I left my partner 2 years ago when my son was 4 years old, his dad saw him as and when, always said too busy with work, i get minimal maintenance. When my ex does pick him up he always smells of alcohol and appears drunk to which i say he cannot take him, especially as he is driving. Recently he has a new girlfriend who he has only known for 3 weeks and my son was due to go on an overnight stay but i stopped this because my son did not know this person and to be honest how can my ex know her. My partner says what he does in his house with his son is his business and not mine, need to mention my son is autistic, but i pointed out that when he has slept over before my son always ends up in his dads bed and i asked what would happen if he wanted to do that again, he replied well i’ll let him come into bed. My son also comes back from his dads saying that he calls me names and his half sister who is 21 slags me off as well, my son says he doesn’t want to see him, can i stop him going.
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i have a friend that went her whole pregnancy without drinking and after her son was born she went right back to drinking. shes a blackout drinker. she wants to quit and wants me to get answes on here on how to and wat worked 4 other ppl.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
the baby’s father, (we’ll call him travis), has cheated on me and has been verbally and physically abusive to me, as was his father to him and his mom and sister. both travis and his father also abused drugs. (they both say all that’s in the past, but i wonder sometimes). not only did travis’ father cheat on his mom, but a child came out of one of his affairs.
my father wasn’t abusive, but he stayed out all night on many weekends, leaving my mom with us kids and had at least one affair that i am aware of. my father also abused drugs and alcohol.
i am so scared that my son will grow up to treat women this way and that he will turn to drugs. ever since i found out i was having a boy, i have been thinking of techniques and planning speaches that will hopefully lead my boy on the right path.
i had given travis one too many chances to redeem himself and had finally broke it off with travis 3 weeks before i found out i was having his baby.
i am so scared now that i have brought another life into this mess. with my issues with men after how i’ve been treated for the past 15 years, putting up with lying and cheating and abuse from several bad relationships, and not having a single ounce of trust in men, i don’t know how i am going to pass this along to my son in hopes that he won’t put any female through what me, my mom and travis’ mom has been through… not to mention us kids that witnessed a lot of it.
i know i might be rambling a bit, but does anyone have any suggestions of how to teach my son to treat women respectfully, and to make sure that he treats the ones he cares for extra special?
i have been worrying myself to death about this, even though i won’t know how he will turn out for two more decades. please, some wise words.
i greatly appreciate any and all input.
She has been away from me for sometime. Now she’s home and I’ve found out that she works as a stripper at a nearby strip club. I’m afraid she may be an escort/prostitute as well. She’s out with a different guy almost each night. She is with me because she got evicted from another apartment. I have tried to tell her that stripping has gotten her nowhere. She can’t even hold housing for herself. She has also admitted to cocaine use. She’s too old for me to punish. How can I help her see how wrong it is for her to exploit herself. She laughs at a $300/wk regular job. Child Protection took her 4 yr old son 8 months ago because she sleeps till 1:00 p.m. and the child was unsupervised all the time. She says she loves him and want him back, but she won’t give up the cause of her problems: drugs, alcohol, stripping and whatever else she may be doing. Any advice?
A very pretty 49 yrs old> looks like a barby doll> Has 2 precious sons> A mother and sisters who love her dearly, >,, But to no avail. Won’t or Can’t stop.
