How can I protect the kids? They are not being harmed right now and are away from their father who beats the mother. The mother is an alcoholic and has hit her daughter, but not the son yet. They are not in imminent danger so CPS won’t really do anything concrete and could scare my sister away from at least a safe environment with my parents. She won’t enter rehab or stop drinking either.
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How can I protect the kids? They are not being harmed right now and are away from their father who beats the mother. The mother is an alcoholic and has hit her daughter, but not the son yet. They are not in imminent danger so CPS won’t really do anything concrete and could scare my sister away from at least a safe environment with my parents. She won’t enter rehab or stop drinking either.
She’s an adult and my mom has told her to get out several times. My mom sees how destructive she is when she leaves so she let her come back. The only problem is, she’s destructive here too. She’s extremely rude and starts fights with everyone. She has no respect for personal space or things and she brings alcohol into the house even though my mother told her not to. She smokes excessively then comes in with smoke clinging to her clothes and her son has asthma. Can I have her removed from the home and will her son have to go with her?
my friend Lauren and i are really trying to convince her sister Amanda not to name her daughter Crystal as her boyfriends last name is Meeth and her daughters name would be Crystal Meeth, would sounds and looks like Crystal Meth. She says she doesnt want to name her daughter anything else because ever since she was a little girl she has wanted to name her daughter Crystal if she had a girl and her son Kendall if she had a boy. What should we do? Her child will go through hell in school
My sister inlaws is 22,her fiance will be 40 sometime this month. The problem is that I know he does cocaine and they both get pilled all the time. The live in Enland for now.Whenthey visited my hubby and I noticed how her fiances mood changed drastically. When he went back home he blamed me for stealing $300 which I never did.I have young children and would rather that my kids have no contact with either of them. I don’t know what to do.
I have told my hubby when they come back over that they are not welcome at our home. Am I doing the right thing?
I know that is my hubby’s sister but she has been in our business for years telling my hubby years ago that I threw our son in the crib when I didn’t and she wasn’t even in the room!
She tells us how to run our relationship meanwhile we have been together almost 13 years. She causes alot of problems for us.Probably wrong on my part,but I threatened her with a secret I know about her and that was her abortion. I had it her controlling us.
I told my mother inlaw befrore she left for england (3 years ago)that her daughter was smoking up in the driveway of the house she had no concern,nothing. My sister inlaw came into the house smelling so strong of it and with my kids around I had to leave.
I just don’t want my hubby thinking that I am out to hate his family. I am trying to protect my kids,they don’t need to be around people like that.
She has 3 kids, and a husband whom is an alcoholic, too. She got evicted for her alcohol addiction and is now living with my mom, so whenever I stop by to see the kids they are always hungry and I have to cook them something to eat. She receives foodstamps and social security every month but my nephew, her oldest son always tells me that she is always buying beer with it. I want to report on her but the last time I did all of her kids got taken away and she had a hard time getting them all back. I don’t want to take care of all her kids on my own, because they aren’t disciplined.
her ex was watching there daughters when she came down to nc to visit with her son he fell asleep and the girls went outside she dosnt do drugs or abuse or neglect her kids but they wont listen to her or the kids they have drug tested the foster parents and they have come up positive for cocaine and marijuana but this does not seem to matter to the courts we need to bring these children back home to there mother please help
My alcoholic sister (whom I dearly love) has been visiting for a week. She’s been drinking a little every day. She is always worse than I thought she is. I don’t get to see her much. The first morning she even had the shakes really bad and had to take alchohol to get rid of them.
Her legs are so weak she can barely walk. She says it’s from a stroke she had two years ago? She never went for therapy, of course…
She was on my back deck smoking a cigarette, I went out front to do some work for 20 minutes, I came back into the house and she was flat on her back on the floor, eyes real big and open, she had froth around her mouth and seemed incoherent. Within seconds her legs drew up a bit, every part of her was shaking, she looked pale, she could not speak but looked as though trying to answer me, her hands went back and forth. I of course called 911.
The episode lasted maybe 4-5 minutes. By the time the ambulance got here, she was coherent, she claimed she was sleeping (duh).
She had fallen twice few days before (which is not unusual for her) and she got severely bruised on every part of her body including above her right eye. (She says her blood thinners make her bruise easily). The paramedics said her coumadin might be too strong since the bruises are so dark looking.
She went without any of her meds for an entire year and only two months ago started taking them again. (She doesn’t ever want to go to the doctor’s for a check-up and refills on the prescriptions).
