We have been together 6yrs living together for 3yrs and have a 1yr old son together we are not married. I want to break up with him and move out with my son but don’t know how to begin the conversation. I want to split up because of his alcohol intake during the weekends as he says very nasty things and am sick of it he puts his alcohol and computer games 1st and he is 40yrs old!! im 26
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I have a five year old son. His biological father died when he was barely a year old from an alcohol induced accident. His father was an alcoholic, didn’t do anything with him or for him and only pretended to be the model father in front of family and friends. He was also very verbally abusive. I have tried over the years to keep in contact with his side of the family and I get a Christmas card if I am lucky. His own Grandmother, who begged me to stay with her after he passed, makes no attempts to keep in touch with him. The last time I called all of them they all told me that they couldn’t afford the long distance phone bills, so I would have to call them if I wanted to talk to them. My current husband is the only father my son has known or even remembers. I have shown him pictures on regular occasions of his biological father, but he still says it’s Daddy and points to my husband. I understand it still may be too early for him to comprehend the situation, but this is where my dilemma comes in. My husband doesn’t want me to ever tell my son about his birth father. I don’t know if it’s because he is worried about him looking at him differently or one day walking away to try and be close to his biological family. I told my husband that one day I was going to explain to him what happened and talk to him about his biological father, even though he wasn’t the best person in the world. He is upset and thinks I should never bring it up to my son. I have always planned on telling my son because he is his birth father. Can a few people leave their thoughts for me, serious thoughts please, and let me know if they think I am wrong for my reasoning?
I am a stay at home mom of 4 kids. I don’t work and haven’t worked (except here and there for a couple months at a time) for 8 years. My husband is an alcoholic. He does go to work but other than that he thinks when his 40 hours at work is in he is done and doesn’t need to do anything else. I don’t expect him to clean the house or do the things that are my “job” but I do expect him to be a father to our children and play with them, take out the trash if he is here and it is full, mow the lawn, etc. He does mow the lawn but other than that everything is MY job. When he is home he drinks and plays on the computer. That is all. He knows this is a problem (I have voiced my opinion NUMEROUS times in a non-confrontational way) and he says he wants to stop but does nothing. How do I tell him he needs to get help and stop or I can’t keep raising children to see this? My son (4) already says he is going to drink lots of beer when he grows up like his dad. What do I say? Thanks
Both sets of parents know about the problem. His dad just says he needs to stop. My parents say I need to tell him to choose between 2 and 3 letters… AA or OUT. I don’t want a divorce and I wont do that… but seperating for the good of our children is better than them seeing him drunk everyday. Thanks again.
I have gone to AA meetings with him before and sat in couseling sessions with him. He just doesn’t seem to want to change for good. Does this mean it isnt worth saving??
We have an 8 year old daughter, 4 year old son, 2 year old daughter and 2 month old daughter (not all were planned…some even concieved while on birth control.) I do want help… I just don’t want to divorce. There are other options right?
We went to AA meetings.. He even earned his 30 day pin once. So he knows where to go for help… he just doesn’t think he has a big enough problem.
Like I think its totally inappropriate. There will be lots of 18-21 year olds there including my husband (the guest of honor), myself (a girl with a tummy “full of babt lol), and friends. My husband made a friend at his US ARmy Training Base so he decided to spend his two week Leave with our us because he only has a step dad and him mom had him out of wedlock. Anyway, first I don’t think it is ethical to give guests of any age alcoholic beverage unless they can show us a plan for how they intend to get home without driving. How do I tell them it is not a good idea?
Why Parents Have Gray Hair
A father passing by his son’s bedroom was astonished to see the bed nicely made up and everything neat and tidy.
Then he saw an envelope propped up prominently on the pillow. It was addressed, “Dad”. With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter with trembling hands:
Dear Dad,
It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing you. I had to elope with my new girlfriend because I wanted to avoid a scene with you and Mom.
