How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

I have a seven year old son (stepson) who I love very much and have always looked at him as my own. To me, he’s my son and will always be. My husband and I have a four year old daugter together and honestly if you asked me to choose one I never could. I’ve been in his life since the baby days and my husband and I have full custody. He’s my little man and he grew up calling me “mommy”. We have been open about the fact that I am not his biological mom since early on and he seems to understand. He hardly asks about his biological mother, but he is aware that she is not in a good situation. The biological mom never wanted him. My husband and her were never married, just dating. She made it clear that she had no interest in being involved with the baby. She’s really gotten herself in a huge mess, drugs and alcohol and so many children that she has no rights to! Occasionally we hear from her (usually about her troubles), I’ve tried to get her to care for her children and offer a little love… Never worked. I do not understand how she cannot love her own son, he is an amzing, loving child who’s the sweetest.

Now, the biological mom is sick. Very ill and is on her last days. She has never seen my son (her son), when he was born she refuses to hold him. Part of me wants my son to go see her because it’s important to see and accept your lines of family. I want him to at least know who his biological mother is. I’ve never talked bad about her, I’ve always been honest. We have tried to encourage him to see her here and there. He’s only seven and I don’t want him to ever think in the future I took away his mother’s spot and never gave him the opportunity to know her. I don’t know if it’s a good idea to let him see her or not. Will it scare him? Confuse him? She’s not the best person and I’m scared she’ll hurt him or say something to crush a seven year old. My husband isn’t too comfortable with the idea. I just think this will be her only chance, she should have some decency.

I have a seven year old son (stepson) who I love very much and have always looked at him as my own. To me, he’s my son and will always be. My husband and I have a four year old daugter together and honestly if you asked me to choose one I never could. I’ve been in his life since the baby days and my husband and I have full custody. He’s my little man and he grew up calling me “mommy”. We have been open about the fact that I am not his biological mom since early on and he seems to understand. He hardly asks about his biological mother, but he is aware that she is not in a good situation. The biological mom never wanted him. My husband and her were never married, just dating. She made it clear that she had no interest in being involved with the baby. She’s really gotten herself in a huge mess, drugs and alcohol and so many children that she has no rights to! Occasionally we hear from her (usually about her troubles), I’ve tried to get her to care for her children and offer a little love… Never worked. I do not understand how she cannot love her own son, he is an amzing, loving child who’s the sweetest.

Now, the biological mom is sick. Very ill and is on her last days. She has never seen my son (her son), when he was born she refuses to hold him. Part of me wants my son to go see her because it’s important to see and accept your lines of family. I want him to at least know who his biological mother is. I’ve never talked bad about her, I’ve always been honest. We have tried to encourage him to see her here and there. The biological mom claims she wants to see him as well, but I don’t know think my son does at all. He’s only seven and I don’t want him to ever think in the future I took away his mother’s spot and never gave him the opportunity to know her. I don’t know if it’s a good idea to let him see her or not. Will it scare him? Confuse him? Will it give him second thoughts about me as his mother figure? I could really use some feedbacks, thanks.

I think I hate my step son!! He is 8, rude, disrespectful, does not use his manners and constantly needs prompting. I have my own son and he is 7.

Everything my son has he wants. He cries if he doesn’t get his own way or doesn’t have the things he wants. obviously my son gets more than him because he lives with us whereas he doesn’t. I can’t afford to keep buying this child things we have to pay his mum a lot of money to keep him and when we do have him every other weekend we still have to feed and cloth him as well as buying him things. I think its up to his mother to buy him toys and games. it would be different if he actually lived with us because it would be our responsibility to buy for him and we wouldn’t be paying his mother. She doesn’t work, so gets everything paid for her by the government and gets all this money to do what ever she wants with. She seems to be spending a lot of it on smoking and weed as well as alcohol.

I just feels so fed up, when we’re not working we got the kids and my boyfriend just seem to want this child of his whenever he can and has forgotten about us!! if we didn’t have the child it would be easy to ship my son off to my mums but i feel guilty to ask of her to have 2 kids.

We do visit my mothers every now and again as wells as other family members and this child is o rude. he does not greet them and has to be promted. when you ask him to use his manners its like getting blood out of a stone!

I don’t want my son copying this behaviour as he has been brought up with manners. My boyfriend and i always seem to argue everythime his son comes. i think the problem is his son because any other time we’re fine.

Please help!!

