How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

I really don’t know what to do. My sister (she has kids 12, and 16 yr. old) took in this guy, and shortly thereafter she started using meth. Her kids can’t stand him, she thinks they love the low life. He is another story. Anyway her life is a mess, she doesn’t have clue on how to raise and supervise her kids, she is going down the tubes fast and just clings to her boyfriend. She says she loves her kids but she makes drugs (parties all night) and her boyfriend her #1 priority. Meth is the kind of drug that totally distorts her reality, and she’s very hostile about everything. I have called drug counselors and they say she has to lose everything BEFORE its apparent that she needs help. Her children are very difficult to deal with, so I can’t have them move in with me, and besides if I took her responsibilities off her hands then she’d just party full time. As I write this I am getting frustrated because for 20+ years our family has been on a roller coaster with her addictions, and all her bad decisions in life. The only reason I am writing this is because when she had a moment of sobriety (6years) we did everthing together. She was my best friend. Our kids loved to be together and just hang out. The moment she brought that man and drugs into her life, she has been a total different person. I miss and love my sober sister, and I have not seen a that side of her for 3 1/2 years. I want to just give up and wait for the phone to ring…that she overdosed on meth and her heart stopped. Her drugs have torn my family apart on more than one occasion. What do I do? She said she doesnt’ have a drug problem, she only uses meth “recreationally” and can handle it. Lets see, her oldest son moved out, two cars were impounded and taken away, she has been served a 30 day notice, and her section 8 was just taken from her because she had a man living with her. Please save your welfare judgement, we are on the same page when it comes to MY tax dollars supporting people like this. I am her only family member that she MIGHT listen to eventually, or should I just give up?

My sister about to be 22 if she makes her April 5th birthday. She had her first child at 17. In the state of Kentucky once a minor has a baby they’re automatically emanicipated in the the eyes of the law and treated as an adult. Once she found out this she stopped listening to my mother. They began to argue and fight and my sister dropped out of high school in the 12th grade.

That same summer my mother moved and told my sister that she couldn’t move with her so my sister got her own apartment through a low income place. Every since then she’s gone wild. She lost a lot of weight and stopped letting us visit my niece or only calling when she wants something. She started dating an older guy who is a drug dealer.

Last april she went missing. Her friends called my mother and told my mother that she needed to come check on her because there was a foul smell coming from her apartment. When my mother and older sister got there they found the place a mess and my sister and niece where missing. Moet bottles and cigar wrappers where everywhere. Her friends confirmed to my mother that my sister was snorting cocaine (tooting powder), taking x pills, smoking weed and drinking. Not to mention she was pregnant. My mom and older sister found my little sister at some friends apartment but she didn’t have my niece turned out that she was with her boyfriend and my sister didn’t know where.

CPS does nothing when they come because my sister flips the tables on my mom because she’s a former drug addict. So she cleans her house and buys food and plays like she doesn’t have a problem. Now she’s just given birth to my nephew in december who doesn’t have any problems thank the lord but because he’s my moms first grandson (my mom has 4 daughter and 5 granddaughters) she wants to spend time with him and my sister doesn’t let her and she’s back to doing drugs. She’s lost all her baby weight and constantly changes her phone numbers so we don’t have it. The guy she left my niece with is not my nephew’s father, some random guy she went to the hotel with is and so now the ex is trying to kill her or at least he’s made threats.

My mom had to take all of her money to provide for this little boy because my sister refused to do it. She wouldn’t tell us who his father was and won’t let us meet him. My mom lives on a fixed income because she had medical problems and my sister calls her every month to buy her son something and she’s getting welfare and food stamps. I’m at my witts end because i see the hurt in my moms eyes when she can’t see her grandson and i know my sister is using her. Calling CPS won’t work.

My sister has a serious drug addiction. I never know what drug she’s doing from week to week. One week its Loratabs, then it’s Cocaine, then it’s OxyCotton, etc. She and her drug addict boyfriend are both unemployed. My sister received welfare, food stamps, and child support. She has openly admitted that she is a drug addict and that she uses her child support and sells her food stamps to get she and her boyfriends fix. She spent her $2000 tax check on drugs . . . she admitted this. She always accuses my mother and stepdad of not loving her and not wanting her because they always have a lecture for her. She has a 4 year old son, and no matter how many times we have offered or threatened to take him until she got sober, she absolutely refuses to give him up. I understand she loves him, but what I can’t understand is how a parent wouldn’t want a better life for their child. My biggest fears are that she is going to end up dead and that my nephew is going to grow up just like her. How do I convince her that she needs help and until she decides to get it she needs to let somebody else care for her child? I want to call CPS but that department never fails to disappoint me.

