my fiance has been taking care of his son alone since he was born and hes now 3. the mother who left him and didnt want any part of the child is now trying to take him away. she is accousing him of alcohol around the house. yes he does drink but not around his son. if hes drunk or even planning on drinking he takes him to his mothers house before he does. hes a great father and now all of a sudden the mother is trying to turn and pinpoint the wrong subjects. so can child services really take his son away? what can be done because i dont know much of this subject….
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I admit I spent more time on the couch drinking than I did playing with my boy whom now is 12. I did still go out and play catch with him lots and watched all his sport games cheering from the sidelines. I went to all his school events, volunteered as a room mom etc.My husband divorced me because of my alcohol abuse. I am in treatment now. I call my son and his step mon says he does not want to talk to me then continues to hurl insults in such a cruel way. She even had my 83 year old dad that I live with because of his alzheimers crying!I have tried to reason with her through my tears that we need to talk and she just yells louder. I pray my boy is not able to hear her. Legally I have my boy on wednesdays plus my share of the holidays.Since to Christmases ago I have not seen my son. People tell me to get a lawyer but I have always been to emotional to stop my crying. I don’t want my son seeing this mess.I write my son every week or so with no response. My x says he does receive them
every day theirs parents that insult everybody, including their own, that their’re abandon from their family, except a son or their daughter. that with all the insult they take , till they take care of them. without support of another member. and without doing a intervension.
He is a pot head and an alcoholic. I wont let him take our son at all, if he wants to be with him, i make him see him in my house. Is this wrong??? He sure acts like it but shoot Im not going to let anything happen to my son . Advise?
He has stayed w/ my spouse, 18 yr old son on and off for past 20 yrs. Has been through 2 60 day treatment programs this year alone. Has worked on getting a a “good” job for over 2 mos. When he finally gets it, he relapses and screws it up. Our father, as well as his sponsor at AA both think he needs to be commited for at least 6 mos to a year. After a 6 day binge, he is willing to seek add’l help, but problem seems to always come up after he spends 2 mos. trying to get a job that once he gets it, he starts a binge, which is precisely what just happened. My husband no longer wants him to stay w/ us, he has no home, needs further treatment. I have researched what it takes to commit someone, but since he is willing to go for treatment, not an issue. Our dad thinks we can commit him and then we be the one to judge when he can be released. I have been his #1 enabler, but NO MORE. How to explain to dad this is not how commitment works? Can print out variety of research. HELP PLEASE!!
One major thing that presents a big obstacle is that my brother has not been able to work for approx. past 7 years. Therefore, he is homeless! He never has been able to follow through with any type of after care treatment when we allow him to stay with us. When he relapses, it causes a great deal of havoc within our home, so NO MORE staying w/ us. Has had 2 relapses after his last 60 day treatment program which ended only 2 mos. ago. With no job, no insurance, he is only entitled to state sponsored rehab programs. To me, he needs to address psychological issues MORE than his alcoholic tendencies. ANY SUGGESTIONS OTHER THAN THE OBVIOUS ONES OF ME ATTENDING AL-ANON, OF CEASING TO BE HIS ENABLER ARE MORE THAN WELCOME!!! THANKS A BUNCH !!!
As of latest writing of this question, brother is once again going to go into treatment center/rehab for his alcholism…..do they provide adequate mental health counselling in these rehabs? Think he needs to focus more on the psychological issues he has that perhaps can lead him to drink…..any suggestions???
My son is 11 days old and he still has his umbilical cord. I thought it was doing really good but then today it had made a small stain on his clothes that looks like blood. It is detached on one side but still well intact on the other. People say to clean with alcohol but doctor said to just keep clean and wipe off when giving bath. Is this normal? And how soon will the cord fall off? Does the blood mean it is infected?
