How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My cousin and I used to be extremely close, best friends since pretty much since we were born…but things have changed since he started high school. He’s become increasingly rebellious and dark, sort of a loner holing himself up in his room to play (Insert random violent video game name here) and we never seem to talk anymore, he never seems to want to hang out and the way he acts, I don’t exactly want his company either…

Some of his recent choices have been, I’ll be blunt, pretty stupid…he used to be a total clown and fun to hang with, and now he’s incredibly irritable and has emotionally flat-lined. He’s also in a position of being the son of an alcoholic parent whose behavior has only gotten worse as time has passed on, and the two have frequently butted heads as of late. I just don’t know how to interact with him anymore, and I’ve only been honest with him about how he’s changed like two times… we used to talk and share everything with each other and now it’s like he won’t have anything to do with me…I’m a little hurt and very worried about what goes on behind closed doors, and truly want to be there for him, but how can you help someone who won’t acknowledge you?

(Sorry I typed so much)

There are so many parents, both moms & dads, that just up and leave their children.. Or lose custody and don’t fight to get it back. My mother lost custody of me when I was 8 & my sisters were 1, and 4. She never attempted to get us back. She when on to develop a more extreme addiction to crystal meth, and never looked back.

My sons father never even attempted to get to know him. He left when I was 4 months pregnant. I don’t understand how someone could just flat out not care, not have guilt, and not want to have their children.

How could somebody do this? How can someone just NOT care? Call me crazy, but I freak out leaving my son overnight, more less just giving up on him & not caring.

Some people turn to alcohol to make them feel good. Others turn to nicotine. I, turn to caffeine (pop and chocolate). Somedays I just crave caffeine. Other days, I turn to it because I pitty myself. I have an addiction. Has anyone else had this same problem? I want out. I have a 5 month old son. I need to get out of this unhealthy eating habit. Any advice or tips?

there a band they have a son called alcohol, painted whore, and talk shit. its like three girls.

My adult life has been rearranged to what I had hoped it would be because of alcohol. It affected my personal relationships, my family, my son and many friends. My problem is not what I drink, because that may average 4 drinks a year. My problem is with how it has affected the people I love and care about. Second-hand alcohol. To the best of my knowledge, tobacco has never killed multiple members of a family or friends in an auto accident at 1 time. Alcohol is addictive, harmful and dangerous. Yet it is still advertised and promoted and the alcohol industry is aware of the problems is causes. Are they not partly to blame for the problems it has caused for millions of people? How should this question be posted-food&drink, family&relationships,health,politics and govern-ment or society&culture?
I smoke and I don’t blame anyone but me. I don’t think advertising alcohol should be allowed because if someone is trying to quit it just complicates their problems.

My adult life has been rearranged to what I had hoped it would be because of alcohol. It affected my personal relationships, my family, my son and many friends. My problem is not what I drink, because that may average 4 drinks a year. My problem is with how it has affected the people I love and care about. Second-hand alcohol. To the best of my knowledge, tobacco has never killed multiple members of a family or friends in an auto accident at 1 time. Alcohol is addictive, harmful and dangerous. Yet it is still advertised and promoted and the alcohol industry is aware of the problems is causes. Are they not partly to blame for the problems it has caused for millions of people? How should this question be posted-food&drink, family&relationships,health,politics and govern-ment or society&culture?
I smoke and I don’t blame anyone but me. I don’t think advertising alcohol should be allowed because if someone is trying to quit it just complicates their problems.

My adult life has been rearranged to what I had hoped it would be because of alcohol. It affected my personal relationships, my family, my son and many friends. My problem is not what I drink, because that may average 4 drinks a year. My problem is with how it has affected the people I love and care about. Second-hand alcohol. To the best of my knowledge, tobacco has never killed multiple members of a family or friends in an auto accident at 1 time. Alcohol is addictive, harmful and dangerous. Yet it is still advertised and promoted and the alcohol industry is aware of the problems is causes. Are they not partly to blame for the problems it has caused for millions of people? How should this question be posted-food&drink, family&relationships,health,politics and govern-ment or society&culture?
I smoke and I don’t blame anyone but me. I don’t think advertising alcohol should be allowed because if someone is trying to quit it just complicates their problems.

