My son is 19 years old and his fiancee and him attend UF And live around 4-5 hours away. Well anyways his fiancee is pregnant with there first child she claims she missed a pill and that is how she got pregnant. And well anyways my son made it clear before that, that he was not ready to become a father until they were out of school. Well he somewhat flipped out on his fiancee and that is why his fiancee and him came to my house when she broke the news to him. Well anyways his fiancee are close i consider her a daughter i never had. Well anyways we were talking the other night and she told me she has noticed that my son has been drinking a massively amount. He was in the ER the day before her and i talked for alcohol poisoning. And he is still talking she say’s she trys to talk to my son and comfort him and everything but he is just pushing her away. I am thinking about driving down there and sitting down with my son and having a talk with him because if he keeps up at this pace he will hurt himself or even die and i do not want to lose my son. And i also want him to understand that he can not be like this around his baby or his fiancee and that he could lose them both. Advice?
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I am not sure where to begin. My 16 year old son, has been in and out of trouble for drug use.
I will preface this with I have my hands FULL besides his issues of what seems to be a constant habit of messing up. I have a child who is three with a chronic condition which requires hospital stays several times a year, a baby, and two other children.
Long story short, I had to show a case of tough love and call the cops on him for bringing marijuana in the house thus endangering other family members. I almost, I repeat almost wish I turned a blind eye on it because I feel like not only is he on probation, but I am being treated like some kind of criminal by his probation officer.
I have complied with everything they asked, when I have issues or have reason to suspect anything of my son I call the po, and do the best I can to try to get him on the right path. However, when my son messes up (example, he was on house arrest all summer and unknown to me, after all I do have to sleep sometimes, he snuck out a couple of times during this summer) and his po yelled and me and asked if I encouraged it after it getting back to him that he did this!
Umm, no, I just want him to get through the program and I would never do anything like that but I can’t have control over him 24/7. I feel this man is out to get me and drag me under the bus. My son while on probation is in this program as well, called drug court, and we meet with a judge and panel including his po every two weeks. Well, last drug court meeting, his po surprised me with a rumor he had heard which was, in small words embellished. See, before all of this happenend, my son’s friends brought over this stuff they call legal bud. It’s supposed to be like a legal alternative to getting high and being over 18, I took a small puff of it out of curiousity (look, I don’t even drink alcohol let alone do anything illegal) and then felt REALLY stupid for it and proceeded to tell said friends to remove this stuff from my home, that while legal, it is not good to do. So, here it is, many, months after the fact and his po says he heard from some kids that I did “substances’ with my son, and I explained to him what happened, and he STILL told this to the judge! I explained my case to the judge and he seemed okay with it, but I was furious that this po seemed to throw me under the bus and for what? I said to the po I would willingly submit drug tests to prove my innocence and said you can search my home and find nothing and he was like ‘ I will do just that’. Like I said, I have nothing to hide, but I also feel very violated at the idea of having to pee in a cup in front of someone when I did nothing illegal and does he have the power to do this to me?
Other problems I have with him is that he will give me maybe an hour’s advance notice for a meeting, and say I have other issues like once he did this and I was about to take my sick child mentioned earlier to her neurologist (you have to book these appointments there 6 months in advance and she had just got out of the hospital so I HAD to get her there) and he gave me some sort of attitude about it.
Another part of this program that is required of my son is that he is to attend the YMCA twice a week. The court gives the whole family access to it, but me and the other kids don’t get to utilize it too much because we have so many other things going on in a day and besides, we are not the ones on probation. One time, the po raised his voice to me in MY dining room about the rest of the family not going enough. Like I said, it’s MY SON on probation, not the rest of us! And on the same visit, he asked my 15 year old daughter who has NEVER been in trouble in her life, who is very timid and a straight A student in a rather mean tone, ‘SO, are you doing legal bud too’?
I guess the bottom line is this; Should he be allowed to nag the rest of us like this? I am at my wits end with stress dealing with my son who doesn’t seem to want to follow rules, have him in counseling, drug treatment, and feel like I have to devote so much to him and not be able to divide my time properly with my other children.
Other things to note; My I remarried, and my husband works a lot, and tries to help when he can, but as far as his father goes, he lives in a different state and sees him once maybe twice a year and says he washed his hands of the situation and won’t even take him to live with him.