He has stayed w/ my spouse, 18 yr old son on and off for past 20 yrs. Has been through 2 60 day treatment programs this year alone. Has worked on getting a a “good” job for over 2 mos. When he finally gets it, he relapses and screws it up. Our father, as well as his sponsor at AA both think he needs to be commited for at least 6 mos to a year. After a 6 day binge, he is willing to seek add’l help, but problem seems to always come up after he spends 2 mos. trying to get a job that once he gets it, he starts a binge, which is precisely what just happened. My husband no longer wants him to stay w/ us, he has no home, needs further treatment. I have researched what it takes to commit someone, but since he is willing to go for treatment, not an issue. Our dad thinks we can commit him and then we be the one to judge when he can be released. I have been his #1 enabler, but NO MORE. How to explain to dad this is not how commitment works? Can print out variety of research. HELP PLEASE!!
One major thing that presents a big obstacle is that my brother has not been able to work for approx. past 7 years. Therefore, he is homeless! He never has been able to follow through with any type of after care treatment when we allow him to stay with us. When he relapses, it causes a great deal of havoc within our home, so NO MORE staying w/ us. Has had 2 relapses after his last 60 day treatment program which ended only 2 mos. ago. With no job, no insurance, he is only entitled to state sponsored rehab programs. To me, he needs to address psychological issues MORE than his alcoholic tendencies. ANY SUGGESTIONS OTHER THAN THE OBVIOUS ONES OF ME ATTENDING AL-ANON, OF CEASING TO BE HIS ENABLER ARE MORE THAN WELCOME!!! THANKS A BUNCH !!!
As of latest writing of this question, brother is once again going to go into treatment center/rehab for his alcholism…..do they provide adequate mental health counselling in these rehabs? Think he needs to focus more on the psychological issues he has that perhaps can lead him to drink…..any suggestions???
My neighbor is asking me for help. Her son seems to have dual diagnosis and she doesn’t know what to do. He has always been depressed and now he’s taking alcohol too.
….i know i will not pass the hair follicle but i will pass the urine….i have full custody rights to my son…. if i come up positive for cocaine… even if i don’t do it often does anyone know what will happen to me?????
first of all im not a bad parent i take great care of my son… i love him very much… i never do it around him …..it was one time when i was at a bar when my son was at his dads for the …. everyone make mistake im not perfect but i can tell u i get up with himeveryday feed him play with him care for him everyday and his sorry so called father only has him 4 days out of the month and he does things alot worst them me
i quit my bad habits when i learned i was pregnant and the babys father was suppose to too, but hasnt. he is a compulsive liar whose addicted to meth. i want my son to have the best upbringing, and in this world i believe that starts with a loving family, with both parents to guide him with unconditional love and stability.i dont want to raise my son without a father. ive always felt such a void growing up without one myself. watching my mom work constantly with very limited time to even get to know her kids. i regret being so naive. i dont want the babys father in my life and i refuse to let him be in my sons life. a man that will never love our son more than he loves meth. ive waited 7 months thru all his lies for him to get his life together and get off drugs, but now its getting close to my due date and i want to do whats best for my son. would like to find a loving couple that is interested in adopting my son. i need help. i dont know what steps to take
i quit my bad habits when i learned i was pregnant and the babys father was suppose to too, but hasnt. he is a compulsive liar whose addicted to meth. i want my son to have the best upbringing, and in this world i believe that starts with a loving family, with both parents to guide him with unconditional love and stability.i dont want to raise my son without a father. ive always felt such a void growing up without one myself. watching my mom work constantly with very limited time to even get to know her kids. i regret being so naive. i dont want the babys father in my life and i refuse to let him be in my sons life. a man that will never love our son more than he loves meth. ive waited 7 months thru all his lies for him to get his life together and get off drugs, but now its getting close to my due date and i want to do whats best for my son. would like to find a loving couple that is interested in adopting my son. i need help. i dont know what steps to take
So, I’m 5 months pregnant and my unborn son’s father has never been around. When I contacted him to tell him the gender of the baby, he said, “I didn’t realize you were still pregnant”. We were together for 8 months and decided we wanted kids. Two weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he dissapeared and reappeared with a girlfriend (girl’s are stupid. Who would date a guy with an unborn child on the way?) Anyway, he is STILL not around. I have all these emotions and needs for an expected mother, and he refuses to return my e-mails or phone calls. He asked for ultrasound pictures. When I brought them to him he hardly even glanced at them. He has a DVD made of the ultrasound which I want back, but I don’t even want to see him. It took me a week to get over my rage after seeing him last time. It has been 5 months (minus the ultrasound visit) since I’ve even seen him. I ran into him and his girlfriend in public, and he dissapeared…as usual. I don’t deserve this. I know he is an alcoholic and I don’t want my child around that. I want to ask him to relinquish his rights so I can not always wonder what he’s doing and why he isn’t calling ona 24/7 basis. Is it wrong of me? This resentment and dissapointment is already too much, I couldn’t imagen the issues when my child is actually born.
