My mom is wasted. She is upsetting me and I really am not sure what to do.. When she was with my dad, she was uptight, very christian like, and a perfectionist.. when I was 18, the same month I graduated High School they split up… they both moved away…. she took my sister with her, right before I had my son, she returned… Atfirst I knew she changed, and I thought it was VERY good at first I thought it was for the better.. She was a bit more relaxed, still acted like a Sincere Christian although I noticed she actualy drank alcohol.. which was fine.. NOW… I get home from work and she is WASTED, tonight she is BEYOND wasted.. talking in weird voices and just sprawled out on the couch.. my son (5 years old) thinks its funny, but she is making comments to him which I think are Unappropriate, although he doesn’t seem to understand them.. He doesn’t have school tommorow, and instead of bringing him to his DAD Mom and Dad (they always watch him when he is off) I thought she might enjoy a day with him… NOW she is telling him ” Why do I have to watch you tommorow” ” I don’t know if I want you to stay home tommorow with me” She is playing guilt trips on him and acting like she is crying saying.. ” You don’t like me” making him start to cry and beg her for approval.. HELLO.. an I the ONLY PERSON that thinks this is wrong??? I told him to leave her alone.. and I told her to stop.. NOW.. she Upset my son.. he doesn’t understand whats going on.. She is yelling at me calling me stupid cause I told him to leave her alone, I finally got her in her room and I locked her door.. I don’t need this stress.. now he is in his room in a time out for calling me stupid.. and I feel bad for punishing him…?? ** Adding on.. I am not a uptight Christian type, I am relaxed, I enjoy my alcohol.. but getting wasted I feel if anything is for the bar scene or hanging with your friends.. Not Alone.. on a weekly basis..
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I already asked this question…but I need more opinions…from kids & parents.
-My son has gone to school high 3 times this week
-He brought alcohol onto school gronds and given it to his friends
-He has also skipped school after lunch everyday this week.
The principal just told me about all of this today and he told me my son would be suspended for 7 days.
I’m going to be working everyday in the next 7 days except Sunday.
How can I make sure he stays out of drugs, alcohol, etc while I’m gone.
KIDS & PARENTS: If you were in this situation (kids) how would you be punnished? and (parents) how would you punnish your child?
My 17 yr old son needs help badly..he is into drugs and alcohol and lies, steals etc..i have tried everything i know of to try but they all tell me since he is 17 that it’s his choice..he can leave home or whatever and has to sign himself in to a treatment center..my heart is breaking watching him spiral down out of control and not be able to do anything about it..any suggestions? im so scared for him.. also he has been diagnosed as bi-polar and refuses to take his meds..
Mental illness and alcohol are factors; also last contact included some violence. Children are not allowed by father to discuss it openly, except to demonize mother. Counseling currently not an option. Looking for an age appropriate book, perhaps, that deals with loss – specifically loss by choice. A parent resource would be good also. I am aunt of children; concerned about possible feelings of misplaced guilt, anger, loneliness, love.
I am in a real tricky situation. I live in a small town, in Iowa, where my ex practices as a attorney. We were only engaged when I had our son and broke up,due largely to his alcohol abuse, before ever having been married. However, we have nothing in writing regarding custody. As bad as that sounds I couldn’t afford an attorney and no one would represent me any way being that would be a conflict of interest against my ex. I realize I would need to find a out of town lawyer but again money is tight.
Over the years we have had ups and downs getting along largely because of his erratic mood swings. He takes our son only once a week and OCCASIONALLY overnight,like maybe 5 times per year. That is a big reason why I don’t pursue any thing because it’s better our son sees him less often than more,as sad as that sounds. Oh when he picks him up he’s ‘wonder dad’ and our son thinks he’s wonderful but I’m watching this man deteriorate from either just alcohol or something more.
He has had severe weight loss and I have people contacting me asking “what’s wrong with him , he looks like he has cancer.” I also hear he gets kicked out of bars because of his temper and vile behavior. There are days he’s extremely hyper and others where he is emotionally removed or indifferent. I am a non practicing nurse, now married and at home mom with a small business ran from home. As a nurse I know he is mentally unstable and while he is good with our son ONE day a week[and that is usually while in the midst of his sisters and mom] I don’t trust his emotional stability to hold around our son forever. He has had horrible rage fits with me over the phone over the smallest of things, and constantly threatens me with court although he’s never specific as to what he thinks he would gain out of it. After the legal threats and verbal abuse over the phone[your a liar,your crazy,you make me sick, ]he talks to me later like nothing ever happened.Some times he claims he doesn’t ‘remember’ having that conversation YET he’ll turn around and call me delusional and crazy. He DOES however seem to know his limitations which I feel is why he takes our son so little.