The only reason I “ratted’ him out was because his former po said that if I did not, and I knew he had it in the house, I could lose my other kids. If I knew the reprocutions it would bring to my whole family, including him, I would NEVER have done it.
Legal weed is something I tried ONE TIME only. That was the only sort of substance I think I have done in many years(since my own teen years) , including alcohol.
Sadly, he also didn’t just “smoke a little weed”. He got into prescription drugs and alcohol as well.
Pigdaddy: So I should have just “ignored’ and had them find out I let him have it in the house and then have DFS take my other kids away?
Before this, I was not as ‘experienced” in dealing with people in government and thought you did what they said or else.
I guess this is what I get for posting this on the internet.
Oh where to begin… First, I just want to say I’ve already looked for advice from my mother and a bunch of other people… But I want to hear it from an outsider. So……
My son’s father and I had been together for almost 7 years. We got together when I was 14 going on 15 (I am now 21). When I turned 17, we moved in together, and had been living with each other up until this most recent March. June 2008, we had a son. We’ve had a colorful history, full of ups and downs, but we got through the good times and the hard times TOGETHER, always. We had a lot of problems… Mostly money and financial issues, and all the other problems were us fighting over his drinking habits and basically choosing alcohol and his friends over his family. Due to him not working for almost a year, we were evicted from our home back in March. We both agreed (while angry and fighting) that we couldnt wait to get away from each other, and not have to see each other’s faces anymore. So we broke up. I moved in with my mom, he moved in with his brother. We continued seeing each other, hanging out, all that fun stuff. We were UNOFFICIALLY “together”.
Then in June, I started talking to an old friend, whom I had known for quite a few years. We started dating. My mom kicked my son and I out, so after only a month of dating this new guy, I moved in with him. (Wow, right?)
Obviously, this almost killed my son’s father. He hates that I’m living in another household with another guy who gets to see his son more than he does. He says he’s changed… That he no longer drinks anymore, nor that he has the desire to. He finally got a job, got a car, got his license back, and is back in school for Criminal Justice. He seems to be making a step towards a better life, which is all I had been asking for from the beginning. He says he regrets the things he did to make him lose his family, and that when he goes to sleep at night, all he has to cry on and hold is a pillow, and that kills me.
Problem is, I’m scared. And I know this new guy Im with is different. He’s an amazing guy, he’s done nothing but try to make me happy, and I do nothing but try to push him away. But there’s half of me that’s telling me “Despite how great of a guy he is, relationships are ALWAYS great in the beginning”. They’re both fighting for me. And I dont know what to do. The new guy says we can have our own new family, and that just because my son’s father and I had a baby together, doesn’t make us a family. I disagree. I’m old fashioned when it comes to that, because I’ve always wanted and dreamt of a family with my son’s father… And then it happened, but our hearts were in two different places. I’m extremely defensive when it comes to people talking about my son’s father. So when the new guys says things like… “He doesn’t love you like I do, He’s selfish and only wants you because he doesn’t want anyone else to have you”… I flip out. And I basically tell him it’s none of his business, when in reality, it is lol. He IS my boyfriend after all.
So I guess my question is, Should I move out of my new boyfriends house, and try again with my son’s father? I’ll always love him, and I know deep down inside that I’m never going to get over him. I will always want my family with him… No matter how happy I am in this new relationship. I want to believe he’s changed, and a part of me does believe it. I know he wants to make me happy and have his family back together again, and I want that too. But I feel stuck. I feel like I can’t make a decision because I dont want to hurt anyone. And it’s driving me NUTS. I know I have to hurt someone, but I don’t want to hurt the wrong person so I’ve just been avoiding the issue… But I have to decide. I can’t keep wondering, and bouncing back and forth with my feelings. I have to hurt someone. I don’t know how though. :/
It’s like… I have to choose between a 3 MONTH relationship, and a 7 YEAR relationship. It should be a pretty easy choice lol.. But I cannot, for the life of me, decide. Only because I don’t want someone to get hurt. But EVERYONE in the situation is hurting now, Me, my son’s father, and the new boyfriend. So something needs to get done, and I am desperate for advice from an outsider.
Should I go back to my son’s father and make a fresh start? A new beginning? And do it right this time? Or should I take a chance with someone else who I have only been with for 3 months, and moved in with after only 1 month? :/ Help, for the love of God lol.