I’ve been finding real passion with Joan and she is so nice. I knew you would not approve of her because of all her piercings, tattoos, her tight motorcycle clothes and because she is so much older than I am but it’s not only the passion, Dad, she’s pregnant.
Joan says that we are going to be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood, enough for the whole winter. We share a dream of having many more children.
Joan has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn’t really hurt anyone. We’ll be growing it and trading it with the other people in the commune for all the cocaine and ecstasy we want.
In the meantime, we’ll pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so Joan can get better; she sure deserves it!
Don’t worry Dad, I’m 15 years old now and I know how to take care of myself. Someday, I’m sure we’ll be back to visit so you can get to know your grandchildren.
Your son, Chad
P.S. Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at Tommy’s house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than the report card that’s in my desk drawer.
I love you! Call when it is safe for me to come home!
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last years the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
He can’t see her, the judge said she is to have no contact with him period and that we would be held accountable if we let him see or talk to her.
This story is a little confusing so please try to bear with me. My husband and me were married over two years ago. He brought a daughter (who is now 15) who he has full custody of and I brought my two kids together and made a blended family. My husband’s ex-wife (my step daughter’s mom) had also remarried and had a six year old boy from her second marriage. One week before Christmas last year the ex-wife was arrested for manufacturing meth and DHS took her son an put him in an emergency shelter. Since my husband and me have full custody of his half sister and no one else wanted him the judge allowed us to become his foster parents and he lives with us. We found out this week (almost a year after this all started) that her rights have been terminated and DHS is starting the adoption process for him to be with us permanently. My question is how do you tell a seven year old boy that he will be grown before he sees his mom again and that he will be living with us from now on? He has not seen or spoke to her since she got arrested last December, she was out of jail till this past October when she was arrested again for falling to appear for her court dates. Thank you for any help you can provide.
i have guardianship over my 2 gr.sons due to crack cocaine and i need proof before i let the girls go back to their mother if you know any place i could call or write i wouild appreciate it ty
there a band they have a son called alcohol, painted whore, and talk shit. its like three girls.
So, I have a 3 year old son (whom I love). I am a single mother, 26 yrs old. The long and short is: my mother who lives locally was an alcoholic for the younger yrs in my life and therfore missed out on most of mine and my brother’s(18) life. So as a result she beleives that she has a 2nd chance or something with my son. She spoils him rotten, undermines my authority while we are all together,,, Basically has told me in not so many words that she doesn’t care to see me, only my son. She is so childish that if she askes to see him(only, never US) and we already have plans, she gets so upset and throws a tantrum and treats me like crap!(guilt trip) She is so dramatic that having an adult conversation with her is virtually imposssible. What can I do to help her understand that she is being overbearing and that this isn’t her 2nd chance in life to make it right with herself???
We had a serious relationship, at 10 wks pg, he literally vanished into thin air, he was agianst abortion, i found out he was doing cocaine, he also drives a semi,he is back in his homestate.( i only know where his parents live, he was staying there(going thru a divorce from his wife at the time we were together). He is in his 30′s,and has a son with another woman too. he knew i was pg. Now i have our daughter should i find him, what do i do write a letter, go to his state and try to talk to him, or just raise her alone? I dont know..
Its not happening for a while but in november there is going to be a night or 2 where i have to leave my son, he will be 16 months old at the time. I have never left him before so im worrying about it already.
Anyway, my mum smokes and she ALWAYS has a few glasses of wine a night, there have been times where i have asked her to take me somewhere in the evening and she makes my dad do it because she HAS to drink. She denies being an alcoholic but we (me and my partner) believe she is. She also goes to bed very early, around 7.30-8.30 everynight and my son doesnt usually go to bed until 9pm at the earliest, it can be anywhere from 9-12pm depending on his mood. She also NEVER listens to what i say for him, i have a set routine and she will not stick to it. I go there every saturday and she wont listen to me about anything.
