she misses him and is on her knees begging for him because he was everything to her. Well now the main character the father. Is depressd all the time hates his job his new girlfriend is mean and hates him and flirts around. he has no friends. One day he gets in a car wreck and dies. He wakes up in this afterlife and its so dark and he is alone. Well this elleven year old kid comes up to tell them if we travel to the other side we can get your soul back and you can start over. The main character ask the kid why are you here your a kid your happy you should be where its happy. The kid says im not happy i died at age 12 i had bad cancer my father left me and my mom cryed all the time. The main character realizes that thats his son. So towards the end he finds the soul but instead of taking it he gives it to his son. and his son gets to live happy and cancer free. But the main character gos to a afterlife where he can rest in piece. So what do you think? Also the main character gets hooked on drugs. there is no heaven or hell. But once the kid leaves what happends is that the main character just fades away as if he never exhisted. So how about that. And when the kid comes to life everything rewinds and the dr says the cancer is gone. So the main character gave his whole life for someone. even his afterlife even though he wanted happyness he found out seeing someone else happy would make him happy even though hed be forgotten

i am a junior and i found out for sure what i want to be i want to write and direct movies. Is this to late? Can i do both of those things? Wht kind of classes should i do? What are the main jobs of beeing a director like wht do u mostly do? please help. heres an idea of somethighting about

its called after. Its about this guy he has a fiance who he adores and shes pregnant and hes all happy. But she cheats on him and he moves away abandoning his new born kid. But when the kid is born he has cancer and he died his mom is crushed. But the father has no idea. So the father has been away from the girl who broke his heart and she misses him and is on her knees begging for him because he was everything to her. Well now the main character the father. Is depressd all the time hates his job his new girlfriend is mean and hates him and flirts around. he has no friends. One day he gets in a car wreck and dies. He wakes up in this afterlife and its so dark and he is alone. Well this elleven year old kid comes up to tell them if we travel to the other side we can get your soul back and you can start over. The main character ask the kid why are you here your a kid your happy you should be where its happy. The kid says im not happy i died at age 12 i had bad cancer my father left me and my mom cryed all the time. The main character realizes that thats his son. So towards the end he finds the soul but instead of taking it he gives it to his son. and his son gets to live happy and cancer free. But the main character gos to a afterlife where he can rest in piece. So what do you think? Also the main character gets hooked on drugs. there is no heaven or hell. But once the kid leaves what happends is that the main character just fades away as if he never exhisted. So how about that. And when the kid comes to life everything rewinds and the dr says the cancer is gone. So the main character gave his whole life for someone. even his afterlife even though he wanted happyness he found out seeing someone else happy would make him happy even though hed be forgotten

i am a junior and i found out for sure what i want to be i want to write and direct movies. Is this to late? Can i do both of those things? Wht kind of classes should i do? What are the main jobs of beeing a director like wht do u mostly do? please help. heres an idea of somethighting about

its called after. Its about this guy he has a fiance who he adores and shes pregnant and hes all happy. But she cheats on him and he moves away abandoning his new born kid. But when the kid is born he has cancer and he died his mom is crushed. But the father has no idea. So the father has been away from the girl who broke his heart and she misses him and is on her knees begging for him because he was everything to her. Well now the main character the father. Is depressd all the time hates his job his new girlfriend is mean and hates him and flirts around. he has no friends. One day he gets in a car wreck and dies. He wakes up in this afterlife and its so dark and he is alone. Well this elleven year old kid comes up to tell them if we travel to the other side we can get your soul back and you can start over. The main character ask the kid why are you here your a kid your happy you should be where its happy. The kid says im not happy i died at age 12 i had bad cancer my father left me and my mom cryed all the time. The main character realizes that thats his son. So towards the end he finds the soul but instead of taking it he gives it to his son. and his son gets to live happy and cancer free. But the main character gos to a afterlife where he can rest in piece. So what do you think? Also the main character gets hooked on drugs. there is no heaven or hell. But once the kid leaves what happends is that the main character just fades away as if he never exhisted. So how about that. And when the kid comes to life everything rewinds and the dr says the cancer is gone. So the main character gave his whole life for someone. even his afterlife even though he wanted happyness he found out seeing someone else happy would make him happy even though hed be forgotten