The paramedics said her blood pressure was high. And, because she was now coherent, they could not “force” her to go to the hospital. My sister refused to go and get checked out.
She will most likely NOT go to be checked at all, and I would like to know what sounds like might have happened with her from anyone who has had experience with alcoholics and stroke victims.
I know I cannot make her quit drinking. I know in my heart she will most likely die young (she’s 56 years old) on me, and I cry and dread the day. The paramedics seem to think it was a seizure. Her son whom she lives with says this type thing never happened before. Could this have been a seizure/stroke?
ok my sister (22) is my guardian and has been for about 11 months. She took me in when my past gaurdian my uncle james went back to his alcoholic addiction and started abusing me. My mother abandoned me at age 12 and i have no idea where she is. My sister is a CNA and works about 5 days a week. She goes out 6-7 days out of the week to the pub or club and has been non stop for 5 months. Her son (2) is with me for 12 hours a day. From the moment she leaves for work to the moment she comes back from the bar 230-3 am. I am 17 and a senior in highschool and i am watching a 2 year old boy all those hours 5 days a week. and when shes not working she still goes out and sometimes doesnt get home till 4 am. While shes out the baby doesnt sleep and i have to stay up and take care of him. ITs exhausting and my grades have suffered, ive failed my pre cal class. I only have a few months left before collage but i dont even think i can last that long with her. She uses me for a babysitter constantly and my social life and boyfriend are suffering. I cant go out and my bf and i have no privrate time b.c im always watching the baby. When ever i confront her she says i have an attitude and that if i dont like it i can leave, and that she pays the bills. I had to quit my job to watch her son, she cant pay the bills unless i watch him and i of course cant leave. It hurts when she says this since i have been in foster care and have heard that for years over and over. I feel like i dont have a home and i feel used. I cant argue with her about her alcoholism b.c she KNOWS shes an alcoholic and just wont do anything about it. I need some serious help please, sorry its so long..
her boyfriend thats the babys father is in Boston, another state from us and the baby goes up there every few months fro a few weeks but she and him fight so they wont stay together for too long and she wont leave the baby up there b.c she doesnt want his father to have him. My sister wont hire a babysitter b.c shes too cheap and would rather have me do it b.c she doesnt “trust” anyone else. I cant hire one b.c i have no money
We are spending lots of time and money his party. The only issue is my ex husband’s sister (my son’s aunt). She’s a major alcoholic–and she totally gets drunk at every party. I know my sons loves her to death and she is always nice to him–but last time she got drunk and broke one of our kitchen chairs!!
She keeps calling us..What should I do??
We are spending lots of time and money his party. The only issue is my ex husband’s sister (my son’s aunt). She’s a major alcoholic–and she totally gets drunk at every party. I know my sons loves her to death and she is always nice to him–but last time she got drunk and broke one of our kitchen chairs!!
She keeps calling us..What should I do??
my older sister is 20 years old. she has been manipulative, and a liar as long as i can remember. she will lie to get herself out of things, or even lie to make a good conversation. she lives with my mom and i, and her boyfriend and 7 week old baby live with us as well. she won’t do dishes, or even wash her son’s bottles, my mother has to do it. it’s not that she outright refuses to do it, she just leaves the things next to the sink for my mom to deal with, or just asks my mom as sweet as possible to do it for her. she is a part-time student, and she takes care of her baby, and that’s about all she does. but she tells my mom and i that we’re lazy, because of something simple like the trash can being full. my mom had 2 young kids at the same time, kept her house clean, cooked for all of us, took care of us and our dad, washed the dishes, and had a full-time job as well. she is by no means lazy, and she did twice as much work as my sister does, and didn’t have complaints, or three other adults in the house to help take care of her kids.
i am only slightly worried for my nephew, because i don’t know if his parents will stay together, or what his mother will make him think about us. she loves him unconditionally. she has always loved kids, and she’s really great with him. but it’s scary to think of how a kid will be able to understand how his mother can be completely fine with her family one day, and the next day, degrading us and telling us we’re worthless.
it’s hard to live with her, because if we don’t give her what she wants, she yells at us and starts a fight. the smallest thing can make her yell. i’m not sure if it’s because she’s actually angry, or if it is because she wants to hurt us. just an example of how she can be: tonight the baby was crying, and she was obviously frustrated and tired. she didn’t know why he was crying, so she sent me downstairs for a bottle. when i came back, i handed the bottle to her. a few minutes later she yelled at me for bringing the bottle, because she found that he’s not hungry. and that i’m a “fat piece of ****” because i didn’t get the mail today. all my mom said to her was “tara, that’s ridiculous, she didn’t do anything. you’re tired, let me have the baby” and she continued to give my mom an attitude. my mom told her “you have a problem” and she said, “you two are the ones with the problem, i’m leaving.” and went downstairs.
to summarize (i should have done this in the beginning, lol.)