This whole situation walks a fine line. I do feel our son shouldn’t be in his care ALONE because I don’t know if he’s using drugs etc. Is there anything I can do, even though I have many witnesses with his alcohol abuse or is it still just my word against his? He can pull so many of his lawyer strings how can I fight him? If I even bring up something that I feel is a concern directly to him he goes ballistic! Will me fighting him bring more harm than good? I didn’t sign up to be a psychologist when dealing with this man so I am running out of patience every time I am verbally attacked because of something he doesn’t want to hear. He’s a ticking time bomb and I don’t want our son to suffer because of it.
[I would ask his family for help but they also have alcohol issues and are in complete denial of it.]
My little brothers wife died during child birth about a month ago he is 24 and she was 22. Well it was a beautiful baby boy and he is so adorable. Well me and my older sister and my parents have been going over a lot to check on the both. He hasn’t really been bonding with his son at all and he often just sleeps for super long periods of time and leaves his son in his crib. I went over today and he was passed out with a few bottles of alcohol next to him and his son was screaming. I am worried about them both to be honest. Well i fed my nephew and got his diaper changed and got him dressed and was cuddling with him when my brother came to and i asked him if he wants me to take his son for awhile so he can work through his grief and he got raging pissed at me and cussed at me and told me to leave and that no one can take his son.I don’t know what to do to be honest i am worried about my nephews safety and well being but my brother wont let me help him out. Advice?
I think she worked in a factory or something with mostly men and she looks sorta rugged. Her ex is an alcoholic and lived in a trailer outside her house. (Not Alice) It aired after then
I always hear him screaming, crying, etc, and I’m getting kind of worried. My best friend knows the dad personally and she said he can get pretty nasty once you piss him off. I know both parents drink alcohol occasionally but nothing too bad. I don’t know if I should call the police since I really don’t have proof he’s being abused. After all, he might just be a spoiled brat. I’ll feel like an idiot if I call the police and he’s not actually being abused… What should I do?
My friend is in her late 20′s she has 3 dui’s she has a parole violation. She is a bad person who only cares about her self. She has a major drinking problem too, her brother died from a drunk driver. She is currently dating a man who is pushing 40. He used to be an alcoholic he stoppted because he doesn’t want to lose his 10 year old son.
He is good and clean now he hates drinking and alcohol. My friend drinks behind his back. Because she is bored and she says needs to be bad once and a while. They live together the last time she got drunk. He told if she does it again it’s over. She said she won’t do it again but she has hit the bottle four times since then. She quit her job and is looking for a new one. So far she hasn’t been looking she just sitting around the house getting bored and wanting to drink. I told her to stop because he is a nice man. He is letting her live with him for free and he takes her out and everything. After all this she still drinks behind his back.
My friend is in her late 20′s she has 3 dui’s she has a parole violation. She is a bad person who only cares about her self. She has a major drinking problem too, her brother died from a drunk driver. She is currently dating a man who is pushing 40. He used to be an alcoholic he stoppted because he doesn’t want to lose his 10 year old son.
He is good and clean now he hates drinking and alcohol. My friend drinks behind his back. Because she is bored and she says needs to be bad once and a while. They live together the last time she got drunk. He told if she does it again it’s over. She said she won’t do it again but she has hit the bottle four times since then. She quit her job and is looking for a new one. So far she hasn’t been looking she just sitting around the house getting bored and wanting to drink. I told her to stop because he is a nice man. He is letting her live with him for free and he takes her out and everything. After all this she still drinks behind his back.
My son turns 18 the end of this month. I believe his Father’s goal is to not to have to pay child support. His Father is an alcoholic,(conartist) lives temporarily 5 states away. Without a permanent/unstable job, And is dangeling gold carrots in front of my son to get him to move out of my house. I don’t know what to do or how to feel. I love my son with all my Heart. Also I am so sick of his father’s bullshit and thinking that child support pay’s for everything and that I just have a blast with the child support. Which is bullshit. This father is patially responsible (legally) for for medical bills which he has’nt paid. My end concern is my Son, and I know he must have so many mixed emotions. However I am so sick of his selfish unappreciative father who has got away with so much crap. What should I do how should I feel.