honestly, i love the name Jax and my fathers name is Daniel so i really want to do it but i dont what to be a bad mommy…

its called after. Its about this guy he has a fiance who he adores and shes pregnant and hes all happy. But she cheats on him and he moves away abandoning his new born kid. But when the kid is born he has cancer and he died his mom is crushed. But the father has no idea. So the father has been away from the girl who broke his heart and she misses him and is on her knees begging for him because he was everything to her. Well now the main character the father. Is depressd all the time hates his job his new girlfriend is mean and hates him and flirts around. he has no friends. One day he gets in a car wreck and dies. He wakes up in this afterlife and its so dark and he is alone. Well this elleven year old kid comes up to tell them if we travel to the other side we can get your soul back and you can start over. The main character ask the kid why are you here your a kid your happy you should be where its happy. The kid says im not happy i died at age 12 i had bad cancer my father left me and my mom cryed all the time. The main character realizes that thats his son. So towards the end he finds the soul but instead of taking it he gives it to his son. and his son gets to live happy and cancer free. But the main character gos to a afterlife where he can rest in piece. So what do you think? Also the main character gets hooked on drugs. there is no heaven or hell. But once the kid leaves what happends is that the main character just fades away as if he never exhisted. So how about that. And when the kid comes to life everything rewinds and the dr says the cancer is gone. So the main character gave his whole life for someone. even his afterlife even though he wanted happyness he found out seeing someone else happy would make him happy even though hed be forgotten.

i am a junior and i found out for sure what i want to be i want to write and direct movies. Is this to late? Can i do both of those things? Wht kind of classes should i do? What are the main jobs of beeing a director like wht do u mostly do? please help. heres an idea of somethighting about

its called after. Its about this guy he has a fiance who he adores and shes pregnant and hes all happy. But she cheats on him and he moves away abandoning his new born kid. But when the kid is born he has cancer and he died his mom is crushed. But the father has no idea. So the father has been away from the girl who broke his heart and she misses him and is on her knees begging for him because he was everything to her. Well now the main character the father. Is depressd all the time hates his job his new girlfriend is mean and hates him and flirts around. he has no friends. One day he gets in a car wreck and dies. He wakes up in this afterlife and its so dark and he is alone. Well this elleven year old kid comes up to tell them if we travel to the other side we can get your soul back and you can start over. The main character ask the kid why are you here your a kid your happy you should be where its happy. The kid says im not happy i died at age 12 i had bad cancer my father left me and my mom cryed all the time. The main character realizes that thats his son. So towards the end he finds the soul but instead of taking it he gives it to his son. and his son gets to live happy and cancer free. But the main character gos to a afterlife where he can rest in piece. So what do you think? Also the main character gets hooked on drugs. there is no heaven or hell. But once the kid leaves what happends is that the main character just fades away as if he never exhisted. So how about that. And when the kid comes to life everything rewinds and the dr says the cancer is gone. So the main character gave his whole life for someone. even his afterlife even though he wanted happyness he found out seeing someone else happy would make him happy even though hed be forgotten

According to wisconsin state law as a parent, guardian, or spouse I may purchase alcohol for someone “underage.”

That said, if a bartender refuses to give me a drink knowing that I am going to give it to the underage individual, because I can not show absolute proof that I am a parent, according to state law I may just buy the alcohol and give it to my son,wife,etc.

If someone were to pose as a parent,guardian, spouse, and buy alcohol for the minor and give it to them who would be held responsible if a legal fallout were to occur.

Would the Bartender’s license be at stake in this situation?
or
Would the individual who had illegally given the minor alcohol responsible?
or
Would the Establishment the drink was purchased at be responsible?
This question is a dispute amongst bartenders. It is not to promote consumption for minors. It is however to resolve with the correctness of the law which is at follows for those of you who do not believe wisconsin law it is right here, although it does not cover this question…

http://www.revenue.wi.gov/faqs/ise/atundrg.html

ok so my parents sau im a bad son just because i like to smoke weed…when they caught me with it the said that i want to be trash like the crack heads in the streets….just because i like to smoke weed. im a bad son..thats crazy ,,i never act bad,i have all A”s in school . weed is the only thing that makes me happyer….wen was it a crime to be happy!!!so am i really a bad son…….and also i dont want to hear that smoking weed is bad and its illegal!!

he dont know I think this he used in past and I think he might be using again?

