he has made it clear that just because he is going to see the beautiful face of our child (who is due in 2 weeks) that it is not going to change his views on alcohol. we don’t even sleep in the same room anymore because I lay awake every night crying about his attitude and the person he becomes when he is drinking…he says that if i can’t shut up and let him get some sleep before work, then to sleep in the living room, which is what I have started doing without him even saying anything anymore. I convince myself before I allow him to drink that it is going to be different on this particular night, but it never is. So I am aware that I am enabling him. However, I don’t work, so it’s not really my place to say what he can spend his money on. He supports me financially, because I have not been able to work throughout my entire pregnancy due to medical problems (extreme dehydration among other things). What can i do to get him to realize what he is doing is wrong? I can’t take the stress, it makes my blood pressure sky-rocket. and yes, i have tried talking to him, but he admits he is selfish but still doesn’t quit. He is always using the child against me saying “I paid for everything for him and all you have done is complain throughout this whole pregnancy, I’m the only one who has had to sacrifice anything” yet he claims that our child is his life. He just doesn’t act like this child is his life. I can’t exactly leave him, i am new to this area, i don’t know anyone yet except my doctor, and all my family lives a few hundred miles away at least. I can’t financially support myself and a baby right now until i can get my job back after i have the baby. please help?
i’m sorry know i am in the pregnancy section and this isn’t really a pregnancy question, but I am in this section a lot and i feel most comfortable with asking in this section.
wow…the mess i got myself into? my boyfriend and i were together for 2 years before we even started trying to have a baby. we both wanted this child. idiot
and just to be clear, the alcoholism didn’t start until i finally did get pregnant.
April- thank you for not attacking me. for the record, yes, I have a bachelor’s degree and My previous job is still secured for when I am able to return to the workplace. Your line > “The best thing to do is plan. Do not plan on him supporting you.” makes a lot of sense. I need to make a plan