Ok, I need to say this beginning. My husband & I divorced a lil over 4 years ago. He has been through so much. He is going to b 9 in September. Here is the problem. My children have seen their father abuse myself, his new wife, and other people. My ex is into drugs, guns, knives, etc. I do the best that I can to keep stuff put up- Knives are on top of the frig, NO GUNS OR DRUGS OR ALCOHOL in my house. My son was suspended last Wednesday for 2 1/2 days because he took a letter opener to school. I have found my kitchen knives in his room, under my couch, tucked into the furniture etc. I dont know what to do. I have tried grounding, spanking, everything. I dont know what to do. I am so scared that he is going to hurt himself or others. He has been seeing a counselor. He has been on medication since he was 5. (ADHD). Does anyone have any advice. He is fixing to spend 6 weeks with his father. I am terrified.
What do I need to do to adopt my ex-wife’s son. I have been his dad since he was 2. He is now 12. The mother is an alcoholic and have left the state. The “father” has never been in his life.Dont pay child Support. His aunt have temp.custody,but he lives with me full time. The aunt and the rest of the family wants me to adopt him. Both the mother and father have said in the past that they both will agree to me legally adopt him. Hard to raise a child when I have no legal rights. What do I need to do?
Just wanted to add that its not following the court order to let my kid live with me.The aunt is supposed to make a home for him. And pay for afters school care And isurance etc. But that has all been taken care of by me. Also the aunt had to file to extend the temp.custody for a reason that I am not sure about.The mother did not sign away her rights. She just didnt show up since she was in detox out of state yet again. And she is there now also.
What do I need to do to adopt my ex-wife’s son. I have been his dad since he was 2. He is now 12. The mother is an alcoholic and have left the state. The “father” has never been in his life.Dont pay child Support. His aunt have temp.custody,but he lives with me full time. The aunt and the rest of the family wants me to adopt him. Both the mother and father have said in the past that they both will agree to me legally adopt him. Hard to raise a child when I have no legal rights. What do I need to do?
Just wanted to add that its not following the court order to let my kid live with me.The aunt is supposed to make a home for him. And pay for afters school care And isurance etc. But that has all been taken care of by me. Also the aunt had to file to extend the temp.custody for a reason that I am not sure about.The mother did not sign away her rights. She just didnt show up since she was in detox out of state yet again. And she is there now also.
What do I need to do to adopt my ex-wife’s son. I have been his dad since he was 2. He is now 12. The mother is an alcoholic and have left the state. The “father” has never been in his life.Dont pay child Support. His aunt have temp.custody,but he lives with me full time. The aunt and the rest of the family wants me to adopt him. Both the mother and father have said in the past that they both will agree to me legally adopt him. Hard to raise a child when I have no legal rights. What do I need to do?
Just wanted to add that its not following the court order to let my kid live with me.The aunt is supposed to make a home for him. And pay for afters school care And isurance etc. But that has all been taken care of by me. Also the aunt had to file to extend the temp.custody for a reason that I am not sure about.The mother did not sign away her rights. She just didnt show up since she was in detox out of state yet again. And she is there now also.
This is a very long story and I will try to make it as short as possible. Please note, this will be longer than 1000 characters allowed, so please be patient as I keep adding details below.
I was a widow at 35. I was married to a man with severe bipolar and he was also an alcoholic, his name was Jamie. Jamie had a huge heart and would do anything for anyone when he was mentally healthy and not drinking. The problem was the mental illness was present a majority of the time and so were the alcohol issues. We were married for 5 year’s and had one son who is my late husbands namesake but we call my son James, he’s is now 7, was 4 when his dad died. So now let me get to the story, just had to give a little info so this could be followed easily.
I met Jamie at a bar. He was on the dance floor being goofy with some coworkers. I was sitting with my friend Mary Jo watching Jamie dance because it was funny.
He noticed me watching him and we talked & exchanged phone numbers. A relationship developed quite quickly.
I found out I was pregnant and was very upset considering we were using protection. I knew I could not have a baby with this man because he drank too much. Well he was very excited that I was pregnant and promised to quit drinking. So we were married and were keeping the baby. well as time went by, I realized his drinking would not stop and that he had bigger issues with it than I thought. he agreed to get help and thats when he was diagnosed with bipolar. he was put on many different types of medications, most did not work for him and his scripts would be changed. Finally he was put on the right combination of prescriptions and all was okay, until he mixed the alcohol which he did a lot. This all took place over a few year’s time.
