My son is 14 and he is a very good boy, but I worry because I know how young I was when temptations started. (to smoke pot, drink, etc.) He has ADD and things aren’t always a breeze for him, so I am afraid he will turn to drugs at some point. I tell him often (without nagging) to wait until he is 21 to decide whether or not to drink and he seems to listen. I heard that alcohol affects the development of the frontal lobe of the brain, so I remind him from time to time that he is just so much better off without it. I also don’t want to seem like I am preaching. I am a waitress and I have tended bar, so he knows I am not anti-alcohol. I just want him to make age-appropriate decisions. If anyone has any added incentive for kids to stay abstinate, please let me know. Thanks!
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Started dating this guy in high school, we both moved when i went to college. everything was great. 2 1/2 years into it i find out he’s been cheating since the beginning. keep in mind he also has a felony record, drug and alcohol problems, and is a chronic liar. ever since i got pregnant, he’s been faithful and tried to change the rest. we have again moved, and he’s holding a good job, off drugs, and doing well with the alcohol. He’s a great dad, when he wants or has to be. but otherwise, he’s pretty selfish and childish. the more time i spend thinking about leaving the less hard it seems. i really do want to salvage the relationship for my son, but i know that getting into a bad marriage is worse than no marriage at all. i’m really sick and tired of being his mom too. he’s never lived on his own and can’t take care of his own bills and needs, how can i expect him to take care of me and our son? not much time to decide!!! stay and get married, or leave and be a single mom. i know i can
my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle
my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle
my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle
my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle
my husband is an alcoholic and he’s mean to me when he drinks he always tries to bring me down he’s he always comes on to my best friend i don’t know what to do i love him but his drinking is too much for me to handle
married 12 yrs. had a difficult yrs.but loved my son more than anybodyelse. he wants to be with his dad.my financial is not really secure. had few debts. But my hubby is alcoholic,illegal smoker. and he is lost affection, attention,appreciation towards me.
My son has a bath net to hold his toys in and it is connected to two cute sea animals with suction cups behind them. I cannot get the suction cups to stick, it keeps falling. I have tried cleaning the tile with alcohol and let dry before using.
A drinking alcoholic, not going to AA, and it has affected the children already… the 8 year old son doesn’t even like to go to restaurants that have bars, refers to people in movies as drunk (like if the character can’t remember something or acts strange), etc. The 12 year old girl says she doesn’t even want to get married and will never drink alcohol…these are just a couple of examples, but it is clear that these kids have been permanently affected. The dad “falls off the wagon” every few months and spends lots of the family’s money and sometimes doesn’t come home…or comes home and the family has to flee so that he won’t act crazy around the kids.
Would you look at it like, “the damage is already done” or “I need to prevent further damage” or what?
If you feel that the wife/mother in the situation should leave, but hasn’t, how if at all would you try to encourage her?
This is about my sister’s family and it breaks my heart. Her kids were two of the happiest people I’ve ever seen and they are being hurt by his actions.
She has been going to al-anon for years, even after he dropped out of AA, but she hasn’t been going as consistently the last year or so.
Oops–I forgot my niece just turned 13… and she is interested in boys and has chosen a guy her mom totally doesn’t approve of who her mom describes as “having issues.”
My teen is 17 yrs old. I kicked him out recently cause he has made a change in the last 3 months. All he wants to do is talk on his phone during all hours of the night. He is falling alseep in the bathroom in the morning when he goes to school. I have talked to him since it started 3 months ago. He is smart and his grades have dropped. He has became a slob.He is the type of teen that never wore his cloth twice. Now he wears the same clothes over and over. Dirty socks and underwear in his room all over the place. Like i said before he was always a clean teen. He gets offeneded for every little thing. In my home when u have a chore u have to do it. I told him that he could’nt go out until he shapes up. I gave him a talk a few times to see what’s up. He says he is stressed cause I am telling him what to do, so i said there are rules and if u dont like it u know what to do. Get out! He is also eating more junk food than ever. Is my son on some drug? He has always been a good kid and a home kid. I think I gave him too much freedom and look what happened. He knows about drugs and alcohol. He had the talk with me and my husband plenty of times. I am not a drug addict or alcoholic. My husband either. Should I take him back when he knocks on my door? Do you think he is on drugs? This kid is a kid that respects others. He gave me back talk that I have never seen in him. I am concerned more about school. Had a 85% average and now it is 72%. That is a big drop. From getting b’s to getting d’s and maybe a C somewhere. He curfew used to be 10pm and he used to come at 11pm alot. I let him slide on that, but I can’t do this anymore. I was reading about the signs of drug abuse in a teen and he has more than 3 of them, but does that mean that he is using? If he cooperates with me I will give him a blood test, if not then he cant come to my home. I just want an adult who has a teenager to give your opinion on it. Teens dont respond to this cause I dont want to here your ignorant comments plz.
