How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

Hello, I am a 27 year old man who is having major issues with binge eating. My weight fluxuates between 185 to 230 a couple times a year as the problems come and go. I’ve always been a heavy eater but never gained weight until college. A few years ago I dropped down to 185 and that is when the rollercoaster began. My wife, whom I met a little under 3 yrs ago is Bulimic. She has fought the disease for over 10 yrs and is only 24 yrs old. As of now we are binging multiple times per week and cannot seem to get control of it. I find myself spending upwards of $10 per day at the snack machine. We are consuming close to 10k cal each per day we binge. There is much more to this but not enough char. to type it all. She went a whole year when we found out she was pregnant but it recently started up again. Our son is 6 months old and this is hurting us both emotionally and financially. I’m worried about my son’s future. Drs. have not been able to help. Suggestions please. Thanks
There is much more to this situation. I suffer from social anxiety. I take cymbalta for it and when I miss a couple days the urge is uncontrollable. My mind WILL NOT focus unless I binge, this does not mean 3 Lean Cusines but for example chineese take out, two cokes, four pop tarts, and a piece of bday cake ~4″x10″. All gone in less than 10 minutes. My wife is a fitness instructor and their is constant conflict regarding food. This goes much deeper but not going into it. I also suffer from depression Want to stop bad but much easier said than done. When the urges come they take over, you lose control. Control that does not come back from counting to 10, or snacking on something healthy but an annoying hyper, itchy, can’t focus on ANYTHING no matter how hard you try feeling – until you eat until you cannot eat anymore. I have to satisfy feeling this at work to do my job (IT). Then I feel like I’ve taken a step back. Also self concious over weight. 6’1″ 230lbs.
My wife and I both hide this well. We are both very attractive people, her body looks great, mine is slightly overweight. We both always concerned about our looks. We’re both very nice to everyone we meet and very well liked but it feels like we are wearing a mask. People think we are these perfect people but we hide our secrets very well. I know this sounds like I’m tooting my own horn but I’m just repeating what we’ve heard from others. I’m reaching out here because I’ve exhausted all avenues and am very desperate. As my son gets older he will begin to pick up our behavior. I’m confident if we can begin to gain control over this we will be able to start improving our relationship, financial situation and other areas of our lives that continue to degrade.

I have a month and a half old son. The father of the baby isn’t on the birth certificate. He said he did want to be apart of his life, but I cut off all ties I had with him. I feel he is not responsible enough. He is an alcoholic and a drug user, I know bad judgment on my part.

My current boyfriend wants to adopt my son, but I know the process of adoption has the father of the baby gives up his rights, How would I go about it if the father wants to be in his life, but I feel he is unfit.

My ex and I divorced in June 2008. I was awarded primary residential parenting time, he got every other weekend. We both had joint decision making. He was a very bad alcoholic and he currently takes medication for anxiety.

He had good behavior up until September so I changed the parenting papers so that he had primary residential responsibilities, and I moved in with him, and his ex girlfriend. I did this because I joined the army and I planned on leaving our son with him for the 6 months I was in training. His girlfriend left him the weekend before Christmas, and he told me he had been using drugs with her. When moving her and her sister’s belongings out of the house I found needles, cut straws, burnt pieces of aluminum, and other drug paraphernalia. He told me he had done cocaine two weekends, then added he had also done methamphetamine every weekend for the first two months that I had been staying here. Later he changed his story back to just cocaine. He also has gotten over drunk several times, and even had to go to detox one night.

I can’t leave my son with him while I go to the army. I don’t trust him as a parent anymore. I want to leave my son with my father and his girlfriend who live in Nevada, but the divorce decree that we have states that neither of us can take the child from the state unless the other agrees, and he won’t agree to it. I don’t have money for an attorney, and I know it’s going to be a long uphill battle.

Any suggestions on what I can do?