First off, the father can sign to give up his rights. Secondly, I am also talking about the option of soul custody. I understand all the legal crap. To spare details in a lenghty message I didn’t go on and on.
Also, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN’T WANT TO BE AROUND, OTHERWISE HE WOULD!!! DUH!!! I am not pressuring him. I hardly EVER contact him. Read people!!! I contacted him to invite him to the ultrasounds, which he declined. And contacted him to tell him his an asshole. And once more to tell him it is what it is, and I’d like him to be there, yet still NO ACTION!!!
So, I’m 5 months pregnant and my unborn son’s father has never been around. When I contacted him to tell him the gender of the baby, he said, “I didn’t realize you were still pregnant”. We were together for 8 months and decided we wanted kids. Two weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he dissapeared and reappeared with a girlfriend (girl’s are stupid. Who would date a guy with an unborn child on the way?) Anyway, he is STILL not around. I have all these emotions and needs for an expected mother, and he refuses to return my e-mails or phone calls. He asked for ultrasound pictures. When I brought them to him he hardly even glanced at them. He has a DVD made of the ultrasound which I want back, but I don’t even want to see him. It took me a week to get over my rage after seeing him last time. It has been 5 months (minus the ultrasound visit) since I’ve even seen him. I ran into him and his girlfriend in public, and he dissapeared…as usual. I don’t deserve this. I know he is an alcoholic and I don’t want my child around that. I want to ask him to relinquish his rights so I can not always wonder what he’s doing and why he isn’t calling ona 24/7 basis. Is it wrong of me? This resentment and dissapointment is already too much, I couldn’t imagen the issues when my child is actually born.
First off, the father can sign to give up his rights. Secondly, I am also talking about the option of soul custody. I understand all the legal crap. To spare details in a lenghty message I didn’t go on and on.
Also, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN’T WANT TO BE AROUND, OTHERWISE HE WOULD!!! DUH!!! I am not pressuring him. I hardly EVER contact him. Read people!!! I contacted him to invite him to the ultrasounds, which he declined. And contacted him to tell him his an asshole. And once more to tell him it is what it is, and I’d like him to be there, yet still NO ACTION!!!
So, I’m 5 months pregnant and my unborn son’s father has never been around. When I contacted him to tell him the gender of the baby, he said, “I didn’t realize you were still pregnant”. We were together for 8 months and decided we wanted kids. Two weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he dissapeared and reappeared with a girlfriend (girl’s are stupid. Who would date a guy with an unborn child on the way?) Anyway, he is STILL not around. I have all these emotions and needs for an expected mother, and he refuses to return my e-mails or phone calls. He asked for ultrasound pictures. When I brought them to him he hardly even glanced at them. He has a DVD made of the ultrasound which I want back, but I don’t even want to see him. It took me a week to get over my rage after seeing him last time. It has been 5 months (minus the ultrasound visit) since I’ve even seen him. I ran into him and his girlfriend in public, and he dissapeared…as usual. I don’t deserve this. I know he is an alcoholic and I don’t want my child around that. I want to ask him to relinquish his rights so I can not always wonder what he’s doing and why he isn’t calling ona 24/7 basis. Is it wrong of me? This resentment and dissapointment is already too much, I couldn’t imagen the issues when my child is actually born.
First off, the father can sign to give up his rights. Secondly, I am also talking about the option of soul custody. I understand all the legal crap. To spare details in a lenghty message I didn’t go on and on.
Also, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN’T WANT TO BE AROUND, OTHERWISE HE WOULD!!! DUH!!! I am not pressuring him. I hardly EVER contact him. Read people!!! I contacted him to invite him to the ultrasounds, which he declined. And contacted him to tell him his an asshole. And once more to tell him it is what it is, and I’d like him to be there, yet still NO ACTION!!!
