How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

He’s 19 years old. He does have some Misdemeanors on his Criminal record (stuff like Curfew Violation and Alcohol Consumption by a Minor) but no Felonies. He just wants to make something of himself and he knows the United States Military is the First Step. So my quiestion is, will he be able to Join the Navy?

He’s out of control–staying out late at nights, using drugs and alcohol, hanging out with the wrong kids, defying parental authority and skipping school. His mother and I have decided that a boarding school that provides therapy, a regular schedule, plenty of exercise and positive morals is the best option at this time. Where do we start and what questions should we ask? There are a lot of websites and it’s hard to determine what to believe.

Want to know how others would handle things when he returns home.
Court date will be on thursday, he may or may not be able to come home. Dont know yet. This is his first time getting into trouble with the law.
We are strongly considering enrolling him into a drug/alcohol 60 day program. Although I think that taking alcohol to school was more for showing off to his buddys since he was sharing it with 3 other boys in the bathroom.
He will be grounded for quite some time of course…..

Since he wont be allowed to return to public school, we think going to an alternative school will only make his behavior worse since the only kids at that school will be troubled teens (like his self)

SO, we’re thinking maybe study for GED….

I just dont know what to do. I’m so heart broken and worried.
Please only serious answers, I’m so depressed and worried about him.
I just need to know what others would do from the outside looking in.

By the way, he did NOT get the alcohol from home.
We found out later today from another kid that he got it from a friend over the weekend and had it hid…

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By the way, I have not saw him since he left to go to school this morning. They took him straight to Juvenile and he will be there until thurs. which is when the court date is….
I dont know where he will go from there.
Home…. or back there for 60 days…
Its killing me.
Thank you all so much for the support and answers so far. BIG thank you.

Just to let you know, yesterday when we talked to the vice principal he told us that here where we live (georgia)
that there is a zero tolerance for alcohol, drugs and weapons. Meaning if you get caught with any of those, you are automatically thrown out of public schools and the only choice left is alternative schools or private (if you can find one here in the bible belt land to accept you, it is total up to the private school)

By the way, he has only gone to public school for 2 years. He has always been to Christian private schools before that…..
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My son is 14 years old and is in the 9th grade. Yesterday was his birthday and his teacher allowed him to have a celebation in the classroom. He says that his teacher gave him and about 5 of his classmates 3 shots of vodka. My son came home from school drunk and slurring his words.
My husband doesn’t really think that its such a big deal that our son came home drunk. He says that our son is old enough to make his own decisions and if he wants to be a drunk then that’s his business not ours. Is this right? Should my son be allowed to get drunk if he wants to? Should I allow his teacher to get away with this?? Help please!

over a year ago i adopted now a 5 year old boy. His mother is a addicted to crack and when she was pregnant she smoked crack too. Since he was younger he was in foster care. While in foster care he attended special education preschool. Now that i have him he is attending regular kindergarten since there is no special education kindergarten offered.
He’s been going to kindergarten(school) for past 3 months, but he is not getting any work done and does not focus on his work. His teacher told me that my son is not focusing and is always last one in class to finish his work, if he even finishes.At home he dose the same thing whether he is putting his close on or eating or doing his homework, always he takes way to long and cant sit still. I have been talking and trying anything just to get him to do what he is supposed to do but IT’S NOT WORKING.
MOST LIKELY HE IS ADHD. I need some concrete advice on what and how much can i expect form him regarding his school work/home chores and regular routines and how much can he accomplish. In other words what would be reasonable to ask him to do.
I am desperate and in need of some wisdom from you out there how do i get him to focus and do what he is supposed to. PLEASE HELP!!!

Im thinking about giving my son nonalcoholic beer in his lunch bag when he goes to school. The only rules it says about alcohol is nothing with alcohol is permitted and nonalcoholic beer has no alcohol in it.
so vanilla extract would be illegal for a kid to consume since it has alcohol in it?

stoned, per what my kid tells me. I know his mom, and supposedly she’ll be really angry with him if she finds out, but, she needs to intervene instead of being so concerned about her boyfriend and her. He’s 15, her son. My kid doesn’t want me to tell on his friend or to speak to his mom because then he’ll be angry with him and the boy in question is losing his close friends. But, he needs help and I don’t want him getting other fellow teens hooked on the stuff. What are my options? Are there anonymous teen drug intervention services that I can call to get him help since his mother is oblivious to the situation? He’s getting the drugs from a fellow kid at school that is known as a ‘pot head’ that he’s recently been hanging out with and also from an older person at his mom’s boyfriend’s house. We’re in Santa Clara County, Calif.

stoned, per what my kid tells me. I know his mom, and supposedly she’ll be really angry with him if she finds out, but, she needs to intervene instead of being so concerned about her boyfriend and her. He’s 15, her son. My kid doesn’t want me to tell on his friend or to speak to his mom because then he’ll be angry with him and the boy in question is losing his close friends. But, he needs help and I don’t want him getting other fellow teens hooked on the stuff. What are my options? Are there anonymous teen drug intervention services that I can call to get him help since his mother is oblivious to the situation? He’s getting the drugs from a fellow kid at school that is known as a ‘pot head’ that he’s recently been hanging out with and also from an older person at his mom’s boyfriend’s house. We’re in Santa Clara County, Calif.

Large Problem broke out at the high school my 14 year old son attends at. Right now I’m a student resource counselor at the same high school my son attends, I help troubled teenagers and many times they come to me if they have any issues/problems at school and/or at home.

Recently at school,a child in the same grade as my son, (he is 15) was caught in posession of an ounce of cocaine, apparently has been selling it since school started to his peers by grams. Since I am a counselor at this school, fortunately I was told everything that happened. According to the information, police asked him several questions about where he got it, how long he was selling it, who he was selling for; and it turns out this boy played dumb the whole time and wouldn’t give any information out, and the police were not able to get anything out of him. After 2 weeks, all charges were dropped and he was released scott free,nothing on his record or anything.. but was expelled from the high school.

Does this seem wrong to you? I live in Canada, so the laws will be a little different here. What is your opinion, I personally thuoght he would have gotten jail time, and would have been charged. Cocaine is a hard drug, and has potential to ruin people’s lives VERY easily..

An ounce of cocaine is well over a 1000 dollars.

Should I say something or will that ruin my son’s chances of being popular??