I finally realized I could not live like this for the rest of my life, allowing my 4 son’s (3 from a previous marriage) to be exposed to the nonsense involved with the alcohol & the mental illness. I gave Jamie a warning to change his ways concerning the alcohol or I would divorce him, I gave him more than a reasonable amount of time to do this, he did nothing but continue to drink and lie about it. So just before our 5th. anniversary, I asked him to move out and he did. I had planned to file for a divorce the following year after we filed our income taxes so we would have some cash available for the kid’s & I to move and I would let him keep the place we lived in together, which by the way I bought because he had no income because he could not keep a job because he’d go to work drunk. I did realize though that he was self medicating for so many years prior to me that him stopping drinking would be difficult and this was why I put up with it for so long.
So anyway, I did allow Jamie to come back home at his request & promises to get his poop in a group a few weeks later and it all started all over again, so he left once again at my request and I knew I’d never let him come back, and so did he.
Well 3 days later, he committed suicide by prescription drug overdose, he was living at his brothers home when he did this.
Well it’s been going on 3 year’s now since his death. I have made contact with the oldest brother in an attempt to try to fix the broken relationship with the family for the sake of my son James because James has been asking a lot about his dads family. The oldest brother Ricky is the family “leader”, so my late husband called him. Well Ricky refuses to take my calls. I then did talk t Ricky’s wife and she told me that he did not want to talk to me because he feels his brothers death is my fault because I did not take Jamie’s calls the night prior and had I taken the calls, Jamie may still be alive.
I had to work in the morning and was not taking his calls for that reason and because I was burned out on all the nonsense involved with this man. I was not with him, I had not control of his choice to die, which, by the way, was NOT his first attempt at death. He had an attempt 9 months prior and was in ICU for almost a month. WE did not know if he would live or die then.
So now that you have the story, my question is, how do I get this family to take my calls? I need them to allow my son to still know his dads family for the sake of his own mental health. How horrible it would be for me to have to tell my 7 year old son that his dads family has no interest in him. I need creative suggestions to get them to open the doors back up for my son.
PS-
To those that refused to wait to read the whole story and tell me to meet a man in church. We can’t decide where we will meet a spouse, it just happens when it happens.
Continuation to my PS above-
Besides just because a person goes to church does not make that person better than someone else. When I was a teenager, my sister had a friend that had a friend that was one of the BIGGEST drug dealers in town dealing cocaine and he went to church each & every Sunday with his wife & kid’s. So because he went to church, was he perfect? Hmmmmm. How about not judging, I was just giving info so the story could be understood.
My god son is 4 months old today and weighs 20 pounds. His mother is 33 years old.. 5’2″ and weighs 92 pounds, his father is 31 years old.. 5’6″ and weighs 120 pounds, and his older brother is 5 years old, and weighs 35 pounds. im worried about diabetes and such… the baby eats 6 ounces of formula every 3 hours, and 2 jars of first stages food in between bottles… he is sleeping from midnight to 5 am though.. should i talk to “mom” or is he just a normal fat baby? im really concerned.. he cant quite hold his head up yet, and he is still in an infant carrier… shouldnt he be out of it after 20 pounds? she is a 2nd time mother, but if u know this person.. (she is an alcoholic, but didnt drink during pregnancy) and she acts like she has never had a baby before… even though she has a 5 year old.. she always has me watch the baby, saying its too much trouble to take him with her to the store.. when its 5 min up the road,. and wants me to watch him when she goes to the bus to pick up her 5 year old.. im worried about them… and ideas or suggestions? no bullshit anserws either.. im honestly concerned..
Yesterday, I was woken up at 2am by a knock at the door, and it was my son with 2 police officers. The officer informed me that my son was in possession of alcohol and was cautioned about underage drinking. The officers had also found him and his two friends in the early process of vandalizing an abandoned car and officers were called to the scene after a complaint was made from one of the people who lived nearby.
My son apparently snuck out of the house while I was sleeping when this all happened.
What can I do? I am very concerned!
My kids mom, is on parole, from meth charges, and she just caught another drug related charge. How can I “stick it to her today”, she’s trying to put me on child support.
My kids mom, is on parole, from meth charges, and she just caught another drug related charge. How can I “stick it to her today”, she’s trying to put me on child support.