Her husband is the only one drinking at family functions and my husband, son and myself are mad as hell. They’ve only been sober 3 months. My brother in law has no respect and neither does she if she supports him.

This has been obvious for years. My mom started her addiction when I was 15, 6 years ago. She has always been the type to get easily addicted. She once was a cocaine addict, alchoholic, and she was addicted to pain shots from the doctor. It was so bad when I was around 8, she would actually have us walk to the hospital so she could get her fix and she still will go to the doctor if she has no pills. She went to the hospital so much at one time they refused to see her anymore at about 2 to 3 hospitals around our area. Anyway, she started driving a truck and got a back injury and was perscribed pain pills. She then quit her job and stoped working from then on. She hasnt had but 1 or 2 jobs in all this time. She is not the same woman she used to be. Come to think of it I wouldn’t recognize my mother if she was completely sober. She is actually addicted to gambling to, I am talking about so addicted that we went without electric while she was a truck driver addicted. So she has also got my sister hooked. I just dont know what to do anymore I know its just the drugs, but because her and my sister have that in common they’ve pretty much abandoned me. I am a mother of two who is a stay at home mom. My point is that i’ve actually called her crying for help and her say no, but she’ll watch my sister’s son any day of the week. It hurts, I am fed up, and I want to help them. So I can have a real mother and my daughters a real grandmother. Any idea on how I can help them.

This has been obvious for years. My mom started her addiction when I was 15, 6 years ago. She has always been the type to get easily addicted. She once was a cocaine addict, alchoholic, and she was addicted to pain shots from the doctor. It was so bad when I was around 8, she would actually have us walk to the hospital so she could get her fix and she still will go to the doctor if she has no pills. She went to the hospital so much at one time they refused to see her anymore at about 2 to 3 hospitals around our area. Anyway, she started driving a truck and got a back injury and was perscribed pain pills. She then quit her job and stoped working from then on. She hasnt had but 1 or 2 jobs in all this time. She is not the same woman she used to be. Come to think of it I wouldn’t recognize my mother if she was completely sober. She is actually addicted to gambling to, I am talking about so addicted that we went without electric while she was a truck driver addicted. So she has also got my sister hooked. I just dont know what to do anymore I know its just the drugs, but because her and my sister have that in common they’ve pretty much abandoned me. I am a mother of two who is a stay at home mom. My point is that i’ve actually called her crying for help and her say no, but she’ll watch my sister’s son any day of the week. It hurts, I am fed up, and I want to help them. So I can have a real mother and my daughters a real grandmother. Any idea on how I can help them

I had a drinking problem and recieved a P.I. and my son had to move into my sister’s home while I attended an intensive outpatient program. After that, I recieved a D.W.I. and let him stay with her until I cleaned up my act. I am ready now, doing very well and very happy as a matter of fact (I actually love the 12 steps-they are life skills). I know she is going to fight me tooth and nail over this, legally. I will go to any lengths to keep my son and do whatever is necessary in order to do so. Who can help me prepare for this upcoming battle? I finally have the guts as he alwyas comes over crying and saying how awful it is there (she’s very demeaning and controlling and argues non-stop), but it is nothing that would carry any weight. She used to cocaine and dated a dealer, etc. She put this in her pass and is very successful now and I respect that, but I will never be “good” in her eyes. Nobody is. Please don’t think I just want to play mom out of the blue.

long story short my drug addict brother married and had a baby and i got really close with his wife we called each other sisters and with my nephew as he is my first nephew and my brother screwed up the marriage and she took off and cut my whole family out of her life including me. i have tried to contact her she ignores me. tomorrow is my nephews birthday his first birthday and i havent seen him since he was in NICU. i am just so depressed i miss them so much and im not sure how to cope

5 years ago, my sister’s son was taken from her after a very bad drug binge. I was granted custody of him, which was a dream come true seeing as I had a hysterectomy when I was 22 and, was never able to have the family I dreamed of, especially after my husband left me when I could not have children. My sister has been and, in my eyes will always be an addict.

Although, I have remained estranged from her for the last 5 years she has begun to try and wedge her way back into our lives, citing that she has cleaned herself up. I know it’s all lies, all the lying and stealing she did to me proves she never really cared for me or her son. I gave her numerous chances and, she blew them all.

Now she is trying to regain custody of her former son and, I don’t want her to. He is my son now and, my miracle. I would rather drive the heroin needle into her arm myself then hand my 6 year old back over to her. I’ve begun the process to legally adopt him, in order to stop her but, is she a serious contender to get custody back?? I’m worried, I want her to have no part in our lives.

