her, completely OBLIVIOUS to her pain.
She IS MOST DEFINITELY A TROUBLED WOMAN, with her drugs and alcohol problems. And now this ! Imagine how she feels, and what this may do to her. Her son’s death also sounds VERY SUSPICIOUS, like DRUG USE !
Do you visit Yahoo Message Boards and what do you think about them ?????????
the 27 year old has a BFA in illustration and the 29 year old has an AA in auto body repair. Both are good workers, never miss work, show up for work everyday on time and clean and sober, yet they get passed over for employment by addicts and alcoholics. They are out every day looking for work and up all night on the computer looking. And nothing is happening. The 27 year old has $50,000+ in student loans that he has defaulted on and is in a very deep depression because of it. Why can’t they find work?
arent good but he doesnt know how bad…his real dad doesnt help except to get him every-other weekend which is fine with me because I have always did it on my own & he is an alcoholic..But now my son has desided that he is ok with his grades & he is ok with getting barely by as long as he passes…I dont know how to get him motivated again & should I involve his step-dad?? His is a wonderful man & they get along GREAT I just dont want them to start not getting along…that would be horrible..
I could use his truck (we are looking to buy one now) as leverage but I really dont want to have to threating him..
Any suggestions?? I am at a lost & very confused with my sons attitude—–
He is 15 & in the 9th grade….
Oh PLEASE….it is not me failing, you really are rude!!
Thank you guys ! I will try these tacktics…he is a good boy & has a great mind & YES I will be talking to my husband..like I said he has an idea but he lets me handle the kids & knows I willl come to him a crunch. Tutor sounds like a good idea! You guys are right it is time to make this a family matter…
I get NO Child support & he doesnt even cover insurance,lunch,clothes,school supplies or NOTHING!!
Its ok BillieB everyone has there own opinions & this is a touchy subject…especially for kids..
Great, yall have help me make my mind up time for a family meeting…I have got to figure out what has changed in that boys mind…& I am going to email his teachers (again) to set up some extra classes & or tutoring…THANK YALL sooo much …it is going to be really hard to pick a best answer!!!
Since before the baby and for the 14 months, I have been helping a lot….. I am the mother of the son…. She is a server, and 35, her ex boyfriend according to my son, broke up with her because of heavy drugs? My son told me this before he got together with her.. (Perhaps a year after she broke up with ex) A friend of hers told me she had been a heavy drug user when they lived together.. The question: I have been baby sitting while she went to work, at night, my son is also a server- After she started back to work about 3 months ago, she stayed out and did not come home till 3 in the after noon, I went over, as my son called me. When she comes home from work, she is smelling of alcohol. Then, last week, she did the same thing, but we were meeting at her mothers at 4 for a barbeque, and she said in front of her mother she had only got home at 3 in the after noon, her mother said nothing, so next day, I told her I was not able to stay overnight anymore at her place, as needed my sleep
and that gladly have the baby at my apt, condo, which I own, and have a babys bed , She said no, so it has been a week, she has not called, I told my son , I thought she was an alcoholic, and maybe even abusing drugs. Is once a user, always ,until one gets help, she baths the baby maybe once a week, the baby does not sleep in a crib, but in bed with her, and her clothes are all over the floor, for 6 months, I keep saying to my son, to do something about the mess. What do I do, Do I go to a lawyer, She is also on anti depressants for 10 years, my son is 30, and does not want to talk about it,,,,,
Her mother said nothing about her staying out all night. Also , the ex boy friend is hanging around when my son goes to work. My son is oblivous. He did tell me he pays all the bills, and she spends her money on her self. Does this sound like she set up my son to have a baby at 34(my son is 30) and he will be paying child support while she parties with her ex… should I or he see a lawyer, Do you see any concern? Drugs Her older sister just went to a rehab hospital for a year after spending 40, Thousand of her familys money, the sister is 40, HEr sister was using hard drugs, and has 2 boys 12 and 10,,, help , Am I over reacting? Should I stay out of it, but I have spent a lot of time with my grandaughter , and said to bring her to my condo, she said she does not want her to come to my place…. I have made it very easy for her…. I have done too much…… so now, should I see a lawyer about perhaps what i know,……..