Mature advice only please. I am serious. I need honest mature opinions to this problem. I am trying to save my marriage. I have a big problem. My husband is a recovering alcoholic. He has been sober from alcohol for almost 6 months. He is also addicted to pills, mainly xanax and lortabs. He does good for a while, then relapses. I understand this is one of the hardest addictions to try and stop on your own and I am trying to give him all the support I can to help him through this. The problem is… his mother keeps giving him pills behind my back. He finally confessed it to me and now I am stuck with a hard decision to make. What to do about his mother. Do I cut her out of our lives? She is on parole for drug charges herself as she is an addict.. Family traditions huh? I am so angry, I am considering calling her Parole Officer explaining my situation and informing him that she is still doing drugs and every time they call her in for her drug test, she has been using a detox to pee clean, and the shampoo for the hair follicle test. I know this because she told me this. She has already peed dirty once and she denied it and I guess the PO let it slide. Should I go to her PO and tell him what I know to get her out of our lives and away from my husband? Shouldn’t I do something to keep her away? I need help… Please
I have talked to her repeatedly about giving pills to her son and the last time I talked to her, she said, “Well you know he’s never going to quit taking pills”, so I told her, “Not if you keep supplying them he won’t” and she left mad. She knows how I feel, but she doesn’t care. She has been giving him pills since he was a young child, only then she gave him Valium so he would go to bed early so she could stay up and party with her friends. I know this because my husband told me this. He and I are being honest with each other at last. I hate making my husband feel like he is stuck in the middle as he is going through a hard enough time trying to kick his addictions, but his mother has been an enabler to him for so long now. I told him I don’t want her coming to my home that she is not welcome because I can’t trust her to support him or me in our marriage and his recovery. He and I have been going to a church for a year now to find help through the Lord and trying to get our lives straightened out. The devil keeps sending people in our lives trying to mess things up. And on top of all that, his mother decided to come to our church this morning. But not alone…she had brought along a woman who my husband used to go out with and has recently “befriended”, and she knows I can’t stand her. She is trying to cause problems in my life. How do I put a stop to it
I live in logan county Ohio, My ex mother in law is trying to get visitation to my son. however she is an alcoholic and is addicted to pain medication how can I stop her from enforceing grandparents rights in Ohio???
My son told me that two days ago a Freshman boy died in the dorm I got my son out of last fall. He died from a combination of alcohol poisoning and codeine. What, if anything, can the colleges do to prevent these tragedies? They are pretty good at taking tuition money. Do you think they have any more responsibilities toward our children than to present them with the opportunity for a higher education? I thank God my own children have good heads on their shoulders, but I hate to think of kids dying from stupidity and immaturity.
So, I have a 3 year old son (whom I love). I am a single mother, 26 yrs old. The long and short is: my mother who lives locally was an alcoholic for the younger yrs in my life and therfore missed out on most of mine and my brother’s(18) life. So as a result she beleives that she has a 2nd chance or something with my son. She spoils him rotten, undermines my authority while we are all together,,, Basically has told me in not so many words that she doesn’t care to see me, only my son. She is so childish that if she askes to see him(only, never US) and we already have plans, she gets so upset and throws a tantrum and treats me like crap!(guilt trip) She is so dramatic that having an adult conversation with her is virtually imposssible. What can I do to help her understand that she is being overbearing and that this isn’t her 2nd chance in life to make it right with herself???
I’ve been with my partner for 5 yrs and am having a hard time letting go of the resentment I have toward his brother. His brother in his 30s, collecting unemployment and uses people to get by. He treats his “girlfriend” like crap and makes cracks about her weight. He talks about other women like their objects and smokes weed in front of his young son (who seems to think it’s normal and picked up on some of his behaviors). I also resent him because everything just seems to fall into his lap. His g/f takes him on trips to other countries/states, he has job offers all the time and they told him to take his time and let them know when HE wants to work, etc. It makes me so angry because I’ve been struggling trying to find a job and make ends meet and feel he doesn’t deserve these things because of the person he is. I also resent that my partner just laughs along with it and overlooks what he does even though I feel it’s disrestpectful. I try bringing this up but it always starts an argument. My partner feels torn because I don’t like going to visit with his brother and be a part of the family, but he doesn’t understand that his brother’s behavior makes me uncomfortable. What is your opinion? Is there any way to move on and stop resenting him for the sake of my relationship? Please help.
She’s an alcoholic and 2-3 mo. pregnant and won’t stop drinking. What can I do to save the unborn baby? Is there anything I can do? She already lost her 3 mo. old son last year and she drank during that pregnancy too.