I love my sister very much but she’s a f*** up. At 18 she had twin baby girls. She was going to college and doing pretty well and she had twin babies at that time. She hooked up with a drug addict who rubbed off on her. She quit school, she lost her children because of it. But she’s married to the creep now and have a son with him. I’m worried about her son. Her husband is a drunk, a drug addict, a gambler, he’s abusive and when I went to stay with them for a while he even started picking on me. Throwing things at me, being verbally abusive and he even started accusing me of doing drugs in his house and having sex in his house. My sister’s reaction was, “I don’t want to hear it.” He’s messed up her life and I fear for the child. My sister has chosen someone exactly like my mother’s husband who we had to live with and grow up around. I had hoped she was smarter than that. I’m so angry with her but I don’t know how to voice my anger and tell her to leave him. She needs to leave him. Help

My sister got out of jail 5 months ago and everyone but my mother thinks she is using meth again. By the way my sister lives with my mother and her 6 year old son. Any advice on dealing with it?My sister is slowly killing herself. This enabling has happened before. My sister used meth for 3 years prior to 5 months ago.

My sister has been hooked on crack for 10 years. I am raising her son. She is 30 and has never had a job or been responsible for anything in her life. When my mom died a few years ago, her will said that whatever money my sister received from her life insurance should be held in my trust. That money has run out and now my sister is receiving settlement money from the lawsuit over my mom’s death. (mesothelioma) This money legally doesn’t have to be held in my trust. It could go straight to my sister but she agreed that because of her drug issue, my brother and I could hold on to it for her so she doesn’t go blow it. There is about 75 thousand dollars total. Well, a year has passed and my brother and I are fed up being responsible for this money. She is constantly calling asking for more money, even though we agreed on a set budget. Obviously she is going and blowing this money on crack. We don’t usually tell her no because legally, it is her money to do with what she wants. But we are so sick of the lies and deceit and the constant calls. And we are scared that drug dealers will show up at our house because she has told them we have all this money for her but won’t give it to her.
If this were your sibling, or your adult child, would you just give them the whole 75 thousand and let them go blow it on crack?. Even though you know there is a good likelihood it would cause her to overdose and die? Or would you just keep answering the phone calls and give it to her a little bit at a time so she will be less likely to be able to go on a massive binge that will kill her?
My brother and I are so sick of all of this but at the same time, we don’t want to live with the guilt of knowing that she died because we gave her all that money at once.
And she absolutely refuses long term rehab. She went a couple of times to 30 day programs, but she left to smoke crack within a week of getting out.
Is there anyway to get legal control of her money because of her addiction?
Thanks for your help.

He is not using meth.He is normal he eats alot, sleeps alot,has good teeth is a normal weight.Plus he says he is not and I beleive him.She says he has such a bad temper.Well she really gets in his face because he drives too fast in front of her house and she acts really hateful so he gets mad.I remember that our father had a horrible temper and he never used meth .Meth wasnt even invented then so it runs in the family but she is ruining his reputation by telling other family members and neighbours he uses meth with no proof.He is 20 and he is a little slow sometimes.He just yells alot he hasnt hit anybody. We all live on the same street.

I don’t live there but my sister is asking for my help regarding finding a drug rehab for her son. She has just recently found out that her son is taking heroin, and this really shook her up. I have to admit that I’m affected as well. My nephew is a straight A student, the kind of kid who has always been such a good boy. It was just really surprising for me to know this. This must be really tough on my sister, and that’s why I want to do whatever I can to help her. Any suggestions?

She is a meth addict for over three years and has been enabled by my mother who has decided to put her hands in the air and give up. She says that my addict sister can just leave with her son. What! It is pure dysfunctional drama. But the loser is the little boy. My sister even asked him to pee for her for a drug test my mother was giving her. Should I butt in or stay out.

her husband kicked her out last week after 20 years of her taking drugs and drinking. They have an autistic son and she was totally out of control. She lived in Seattle I told her she could come down where I live in texas and would help her if she went to AA. she doesn’t want to go when I make her she sleeps. I rented her a place until friday (that will be her here a week) she just hung up on me when I asked why she skipped another meeting. Said I was not her mother. All she wants to do is go stay at my vacation house on the beach and sit in the sun. I want to just leave her where she is let her figure something out herself. My friends say let her go to the coast and stay there. Well what good is that? living in my house just going to the beach taking god knows what. Not sleeping for days. She weighes about zero pounds. If she was your sister what would you do? give her a chance at the beach or just cut my losses. I am exhausted