I can’t afford a place on my own just yet, which is why I had to move in with the new boyfriend. I do have elsewhere to go, but its with my son’s fathers brother & sister in law. (The same one HE lived with when we first got evicted). And I have noticed a change in my son’s father. My birthday was in July for example, and my son’s father just bought me a card and a gift, and it said “I’m sorry I missed your birthday. If you’ll let me, I’ll never miss another one again”.. Little things like that.. He’s changed from being an a-hole, to being sweet and caring and considerate.
I’m throwing a party for my son’s birthday at my mom and dad’s, and they’re concerned about potential lawsuits. So I have 3 areas where legal insight would be greatly appreciated:
Alcohol: My husband and I would like to have a keg there for the adults. My parents are concerned that if we provide alcohol, they could be sued if someone drives from our property drunk. I thought that property owners could be sued no matter what, even if party guests brought their OWN alcohol. Does it really matter WHO purchases the alcohol if guests leave my mom and dad’s drunk? We don’t plan on letting people drive home intoxicated, but you can only control grown people to an extent. Are there any legal precautions/disclaimers that we can use to prevent a lawsuit involving alcohol?
My parents have a swimming pool. Can guests sue if they are injured in the pool? What precautions can be taken to prevent a lawsuit concerning the pool?
I have a friend whose husband gets into fights at practically every social event. Can the actions of an individual like him get my parents sued since they are the property owners where the event will be hosted?
Any advice would be appreciated. I am a nervous wreck about this. The state is Texas, by the way.
Covering the pool is not an option, because it is a party, and we want our guests to be able to go swimming and have a good time.
There is nothing abnormal about having alcohol present for a party at someone’s house, regardless of the occasion. Even if we don’t BUY any alcohol, what are we going to do, tell grown people that they can’t bring their own alcohol to drink? How ridiculous would that seem?
I agree about my friend’s husband not attending though. I don’t want that asshole coming anyway, I’m just not sure how I’m going to tell my friend who has always bent over backwards for me.
And “Senor Snarky” is right. It’s gonna be a hum-dinger! I guess my expectations are just too high by hoping that everyone will behave like adults.
Insurance for the party sounds like a great idea. How much does that usually cost?
my 16 year old son has a 17 year old girlfriend and i do not approve of her coming over. She comes over everyday…doesn’t come into my room or the kitchen or wherever i may be to say hi before she offically enters my home. My “romeo” plans a romantic evening for her by filling up the bathtub with rose petals and candles and champagne (i find this out later…when i wasn’t home…i would never allow alcohol and it’s all because of her). I do not like this. A 16 year old boy is supposed to study, read and earn good grades. This ***** is tyring to seduce my son into having se/x with her i think. when i came into their room to check up on them yesterday (because i heard heavy panting from outisde his door) my son was on top of her dry humping away and kissing her bare breasts until they saw me and stopped (his fly was undone and he was turned on….this is a sign she wanted him to have se/x with her!). How should i get rid of this ***** and save my baby boy from this ***** who’s only talent is spreading her legs without ruining the relationship with my son?
this **** will definitely ruin everything! my son is a good boy from a good jewish family and this russian prostitute comes along in her gucci, yves saint lauren crap that has been around the block and with a good figure will do anything to have her way with him. The day before yesterday she came in wearing skinny jeans and NO bra in a white shirt (which was obviosuly a little see-through) with her b cup breasts! He’s a boy and all boys think with one thing!
i know how boys are this age…all the girl has to do is spread her legs and she succeeds…here’s her pics from one of her networking sites i found on my son’s laptop….typical **** …what honourable girl would pose like this…i bet she sends these pics to him
http://yfrog.com/j3nca2c5smicau77e8kcaqshyj
http://yfrog.com/86ncannzi20cav6k0picaj1x7j
http://yfrog.com/j1fcax4fhsxcac22k0fcanpi0j
http://yfrog.com/6u3caosbg3ocasun9w9cae0muj
http://yfrog.com/4o5cazkkmhqcadg0sgtca3pc8j
http://yfrog.com/j3lcascx7m4ca437ko8ca4q2uj
the worst part is that my husband thinks it’s great and likes the girl as our son’s girlfriend! and gives our son a high-five…makes my job 200 times harder. For the people responding please give me your age and tell me if you have any kids…preferably boys…
my 16 year old son has a 17 year old girlfriend and i do not approve of her coming over. She comes over everyday…doesn’t come into my room or the kitchen or wherever i may be to say hi before she offically enters my home. My “romeo” plans a romantic evening for her by filling up the bathtub with rose petals and candles and champagne (i find this out later…when i wasn’t home…i would never allow alcohol and it’s all because of her). I do not like this. A 16 year old boy is supposed to study, read and earn good grades. This ***** is tyring to seduce my son into having se/x with her i think. when i came into their room to check up on them yesterday (because i heard heavy panting from outisde his door) my son was on top of her dry humping away and kissing her bare breasts until they saw me and stopped (his fly was undone and he was turned on….this is a sign she wanted him to have se/x with her!). How should i get rid of this ***** and save my baby boy from this ***** who’s only talent is spreading her legs without ruining the relationship with my son?