Stage 3 to die with alone! He was charged with domestic assault on 08-24-2007 after nearly 30 yrs of being together! I am an orphan with a sis in CA et a sis in Cedar Falls, but that f-er turned 2 of my 3 sons against me by his drunken/drugged mind that I WAS THE 1 WITH THE PX! I see 0 lite, 7 would rather be dead than to be homeless, jobless, dying, et grieving 4 our GOOD YRS, et 4 my sons! Please help me 2 find the Strength 2 keep getting up each day! His name is ‘RED’ or Dennis J. Conrad from Brandon, Iowa et was raised by a drunken, child molesting father, et a mother that did not PROTECT her babes! My man’s best friend served time 4 raping a mentally challenged female, et his other best friend turned on me as he’s “scared shitless” I’ll tell his wife Judy that he smokes pot with my man! BFD! What a puss! My man was great til he learned 2 cook meth with his friend, ‘BUD’ & that’s when the physical abuse 1st began! I cannot keep up this fight without support & he’s taken it

My son is 16 years old & is in the hospital with blood alcohol poisoning. He was found unconsious on the side of a street. I have set up arrangements for a 10 day outpatient program, but I am still afraid of how to deal with this as a mom. I am hoping someone can help me with my fears. Thank-you
Thank You for the great responses. I am greatful for the honesty & advice. The Dr. said that he is very lucky, the CAT scan & MRI showed no brain damage,( that was a fear of his) WE spoke with his friends & they said he drinks all the time, so do they, its not a problem! OMG, These kids are 15-17 years old!!! Anyways, I will look into alanon & maybe revise my schedule to be home more. Also, Thanks for reminding me about not critisizing… He is dealing with the death of a dad, although it has been 4 years ago last week, it still haunts him. I will take the advice and talk To him instead of At him, but stay strong with my parameters.
Again… Thank you!!!

I’ve been with my partner for 5 yrs and am having a hard time letting go of the resentment I have toward his brother. His brother in his 30s, collecting unemployment and uses people to get by. He treats his “girlfriend” like crap and makes cracks about her weight. He talks about other women like their objects and smokes weed in front of his young son (who seems to think it’s normal and picked up on some of his behaviors). I also resent him because everything just seems to fall into his lap. His g/f takes him on trips to other countries/states, he has job offers all the time and they told him to take his time and let them know when HE wants to work, etc. It makes me so angry because I’ve been struggling trying to find a job and make ends meet and feel he doesn’t deserve these things because of the person he is. I also resent that my partner just laughs along with it and overlooks what he does even though I feel it’s disrestpectful. I try bringing this up but it always starts an argument. My partner feels torn because I don’t like going to visit with his brother and be a part of the family, but he doesn’t understand that his brother’s behavior makes me uncomfortable. What is your opinion? Is there any way to move on and stop resenting him for the sake of my relationship? Please help.

the drugs that were in my son’s van were fake drugs so what will happen to him in court,they had the drug dog there and the dog sniffed nothing out because of course they wern’t real the officer started to stop the search but the one officer said wait here ill be back so he went to the boy that put the stuff there and then came back and found some stuff they are calling ice or meth,what i would like to know is what will they do to my son when the stuff comes back from the testing lab and they find out it is fake
my son works hard to get his money and this one guy wants a hand out and he is also known to be in trouble his-self for burgary and you know the law their saying is you help us and we will in return give you a lighter sentence he was at his job when this boy came twice that day to ask for money and my son told him to get a job, so he got pissed off and called the drug force and told them he can help them set some-one up my son does not do drugs ,he has to take a drug test once a week for his jobso for you all out there that thinks he is this drug addict he aint he has a job that requires a staraght head HE IS NOT ON DRUGS HE WAS SET UP AND YES FAKE DRUGS CAN BE BAKING SODA OR SUGAR OR SALT OR ANY-THING THAT LOOKS LIKE DRUGS….

I had asked a question about smoking. In an example of how smoking isn’t always the contributing factor to death, I stated my boyfriend’s grandfather ( A WWII Vet) had smoked for 50 years, but his death was attributed to his loyal mini poodle who had followed hime everywhere, got under his feet and tripped him down the basement stairs. He cracked his skull off the concrete and passed away. His death was a “freak accident” not attributed to smoking.