I need help… Here’s the story. I know it’s a little long but please read it.
My Mom left my brother and I when I was 13 (he was 15 1/2). She just up and left us. She said she had a mental breakdown and just couldn’t handle us anymore (we were very bad kids, raised by our abusive, alcoholic father. He just left us home alone most of the time so we were not well behaved and had zero structure when we went to live with her). My brother and I were separated because we had to go live with friends. I ended up in foster care. Long story short my brother lives in WA State and I ended up in Virginia. My Mom now lives in NY. I visited my brother 5 years ago that was the last time that I saw him. I’ve seen my Mom once when my son was born in 2009. It’s been over 10 years since we’ve all been together (since she left us). My Mom is very sick. She has pancreatitis very bad… she is 60 and we don’t believe she will live longer then 5 years. Money is tight for all of us (my Mom lives off of disability because she can’t work). My brother offered to fly her out to see him and his family. They really wanted me to come. They will not have the money to fly my Mom back over there and my Mom definitely won’t have the money to go there on her own ever. I believe this is the only oppurtunity for all 3 of us to be together again. My Mom and I have never met my brothers 2 kids and my brother has never met my son or husband. I feel like we can gain some type of closure to some things that happened by this trip and I think it’s something I need to go to. Here is the dilema. My husband is out of state for training for his job. He won’t be back until after my Mom leaves WA. My brother offered to pay half my ticket if I come but my husband said he doesn’t feel comfortable with me taking my son on his first trip a lone and that he wants to be there to experience his first big trip- it’s something he doesn’t want to miss. He’s also afraid there may be some type of drama since our family has had so many issues. My husband grew up in a very religious home and half the stuff my family did seems outrageous compared to his family so he doesn’t fully understand the situation and that it is not going to be bad at all. This is a good thing. I can go and leave my son… but my son is 5 months old and exclusively breastfed. I do NOT want to be away from him. I will not be away from him for that time (only 3 or 4 days but still). So I can not go… or leave my son with my in laws and go by myself. I feel like my husband is being selfish and I don’t agree with his reasoning. Please help on this situation…
I need help… Here’s the story. I know it’s a little long but please read it.
My Mom left my brother and I when I was 13 (he was 15 1/2). She just up and left us. She said she had a mental breakdown and just couldn’t handle us anymore (we were very bad kids, raised by our abusive, alcoholic father. He just left us home alone most of the time so we were not well behaved and had zero structure when we went to live with her). My brother and I were separated because we had to go live with friends. I ended up in foster care. Long story short my brother lives in WA State and I ended up in Virginia. My Mom now lives in NY. I visited my brother 5 years ago that was the last time that I saw him. I’ve seen my Mom once when my son was born in 2009. It’s been over 10 years since we’ve all been together (since she left us). My Mom is very sick. She has pancreatitis very bad… she is 60 and we don’t believe she will live longer then 5 years. Money is tight for all of us (my Mom lives off of disability because she can’t work). My brother offered to fly her out to see him and his family. They really wanted me to come. They will not have the money to fly my Mom back over there and my Mom definitely won’t have the money to go there on her own ever. I believe this is the only oppurtunity for all 3 of us to be together again. My Mom and I have never met my brothers 2 kids and my brother has never met my son or husband. I feel like we can gain some type of closure to some things that happened by this trip and I think it’s something I need to go to. Here is the dilema. My husband is out of state for training for his job. He won’t be back until after my Mom leaves WA. My brother offered to pay half my ticket if I come but my husband said he doesn’t feel comfortable with me taking my son on his first trip a lone and that he wants to be there to experience his first big trip- it’s something he doesn’t want to miss. He’s also afraid there may be some type of drama since our family has had so many issues. My husband grew up in a very religious home and half the stuff my family did seems outrageous compared to his family so he doesn’t fully understand the situation and that it is not going to be bad at all. This is a good thing. I can go and leave my son… but my son is 5 months old and exclusively breastfed. I do NOT want to be away from him. I will not be away from him for that time (only 3 or 4 days but still). So I can not go… or leave my son with my in laws and go by myself. I feel like my husband is being selfish and I don’t agree with his reasoning. Please help on this situation…
I have had custody of for nine years. I’m not an alcoholic nor a drug addict and I do take care of my child. Everything he is trying to say I can disprove but there is one thing I am unsure of. My boyfriend was convicted of armed robbery and breaking and entering in 2000 when he was 17 and is currently doing time for negligent homicide which also had no drugs involved and only .04 alcohol which is under the legal limit. He is a good man and would never harm me or my son. He made a mistake when he was a minor and suffered a very tragic accident which he is paying for now. So my question is, can that hold up in court? Can a judge take my son from me because of my boyfriends convictions?