I am baby sitting for my grand child who is only 10 months old. My daughter is lives in a apartment building where there are meth users in the building. Some of the neighbors are concerned about this including my daughter. It was reported to the land lord, but he does not seem to care. One of the meth users has mental problems including using meth. This woman has threatened my daugher and her child, my grand son. The police has ben called many times, but they fail to do anything about this. Another concern is that they will cause the building to burn down. Should I call someone in charge of drug inforcement? Any suggestions?

My husband’s nephew is 19 years old, and addicted to drugs. He has done some pretty bad things up to this point, and will probably go to jail here soon for a felony. The nephew’s parents are in counseling as well, and they are being told that none of this is their fault. Do you agree that parents have no fault in the negative choices their adult children make?

He is very sick right now for no apparent reason

My husband’s nephew is 19 years old, and addicted to drugs. He has done some pretty bad things up to this point, and will probably go to jail here soon for a felony. The nephew’s parents are in counseling as well, and they are being told that none of this is their fault. Do you agree that parents have no fault in the negative choices their adult children make?

My oldest son is almost 20 years old. He is definitly on the wrong road. I believe he is doing crystal meth again after being clean for almost 3 years. When he was 16 he got into and ended up in all kinds of trouble with the law. When I found out what he was doing I turned him in myself and he ended up going to DYS, a juvenile prison for a little over a year. He hated me at first but we worked thru it and for awhile I actually felt like he was greatful that I did it. Now I see him spiraling down the same road. He wont admit it to me..he actually avoids me if at all possible. He doesnt live with me so he feels its none of my buisness. I have cut him off totally financialy. I just dont know what else I can do to help him now or make him see what hes doing to himself. He has a little boy that is almost a year old that he is not allowed to see. Ever since he and his girlfriend broke up and she refuses to let him see the baby things have been awful. This is when the drugs started again. I am willing to do anything and everything in my power and beyond to save my son. I keep hoping and praying for a way to do it without turning him in to cops. When I try to talk to him he either blows it off like im over reacting or gets angry with me and leaves. Has anyone been thru anything similar? Any advice you would like to share?
For the record, I didnt send him anywhere, the judge did and yes while in jail he was in a rehab program. I dont feel I failed him, I feel I saved him. I would rather him in a place getting help then have him runaway and end up killing himself.

Hello.. this is all brand new to me.. i myself have never seen crack, let alone do it!

my boyfriend of near 7 months has begun to act VERYYYY weird last week… it ended for a lil while, by yesterday of all days! he started it up AGAIN!

what are the signs??? i am thinking he is doing it because before he was with me, he did it and quit cold turkey… during which time he wound up in jail for breaking into a house and stealing stuff…

well i’ve been with him for near 7 months now and i’ve NEVER seen him act the way he’s been acting yesterday/today/last week for a day or 2.

he has coughing fits and then spits up mucus, he cant sleep too well, when he is asleep, he is constantly twitching/tossing/turning.., he is paranoid (he actually went to his shrink a few days ago cuz he said he felt like everyone was out to get him),he looks pale to me, he talks with a stutter and like a weird way to his voice… like he is shaking when he talks, thats what i can best describe it as… also, he asks me the same questions 2 and 3 times within 5 minz of each other…. he is MEAN and telling me he likes other women, and might wanna break up with me, but when i tell him ok im going to pack my stuff and leave, he tells me “no no no, i dont want u to leave, i love u baby, i want u and u only, come here and shut up and kiss me… then he’ll say how he wants a family with me and my son and our own baby together 1 day… i dont get it!!!!

i had my sister pick me up for the night… i am at a lkoss of whats to come with him/what to do…. do u think he’ll come around and text/call me soon? is that how it works when ur doing crack???

someone PLZ inform me… i cant stop crying.. im a wreck… i just want a straight answer from me… weather or not he wants to end things or not… he still hasent told me for sure that we are done… he is toying with me and im going CRAZY!… also, when he first started acting weird, he was out with a few friends and i met up with him later that night and when i hugged him, he smelled like somnething burning, and like bug spray mixed in. i even asked if he was smokin crack, and he told me that i have his word that he’ll never do that again… but that smell was WEIRD! (the ppl he was hanging out with, the persons house they were at, she is a major crack head… i know her)