this **** will definitely ruin everything! my son is a good boy from a good jewish family and this russian prostitute comes along in her gucci, yves saint lauren crap that has been around the block and with a good figure will do anything to have her way with him. The day before yesterday she came in wearing skinny jeans and NO bra in a white shirt (which was obviosuly a little see-through) with her b cup breasts! He’s a boy and all boys think with one thing!
i know how boys are this age…all the girl has to do is spread her legs and she succeeds…here’s her pics from one of her networking sites i found on my son’s laptop….typical **** …what honourable girl would pose like this…i bet she sends these pics to him
http://yfrog.com/j3nca2c5smicau77e8kcaqshyj
http://yfrog.com/86ncannzi20cav6k0picaj1x7j
http://yfrog.com/j1fcax4fhsxcac22k0fcanpi0j
http://yfrog.com/6u3caosbg3ocasun9w9cae0muj
http://yfrog.com/4o5cazkkmhqcadg0sgtca3pc8j
http://yfrog.com/j3lcascx7m4ca437ko8ca4q2uj
the worst part is that my husband thinks it’s great and likes the girl as our son’s girlfriend! and gives our son a high-five…makes my job 200 times harder. For the people responding please give me your age and tell me if you have any kids…preferably boys…
the 27 year old has a BFA in illustration and the 29 year old has an AA in auto body repair. Both are good workers, never miss work, show up for work everyday on time and clean and sober, yet they get passed over for employment by addicts and alcoholics. They are out every day looking for work and up all night on the computer looking. And nothing is happening. The 27 year old has $50,000+ in student loans that he has defaulted on and is in a very deep depression because of it. Why can’t they find work?
my 16 year old son has a 17 year old girlfriend and i do not approve of her coming over. She comes over everyday…doesn’t come into my room or the kitchen or wherever i may be to say hi before she offically enters my home. My “romeo” plans a romantic evening for her by filling up the bathtub with rose petals and candles and champagne (i find this out later…when i wasn’t home…i would never allow alcohol and it’s all because of her). I do not like this. A 16 year old boy is supposed to study, read and earn good grades. This ***** is tyring to seduce my son into having se/x with her i think. when i came into their room to check up on them yesterday (because i heard heavy panting from outisde his door) my son was on top of her dry humping away and kissing her bare breasts until they saw me and stopped (his fly was undone and he was turned on….this is a sign she wanted him to have se/x with her!). How should i get rid of this ***** and save my baby boy from this ***** who’s only talent is spreading her legs without ruining the relationship with my son?
this **** will definitely ruin everything! my son is a good boy from a good jewish family and this russian prostitute comes along in her gucci, yves saint lauren crap that has been around the block and with a good figure will do anything to have her way with him. The day before yesterday she came in wearing skinny jeans and NO bra in a white shirt (which was obviosuly a little see-through) with her b cup breasts! He’s a boy and all boys think with one thing!
i know how boys are this age…all the girl has to do is spread her legs and she succeeds…here’s her pics from one of her networking sites i found on my son’s laptop….typical **** …what honourable girl would pose like this…i bet she sends these pics to him
http://yfrog.com/j3nca2c5smicau77e8kcaqshyj
http://yfrog.com/86ncannzi20cav6k0picaj1x7j
http://yfrog.com/j1fcax4fhsxcac22k0fcanpi0j
http://yfrog.com/6u3caosbg3ocasun9w9cae0muj
http://yfrog.com/4o5cazkkmhqcadg0sgtca3pc8j
http://yfrog.com/j3lcascx7m4ca437ko8ca4q2uj
the worst part is that my husband thinks it’s great and likes the girl as our son’s girlfriend! and gives our son a high-five…makes my job 200 times harder. For the people responding please give me your age and tell me if you have any kids…preferably boys…
arent good but he doesnt know how bad…his real dad doesnt help except to get him every-other weekend which is fine with me because I have always did it on my own & he is an alcoholic..But now my son has desided that he is ok with his grades & he is ok with getting barely by as long as he passes…I dont know how to get him motivated again & should I involve his step-dad?? His is a wonderful man & they get along GREAT I just dont want them to start not getting along…that would be horrible..