– my sister lies constantly, sometimes for no reason.
– she manipulates (for instance, getting my mom to cosign her truck loan, and refusing to get rid of the truck after she lost her job and couldn’t afford it)
– she doesn’t seem to appreciate people close to her.
– she has a short temper.
– she is insecure about her boyfriend being loyal, and i don’t think she has a reason to.
– she uses terrible language constantly, which is embarassing, and it makes it seem like she was raised in a house that used bad language.
– she doesn’t have a problem degrading her family members.
– she asks for favors from her family, even after she fights with them.
– she doesn’t think she has a problem.
– she confides in her boyfriend’s aunt like a mother, and i’ve heard her tell lies to her, so we seem like terrible people.
– she is NOT an alcoholic, or drug addict.
– she is very stubborn.
– she would never shoplift, but she takes things from my mom and i because she can, not because she needs it (such as an entire week’s pay from me when she had a better job than i did)
my mom has researched narcissism, and thinks that is my sister’s problem. however, my sister refuses to think there is anything wrong with her, so she won’t get help. living with her is taking its toll, and if i were a weaker person, i would have broken years ago.
what can i do about this? does anyone know what might be wrong with her? i know that in a lot of cases, people like this won’t get help so what can we do about living with her? i seriously can’t take it anymore, we need help.
How can I protect the kids? They are not being harmed right now and are away from their father who beats the mother. The mother is an alcoholic and has hit her daughter, but not the son yet. They are not in imminent danger so CPS won’t really do anything concrete and could scare my sister away from at least a safe environment with my parents. She won’t enter rehab or stop drinking either.
I hate to say it but it’s true. My sister left her kids and husband 3 years ago her kids are 6, 5, and 3 1/2, for a man that is a drug addict. She also has a child she had with this drug addict that she has with her. Recently we found out she was collecting welfare (check, foodstamps) not just for her and the baby but for all her kids. This really upset me because my neices and nephew have it real hard their father works but still they are having it rough and she is collecting all this and giving them nothing. So my mother and I confronted her and she gave my mom the foodstamp card and said she had $200 on there to get her children some food my mother went to the store and when she went to buy the food there was nothing on the card not only did my mom have to be embaressed but those kids have nothing I go to the food pantry every week and send them food I have my own kids so I cant really afford to buy them alot of food i also keep them all the time to help out my brother in law, she acts like they don’t even exist. I never want to see her and I definetly never want to see that S.O.B she’s with. When I told her nothing was on the card she said it had to be him but does that stop her from being with him no. I just want her to be a mother I want her to be with her kids what can I say? What can I do to make her see this mistake before it’s too late? I wish i had the money to give those kids a life I feel so bad for them they want to live with me and I wish I could take them please give me advice i need to make my sister change.
Between her and her lowlife boyfriend they get over $1000 in foodstamps how is that not enough to feed your kids. I don’t see how she gets by with it.
Also I know for a fact they do oxycotin my daughter spent the night with her once and only once and told me she had to watch her baby all night while they were snorting pills and my daughter heard them say what they were
My sister in law is 21 and and i think that she still has a meth problem my boyfriend just found out last month ,at first he did not want to tell me that she had the problem ,but i already new of it by the way that she was acting. When i was younger in my life i had a drug problem that was really bad, and i got it from my mom. My mother was a meth addict most of my life, so i know the sings and i could see them by the actions that she was making not only that a a lot of people were telling me that she was using to.
When i fist suspected i told her mother that lives out of state she did not want to hear it not her girl she would not tuch that stuff my boyfriend and her dad is a big user and so we thought that she would not want to become like her father that she say’s she hate’s becuase he is a tweeker in her eyes well back to what the real problem is my boyfriend and their mother don’t want to see the big problem she has to get help before she hurts herself we have a son that just loves her to death, but if she continues to use meth then i may want to put my foot down and not allow her see my son if she dose not get help the big problem she dose not know that her brother told me about it what do i do to help her with out getting people mad at me? I love my sister in law and only want to help her before it’s to late. what can i do?
We are spending lots of time and money his party. The only issue is my ex husband’s sister (my son’s aunt). She’s a major alcoholic–and she totally gets drunk at every party. I know my sons loves her to death and she is always nice to him–but last time she got drunk and broke one of our kitchen chairs!!