She called me and i told her about these nights we have to go out and leave him and she asked who will be looking after my son and i told her that my cousin said she would like to do it (her sister has 2 kids that she looks after a lot so i trust her). However he doesnt really know her very well, he would only see her maybe once a month and thats only for maybe 2 hours. I dont have any other friends or family he could stay with, so im not sure what to do.
I have a five year old son. His biological father died when he was barely a year old from an alcohol induced accident. His father was an alcoholic, didn’t do anything with him or for him and only pretended to be the model father in front of family and friends. He was also very verbally abusive. I have tried over the years to keep in contact with his side of the family and I get a Christmas card if I am lucky. His own Grandmother, who begged me to stay with her after he passed, makes no attempts to keep in touch with him. The last time I called all of them they all told me that they couldn’t afford the long distance phone bills, so I would have to call them if I wanted to talk to them. My current husband is the only father my son has known or even remembers. I have shown him pictures on regular occasions of his biological father, but he still says it’s Daddy and points to my husband. I understand it still may be too early for him to comprehend the situation, but this is where my dilemma comes in. My husband doesn’t want me to ever tell my son about his birth father. I don’t know if it’s because he is worried about him looking at him differently or one day walking away to try and be close to his biological family. I told my husband that one day I was going to explain to him what happened and talk to him about his biological father, even though he wasn’t the best person in the world. He is upset and thinks I should never bring it up to my son. I have always planned on telling my son because he is his birth father. Can a few people leave their thoughts for me, serious thoughts please, and let me know if they think I am wrong for my reasoning?
I have a five year old son. His biological father died when he was barely a year old from an alcohol induced accident. His father was an alcoholic, didn’t do anything with him or for him and only pretended to be the model father in front of family and friends. He was also very verbally abusive. I have tried over the years to keep in contact with his side of the family and I get a Christmas card if I am lucky. His own Grandmother, who begged me to stay with her after he passed, makes no attempts to keep in touch with him. The last time I called all of them they all told me that they couldn’t afford the long distance phone bills, so I would have to call them if I wanted to talk to them. My current husband is the only father my son has known or even remembers. I have shown him pictures on regular occasions of his biological father, but he still says it’s Daddy and points to my husband. I understand it still may be too early for him to comprehend the situation, but this is where my dilemma comes in. My husband doesn’t want me to ever tell my son about his birth father. I don’t know if it’s because he is worried about him looking at him differently or one day walking away to try and be close to his biological family. I told my husband that one day I was going to explain to him what happened and talk to him about his biological father, even though he wasn’t the best person in the world. He is upset and thinks I should never bring it up to my son. I have always planned on telling my son because he is his birth father. Can a few people leave their thoughts for me, serious thoughts please, and let me know if they think I am wrong for my reasoning?
my son was riding his bike and the cop called him over to his car and gave him a bac but never brought him home and never told me till I got the citation in the mail my son is 13
when they work so much better that way?!?
Does that son of a biscuit want me to just go around hurting all the time or is he po’ed that I don’t trust him enough to let him cut on me yet?
I hate doctors and doctors offices and hospitals and I don’t see an end to me hating these things anytime soon.
Sh%t!
I don’t hate my doc specifically I hate all docs generally. I am terrified of having surgery.
My father is an alcoholic, I am his adult daughter, who is married with 4 children ranging in age from 2 to 12. My mother divorced him due to his anger and alcohol problems. My mom lives with my husband and I and our kids.
My father comes over to visit me and my kids at our house several times a week usually unannounced and I am not feeling comfortable with these visits any longer, he has become almost abusive towards me and the kids on several of these visits and he only comes over when my husband is not home. On one occasion he grabbed my 4 year old son picked him up and shook him and screamed in his face, I was scared and asked him to stop but he would not stop but finally put him down. I am scared of him and do not know how to tell him that I no longer feel comfortable with him coming to our house. I am worried he will explode and become violent towards me, probably verbally but he could get physical too. I could write a note or maybe wait until my husband is home.