I could use his truck (we are looking to buy one now) as leverage but I really dont want to have to threating him..
Any suggestions?? I am at a lost & very confused with my sons attitude—–
He is 15 & in the 9th grade….
Oh PLEASE….it is not me failing, you really are rude!!
Thank you guys ! I will try these tacktics…he is a good boy & has a great mind & YES I will be talking to my husband..like I said he has an idea but he lets me handle the kids & knows I willl come to him a crunch. Tutor sounds like a good idea! You guys are right it is time to make this a family matter…
I get NO Child support & he doesnt even cover insurance,lunch,clothes,school supplies or NOTHING!!
Its ok BillieB everyone has there own opinions & this is a touchy subject…especially for kids..
Great, yall have help me make my mind up time for a family meeting…I have got to figure out what has changed in that boys mind…& I am going to email his teachers (again) to set up some extra classes & or tutoring…THANK YALL sooo much …it is going to be really hard to pick a best answer!!!
When my son was 3 had a severe fever that landed him in the ER. They treated him with an alcohol bath so he was completly naked in the room. While they was bathing him they did not use privacy curtains around him. They also took his temperature rectally with no privacy curtains. Who was present in the room was my husband and I, my twin sister, my mother, the dr., and various nurses. My son asked me why they did not use privacy curtains during the alcohol bath and rectal temperature. Would privacy curtains had been appropriate at the time his naked body and naked butt was exposed.
He had just turned 3 years old
jandiesmommy
What happened with your son, what did they do to make him freak, and how old was he?
My son’s father is currently living 3 hours away. He doesn’t have his own place of residency. I keep our 9 month old all of the time and his dad comes to see him every weekend. His dad has asked me several times if he could take our son for a week or so, but I have always been very hesitant. He likes to go out & party, and I had to make him understand that he can’t just leave our son w/ his mother so he can go out and do whatever he wants. I wouldn’t be so hesitant if he lived closer, but I don’t know how he would manage w/ our son in the car for 3 hours…plus he smokes. He usually stops and smokes outside, but I think that he’d actually smoke w/ our son in the car. It makes me so mad that he can’t go 3 hours without a cigarette! Also, he doesn’t support our son financially. He doesn’t buy diapers, food, clothes, or anything. Most of the stuff he brings our son is stuff his mother buys for him.
If he did take our son for a week, would I have to give him supplies for the baby or should he pay for those things? Because I also have to send wipes, diapers, & food to daycare for him. And it’s not like my son’s dad can afford it, anyway. He’s barely working. He spends the little money he does have on alcohol, cigarettes, and other frivolous things. He’s very irresponsible.
I’ve never told my son’s dad that he can’t see his son. But at the same time, I wouldn’t want him taking my son for a long time & so far away. But then again, I don’t want to get caught up in a nasty legal situation. Whenever we fight, he tells me that he’ll take me to court to get partial custody of our son & that he’d pay child support so that he can. And not because he wants to pay child support/go to court or anything…but he’d do it just to spite me! I figured that if he really wanted to support his son financially, then he’d already be doing it. I don’t want my son in the care of this loser, but at the same time, I want to avoid a nasty situation. What should I do?!
When my son was 3 had a severe fever that landed him in the ER. They treated him with an alcohol bath so he was completly naked in the room. While they was bathing him they did not use privacy curtains around him. They also took his temperature rectally with no privacy curtains. Who was present in the room was my husband and I, my twin sister, my mother, the dr., and various nurses. My son asked me why they did not use privacy curtains during the alcohol bath and rectal temperature. Would privacy curtains had been appropriate at the time his naked body and naked butt was exposed. In the long run my husband and I were thankful that they cured our son.
What would you do?