I have a seven year old son (stepson) who I love very much and have always looked at him as my own. To me, he’s my son and will always be. My husband and I have a four year old daugter together and honestly if you asked me to choose one I never could. I’ve been in his life since the baby days and my husband and I have full custody. He’s my little man. We have been open about the fact that I am not his biological mom since early on and he seems to understand. The biological mom never wanted him. She made it clear that she had no interest in being involved. She’s really gotten herself in a huge mess, drugs and alcohol and so many young children that she has no rights to! I’ve tried to get her to care for her children and it never works. I do not understand how she cannot love her own son, he is an amazing, loving child. I really wish she could offer him some love, I wish she could offer all her children out there some mothering. However, it’s her choice and she’s missing out. I have no hate for her, she did bless me with being able to love and be loved back by this little boy. And he means the world to me, just as equally as my daughter.

Now, the biological mom is sick. On her last days (due to heavy smoking). She has never seen my son (her son), when he was born she refused to hold him. Part of me wants my son to go see her because it’s important to see and accept your lines of family. I want him to at least know who his biological mother is (even if its just the outer layer). He’s only seven and I don’t want him to ever think in the future I took away his mother’s spot and never gave him the opportunity to know her. I don’t know if it’s a good idea to let him see her or not. Will it scare him? She’s not the best person and I’m scared she’ll be rude to him. My husband isn’t too comfortable with the idea. I just think this will be her only chance, she should allow her own blood-child to see her. I just want my little guy to be safe and loved as much as possible.

My husband and I currently have custody of his son. He is 15. His mother is in jail. I was wondering, what should happen should his father and I separate? His father is an alcoholic and his son is only with us because he has no other choice right now. If the father moved out, and I got the house, could his son choose to stay with me? I live in Indiana, and here I can fight for visitation, but can I get custody of a step child if he is old enough to make the decision?

His mother was brought in and signed a statement admitting to marijuana use in the home and serving alcohol to a minor (her daughter not my step son) and child protective services told us we had to take him away pending investigation. Well, so far not charges have not been filed and CPS has yet to file a petition to have him removed from his mother…it’s been a week? No one will tell me how long before he can go home. He’s 16 and 1/2 years old and an honor student with finals coming up. I live in a different school district and it VERY difficult to keep running him back and forth. I’m worried his grade will suffer if he doesn’t get back to his routine. His mother isn’t a danger to him and I feel CPS is way overreacting…she has agreed to drug counseling beginning Tuesday but so far there is no legal paperwork preventing him from going home but we don’t want to make things worse. Everyone is in agreement that he needs to be home but CPS told me if we try to let him go home they will place him in foster care. His father and I find this entire situation stupid and it’s only harming my step son. He needs to sleep in his own bed at night and prepare for exams..why will nobody give us answers? How long does it take for charges to be filed against his mother? Why hasn’t a petition been filed…? How can they prevent my step son from seeing his own mother. If he was a baby and she was stoned that’s one thing but he’s 18 months away from18, doesn’t smoke,drink, A+ student, excels in sports and this is messing him up..even the officer doesn’t think he should be pulled from the home! doesn’t anyone have advice? A lawyer won’t help because charges and petitions haven’t been filed and CPS won’t answer my questions about the future?

very Bizarre problem here: I have a 15 year old step son who has head problems. He has stolen 60 pairs of m undies in the past 4 years! he wears them, destroys, rips, and defecates in them. then he hides them. yikes! a history on him: divorce, anger issues, 2 alcoholic parents.. He steals alot. iq 88. I have 2 small bos and am afraid he will hurt them. this kid is waked!

This morning me and my wife woke up to her younger son telling us that her oldest son was changing the baby (my one month old son). We ran in to the baby’s room and found him on a blanket on the floor with his diaper half off and a bottle of alcohol next to him. Her oldest son who is 8 was trying to change him. He didn’t even need to be changed. The worst part of it is we have no idea what he was using the alcohol for. He has been told many many times that he can not pick the baby up when no one is around and that he should come and get someone if he thinks something is wrong with his new brother. He was trying to be helpful but he could have seriously hurt his brother. What should I do. Like I said I have told him many many times not to pick up his brother.
Hey melissa go to hell my son was not left unsupervised he was in his room with a monitor. I guess you are one of those people who get on here to start agruments. For everyone else thank you for your answers

i caught my 13 year old step son smoking weed (joint) in his room and i had a long talk with him about weed and how its not bad like tobacco and alcohol but i told him to wait and he said yes…hes a straight A student,good kid,doesnt get in trouble….should i trust him? and he told me he ONLY smokes weed nothing else and does it once a week or 2 for 2 months already…

