My Mother won’t let me, but all my other friends are allowed to.
When did you let you’re teenage son/daughter drink alcohol?
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My nephew, “Joe”, is 14. He is an only child, and my sister and her husband have always been very indulgent with him. They are very wealthy, and have always just given him everything he could possibly want. He has literally never done a chore – not even something as simple as vacuuming or unloading the dishwasher or even putting his own stuff away – nor has he ever had any discipline whatsoever. His mother will go over his homework and correct any mistakes for him, so he’s gotten to be very sloppy in his schoolwork because he knows she’ll fix it for him. They are not negligent parents, if anything they hover and coddle too much, but they do love him. He is not a delinquent or a drug addict or anything, but he incredibly spoiled, entitled, self-centered, and rude – he will call his mother a b*tch and she’ll say something like “don’t say that, baby, you know it’s not nice”. He will throw honest-to-God tantrums until he gets what he wants. It’s disgusting, to be honest.
I’m sure you’re wondering how this is any of my business. Well: I’m more or less the only person Joe shows any respect at all for (still not much, but more than he has for his mothers or teachers). I run a working ranch, and I’ve talked to his parents and they asked me if I’d be willing to help. He will come live with me and my family for a while until he straightens out and stops acting like a particularly tall toddler. He starts high school in the fall. I am about 2 hours away, so he would still get to visit his parents and friends sometime.
So I have some questions. I have 2 kids but they are 7 and 4, so I’ve never parented a teenager before. What are some good ground rules to set? And what chores would be good to start him off with? When I was 14 I was doing all the chores of a grown man, but I also grew up working hard and like I said he hasn’t ever lifted a finger. Any advice at all is helpful. He is not a bad person but he sure is turning into an unlikeable one.
Well you see, where we come from we feel we have a duty to help our family. He is family as well, as is my sister. I am sorry that you apparently don’t share this feeling.
Jomama: I don’t mind, so I don’t see why should. If your sister ever asks you to take in your nephew, you have every right to turn her down. I knew a lot of kids who went and lived and worked for a year away from their family in their teens, so none of this “nowadays” bullcrap.
thing: no, I agree with you. He was made this way by his parents…but he’s nearly a man and it needs to be taken care of now.
Im thinking about giving my son nonalcoholic beer in his lunch bag when he goes to school. The only rules it says about alcohol is nothing with alcohol is permitted and nonalcoholic beer has no alcohol in it.
so vanilla extract would be illegal for a kid to consume since it has alcohol in it?
I have been “married” for 16 years, I never loved this man, I hardly had sex with him after signing the “marriage license”, I was pregnant when we signed it.
After leaving him and comming back trying to make the situation worked for several ocasions, the only affected has been my teenager son.
Now, that I had spent all my savings trying to save, house, cars, bills, and even him from jail for having 3 dui’s and suspended Drivers license, he is treating us worst and worst and worst. I have no means to get divorce, since I am unemployed ( he is too)
We hate each other and I notice that he does not love my son, he never never never never talk to him, just mumbres Hi and bye.
He is his son, but neighbors and classmates think that my son has a step-father because the way he treats him: he ignores his son completely, unless he wants some of what my son is eating, my husband even dares to ask for it).
please help me
I am desperate, he stole my life because of my weakeness, my compassion towards him, my stupidity, my fears,
please let me know if there is a posibility
thank you