Twice, my 12 year old son’s art teacher gave him a fish oil pill and hot sauce to dip it in – the teacher said he usually dips it in hot sauce when he takes it. Two vice principals and the principal were notified, other teachers at the school were notified, the board of education was notified, and nothing was done. No one investigated other than for asking the teacher if he did it, which of course he denied – on 4 separate occasions. This has been going on since January. Finally, after telling the school board I have been speaking to an attorney about their failure to investigate this incident, today I received a call saying they have talked to other students who were in the classroom and that my son’s allegation has been validated – the teacher did in fact give fish oil pills and hot sauce to my son as well as other kids in the class.
On the flipside of this, after the fish oil incident occurred, my son (who loves to make experiments) found some old amoxicillin capsules – one of which was leaking powder – and decided to make the rest of them leak powder. He emptied the capsules into a baggie and poked holes in it – kept flicking it to make smoke. He took his “new toy” to school and when a boy saw him playing with it, he accused my son of having drugs – that boy and his friend went to the office and said my son tried to sell it to them. My son was then suspended from school for 10 days, sentenced to a drug and alcohol class of 6 hours, expelled from the school, and they are now pressing charges against him as a misdemeanor which could land him 6 mos to a year in a juvenile detention center – with no proof of him doing anything other than making a toy out of the amoxicillin powder.
What do you think I should do? I do have an attorney who is fighting the part about my son’s misdemeanor – but what should I do about the school and the teacher and the board of education about the whole fish oil pill? Should I let it go or should I press further action now that other students have validated what my son has been saying for the last 3 – almost 4 months!
No explanation has been given as to why. Apparently the teacher takes them himself – had them sitting on his desk and a student asked him what they were. He told her what they were and asked if she wanted one and then others asked if they could have them as well and he passed them out to anyone who wanted them.
And believe me…. he will not be going back to that school!
My son’s dad has only seen him once in the past year and a half, he doesn’t pay child support or carry him on his insurance. He’s remarried and has a child with the new wife. He’s an alcoholic and I don’t think it’s good for my son to be around him. How can I get sole custody?
even though she was the abuser and adulterer, for the last three years she has still mentally abused my son, driving him almost to suicide. He is a dedicated father who has access to his children EVERY weekend and two days during the week – in fact almost more than she sees them. She poisons them calling him names and although they have now their own views, they are frightened and loyal to her as they love her, which is expected, but the courts never believe my son, they always believe her even though she tells blatant lies which the children could verify if they dared. Because their son who is 8 has been staying constantly with his father for the last week and didn’t want to return to his Mother, even though my son has tried to persuade him, probably because he is frightened as his Mother is constantly threatening to take his father to court. Today, without any warning he has been served an injunction with threat of arrest if a breech occurs, he has no right to reply. She says that he is verbally abusive and does not comply with his access rights – the majority of times he fails to return them on time it is because she is NOT at home, however, no-one apart from family knows this and naturally our word does not mean anything. She is still not happy in her new relationship and is also violent, in fact the police have been called to her house on four occasions in the last year to break up violent arguments obviously this proves that it was not just my son that caused her problems – she is the one with problems of control but unfortunately she always presents herself well at court and she is more than half way there with her claims as the MOTHER is always right !!!! Any advice on how to deal with such a woman would be very much appreciated, I would add that she has a problem with alcohol which plays a big part of her life, hence her allowing my son access EVERY weekend, which NO-ONE seems to find unusual. The children NEVER see their Mother on a weekend. Children are 10, 8 and 5yrs.
Would privacy curtain had been appropriate in my son’s emergency?
When my son was 3 had a severe fever that landed him in the ER. They treated him with an alcohol bath so he was completly naked in the room. While they was bathing him they did not use privacy curtains around him. They also took his temperature rectally with no privacy curtains. Who was present in the room was my husband and I, my twin sister, my mother, the dr., and various nurses. My son asked me why they did not use privacy curtains during the alcohol bath and rectal temperature. At the time he was not really offended by not having privacy curtains around him and now he is 20 and wishes he had them at the time. Would privacy curtains had been appropriate at the time his naked body and naked butt was exposed. In the long run my husband and I were thankful that they cured our son.
Would privacy curtain had been appropriate in my son’s emergency?
When my son was 3 had a severe fever that landed him in the ER. They treated him with an alcohol bath so he was completly naked in the room. While they was bathing him they did not use privacy curtains around him. They also took his temperature rectally with no privacy curtains. Who was present in the room was my husband and I, my twin sister, my mother, the dr., and various nurses. My son asked me why they did not use privacy curtains during the alcohol bath and rectal temperature. At the time he was not really offended by not having privacy curtains around him and now he is 20 and wishes he had them at the time. Would privacy curtains had been appropriate at the time his naked body and naked butt was exposed. In the long run my husband and I were thankful that they cured our son.
