My son who is 14 years old, has been caught kissing and doing sexual doings (not exactly sex), with a girl in a girls bathroom in his school. I am so saddened by it and really shocked, I cannot believe my youngest baby boy who was just a baby yesterday, turned out to be a pervert and god forbid, a “Sex addict”. He was caught half naked kissing with this other girl, same age as he is. He was caught my teachers, and sent to the principals office. When i got the call, I was so shocked. The teacher suspended my son for 2 weeks, as in his school, this is a big offence. The girl got suspended for a week. My son is really angry with me, and started cursing at me, and saying it’s his life and he even swore he would “have sex with 10000 girls, and felt good about it”. I broke down in tears when my son said those exact words 
I am so shocked, that he has grown up now. I have also found out he has a reputation in school, of being a one time gangster,I never knew,as I never actually really been to his school, to check on him. I also found out that he has been smoking cigarettes,found in his bag recently,and pornographic magazines and also alcohol , that has been missing from my brothers house. I am so lost and saddened by it. My husband is divorced and living far away,and I have full custody of my 4 children. I need advice, deep advice, on what to do to my son, to teach him a lesson. I know it’s pretty normal for teen boys to be like this, but my son has gone to the extreme, I am scared if he makes any girl pregnant, god forbid. I do see a psychiatrist, but it’s not helping at all. Help me please,advice. Thanks.
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My son is 17, 10 days ago we found out he has some bad things going on…We still can figure out if it is Alcohol alone or also weed smoking. He gets in and out of house w/o telling us, he comes some days at 2-3 am or some days 10-11 pm. Has very changing moods. We took him to a drug place for a meeting & the “no so smart woman” there said we needed to listen to him, in front of his face, and they said they didnt need to run a drug test on him…so in other words, they made the parents look like jerks in front of the teenager.
I just came bk f/buss. trip & found out he has a ticket for consumpt. by a minor not driving though-he already went to judge to handle it, but he was hiding it f/us. I called court to find out details and they advised me he has handled it & has some condit’s to meet and $ to pay.
A/o last year has GPA 4.0 & 0 absent days. Anyone pls. can give serious advise as to what to do next, actions to take to get him out of this problem and bk on trk.
Dad & Mom lv w/him
My son is 19, will be 20 in July. He attends community college full time he is in the USAF national gaurd and has a 8-10 hr week par time job. Sounds like the perfect kid huh? Well he has found alcohol like most 19 yr olds, put on 40 pounds in the last 4 months, stays out until 2-3 ever morning, he goes to class I think but not sure I am not home when he goes to school. There have been times I didn’t work and he was still at home instead of at school. He has attended a yr at community college 2 A’s in art classes a lot of C’s 3 D’s and 2 F’s, he says he wants to tranfer to 4 yr school, but the D’s and F’s wont transfer. The USAF is paying for tuition and gving him 250 a week to go to school. He agreed with us to save 300 a month towards tranfering (apartment, and utilities) and we said we would pay the rest for him to get him set up when he left. Up to today he has saved 0.00 he plays in a “band” he is quiting his job this summer to go on “tour” which he will have to pay to go,
He will not get money from USAF during summer. He doesn’t help at home the only rules we did give him were to be home by 1am and take out trash, doesn’t do either one. We have 2 younger children 15 and 11 and he treats them like crap. He doesn’t talk to them, but when the few times he is at home he kicks them off of family computer and tells them to get out. He doesn’t attend family functions Easter b-days, and on last xmas trip he stayed in hotel room for 2 days. We don’t know what to do with him. He seems to be pissing away his USAF money and the opportunity at an education to hang with his “band”. He has 5 tattoos and the word RAGE on his calf and he wears shorts all the time. I don’t want to kick him out of the house he needs our medical coverage becasue he has a heart issue that he wont be able to pay for by himself. But he doesn’t take his meds or eat right and rufuses to stop drinking. Is there anything we can do?
I’m a single mom & have caught my son-15 chewing several times over the last 2 yrs. He was grounded each time for 2-3 wks (no phone, cell, tv, friends, music, activities) He hasn’t for a while, but I just caught him again! His father gets him every other wkend & does not back me up in disciplining him (I have tried working w/him on this to no avail– we’ve been divorced since my son was born) I do not have support from my family either. My son was suspended from school last yr for 7 wks for being the middle man in a drug transaction, my parents “babysat” him everyday while I was at work&made him work & he was completely grounded.That worked at the time(I also bought at-home drug kits for random testing-they cover everything incl. alcohol and nicotine) So even though I have these tests & he knows I’ll use them, he continues to push me, knowing it will get worse for him each time. He’s a good kid, we are very close & open.I don’t care if “everybody else does it”, HE is not allowed. HELP!
I have a 17yr old stepson. He is currently being checked into a hospital here in Houston. He is a leach, a lyer, not very smart, runs with stupid other kids his age, and has a mother for an alcoholic. His mother says that his father will provide him with money, healthcare, a home and anything esle. Not right. I am married to his father. What can I do about this legally? His son is taking him to the cleaners emotionally and financially.