So, my son should have to grow up, I agree, and hopefully he will let me know of any doubts , as he already has , hopefully my grandaughter will be walking soon, she is 15 months and not walking, any concerns I have my son filters me out,,,,,,thanks,
An illegal immigrant was free on bail awaiting a deportation hearing when he allegedly killed his teenage wife in Mahopac, a law enforcement official told The Journal News on Monday Paul Amay, 25, was detained by federal Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents after his release in March from the Westchester County jail, where he had served four months of a six-month sentence for driving drunk with his infant son in the car.
Amay was turned over to immigration officials on March 22, then freed by federal authorities after posting bail.
The deportation hearing was to decide whether he would be sent back to his native Ecuador. His next appearance was set for late January.
Amay has been in the United States at least since 2004 and had been arrested in Westchester at least four times for drinking in public and once for disorderly conduct, authorities said. Police had also responded to several domestic disturbances between him and his wife, Graciela “Gloria” Zhingri Amay.
Amay was arrested shortly after noon on Nov. 21, 2009, in Ossining after he was seen driving erratically. Police found his 7-month-old son unrestrained in the car and Amay’s blood-alcohol level was 0.29 percent, more than three times the legal limit for driving while intoxicated.
The arrest on misdemeanor charges of DWI and child endangerment came just a week after Gov. David Paterson signed Leandra’s Law, making it a felony to drive drunk with a child in the car. Amay would have been the first Westchester defendant charged under the law, but it did not take effect until mid-December, so he only faced misdemeanor charges.
When ICE agents learned Amay was in jail, the agency issued a detainer warrant so it would be notified when he was eligible for release. An order of protection, meanwhile, kept him away from his wife.
http://www.lohud.com/article/20101228/NEWS01/12280327/-1/NEWSFRONT/Mahopac-man-accused-of-killing-wife-was-facing-deportation
My son Cody is in dire straits at present.His wife left him along with three babies ages 5, 3 and 1.Sunday about midnight she called him and wanted him to come to the place where she was staying so that they could talk.The door was to be opened and he was told not to wake the people up.I begged him not to go and tried to tell him that she was up to something, but he wouldn’t listen.He went into the house but she was not there. As he was walking out the man that lives there awoke.And saw him as he was leaving.He called my house the next day and said that he had called the police on Cody.My son now sets and crys, he wants to die and is drowning himself in alcohol.We haven’t heard a thing from the police about this incident and continue to pray that we do not.I imposed on some of your questions by asking for pray, I hope this was not an offence but I believe in pray and wanted to get the word out.Emailed many of you.I want to thank all of you for your prayers and ask that you continue to.
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I am putting this question up for a vote. I will be able to let you know more the 9th. Thank You All Once again for your prayers and your wise advive. I love each of you, and you are more appreciatted than you realize.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
i have guardianship over my 2 gr.sons due to crack cocaine and i need proof before i let the girls go back to their mother if you know any place i could call or write i wouild appreciate it ty
it is our problem. i mean when they tell us that they drink cause of us. cause they think they are in love with us and we dont want to be with them sort of like a controlling factor. will it help us with our feeling we are in bondage or quilty cause of their drinking. i mean all the emotional abuse that they put us through will it help with that? and also the physical abuse for all the years even though that stopped and it became mental abuse? will it help with that? and if so where can i get to one? and man why havent i known about this resource years ago i went through over 11yrs of physical to emotional to mental abuse the physical stopped when i put him in jail then the emotional rollerercoaster to mental torment. he maybe changing ,but i believe i have been damaged. well he tries not to drink when around me. he doesnt live with me, but when i take our son over there to him and his mom, who he stays with then he tries not to.i try to be nice so he wont give them hell. i am tired.
my son listens to rap and i don’t like all the violence in rap and they way they talk about women, drugs and so on. we had a bet that my son couldn’t find 1 country song that has all of those things in one song, well, some1 came across johnny cash (cocaine blues-i believe) well there is a part that i am saying has to do with paternity but my son says it has to with sex. if it has to with sex then he won the bet but if it has to with paternity then he lost. so what do ya think?