My son’s dad has only seen him once in the past year and a half, he doesn’t pay child support or carry him on his insurance. He’s remarried and has a child with the new wife. He’s an alcoholic and I don’t think it’s good for my son to be around him. How can I get sole custody?
I have found a small zip lock bag with marijuana in my teenage son’s room? i never experienced marijuana in the culture i was growing up in but i have done some research and it doesn’t seem much more harmful than alcohol and i surely don’t want to take away from his highschool experience. Hes doing well in school so the possibility of a drug addiction isn’t a big concern of mine. Thoughts or suggestions?
My son is 14. His Dad is a raging alcoholic. Him and his wife drink a half gallon of 10 high whiskey every day. They get into brawls when their children are there. My son’s dad even was sent to the hospital with a blood alcohol content of .4 which is almost dead. 2 years ago I took him to court and asked for supervised visitation. They denied my request saying my son was old enough to care for himself even and gave an order that my ex husband couldn’t drink alcohol around him anymore. Which of course he does. I have spoken to my lawyer who says, it will be very difficult to prove this.
Well lately, my son comes home complaining he is hungry. They eat maybe 2 times the entire weekend he is there. His dad and stepmom go to bed at 4-5 am and sleep until 1-2 pm the next day. So my son is responsible for taking care of the smaller children ages 1, 4 and 9 in the mornings. He said there is no food there to eat. Now they have no water bc the pump isn’t working. The electricity was going off and on. Sometime dimming and then getting brighter. My son said he was sitting on his bed and water started pouring out of the light fixture. The only heat they have are space heaters. I have reported them to CPS in the past but the problem is, is that CPS always gives notice they are coming so they clean house, get rid of the booze and get her dad to give them money for groceries. I just don’t understand how they can look their children in the face knowing they are hungry and they have no adequate heat or water but buy cigs and booze every single day. At least my son gets to come home. He only has to be there every other weekend. Those little kids have to be there all the time. No one in the home has had a job for amost 2 years. He has sucked his unemployment dry. I don’t care what they do at that house. Those two can drink themselves into an oblivion for all care, but when these children are not eating or in danger for some fire breaking out due to shorts in the wiring or the space heaters..I could never forgive myself for ignoring this if something were to happen.
I don’t know what to do. If I get involved, my son will be angry and won’t tell me anything else. He has just now started to trust me and tell me all of these things. He loves his dad and of course doesn’t wanted him to be in trouble or not see him anymore. I’m lost at what to do. If I turn them in, they will know it was me. And unless the situation is bad enough for them to remove the children from the home, they will just take it out on my son for telling me what is going on over there. What would you do if it were you?
“mind my own business”? This is my son we are talking about here. Do you now how difficult it is to send your child somewhere they don’t eat for the weekend, have no running water and have to dip their feces out of the toilet with a bucket when they are done using it or where there is obvious electrical problems in the home? I do not bad mouth his father at all. When I say they have no water I mean they have had no running water for at least the past 2 weekend visits (so four week). And for 6 months my son has said there is no food there. No milk, no bread, no cereal nothing. They eat one meal per day. I didn’t say he physically absued the children. I said water is flowing through the electrical outlets and ligth fixtures, the electricity is shorting out. Turning off and on. Staying up late drinking is different than drinking to the point of getting into physical fights in front of your children and then passing out until afternoon. I’m sorry but this is not something I can ignore.
And Joe B… I do NOT want him to be a bad father. I have never denied him the right to see his son and I have never spoken ill of him to my son. I want nothing more than for him to be a great father bc my son loves him so much. But he isn’t. He has nothing to do with his son other than the four days a month he goes there. He has been convicted of physically abusing his second wife’s daughter. Because he was drunk and she was throwing a fit and he whipped her so hard he left bruising on her. Her Father turned him in. They have no dry wall on their home, only insulation. No heat besides 2 space heaters. They have an English Mastiff and you can count his ribs and he has no dog house. They dumped their chocolate lab bc they were sick of feeding it. My son is confused bc he doesn’t want to go there but he wants to see his dad. He is behind on support constantly and is now trying to bribe my son with a new truck if he can emancipate himself at 16 so he doesn’t have to pay child support.