Two users decided to attack a personal issue by defaming a vetran of this country. They said Kudos to the mini-poodle. Where can I send doggie chocolates for ending the life of someone polluting the air. One user e-maild me politely and said it was sad that happened but smoking could have done it before that.

This is the e-mail he sent to my boyfriend for his response e-mail saying he was a rude son of a B****.

Subject: Re: you ignorant on of a *****
Message: You still haven’t told me where I can send the box of doggie chocs for the mini poodle.Please learn how to spell before sending me any more of your diatribes,as amusing as they are to receive.Also please tell me where your grandfathers remains are so that I may urinate on them.Goodbye,y’all have a nice day now,ya hear!

I won’t name profiles but after 3 or 4 reports of this offensive behavior yahoo answers refuses to even reprimand him for this. Personally I feel he deserves to be banned. My question was removed for “starting arguments” but no one answering except a 2 stated anything that would start an argument.

Should someone be banned for having the audacity to say something like that. I feel Yahoo answers team are hipocrytical. They state offensive behavior and repeat offenses will possibly result in a banning. Being reported 4 times isn’t a repeat offense?
We’ve already informed Yahoo Answers Team Legal action will be taken about this. 4 e-mails later, and 2 seprate witnesses and e-mailing, and they do nothing. I have no problem with that. Yahoo doesn’t want to take the fall then they’ll pin it on that person. We have no problem with that. I was apalled. My question was actually re-moved for being “argumentative” while this person is allowed to say such slander and disgustingly trashy comments. I WOULD NEVER EVER SAY I’D PISS ON A VETERANS GRAVE. I HAVE VETS IN BOTH SIDES OF MY FAMILY! SO DOES MY BOYFRIEND! ITS GOOD TO SEE SO MANY AGREE WITH US!!!

My ex just came back into the picture after being gone for 6 months. Now he wants to see our son regularly again. He agreed to an hour long visit in a park today with me present. I just stayed in the car and read while he and my 4 year old son played. He admitted to me that he got mixed up with some really bad people and it involved drugs and he feared for his life because things went bad with them and that he was doing meth. He said that he stopped doing it about a week ago and that it’s not something he was addicted to just something he did to not feel depressed.

He hasn’t given me much hassle, any hassle at all, actually about seeing our son with me around. We do not have custody or visitation set up through the courts. Before this we dealt with one another to.

I felt very bad for him today. He seems to be in a very bad place. But he was very happy to see our son and my son was happy to see him. But I do worry about my son’s safety… so I’m thinking if he does want to start seeing him more or without me around that we might have to go through the courts.

What I’m wondering is… Is it believable that someone could be doing meth fairly consistently probably for the past 6 months or longer and then suddenly quit on his own a week ago and stay clean? Or is he probably still using? I hear it’s VERY addictive and hard to kick.

My ex just came back into the picture after being gone for 6 months. Now he wants to see our son regularly again. He agreed to an hour long visit in a park today with me present. I just stayed in the car and read while he and my 4 year old son played. He admitted to me that he got mixed up with some really bad people and it involved drugs and he feared for his life because things went bad with them and that he was doing meth. He said that he stopped doing it about a week ago and that it’s not something he was addicted to just something he did to not feel depressed.

He hasn’t given me much hassle, any hassle at all, actually about seeing our son with me around. We do not have custody or visitation set up through the courts. Before this we dealt with one another to.

I felt very bad for him today. He seems to be in a very bad place. But he was very happy to see our son and my son was happy to see him. But I do worry about my son’s safety… so I’m thinking if he does want to start seeing him more or without me around that we might have to go through the courts.

What I’m wondering is… Is it believable that someone could be doing meth fairly consistently probably for the past 6 months or longer and then suddenly quit on his own a week ago and stay clean? Or is he probably still using? I hear it’s VERY addictive and hard to kick.

