How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

A few weeks ago I caught my son snorting cocaine with his friends. I told him that I was going to kick him out of the house because of his actions (He’s 18 and living with his friend now). After going through his room to throw out some more of his stuff (I didn’t let him keep anything) I found some coke and decided to try some. It was AWESOME! Now I fear that I’m addicted and I don’t want to overdose or something. My wife wants a divorce now (she just came back from a vacation with friends so she just found out about me kicking our son out) and I don’t know what to tell her about my coke use (she doesn’t know yet). I’m sure they’re some health benefits to snorting coke and I need to know some so I can explain to my wife.

My son lives with his stepfather and me, but sees his natural Dad once a year, in summer. They talk all the time on the phone. His Dad calls every Saturday. I know my ex is trying to be a good dad, but he isn’t any good at it. He thinks our son is his friend, and tells him stories about how drunk he was at the bar last night, how he got this girl to go home with him, etc, etc. (My ex is an alcoholic who refuses treatment) My son is 14, and is starting to think this is normal dinner table conversation. I tried once to explain to my ex why these bar stories are not apropriate, and he told me I could put my “uptight morality” where the sun doesn’t shine. My son adores his dad, and I really don’t want to put him down, but how can I explain what’s wrong with his dad without sounding negative?

the mother is a drug addict i have no kids but have been trying to get him and his sis for years. my nephew is not only physical but verbal w/ us. I want to help but do not know what to do. Do not get me wrong I love everything that I have I just want more for this child some advice would help. thank you

My husbands’ mother has made my life hell for the last 5 years. She first started to not like me because I made my now husband choose me over a woman he was sleeping with (he had an affair) and the mother in law liked the other girl better. 3years ago she called cps on me because I was depressed trying to deal with just having my third child and she says since I was sleeping “a lot” that I was abusing my kids so they got taken from me. While I was struggling to get them back out of foster care she calls the case worker talking trash about me on a daily basis. Well I got my kids back in 6 months because I did everything they asked me to do and proved I was a good mother. She stayed out of our lives for two years because it made her mad that my husband asked her to leave me alone. Well now we are in a different state. We moved 1088 miles from her we were getting along great (me and my husband and our kids) then one day my husband gets a call from his mother crying saying where she was living was to abusive for her (her girlfriend got hooked on drugs and she didn’t want to live there anymore) so we let her move in with us I was giving her a second chance since I thought she would be nice since she was in bad situation and we were getting her out of it. Well before she moves in I tell my husband that I do not want her cat to come with her because our son has bad allergies.
She also smokes and since I have lung problems and my son has asthma I asked him if she could smoke out side that’s my only requests. I make him smoke outside and it’s his house. So she gets there and everything I asked for gets thrown out the window. She brought her cat I complained so she said ok fine one day in the house and the cat will stay out in the garage. Never happened for the 20 days she stayed with us that cat was in the house in her room and roaming around when me and my husband were at work.
. Now as soon as she gets to her room I tell her that she will have to smoke out in the garage and she said no that’s not going to work and she and my husband came up with a compromise of there own she smoked in her room with the door closed and window cracked about a quarter thick. I complained every day of her smoking in our house. She also brought weed into our house and smoked in what used to be our daughters room. My husband made a deal with his mother that she could live there for free if she baby sits our kids while we were at work. I didn’t like that so I complained until the day she left. Well even after all this she still talked down to me and talked bad about me to my kids so I asked my husband to ask her to leave. She had one more child living 20 miles away so she could go live there with them. He asked her if she can go stay with his sister and she started crying and saying I can’t believe I worked all those years for you and you are going to kick me out.
So she quilted him into letting her continue to stay there. So I started to speak my mind on everything and that made her mad to be getting the same treatment she was giving me. She told her son I can’t believe you are allowing her to disrespect me like that I never let anyone speak to me this way. Well it all ended when one night she was going on one of her rants about how I am a bad mother and I just went off on her and we were screaming in each others face and she said don’t talk to me and went to her room and slammed the door I went into my kitchen and started cleaning and she came in there as I was walking out and backed me back into the kitchen and I asked her to move she didn’t respond so I tried to walk around her fat ass but I couldn’t and she said don’t touch me and pushed me I pushed her back and she screamed Thomas your wife just hit me and I told her to leave and she said no it’s not your call it’s not your house it’s my son’s house.
Well after all this I was so fed up I told my husband he better choose between me and our children or your mother and to make a longer story short he made his mother leave. Now he acts differently towards me like he is made that I made him choose he thought nothing was wrong with the living situation and he says it was all my fault that I should have tried harder to get along with his mother. What do I do? I am so mad and frustrated at him.

hi, my name is sheri and i’m 22 yaers old. I ran away from home when i was 13 yaers old, and i got hooked on drugs. i’ve been to rehab twice. but this past time i relapsed, i did it on my own!!
i guess wanted it bad enough.well, all i know how to do are the old fashioned things that wemon are supposed to do.[cook, clean,and try and raise my son. (he's 20 months)] anyway’s, i got sober my 35 year old boyfriend hasn’t kicked the habbit yet.we live with his mother. she pays for every thing. i try to help out as much as i can, cooking and cleaning the house, i try to work for her and put in my part, well because i ran away so young, i became homeless addicted to crack cocaine, here in miami, fl. i say that because i havn’t seen nor even herd from any one in my family in almost 10 years. i have god, and the greatest gift i could ever recieve, my son. my boyfriend’s abusive to me. physically, emotionally, mentally. i want to face my fear and go out on my own. i’m scared.
what do you sugest

My son’s father used to have a coke habit, but he quit for awhile. We aren’t together and he has little to no contact with my son– I have primary custody of the child. But I’m beginning to suspect that he’s using harder drugs again.