also is that song just as bad as rap or not
the only thing i know is that 2-3 songs that my son told me were innocent turned out to be not so innocent. for instance he likes that song something about inside peanut butter outside jelly and another song called zoom i think and neither one of those songs is innocent, maybe not all rap is like that but what the kids are listening to these days is talking about all of that
im not trying to stop him from listening to them, its just a debate we are talking about and i am just showing him the reason i don’t like rap for the most part
My adult life has been rearranged to what I had hoped it would be because of alcohol. It affected my personal relationships, my family, my son and many friends. My problem is not what I drink, because that may average 4 drinks a year. My problem is with how it has affected the people I love and care about. Second-hand alcohol. To the best of my knowledge, tobacco has never killed multiple members of a family or friends in an auto accident at 1 time. Alcohol is addictive, harmful and dangerous. Yet it is still advertised and promoted and the alcohol industry is aware of the problems is causes. Are they not partly to blame for the problems it has caused for millions of people? How should this question be posted-food&drink, family&relationships,health,politics and govern-ment or society&culture?
I smoke and I don’t blame anyone but me. I don’t think advertising alcohol should be allowed because if someone is trying to quit it just complicates their problems.
My adult life has been rearranged to what I had hoped it would be because of alcohol. It affected my personal relationships, my family, my son and many friends. My problem is not what I drink, because that may average 4 drinks a year. My problem is with how it has affected the people I love and care about. Second-hand alcohol. To the best of my knowledge, tobacco has never killed multiple members of a family or friends in an auto accident at 1 time. Alcohol is addictive, harmful and dangerous. Yet it is still advertised and promoted and the alcohol industry is aware of the problems is causes. Are they not partly to blame for the problems it has caused for millions of people? How should this question be posted-food&drink, family&relationships,health,politics and govern-ment or society&culture?
I smoke and I don’t blame anyone but me. I don’t think advertising alcohol should be allowed because if someone is trying to quit it just complicates their problems.
My adult life has been rearranged to what I had hoped it would be because of alcohol. It affected my personal relationships, my family, my son and many friends. My problem is not what I drink, because that may average 4 drinks a year. My problem is with how it has affected the people I love and care about. Second-hand alcohol. To the best of my knowledge, tobacco has never killed multiple members of a family or friends in an auto accident at 1 time. Alcohol is addictive, harmful and dangerous. Yet it is still advertised and promoted and the alcohol industry is aware of the problems is causes. Are they not partly to blame for the problems it has caused for millions of people? How should this question be posted-food&drink, family&relationships,health,politics and govern-ment or society&culture?
I smoke and I don’t blame anyone but me. I don’t think advertising alcohol should be allowed because if someone is trying to quit it just complicates their problems.
My husband (seperated for 3 years) killed his self last year and left behinde a 5 year old son that misses him dearly!! I didnt tell my son thats the way he died. He is too young. He thinks his dad is a hero!! We always pray every night to his dad!! Ive been told by different people that someone who takes there life doesnt go to heaven!! My husband was a drinker and crystal meth user in the past. When he died there was liquor plus pain killers in his system. So he wasnt in a good state of mind when this accured. He planned this though and also left letters to alot of family members including me and his son. I want to believe he is in heaven.
Her husband is truly a hard worker who is drug free and is a doting father. The problem and question is; my daughter steals and sells everything from the house that isn’t nailed down. This past weekend while talking with her son (our eight year old Grandson) he complained that mom sold his Shrek video (and others) that we had given him for his birthday and christmas. My question is: Since my daughter has been to jail twice (30 days or longer) over the past two years, with her husband recently out of prison (over a year free), and they both live with my daughters Mother, what can I possibly say or do to help this situation? Before you ask, the Mother is an enabler (she will stand by her kids no matter what). I know my daughter blames her husband for going to jail the first time, but this situation is so bad that the last time I visited I didn’t even go in the house, my interest is just providing some old fashion good guy for the kids. Any advice?
hey well he is 5 months old
just wondering when i take him to the docs tomorrow
what kind of medicine will they give him.
does it contain alcohol or any affect.
he is coughing a lot and starting to get the squeaky noise when you breath.
im breastfeeding him and i’m sick now because i let him cough in my face so iv herd i give him antibiotic’s.
I would, his/her life would be hell untill their 18.
How many of you would do the same?
How many of you are dillusional and believe talking to your child, or letting him live his own life is the way to go?
Thx
@revolt, its a figure of speech.
Im not literally gonna stand there and try to kill my child, im saying if my son ever does such a thing, theres gonna be some serious punishments, and you bet your ass he wont even think about doing it again.