The negligent homicide was in 2007 so it was 7 years after the first 2 convictions. He was on parole and didn’t get in trouble once.
“HEY THERE” I can disprove all the other stuff my ex is saying. My son loves my boyfriend and is actually mad at me for leaving him. I wouldn’t let anyone around my son who I thought could hurt him in anyway. it was months before he even met my son.
when they work so much better that way?!?
Does that son of a biscuit want me to just go around hurting all the time or is he po’ed that I don’t trust him enough to let him cut on me yet?
I hate doctors and doctors offices and hospitals and I don’t see an end to me hating these things anytime soon.
Sh%t!
I don’t hate my doc specifically I hate all docs generally. I am terrified of having surgery.
I need help… Here’s the story. I know it’s a little long but please read it.
My Mom left my brother and I when I was 13 (he was 15 1/2). She just up and left us. She said she had a mental breakdown and just couldn’t handle us anymore (we were very bad kids, raised by our abusive, alcoholic father. He just left us home alone most of the time so we were not well behaved and had zero structure when we went to live with her). My brother and I were separated because we had to go live with friends. I ended up in foster care. Long story short my brother lives in WA State and I ended up in Virginia. My Mom now lives in NY. I visited my brother 5 years ago that was the last time that I saw him. I’ve seen my Mom once when my son was born in 2009. It’s been over 10 years since we’ve all been together (since she left us). My Mom is very sick. She has pancreatitis very bad… she is 60 and we don’t believe she will live longer then 5 years. Money is tight for all of us (my Mom lives off of disability because she can’t work). My brother offered to fly her out to see him and his family. They really wanted me to come. They will not have the money to fly my Mom back over there and my Mom definitely won’t have the money to go there on her own ever. I believe this is the only oppurtunity for all 3 of us to be together again. My Mom and I have never met my brothers 2 kids and my brother has never met my son or husband. I feel like we can gain some type of closure to some things that happened by this trip and I think it’s something I need to go to. Here is the dilema. My husband is out of state for training for his job. He won’t be back until after my Mom leaves WA. My brother offered to pay half my ticket if I come but my husband said he doesn’t feel comfortable with me taking my son on his first trip a lone and that he wants to be there to experience his first big trip- it’s something he doesn’t want to miss. He’s also afraid there may be some type of drama since our family has had so many issues. My husband grew up in a very religious home and half the stuff my family did seems outrageous compared to his family so he doesn’t fully understand the situation and that it is not going to be bad at all. This is a good thing. I can go and leave my son… but my son is 5 months old and exclusively breastfed. I do NOT want to be away from him. I will not be away from him for that time (only 3 or 4 days but still). So I can not go… or leave my son with my in laws and go by myself. I feel like my husband is being selfish and I don’t agree with his reasoning. Please help on this situation…
My ex boyfriend is trying to get visitation on our 2 year old son. I really don’t trust him because he is an alcoholic and he’s very irresponsible. I fear of him taking him by himself and drinking around my son and driving while my son is in the car. And my ex still stays with his grandma which is not a good environment. There is junk and trash all over the place. And inside their is too. I mean really poor environment. I told him if he wanted to see his son he can see him at my house. But he refused. I’m not trying to keep him away from our son, i just don’t trust him by himself with him. If he takes me to court what can i do to get supervised visitations? By the way i’m the state of GA.
By the way he only thinks he suppose to pay child support and do nothing else for our child. My family basically helps all the time. And he does nothing but cause drama.
