How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

I am a fully competent person. I have never been arrested. I have only gotten minor traffic tickets. I have never been an alcoholic or drug-addict. I raised by son from birth to six months old with no supervision but I do not have “proof” that I did. I took care of him unsupervised and did fine. I do not have any mental illnesses. She is saying I should pay an expert to supervise my visitation until the supervisor concludes I am capable of raising a child. I do not see why this is necessary because I am a fully competent person. In most cases I hear of a person is never required to have supervised visitation unless they were alcoholics, drug addicts, felons, etc.
Joe F: True, people who know me. But my son isn’t old enough to speak for me yet.
Well I do not actually have any records because I am not his legal father yet. So, I am not allowed access to his files. She was around. I watched my son in the evenings when I got off work until the next morning and dropped him off before work.

I have a 5 month old baby. My husband (his father) walked out on Christmas Eve, after an arguement as a result of him being drunk and becoming verbally abusive towards me. I have suffered this for several years and only decided that enough was enough after my son was born.

My husband regularly takes cocaine. He SWORE he had given it up when the baby was born, because the baby deserved better and his mood swings and bad temper were making life awful for everybody. A crying baby was always enough to push him over the edge.

He does coke most weekends, but his mood swings are present all of the time. He also drink drives every single weekend.

My husband is now talking about access to our baby. I am terrified to hand my son over to him in case he has one of his temper tantrums (my husband, not the baby) and takes it out on the baby. He would NEVER hit him, but shouting alone is bad enough.

Am I being over protective or should I try to arrange some kind of supervised access? How do I do this?

Any advice appreciated.

My question is the following. Am I able to get a restraining order on my Mother In Law to keep her away from my 8 Month old son being that she is suicidal. She has threatened to commit suicide over simple things showing she is mentally unstable to be around my son. Another question is am I able to request supervised visitation for my son with his father being that he has bought, sold, and distributed drugs also done marijuana, cocaine, etc.?

My ex is an alcoholic..has been for years but I could never prove it..Well recently I have found somethings out that I didnt know before. Like on New Years Eve he was rushed to the hospital after passing out, spitting up blood, and then stopped breathing. When he arrived at the hospital he had a blood alcohol content of .386 (they just called it .4) Then last april I found out he was too intoxicated to take our son to the hosp. for stitches and the neighbor had to do it. The other day his new girlfriend called me at 9:30pm and started calling me names for no reason so drunk she was slurring and not making any sense. My son is very affraid of him and has told the school counselor this and that his dad drinks everyday all day. He makes 29 dollars an hour and hasnt made a house or truck pymnt in 3 months and keeps having his water shut off..what do you think my chances are of getting the supervised visits?

When my husband and I started dating his son was still an infant. He kicked his ex girfriend out finally because she was abusive. Punching him in the faace over and over until he bled from his eyes and one night it was so bad he almost died. She was really bad with cocaine, crack and smoking weed so he just said this is not the environment our son needs and I honestly don’t even love you enough to make something like this work. Unfortunately for me this situation did not get any better. In the last almost 4 years I have had to deal with her being homeless, finding her a place to stay, making sure that I tucked in her son every night and told him that I loved him and mommy loved him too just so he wouldn’t wonder why mommy hadn’t called or came to get him in three weeks, I’ve delt with her crazy screaming fights over my husband trying to look out for the best interests of his child. She is honestly completely insane and has many many many mental problems. She has a very long history of abuse with her family and witnessed her father kill her mother so it’s understandable that she would be a little off balance, but I have taken up her slack and raised her child to what he is. We have custody and when she is stable enough we trade him off every other week so she gets him an equal time, but she is barely ever stable enough to do this. She just called today to get him for the weekend because she said she just got a new apartment. This will be her 6th home in 4 months and it’s beginning to confuse my step son. He will go by his old homes and think she still lives there and want to see her, or go to her old jobs and think she still works there and cry until we go in so he can see she isn’t there. She hasn’t been able to keep a steady living environment because she is hooked on drugs so bad she can’t keep a job. She is about to probably go to jail for shopliffting fromher last job. She says she doesn’t do drugs around her son and that when she has him he is safe and happy. I honestly don’t believe it. i have had to buy groceries for her before because she couldn’t feed him. Or go out and buy clothes for him just so she would have something for him to wear. I’m just honestly getting tired of it all. my husband wants his son to have his mother because he never really had his and mine was absent for a very long time. but this environment is not good for him at all. I want my husband to make it so she has to have special visitation rights until we know that she is stable enough to care for him and I’m not sure how to go about saying this to him. He’s afraid she will take off with his son and honestly he is probably right and she would try. I just am at a loss as to what to do.

my son’s father is a pathalogical liar and uses his children as pawns in his chess game of…getting attention from women, lying, cheating, etc. he’s has a serious selfish problem. he and i were together for six years and in those six years he subjected his children to at least 2 other women and their kids. Now he’s attempting to subject my son to his “new” girlfriend who he met in AA. she’s a pediatric nurse mother of three and a Narcotics Addict. the last girl he cheated on me with thought he lived alone and had this little old dog, for a year he lied to her and continuously took his three kids (one of them, my 3 yr old son) over to her house. While in wal-mart one day, his oldest son, Jamesy asked him, “Daddy, why do you lie to lizzy about where we are going? Daddy why do you live with lizzy when you are seeing Dawn” he told jamesy, “i promise james, i’ll quit cheating on lizzy” at the same time he was buying flowers and asked jamesy to give them to dawn so it looked less romantic and cuter. she bought it. she and i met when he finally checked into detox. Alcohol is just one outlet of his manic ways. he’s up right now and living in vegas “acting” like he’s a changed man. But he’s left two voicemails in the last week and i can tell he has been drinking again. he’s now got his new girlfriend harassing me over texts. i want him to have “supervised” visitation if any at all. right now his eldest son is in counseling at school. he’s 9. he has panic attacks over his dad. he loves his daddy but his daddy has asked him to lie and keep quiet about where they go etc. he’s tells a good lie. i’m afraid the mediator will give him unsupervised visitation when he comes to visit from vegas. we’re in illinois. what are the chances that i can prove he subjects his children to immoral situations. what do i have to do to get my ducks in a row to prove his judgement is impaired. do i need statements from past women, his ex-wife, his eldest son’s school counselor? right now it just looks like we’re all angry women. but i’m trying to protect my child from being hurt like his eldest brother is hurting. HELP.