Cops came to my ex-son-in-law’s house to serve a ‘protective order’ and said they smelled chemicals so they busted in and found a meth lab. He was arrested and now says his lawyer told him he will probably get off because there was no search warrant. I HOPE NOT, but is this true? It happened in Tulsa.
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Just wondering if I am in the wrong here. My husband and I are expecting a baby, I am due in three months. Well I’m feeling concerned about how his mother is going to be once the baby is born. We need to set some serious boundaries, but I want to know if I am going too far?
To give you a little background, my MIL has a serious problem with alcohol, she has been an alcoholic since my husband was a baby. When my husband was young she was verbally abusive and he was even taken away from her to live in foster care for a period of time. And now, she is drunk every single night. She has come to our house completely unannounced when she is drunk, and every time it has happened it is always late at night, around 10-11 pm. Completely unacceptable. My husband and I have been together for 8 years and have been married for 3. This entire time she has either acted like I don’t exist when I am in the same room with her, or has said horrible things about me behind my back. But now that we have a baby on the way, she is finally wanting to get to know me. The problem is, I would rather just have a polite relationship where we are civil when we do see each other, but I really don’t want to get close to her because I have seen how she treats her son and other members of their family. She is very manipulative and delusional about reality (I am guessing due to her little drinking problem) and throws a fit if she can’t have her way. I have no idea how my husband turned out so normal.
These are the guidelines I am going to put in place when my son is born.. do these seem reasonable?
1. She will not be allowed to watch our son alone when he is at least a baby/toddler because I do not trust that she will keep him safe or that she will stay sober while he is with her.
2. She can come over to our house and visit my son as much as she wants DURING THE DAYTIME if she calls ahead and checks that we are able to have company. There will be no barging in unannounced, especially late at night.
3. We will not bring our son over to her house, even if we will be there with him, because it REEKS of smoke and is completely filthy (we are talking cat poop smashed into the carpets that she never cleans up and a thick layer of cat fur covering EVERYTHING).
My best friend is 27 years old. She’s married to a 24 year old man. They get drunk almost daily. They have a 1 month old son, and she has an 8 year old daughter. They continuously get into fights. Fist fights, fights where he chokes her and tells her he’s going to kill her (no the police wont do anything unless she files a report…… and soc. services wont do anything without proof either, so dont suggest those two things to me)
So.. I’ve been trying to get them into AA for help but Its not working. Are there any other tactics or techniques that you can use to convince someone to get help? Thanks
My troubled 22 year old nephew called me. He overdosed and is looking to leave Detroit and come to Cal. I won’t let him stay with me because he will steal from his own family and I can’t trust him. I also have kids to worry about. Any idea where someone in SoCal can go without a job and no money who is trying to get off drugs? Also I’ve helped him out with money before and he has used it to buy drugs so I can’t do that.
Someone close to me has made the families life a misery for twenty odd years now. She has been drinking on and off for all of these years and made my mums life and her sons life hell. Every time something happens in her life (bad) she hits the bottle. And loses so much weight with no eating food, just vodka that it cant be doing her any good inside. How can it not have affected her liver?? She drinks and drinks for about 5 months and then goes off it for a while and then starts again. How has it not killed her yet?? I cant understand that at all.
When they argue, it is in front of my grandson. My son is alcoholic & I have suggested my dau-in-law got to Al-Anon. I go when I can. She has not gone to date. She is an only child, very spoiled & her parents are alcohlic. Outside of moving out, don’t know what to do. Should I intervene for my grandson’s sake or just stay in my room and keep to myself? I am very stressed out over this. I fear they are hurting my grandson & know my own son needs help, but refuses to get it.
Any advice is appreciated.
When they argue, it is in front of my grandson. My son is alcoholic & I have suggested my dau-in-law got to Al-Anon. I go when I can. She has not gone to date. She is an only child, very spoiled & her parents are alcohlic. Outside of moving out, don’t know what to do. Should I intervene for my grandson’s sake or just stay in my room and keep to myself? I am very stressed out over this. I fear they are hurting my grandson & know my own son needs help, but refuses to get it.
Any advice is appreciated.
everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.