My husband and I were on the fast path. We met at work, bought a house after 2 months, pregnant after 8 months and engaged after 9 months of dating. I have a son from a previous relationship and my husband and him are the best of friends. 6 months before we got married my husband tried to commit suicide after I left him from yet another one of his spending sprees. For 2 years he would go on binges of spending, blow up credit cards, blow through are savings and then say he was sorry and would never do it again. After I would rebuild the savings he would go on another shopping spree. I finally gave up and left him, 2 days later we were in the hospital because he tried to kill himself. He got diagnosed with being Bipolar. I am a nurse so I understood all about this. I choose to forgive him and go on with life and the wedding. He was put on meds and started counseling.
We got married and had a beautiful wedding, everything I had ever dreamed of. We then went on our homeymoon and was away for a week. We then had a week at home wit the kids before work started again. We work at the same place so everyone knows are business. 3 days after being at work him and another co-worker started talking. One thing led to another, they exchanged numbers and well after 5 days of talking to her he tells me he is not in love with me and leaving me for another girl. This all happened 3 weeks and 1 day after we got married.
He moved out of the house and into his mothers.For the next 3 days he was with her. No sex but fooling around, BJs, emails and sexting. After those 3 days he was calling me asking me what happened. He couldnt remember. When he found I we were over, again he wanted to kill himself. We were back at the ER for a pysch eval. This time he got sent away for 15 days at a behavioral health center for intense counseling and medication adjustments, they said he was in a manic phase, part of being Bipolar.
It has been 3 months since he told me the news. He just moved back in last week as well as went back to work. My life has been a mess. The other women also works with us. I just cant seem to get the images out of my head. He is trying, taking his medication, going to outpatient therapy and has found God, attending church which he has never done in the past. He showers me with notes, cards, affection and so on. I have seen all this before though when he messes up. I have no trust for him. I wake up every morning wondering when and what will be the next time that he hurts me. I dont know if he can be faithful. I love him but hurt so much. I dont feel like its true, pure love anymore. I just am so confused and dont know what to do. Some of my own family wont even talk to me anymore because I chose to marry him. Help, please help with any advice.
my friends son is in drug court and the test came back positive but he don’t drink, and thats not why he’s in drug court but they told her that her son had to have drank the alcohol, I told her that if he tested positive on one day and took another test the next day he should have come up positive on the second day am i right.
i recently found out that my childs father is doing meth he has our 3 year old son every other weekend but has been known to leave him with is sisters so he can go out instead, my worry is if he is going out and doing this stuff or doing it around our son, could he have this in his system as well? and what exactly can i do, can i have my son tested or does it have to be in a certain amount of time after him being around his father, obviously i dont know much about this drug. i need help i do not under any circumstances what my son around that nasty crap, what should i do??
already planned on not letting him go there i just need to know how i get it proved because it is court ordered that he goes every other weekend
my son used on last satruday how long will crack stay in his system
I am getting married and i wanted to have a few drinks to celebrate but i am nursing my son. How long does alcohol stay in breast milk? And how long after should i wait to nurse?
we have 2 boys (13, 16) i’m scared they’ll be influenced as dad is mad about this son.
Hes a weed smoking, crack and vicodin addict, lazy, unemployed male who is a terrible influence on his son.
I’m looking for suggestions not comments on the question
My family is questioning why I would not want my nephew in my house *especially* now that I have kids. ??? He has not sought help (never went to rehab or acknowledged that he has a problem), is extremely violent towards his immediate family (i.e., death threats)), has vandalized his parents’ home several times… I *love* my nephew and hope that he recovers from his addictions, but I am a parent who has an obligation to protect my own children. There was no nice way to break it to my family even though I tried. Now, I am being regarded as the bad guy. I seriously don’t understand… Am I the one who is crazy here? How would you have responded in this situation?
Me and my boyfriend have known each other for 7 years and have been together for 2 of them we have an 9 month old son as well. Now me and my boyfriend has had our arguments and have even fought but not like this night im about to tell u about.
Me and my boyfriend had been having problems for about 2 weeks i would stay gone n we would not sleep in the same bed when i got home.
Now on a saturday i left and later on that night at like 1 or 2 a.m. i get a phone call sayin that my boyfriend was super drunk had lost his phone and was tryin to drive so i went to go get him and told him to let me take him home he told me no and started yelling at me which turned to him pushing me hard to the ground in the parking lot and then we started fighting and i stopped and he kept coming at me dragging me by my hair banging my head to the ground stomping me punching me…everything and then he was sent to detox i did not press charges.
Now the next day i packed my shit and was ready to go but he got home early he tried to kiss me and i moved away he said whats wrong and i was like you dont know and he said that he did not remember i explained to him what had happened in detail of how he beat me and he could not believe it. I told him that me and his son was leaving and he started begging for me to stay and not to go and crying this went on for 2 hours he said that he promise never to do it again and that he made a huge mistake and that he would be better. Then he started talking about getting engaged and how much he love me and need me and for me to give him another chance i told him i already have several times he said that he knows but for me to please give him one more….
I know this is long but should i really stay?