My father is not in good health but has been working 12-14 hour days to support his wife who has been unemployed for several years. She has also threatend to commit suicide before she would see her son live on the street again! So my dad has been stuck paying for her drug addicted son’s rent and grocaries for atleast two years that I know of. Yet every time I talk to her she is sure to tell me how bad my fathers health is and how tight cash is for them. Even though I have not asked for a dime from them since the age of fifteen! She fails to look at how this has affected my fathers health! Please give me some good advice! I really don’t want to keep biting my tongue on this but I am afraid that if I say anything that it will damage my relationship with my father.

Ok I have a four year old step daughter and six year old step son and my husband and I have an 11 month old together, not to mention I am 18 weeks pregnant with our second together. My husband says that I am crazy and that I try to separate the children which in fact is not my intent but I try to make him understand that I do my best to make everything as equal as possible when they are here but that its not a perfect situation and that the family will always be divided in a way because his kids are here one week and at their mothers the next. my husband does not pay child support (its in the papers) at all and thats why we have them 50 percent of the time but its really bad this way because the kids have no stability. i believe they need to be at both places for longer periods of time or one of us needs full custody. anyways my step daughter who i believe is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong gets into things when she knows she is not supposed to. she got into some school supplies of mine in a shoe box on my desk (she was snooping) and took out 3 safety pins at some point while i was going to the bathroom and dropped them in her brothers play pen. I discovered them thankfully before anything happened but i think it was resentment or jealousy towards the baby and/or acting out for attention that she doesnt get from her dad who has pawned them off on me from day 1. i told my husband that she knew better and he says well maybe she is slow (she was born addicted to meth because of her mother) and needs to be tested. i just find it hard to believe that she is slow considering she does not show signs of developmental delays and also i think her older brother might have put her up to it. he lied to my face when i asked him about it. he said he did not know anything. their dad (my husband) talked to them but my husband insists that i am crazy because i think they are out to get me. am i crazy for even thinking that. i believe that at 4 and 6 almost 5 and 7 that they can be manipulative and that they are not stupid. i am not saying they are out to get me or hurt our son but i do think this possibility should be checked into and also having her tested for developmental delays. but my husband just goes into blaming mode. the girl was spanked for what she did last night and they were both grounded to their rooms for a few hours today after we found out they were both lying and were checked on often. i find something very wrong with the fact that when i asked her why she did it after she finally admitted to me that her only answer was cuz. and then her brother to boldly lie to my face. i think they both need serious counseling and i think my husband is trying to turn the problem around on me and say that i am the problem. the whole situation is bad in of itself and i dont know what to do any more. my husband doesnt even think its a big deal to tell their mother what they did and i think its a serious issue that needs to be nipped in the butt now and he some how thinks that i am a bad person and crazy also cuz they wont tell me the truth but they will him well gee i wonder why!!! they are not my biological children and they know that and they resent being shuffled between two places, what else could it possibly be? and to those of you who say you married the kids too, well thats fine and dandy but my own flesh and blood could have been killed and that makes me not want to have those kids in the house if their father can not control them or get them help. i dont think im crazy for wanting that and i do my best to treat them the same but they need to show me respect too and i feel my husband should be on my side and respect my wishes especially since he leaves those kids with me 95 percent of the time because he works more and when he is home he is watching tv among other things as long as i am here. im fed up what should i do? i dont want something worse to happen next time if those kids dont get help and he realizes the seriousness of this situation.

the kids have rules and their own spaces at our house…i resent the situation and my husband for allowing it to be the way that it is…and my husband changed a lot since we got married expecting that everything in our family is to be “normal” and that i am their mother (meaning take her place when they are here) and i think the kids resent that….and the girl was snooping through my things the box was up higher on my desk where she would have had to have gotten a chair to climb up there and grab it. they have been known to be sneaky like that before. i left the room for 2 min to go to the bathroom…the baby was in his play pen. and the kids have also been warned time and time again how dangerous small objects and toys are to babies. HELLO?