I have a 17yr old stepson. He is currently being checked into a hospital here in Houston. He is a leach, a lyer, not very smart, runs with stupid other kids his age, and has a mother for an alcoholic. His mother says that his father will provide him with money, healthcare, a home and anything esle. Not right. I am married to his father. What can I do about this legally? His son is taking him to the cleaners emotionally and financially.
I have a 17yr old stepson. He is currently being checked into a hospital here in Houston. He is a leach, a lyer, not very smart, runs with stupid other kids his age, and has a mother for an alcoholic. His mother says that his father will provide him with money, healthcare, a home and anything esle. Not right. I am married to his father. What can I do about this legally? His son is taking him to the cleaners emotionally and financially.
I have a 17yr old stepson. He is currently being checked into a hospital here in Houston. He is a leach, a lyer, not very smart, runs with stupid other kids his age, and has a mother for an alcoholic. His mother says that his father will provide him with money, healthcare, a home and anything esle. Not right. I am married to his father. What can I do about this legally? His son is taking him to the cleaners emotionally and financially.
My brother (18) and his girlfriend (17) are expecting a baby. She told me this morning, and they don’t plan on telling my dad anytime soon! They are both irresponsible and in no way capable of raising a child. Last March she had an abortion, and she plans on keeping this baby. Neither of them have jobs, my brother dropped out of high school during his sophomore year, and he is addicted to Oxycontin. And both of their ideas of fun is getting stoned in the backyard. Her family is absolutely nuts, they are all drug addicts in and out of prison living off of welfare. I don’t like having to keep this a secret, and I very much want to run to my dad and spill everything! (My mother is not in the picture, BTW.) But I know it isn’t my secret to tell, I just wish they did not put me in the middle of this. I too am only 17. What do I do? I don’t want to see my niece/nephew grow up in an unstable enviorment. I watched it happen to my sisters son, who now lives with his other grandparents. Not only that but my brother is also very abusive to his girlfriend. Just last month I had to call the police on him because he wouldn’t get off of her. I am sorry if this seems like a rant, but I am very angry, and disappointed that they would allow this to happen again. My dad is already on his last straw with my brother, and this will surely send him to an early grave. I am scared for the baby. This girl can barely take care of herself, and my brother…his life is just a complete mess. I want to be excited for them, but at the moment I am just worried that despite having a baby on the way, they aren’t going to straighten up. Please, can someone just lend me a few wise words, that I can explain to them that might wake them up, and realize it’s time to grow up.
She’s not a close friend but her daughter is nearly part of our family. She’s hung out with my kids since she was about 8, and she is now 15. Her mother is drunk every day on vodka. She is a single mother and gets state aid, but uses the money for alcohol and drugs. Her daughter knows this but I try to keep things positive. I have hired her to study with my son so she has responsibilities and can earn money. This also keeps both their grades up. I also have her babysit some. This way I can tell her if she hangs out with druggies (there is a meth house 2 doors away from hers), then she can’t babysit, and she loves my kids so this works so far. Her mom ignores her, usually doesn’t care where she’s at or who she’s with. I’m always the one checking up on her, giving her money for school functions, paying for her school physical, pool pass, activity pass, and today her school pictures. Her mom has escaped the system many times from child abuse to drugs so that’s not the answer. But what is?
We have had the police, DYFS, JSMC (local hospital), crisis intervention, my insurance company and a million people spoken to. Nothing. There is nowhere in NJ. My son is out of control on prescription pain killers, pot, alcohol and who knows what and there is no place in NJ that will take him unless he wants help. Even though he is a minor at age 17. They will not take him unless he says he needs help. Some new laws or something. We are going crazy as he wastes his life away. Anyone, please help!
He is 17 years old and has just completed senior secondary school
I have two teenagers who I am scared to death of them falling in to the sex, drugs, and alcohol consuming culture. Most of all gangs and the like. I have told the kids about the dangers of all three areas, but am I doing enough? I try to lead by example, but is that still enough? Please advise.
Heyyy there! i am ALMOST 18 & just got back from my doctors for a basic physical. My weight was a low 227+ My waist was but a 48 inches, chest 44, i am 5’10. AND have a BP of 142/101 & my body fat % is 31+
It was about a YEAR or so ago when i decided that i wanted to GAIN weight not LOSE it! At the time i was around 161 lbs. & was quite thin. So i decided to “pack on the pounds” per say…
Now a year, plenty of pounds, inches & marks later. i am changing that. Until now, i have not tried to gain OR lose any weight.
NOW i wear a snug 38 jeans. i have a fair share of “sexy” stretchy marks on my love handles/hips & quite a few on my inner thighs too! i also struggle to come to terms w/ the fact i cant do ONE situp! If i try i feel like im DYING!
Now i’m eating very little til 5 PM! Then i typically have an decent dinner & nice desert. At 10 i’ll have a big pizza or 2 burgers 2 liter of dew & top it off a binge of random sweets! 
I’m 18 now, cant i make my own decisons?
Well some girlz like men BIGger… lol ;-p
I’ve thoroughly checked his room, but kids are creative.
He initially showed signs of person on drugs. We sat him down and spoke to him about the consiquencies of drugs. He tried to stop but has started again. This means that he is hooked to the thing. Please he is my only son advice me. Thank you.