I have a son who is 37 and does nothing but smoke weed and drinks all the time. He works and makes good money. He went to prison in 2003 because he was on crack. He got out and was living with my youngest son who is married. My son threw him out of his home because he got back on crack. He moved in with me because he had no where else to live. He was still drinking. He did finally get a place to live. He ended up seeing a woman who was married and has two children. She is finally divorced but she needs to get out of his life for good. She and my son started doing their weed and drinking all the time. The woman stays at my son’s home every weekend. They smoke pot in front of the two little girls and she also drinks and drives. I also know that she has the little ones in her car and they are not always fastened in their car seats. She was in a wreck 2 years ago and she was drunk. Her mother had her children. She came to my home to call her mother but didn’t tell that she was drunk. A few days later she shows up again with a nice car that her mom bought her. The woman gets food stamps and is selling them. She calls my husband and wants him to buy the food stamps from her. I won’t buy them. She is selling them for drugs and alcohol. I also called D.F.C.S. on her last month to turn her in. I had talked to a woman who gave me an 800 number. I almost didn’t do that. One of my friends had called me long distance and I had let her know what is going on with my son. She had let me know that she would have already turned the woman in. I don’t know what happened to my son but I’m not giving up until she is gone. He also had asked his step-dad for help in getting rid of the woman. If he won’t help then it is up to me to do it. How long does an investigation last until the woman is caught? I called the 800 no. on Nov. 25. My son also does not pay his rent and is getting evicted from his home. How long does an investigation take before something is done? Sorry if this is so long. This has really been hard on me.
I do not allow my son to use his drugs in my home and he does not live with me. Yes, I do know that the woman is selling her food stamps. I know someone who she wants to sell them to.

My ex and I were together for 11 years. When we first got together he was 23 and was partying a lot. He said he used meth recreationally but quit when he met me because I wasn’t okay with that. Well, 2 years ago he ended up leaving me because our relationship had gotten rocky and he met a much younger coworker he was interested in. He remained involved with our son for about a year and a half, although it was mainly only when I would call to ask him to babysit while I worked. Otherwise he would choose a different fun recreational activity to do.

Things didn’t work out with that girl he left me for. She ended up staying with her fiance, got pregnant a couple of months after he left me (by her fiance) and stopped contacting him. He ended up partying a lot, was late to work a bunch and about 9 months ago was fired from his car sales job where he worked for 8 years. He was denied unemployment because they fired him for cause.

Over the summer before he cut off all contact he agreed to watch our son while I worked because he didn’t have a job and said he wanted to help out. He would be late every day (hours late) or wouldn’t show up at all. Then he started canceling visits and stopped coming around altogether.

He now hasn’t seen or talked to our 4 year old son for over 6 months. I filed for child support 2 months ago and he won’t respond to their calls or papers. I sent him a message on facebook requesting property back that is at the residence we used to share (photo albums) and he won’t respond.

I heard from a friend of his that he was arrested and released for marijuana sales and possession a month ago. But I heard that he had a birthday party (his 35th) right after and seemed to be living it up, partying.

I’m shocked at what’s happened. I never thought he would drop our son. I never thought after 12 years with someone you could feel like they’re a complete stranger. I know he has a young girlfriend, but I think he’d miss his son, and I think he was seeing her for a while before he cut off contact, so I don’t think it’s that.

I wonder if him being late and acting so irresponsible, etc. could be the result of him starting to use drugs (harder drugs) again?