Ok I have a four year old step daughter and six year old step son and my husband and I have an 11 month old together, not to mention I am 18 weeks pregnant with our second together. My husband says that I am crazy and that I try to separate the children which in fact is not my intent but I try to make him understand that I do my best to make everything as equal as possible when they are here but that its not a perfect situation and that the family will always be divided in a way because his kids are here one week and at their mothers the next. my husband does not pay child support (its in the papers) at all and thats why we have them 50 percent of the time but its really bad this way because the kids have no stability. i believe they need to be at both places for longer periods of time or one of us needs full custody. anyways my step daughter who i believe is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong gets into things when she knows she is not supposed to. she got into some school supplies of mine in a shoe box on my desk (she was snooping) and took out 3 safety pins at some point while i was going to the bathroom and dropped them in her brothers play pen. I discovered them thankfully before anything happened but i think it was resentment or jealousy towards the baby and/or acting out for attention that she doesnt get from her dad who has pawned them off on me from day 1. i told my husband that she knew better and he says well maybe she is slow (she was born addicted to meth because of her mother) and needs to be tested. i just find it hard to believe that she is slow considering she does not show signs of developmental delays and also i think her older brother might have put her up to it. he lied to my face when i asked him about it. he said he did not know anything. their dad (my husband) talked to them but my husband insists that i am crazy because i think they are out to get me. am i crazy for even thinking that. i believe that at 4 and 6 almost 5 and 7 that they can be manipulative and that they are not stupid. i am not saying they are out to get me or hurt our son but i do think this possibility should be checked into and also having her tested for developmental delays. but my husband just goes into blaming mode. the girl was spanked for what she did last night and they were both grounded to their rooms for a few hours today after we found out they were both lying and were checked on often. i find something very wrong with the fact that when i asked her why she did it after she finally admitted to me that her only answer was cuz. and then her brother to boldly lie to my face. i think they both need serious counseling and i think my husband is trying to turn the problem around on me and say that i am the problem. the whole situation is bad in of itself and i dont know what to do any more. my husband doesnt even think its a big deal to tell their mother what they did and i think its a serious issue that needs to be nipped in the butt now and he some how thinks that i am a bad person and crazy also cuz they wont tell me the truth but they will him well gee i wonder why!!! they are not my biological children and they know that and they resent being shuffled between two places, what else could it possibly be? and to those of you who say you married the kids too, well thats fine and dandy but my own flesh and blood could have been killed and that makes me not want to have those kids in the house if their father can not control them or get them help. i dont think im crazy for wanting that and i do my best to treat them the same but they need to show me respect too and i feel my husband should be on my side and respect my wishes especially since he leaves those kids with me 95 percent of the time because he works more and when he is home he is watching tv among other things as long as i am here. im fed up what should i do? i dont want something worse to happen next time if those kids dont get help and he realizes the seriousness of this situation.

she and her brother have been warned time and time again that small toys and objects are not for babies. they have rules and boundaries in our house. they knew better unless obviously there is some mental issue with the girl because of her mothers meth use. my husband forces me to pretend that we are a “normal” family and that i am the kids’ mother and he doesnt deal with the real mother..guess who has to do it? ME and i dont think its right. i dont resent the kids. i resent him and the situation he has made for our family. a lot of things changed when he married me he expected me to basically take the total place of their mother and i dont think they like that and thats why i feel they are being resentful….you cant you people see that?!