It’s been long enough that I can’t remember what he was like when he was doing cocaine regularly.

He’s very good at hiding the signs. I want to know what to look for before I go to court for full custody of the child.

So im unemployed making it on a limited income. I barely have enough for myself &desperately looking for work. My sister who is addicted to pain killers, & my bro in law who wont work, & my drug addicted nephew wont get off their butts and DO SOMETHING TO CHANGE THEIR SITUATION. So cause its my sister, I been giving her what ever I can, I gave her my doctor money, my prescription money (blood pressure pills) to help get her through until she can get her disability check. She calls me and I ask her to call me after 9pm to save my cell minutes for employers, im on limited cell minutes too, so she says “I need to borrow $40, I cut her to the quick and tell her I dont have it, because I dont, and she hangs up on me ! I call her today to let her know (shes was using my computer to route resumes) that somebody is looking for her for work, and she says to me….”Im glad you could call me today and waste your cell minutes”..and hangs up on me.
I have let her do her laundry ay my house, fed her, bought her cigs, and gave her food money, I cant keep doing this, Im broke myself….Why does SHE have an attitude with me ? If it was SO important for her to talk to me, why couldnt she call me after 9…She knows I try to save my cell minutes for employers..what the hell ? Im sitting here feeling bad, and shes pissed at me ?
What the hell did I do wrong ?

My sister has been hooked on crack for 10 years. I am raising her son. She is 30 and has never had a job or been responsible for anything in her life. When my mom died a few years ago, her will said that whatever money my sister received from her life insurance should be held in my trust. That money has run out and now my sister is receiving settlement money from the lawsuit over my mom’s death. (mesothelioma) This money legally doesn’t have to be held in my trust. It could go straight to my sister but she agreed that because of her drug issue, my brother and I could hold on to it for her so she doesn’t go blow it. There is about 75 thousand dollars total. Well, a year has passed and my brother and I are fed up being responsible for this money. She is constantly calling asking for more money, even though we agreed on a set budget. Obviously she is going and blowing this money on crack. We don’t usually tell her no because legally, it is her money to do with what she wants. But we are so sick of the lies and deceit and the constant calls. And we are scared that drug dealers will show up at our house because she has told them we have all this money for her but won’t give it to her.
If this were your sibling, or your adult child, would you just give them the whole 75 thousand and let them go blow it on crack?. Even though you know there is a good likelihood it would cause her to overdose and die? Or would you just keep answering the phone calls and give it to her a little bit at a time so she will be less likely to be able to go on a massive binge that will kill her?
My brother and I are so sick of all of this but at the same time, we don’t want to live with the guilt of knowing that she died because we gave her all that money at once.
And she absolutely refuses long term rehab. She went a couple of times to 30 day programs, but she left to smoke crack within a week of getting out.
Is there anyway to get legal control of her money because of her addiction?
Thanks for your help.

The other night, my son went to a rave with his friend, my friend who works at the rave place was on the phone with me said that my son drank some alcohol – free beer and he said not to be worried, should I be worried, though? My son is 15.

I’m thinking of having a punch with some rum for my son’s 18th birthday party–Most of my son’s friends are 19 and older (which is the drinking age in Ontario)..so would it really be wrong to have it?

My son is in a Drug and Alcohol Rehab and has been for 3 months. To work the program, he is looking at 18 months to complete it. So far he is doing good, but often gets depressed. He was addicted to Crack. Crystal Meth and Alcohol. I am not at all familiar with the drugs. If he completes the 18 months, what is the likelihood that he will go back on drugs and what are the long term side effects on his mind and body? He was using for 8 years. And I haven’t seen him in 8 years because of this. We talk on the phone and I send him what he needs until he is own his own. Can someone enlighten me on the chance of getting my ole son back to normal? Thanks so much!
I forgot to mention that my son is 32.
Where my son is, they will not give him any medications. They do not believe in it.

I need a little help and i am going to make this as short as possible.i have a 20 year old son that has been in a toxic relationship with this girl who just turned 18 in November.To say the least the girl has several mental issues, depression, low self esteem are her high points.They started to go out in january 2008, come to find out she was dating a drug dealer and was already at 16 hooked on drugs. My son told her she had to quit and agreed but that was of course BS. they went out until march of 2009 she broke up with him because she cheated on him at a drug hose party.They were broke up until this September. She claims to going to counseling and is off the drugs. When she came back into my hose she was bone thin and saw her have the shakes several times. The relationship was not the best and around Thanksgiving she did her usual MO. Which is she finds somebody who she thinks is more interesting cheats with that person dumps my son and in a few months it does not work out and she comes crying back to my son and like an idiot he takes her back.His best friend is Guatemalan and very Street smart and he was telling me this girl lied about being off drugs and that she is snorting Roofies, vicaden, oxy cotton, adderal and taking Ecstasy. My sons friend really hates the girl for all the grief she has been giving my son.His friend says she is bleeding from the nose which means its coming from her brain and that the problem will be solved and world will be less on junkie.The question is is my sons friend right is this girl headed for a early grave.He gives her two years.I don’t like the girl but i don’t want her dead i want her scared straight. the other question i have is their any help for her or is she to forgone at this point.. thanks