My husband and I are raising his 8 year old nephew, in order for you to understand a little better i will go into our background a little, and i’m sure i will be adding more details if I run out of room! Ok so my sister in law (hubby’s sister) has 6 children, none of whom have been raised by her, she is a drug addict, 3 of her children were taken by the state and put up for adoption (the oldest now 20) and I have the youngest living with us he is 8, (2 live with their fathers) (yes 6 children 6 different men too i believe) we have had the 8 year old for about 5 years off and on for months at a time, and for the last 2 1/2 years he has been living with us full time, we get no financial support for him, we have not gone for custody or adoption, even though everyone says we should, we have no legal right to him…..I’m not really sure why but my husband doesn’t want to because honestly we don’t know why………..
This child is a GREAT boy, he can be so much fun, and he is happy until he is asked to do something then everyone is so mean to him, and all we make him do is “work work work” (which is NOT TRUE AT ALL I honestly think he doesn’t get enough work) for the last few months, he has been so depressed, he walks around with his head hanging down, his lip sticking out, he whines about everything i swear he doesn’t know how to talk like normal person (i do not condone the whining at all) I honestly believe it has to do with his mom, but he also uses that as a reason for any of his behavior (his teacher also noticed that he would use that as an excuse whenever he was in trouble he would say “well i’m just mad at my mom” I don’t know what to do with him anymore, he is stressing me out beyond words, he is making my life hell, i am the one that is here with him everyday cause my husband works……. is he just being a kid? how can i help him? I am SOOOOO stressed.
yesterday i gave him spelling words (his teacher recommended we do work over the summer because he is way behind all his peers, he has to take special classes for speech & reading) I know he is under a lot of stress, but he takes it out on me everyday, I am the one getting the worst of it. I’m too the point i thought about just taking him down to the police station and handing him over but I don’t want to do anything like that, I don’t want him to end up in the system, this boy is like my son, I want to help him, i want to make it better, i don’t want to send him away, i want to face this problem but i don’t don’t how to do it. He has serious emotional problems, and I’ve tried getting him into counseling but the only place i can take him to, never calls me back, and they have a wait list a year long….. does anyone have any ideas?? he says we are mean, but we bought him a 50cc chopper style motorcycle for his bday, and he HAD a ps2, tv & dvd player in his room!
my opinion, is he just has a poor attitude towards life, he is always looking at everything in a negative way, everything is too hard and he “can’t” do it, and his attitude is doing nothing but making things worse, he has gotten all his privileges taken away, he is grounded for 5 days as of now, but i keep doing this, the same scenario over and over, the same fight over and over, he always tells me we are so mean, and we love our son more than him, when we do our very best to make him feel like he is our son too, i ever call him son, and i try to give him lots of love, but nothing seems to be working! I am beating my head against the wall……..
ok my other problem, when i do try to do something extra special, or plan something fun for him to do, that always seems to be when he acts the worst……

My cousin and I used to be extremely close, best friends since pretty much since we were born…but things have changed since he started high school. He’s become increasingly rebellious and dark, sort of a loner holing himself up in his room to play (Insert random violent video game name here) and we never seem to talk anymore, he never seems to want to hang out and the way he acts, I don’t exactly want his company either…

Some of his recent choices have been, I’ll be blunt, pretty stupid…he used to be a total clown and fun to hang with, and now he’s incredibly irritable and has emotionally flat-lined. He’s also in a position of being the son of an alcoholic parent whose behavior has only gotten worse as time has passed on, and the two have frequently butted heads as of late. I just don’t know how to interact with him anymore, and I’ve only been honest with him about how he’s changed like two times… we used to talk and share everything with each other and now it’s like he won’t have anything to do with me…I’m a little hurt and very worried about what goes on behind closed doors, and truly want to be there for him, but how can you help someone who won’t acknowledge you?

(Sorry I typed so much)

My cousin and I used to be extremely close, best friends since pretty much since we were born…but things have changed since he started high school. He’s become increasingly rebellious and dark, sort of a loner holing himself up in his room to play (Insert random violent video game name here) and we never seem to talk anymore, he never seems to want to hang out and the way he acts, I don’t exactly want his company either…

Some of his recent choices have been, I’ll be blunt, pretty stupid…he used to be a total clown and fun to hang with, and now he’s incredibly irritable and has emotionally flat-lined. He’s also in a position of being the son of an alcoholic parent whose behavior has only gotten worse as time has passed on, and the two have frequently butted heads as of late. I just don’t know how to interact with him anymore, and I’ve only been honest with him about how he’s changed like two times… we used to talk and share everything with each other and now it’s like he won’t have anything to do with me…I’m a little hurt and very worried about what goes on behind closed doors, and truly want to be there for him, but how can you help someone who won’t acknowledge you?

(Sorry I typed so much)

OK the vpo says.. The father can not consume any alcohol while exercising visitations with minor child. He got drunk drove, with my son, and physically assaulted me in front of him. Now i have not saved up enough money for an attorney yet, im four months pregnant and am not working so until i can go to court and try to take full custody, can the father get my son for visitations?