Ok I have a four year old step daughter and six year old step son and my husband and I have an 11 month old together, not to mention I am 18 weeks pregnant with our second together. My husband says that I am crazy and that I try to separate the children which in fact is not my intent but I try to make him understand that I do my best to make everything as equal as possible when they are here but that its not a perfect situation and that the family will always be divided in a way because his kids are here one week and at their mothers the next. my husband does not pay child support (its in the papers) at all and thats why we have them 50 percent of the time but its really bad this way because the kids have no stability. i believe they need to be at both places for longer periods of time or one of us needs full custody. anyways my step daughter who i believe is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong gets into things when she knows she is not supposed to. she got into some school supplies of mine in a shoe box on my desk (she was snooping) and took out 3 safety pins at some point while i was going to the bathroom and dropped them in her brothers play pen. I discovered them thankfully before anything happened but i think it was resentment or jealousy towards the baby and/or acting out for attention that she doesnt get from her dad who has pawned them off on me from day 1. i told my husband that she knew better and he says well maybe she is slow (she was born addicted to meth because of her mother) and needs to be tested. i just find it hard to believe that she is slow considering she does not show signs of developmental delays and also i think her older brother might have put her up to it. he lied to my face when i asked him about it. he said he did not know anything. their dad (my husband) talked to them but my husband insists that i am crazy because i think they are out to get me. am i crazy for even thinking that. i believe that at 4 and 6 almost 5 and 7 that they can be manipulative and that they are not stupid. i am not saying they are out to get me or hurt our son but i do think this possibility should be checked into and also having her tested for developmental delays. but my husband just goes into blaming mode. the girl was spanked for what she did last night and they were both grounded to their rooms for a few hours today after we found out they were both lying and were checked on often. i find something very wrong with the fact that when i asked her why she did it after she finally admitted to me that her only answer was cuz. and then her brother to boldly lie to my face. i think they both need serious counseling and i think my husband is trying to turn the problem around on me and say that i am the problem. the whole situation is bad in of itself and i dont know what to do any more. my husband doesnt even think its a big deal to tell their mother what they did and i think its a serious issue that needs to be nipped in the butt now and he some how thinks that i am a bad person and crazy also cuz they wont tell me the truth but they will him well gee i wonder why!!! they are not my biological children and they know that and they resent being shuffled between two places, what else could it possibly be? and to those of you who say you married the kids too, well thats fine and dandy but my own flesh and blood could have been killed and that makes me not want to have those kids in the house if their father can not control them or get them help. i dont think im crazy for wanting that and i do my best to treat them the same but they need to show me respect too and i feel my husband should be on my side and respect my wishes especially since he leaves those kids with me 95 percent of the time because he works more and when he is home he is watching tv among other things as long as i am here. im fed up what should i do? i dont want something worse to happen next time if those kids dont get help and he realizes the seriousness of this situation.

she and her brother have been warned time and time again that small toys and objects are not for babies. they have rules and boundaries in our house. they knew better unless obviously there is some mental issue with the girl because of her mothers meth use. my husband forces me to pretend that we are a “normal” family and that i am the kids’ mother and he doesnt deal with the real mother..guess who has to do it? ME and i dont think its right. i dont resent the kids. i resent him and the situation he has made for our family. a lot of things changed when he married me he expected me to basically take the total place of their mother and i dont think they like that and thats why i feel they are being resentful….you cant you people see that?!
isnt is amazing that just cuz of the fact that i say they are my step children people automatically assume i dont love them?!!? i am tired of being blamed for shit that just isnt true..unless you are in the situation or a similar situation you just cant really fathom the whole deal completely. our society is really screwed up by the media and old crappy fairy tales like cinderella and hansel and gretel…get real people and grow up…thanks to those who understand my frustration and pain…but im some how a horrible person if i am upset because they are my step children….maybe i should have never mentioned step and you woulda maybe spoke differently….i dont think its fair that people feel they need to be treated better or differently because they are step children who are put upon. BULL SHIT those kids are shown plenty of attention at our household by me…how come none of you think their father has a problem…hes the one that doenst pay attention to them!
isnt is amazing that just cuz of the fact that i say they are my step children people automatically assume i dont love them?!!? i am tired of being blamed for shit that just isnt true..unless you are in the situation or a similar situation you just cant really fathom the whole deal completely. our society is really screwed up by the media and old crappy fairy tales like cinderella and hansel and gretel…get real people and grow up…thanks to those who understand my frustration and pain…but im some how a horrible person if i am upset because they are my step children….maybe i should have never mentioned step and you woulda maybe spoke differently….i dont think its fair that people feel they need to be treated better or differently because they are step children who are put upon. BULL SHIT those kids are shown plenty of attention at our household by me…how come none of you think their father has a problem…hes the one that doenst pay attention to them!

i was walking in my step son’s room for something…he was smoking a joint….i dont know what to say so i just closed the door.(.weed isnt bad as tobacco and alcohol but can be if you smoke it all the time)IDK if i SHOULD lecture him or encourage him what should i do?? hes a good kid funny,smart,and more.. he’s not a trouble maker and he listens to me and his mom.. what should i do? should i lecture him as tell him to wait?

I have been with my partner for almost 2 years. In this time, his ex wife has had joint custody of the children (3-14y,13y,5y) and has had a total of 12 boyfriends. As each boyfriend leaves the picture a new one enters. The second to last one sent my partner an email that she had written between a friend, where she talks about her cocaine abuse, bloody noses, and passing out, etc, while the children were with her. We called Children’s Aid, but to our dismay they said there was nothing they could do…. they can not make her do a drug test as it violates her rights (What about the CHILDREN”S RIGHTS???!?!) Regardless, her most recent ex boyfriend argued with her that her cocaine addiction was too much for him, in front of our 14 year old son. This past weekend, he cried, and is very worried about her use. At the time, he is wondering if she does it, and says that the newest boyfriend is a dealer according to his friends. CAS has not helped us to this point ….what can we do??