My kids have been through a lot. I have bipolar, and my husband is a recently recovered alcoholic. My parents, and sister, who live nearby are totally absent, and emotionally and physically abusive to me.My kids have had noone really besides there messed up folks. Dont get me wrong, I love em to bits, but my old man is emotionally like a brick wall. My son has developed a nervous habit, clearing his throat.It developed while his father was in rehab for 30 days, and never called. He did email me often, but the lack of a call was upsetting.I think my son was shaken by us being just three, with no outside visits or support, for so long.. Now, from the time he gets up, to the time he goes to bed, he is clearing his throat. I have tried therapy, lozenges, and talking with him. often it keeps him up until 1am. I am so worried he will never overcome it. Any advice???!!!
My kids have been through a lot. I have bipolar, and my husband is a recently recovered alcoholic. My parents, and sister, who live nearby are totally absent, and emotionally and physically abusive to me.My kids have had noone really besides there messed up folks. Dont get me wrong, I love em to bits, but my old man is emotionally like a brick wall. My son has developed a nervous habit, clearing his throat.It developed while his father was in rehab for 30 days, and never called. He did email me often, but the lack of a call was upsetting.I think my son was shaken by us being just three, with no outside visits or support, for so long.. Now, from the time he gets up, to the time he goes to bed, he is clearing his throat. I have tried therapy, lozenges, and talking with him. often it keeps him up until 1am. I am so worried he will never overcome it. Any advice???!!!
The three adult kids were glad to see us move out of state and leave our home into the care the youngest and her family. Now, after ten years, we’re back. They have to either move out of our home or live with us 24/7. They hate me for trying to be bosy about its maintainance. They are resentful that they have lost their privacy and autonomy. They won’t move out. The son-in-law provokes me by being mean to our nine year old grandson. But we’re not moving out. I cry, openly, in town, at meetings, and any time I think about them hating me. Will A.A. help?
my 19 year old brother does weed..i found out by going threw his phone..and its very ovious..he DOESNT have a job..and he lives at home with mom and i. (im 13.] and my best friend told me that he sold some to her dads friends son..adn he told my friends dad..and i went over to my cousins and they where getting high and they told me that he does weed and that hes a dealer. hes always ben my hero. he ALWAYS tells me not to do drugs..NEVER to smoke and drink..but he smokes ciggars..drinks.., AND hes on weed. i kno weeds not the worst thing in the world..but still. he was going to collage for law inforcement…but he didnt pass the drug test..i talked to my brother about how i knew and he told me that it wasnt ok and that hes sorry..he doesnt kno that i kno that hes a dealer though..i told my mom that he does..and i told her that hes a dealer..she was shocked..but if u put everything together..it makes sence..
one time he came home and his eyes where SOOO bloodshot.
u could just tell.
EVERYONE knows that hes on weed.
i love my brother SOO much.., so how can i get him to stop.???!
hes ruining his life..adn i CANT jsut sit here and watch. i mean now hes dealing weed..what if he turns into a crack head like my uncle.???
(i dont wanna tell him that i know hes a dealer..maybe later on in life..but not now.]
THANK YOU SOO MUCH IN ADVACE. ANYY advice would be appreacited.
my 19 year old brother does weed..i found out by going threw his phone..and its very ovious..he DOESNT have a job..and he lives at home with mom and i. (im 13.] and my best friend told me that he sold some to her dads friends son..adn he told my friends dad..and i went over to my cousins and they where getting high and they told me that he does weed and that hes a dealer. hes always ben my hero. he ALWAYS tells me not to do drugs..NEVER to smoke and drink..but he smokes ciggars..drinks.., AND hes on weed. i kno weeds not the worst thing in the world..but still. he was going to collage for law inforcement…but he didnt pass the drug test..i talked to my brother about how i knew and he told me that it wasnt ok and that hes sorry..he doesnt kno that i kno that hes a dealer though..i told my mom that he does..and i told her that hes a dealer..she was shocked..but if u put everything together..it makes sence..
one time he came home and his eyes where SOOO bloodshot.
u could just tell.
EVERYONE knows that hes on weed.
i love my brother SOO much.., so how can i get him to stop.???!
hes ruining his life..adn i CANT jsut sit here and watch. i mean now hes dealing weed..what if he turns into a crack head like my uncle.???
(i dont wanna tell him that i know hes a dealer..maybe later on in life..but not now.]
THANK YOU SOO MUCH IN ADVACE. ANYY advice would be appreacited.