She keeps calling us..What should I do??
Here is the situation. I am 30 she is 34. I reside with my parents for the time being to help them out. My parents recently got custody of my nephew after having him for 3 years. My sister is a recovering drug addict and she is also bi-polar. I am very proud that she is clean and sober now but at the same time I am angry that she has put my parents through the hell emotionally every other way possible and that she still acts as if they are supposed to take care of her and pay her bills. She can’t live with them due to the custody situation but when she comes to visit, she acts as if something is owed to her. For example me and my mom did all the cooking thanksgiving all she did was sleep and fuss. When asked to do the dishes she refused. That is nothing big deal really but it makes me feel like she still expects a free ride and makes me angry at my parents becuase I feel as if they are allowing her to be like this.
She does not appreciate the fact that we are rasing her son. She is yelling or fussing about something to where it is not easy or enjoyable to be around her. I am the type of person I speak my mind. I knwo I can’t change my parents or my sister but how can I let go of all of this and make this Christmas more ejoyable to all us. More so for the kids. Thanks so much.
I want to make a few things clear. First of all. I DO help rasie my nephew. I get him off to school and home and do his homework so my parents can work and not have to pay daycare. Second of all I DO understand she has a mental illness and that it affects alot but at the same time she needs to be held accountable for her actions. She DOES have self control. She shows that when she is living at the recovery house. I understand bi-polar and I do support her but at the sametime she can’t act any way she wants and get by with it. You have to draw the line somewhere.
alcoholic and drug addict. She has 2 kids ages 5 & 8. Last summer my husband and I ended up with her kids for 3 months because we called DCFS on her. She has a bad habit of leaving for several days at a time and we always get the kids dropped in our lap from someone else. I love my neice and nephew very much and I also love my sister……BUT……she needs help and this is not good for her kids. How do I help her to realize what she’s doing to her kids and to the rest of the family?? Should I call and turn her into DCFS again?? What are foster homes like?? I heard some bad things about them?? The end of the rope is here and I’m not sure how much more I can take of this. Would they go to a foster home? Would the kids be split up? I feel sick about all this and so in the middle of it all. I’m tired and weary. Any suggestions would be nice. Thanks.
Is there anyone who could give me some advice on how to talk to my sister about her bulimia problem?
She’s 42, lives with my mom and her son and she also has bi-polar disorder. My mother is fed up because she’s listening to my sister puke her guts up after every binge meal. she’s gone from 128 lbs to 86 lbs in the past year and getting worse. She is in therapy, but she refuses to tell her therapist about this problem, because she doesn’t see it as a problem, she tells my mom, it’s her body and stay out of her business, she’s an adult and all, but she’s also my best friend and every time I mention something about bulimia, she plays stupid and pretends she doesn’t have it. She knows the risks, she knows everything, my mom had brought home pamphlets, talked to her doctor, but the doctor told her to call the crisis hotline. He didn’t do anything. I fear for her life, she’s already had so many physical aliments that have led to surgery these past six months. I’m afraid she’s going to die right in front of us and there’s nothing we can do.
She’s killing herself and doesn’t see it as a problem. I know you can help anyone who doesn’t want it, but is there any advice you can give me on what to say to her?
edit..I know you can’t help anyone who doesn’t want it
My sister has been and, always will be a drug addict. She had a son and after only 3 months with her, the state took him away and I’ve been raising him ever since. She now claims to be clean and in a program but, I know that she will always be nothing more than a user, a loser. Plus, my nephew/son is 3 and thinks I’m his mother not my sister. I’m in the process of legally adopting him but druggie is trying to intervene… can she re-gain custody? I don’t want to lose my nephew and will go to great lengths to keep him from ever knowing about his scum bag mother. Is he in danger? Should I tempt her with some heroin?
She stole a great ammount of money from me to feed her habit. Am I just supposed to let that go? Start the slate clean? Even our mother says that she is dead to us. People can’t change… once an addict, always an addict.
I would rather drive the needle into her amr myself then let her walk out the door with my son.
My husband and I have come to think of our nephew as our own son. You can’t just keep forgiving people over and over. She has been off and on for years. I didn;t even know I had a newphew until the authorities reached me and asked I take him in. People who are addicted to drugs are weak and feeble, they have no control… how can they possibly raise a child?
I have the money, space and love to give my son. She is just using him as an excuse to “start fresh” for the 16th time, I refuse to let him become a pawn in her treachery… she’d sell him for a syringe in a split second. She can’t even afford private school and, I will not let him become an un-eduacted public schooler whose only future would be to become a janitor.