My Brother is 24, and has a 4 year-old son, whom he has custody of. My Brother has not had a job since he was 17 and worked 2 days a week at a pet store for 3 months. He is a heroin addict, and has been going to a methadone clinic for over a year now. He claimed he was off the junk, but then OD’d last month, had a seizure, and ended up in the hospital where we found all his fresh track marks. He has 4 teeth left in his mouth from doing drugs, including a 3 year addiction to meth. He has pretty much been a drug addict since our parents divorced when he was 10. Yes, you read that right, 10. He drinks about a 1.75 ltr. of booze every Friday and Saturday, when his son goes to his mother’s for her visitation time. She isn’t any better. She is extremely verbally and emotionally abusive to her son, and is also a drug addict and a heavy drinker, although not as bad as my brother.

My brother’s home is a disaster zone. There is no clean places to walk through, and in all my travels across the US I have NEVER seen even a public toilet as gross as his toilet is. He does not own a vacuum, and has lived in his current apartment for 9 months without it being cleaned once. There is trash and old food everywhere in their place, and dirty laundry piled up 3 feet high (no exaggeration). My brother smokes, as does his father, like a chimney, and together they smoke 5 packs a day. They have no problem smoking around the kid, who has had a permanent smokers cough since he was 2 months old.

My nephew is a great kid, who is starting to really show the signs of all the abuse and neglect he is given. He was potty trained, but has recently begun to crap his pants again. He does it constantly now, and also randomly chooses to pee on his own bed. Not wet the bed, but rather it will be the middle of the day, and he will stand up and pee on his bed. He also eats terribly, and most of the time his diet at home consists of doughnuts and power bars and pop and candy, which my brother and his dad whom he lives with thinks is a perfectly fine diet.

My nephew comes over to either my home or my mother’s home and always asks us if he can live with us, and gets very upset when it is time to go. Not a tantrum (I have 3 girls of my own, I know the difference), but genuinely sad that he has to go back to that environment. When he is at my home, he never has an accident in his pants. He eats great, and sleeps through the night no problem. He is a great little kid, and I am having such a hard time knowing what to do!

My mother keeps trying to give my brother the benefit of the doubt, but I just think enough is enough. My brother is moving out this week, into an apartment with an alcoholic friend of his who also has Hep. C, and he sees no problem with this. The guy also lives in a VERY bad area in Minneapolis.

I love my brother, and I know he had a very tough childhood, but I am right in feeling like he needs to grow up and put his son first? Should I step in and contact child services? Reading what I have written, it almost seems so obvious, but, when it comes to family, it never is.

I recently went home for mother’s day and saw my 41 year old stepbrother. I hadn’t seen him in 9 months since the death of my stepfather. Anyways, he was 60 pounds thinner, his face was sunken and dry and he was having an abscessed tooth and got antibiotics from the local clinic. Those signs all point to meth addiction. I do know he was addicted to herion in the 80s and he said he cleaned up. I don’t really know that much about my step-brother as I don’t seem him but once a year, but it concerns me that he could be an addict. Especially around my mother who lives alone now. He doesn’t work much because he has “vertigo” and he has diabetes and hepititis C from his drug use years ago. Could all his symptoms be a sign of those deseases or of meth use? His 18 year old son recently got busted for pot and is in front of the judge this week. I care about them because they are family and I wonder what I can do, short of confrontation -he walks out the door when confronted about anything.Advice?

2 yrs ago my husbands son came to live with us full time cause his mother is a alcoholic & the social took him off her due 2 her neglecting him. his mother wud get drunk & rather pick him up from school drunk & embarrass him or forget 2 pick him up completely. She is a very violent woman, hence y my husband left her in the first place & she often got in2 fights or arguments where the police wud b called, she wud wee on the floor or the chairs in her house & obviously my step son wud b witnessing all this.So eventually she agreed 2 sign liam over 2 us. We always saw liam every 2 weeks & iv known him since he was 1 so he was very familiar with us. His mum was never violent 2 him, infact i think they were quite close. The problem is we r having trouble with him now, & i dont no wether his past has done some damage. hes in constant need of attention, no matter how much u give him, he rarely does as he is asked, he grumps constantly over the most stupid things, always looking 4 sympathy.

They video taped it and now he wants to put it on you tube. I’m so scared because I’m on probation for smoking meth.