This is gonna seem weird. But I’ve been dreaming of the Air Force all my life. Middle school I was top student with high grades and athletic ability. However, being the son of a single alcoholic father (with short tempers) I glided off the path I worked to hard to build. It took the whole 8th grade (when it started) and after I moved (freshman year) to recover. Even now I struggle a little bit thought my grades are getting better along with my determination. My question is this: Is it too late to be able to qualify for the Air Force Academy? I’ve gained weight since middle school and I really don’t have anything impressive to give. But I figure once I get on my feet I can handle it and I think I’m ready to take on leadership. But next year being JUNIOR year, am I too late?
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My middle son is graduating next month and we are having his open house at his Dad’s (my ex-husband) house. We are disagreeing on whether to have alcohol or not. (For the adults, not the kids)
I say the party is for our son, not us and I don’t want to have to police his friends to make sure they are not drinking.
The ex thinks it is perfectly fine and since the beer is for the adults, he doesn’t see a problem.
I think we are just asking for problems.
What are your thoughts? Any good argument I can give him, or anyone think I need to lighten up? I am open to all opinions!
I am *assuming* since it is at the ex’s house, he would be the one to get in trouble.
My son is a 16-year-old sophomore in high school. He has had anxiety and depression for four years and has been on 20mg Prozac for the four years. His case is very severe; He has had lately, and in the past, thoughts of suicide and has not been going to school, and I’m very worried that I will get in trouble from the police and take my son away. I know that they take away parents and children that don’t go to school because of drugs, alcohol, ect., but will they be harsh on me and my son knowing that he has had these problems for a good amount of time? Will they take me or my son away because he has been missing school? He has been involved in Kaiser Psychiatry Department for 4 years and has a therapist he very much likes, if this matters.
What would you do?
Twice, my 12 year old son’s art teacher gave him a fish oil pill and hot sauce to dip it in – the teacher said he usually dips it in hot sauce when he takes it. Two vice principals and the principal were notified, other teachers at the school were notified, the board of education was notified, and nothing was done. No one investigated other than for asking the teacher if he did it, which of course he denied – on 4 separate occasions. This has been going on since January. Finally, after telling the school board I have been speaking to an attorney about their failure to investigate this incident, today I received a call saying they have talked to other students who were in the classroom and that my son’s allegation has been validated – the teacher did in fact give fish oil pills and hot sauce to my son as well as other kids in the class.
On the flipside of this, after the fish oil incident occurred, my son (who loves to make experiments) found some old amoxicillin capsules – one of which was leaking powder – and decided to make the rest of them leak powder. He emptied the capsules into a baggie and poked holes in it – kept flicking it to make smoke. He took his “new toy” to school and when a boy saw him playing with it, he accused my son of having drugs – that boy and his friend went to the office and said my son tried to sell it to them. My son was then suspended from school for 10 days, sentenced to a drug and alcohol class of 6 hours, expelled from the school, and they are now pressing charges against him as a misdemeanor which could land him 6 mos to a year in a juvenile detention center – with no proof of him doing anything other than making a toy out of the amoxicillin powder.
What do you think I should do? I do have an attorney who is fighting the part about my son’s misdemeanor – but what should I do about the school and the teacher and the board of education about the whole fish oil pill? Should I let it go or should I press further action now that other students have validated what my son has been saying for the last 3 – almost 4 months!
No explanation has been given as to why. Apparently the teacher takes them himself – had them sitting on his desk and a student asked him what they were. He told her what they were and asked if she wanted one and then others asked if they could have them as well and he passed them out to anyone who wanted them.
And believe me…. he will not be going back to that school!
We had the granchildren this weekend and I love them dearly but they absolutly Drove me insane with the WHINING I”M BORED. They have TV, Books, Movies, Playstation 2, Computer, and bikes, and 2 acres of yard.We do many Crafts when they are here. I made them Doll houses from Cardboard, and then halloween decorations, and Christmas decorations. We makew all sorts of stuff together.But I am running out of Ideas. that can interest a 6,8 and 12 year old. And still I’M Bored every 5 minutes. We painted Halloween decorations. Lasted maybe 2 hours and back to I’m Bored. The Boy will be 12 halloween morning, He is in the gifted and talented class I am not sure why. He can’t add 10 and 10 and get a right answer. But he is in 5th grade and is supposed to read at an 8th grade .level. But yet asks how to spell simple words. The second girl is in 2nd grade and she is even worse.The 3rd one had to repeat kindergarden. They have toys out the but, has their own TV and video movies and never turns on the TV. Thye have a bicycle, a swingset, and take them to the library and get them books they never read them after we check them out. She whines all day long. they would be great if they could be in School 7 days a week. Their mother is a lazy piece of work. She works 2 to 10 at night. And when she is home either has a cell phone growing out of her ear or her nose stuck in the computer.And ignores the kids.they have to find things to amuse themselves. And Their dad our son is an alcoholic. If he is not at work from 7 a.m until lord knows what time he gets home. He goes through 2 cases of beer a week.So they are watched by their Aunt that lives with them All she wants to do is abuse them. And screams at her 2 all day long. But I need to find something to keep them busy when they come over. That is low cost and entertaining.
I have called Social services on their Aunt So many times. I have truned her into the police, and the cops have been to their house at least 6 times in the past year. Their father and a friend of his got drunk, got into a fight, his friend attacked our son and the guy hit him in the ear they were both arresrested for Battery 3rd Degree. Then his same friend tried to commit suicide out their last weekend with the kids there. The ambulance was called Cops came out still nothing done. But the children talked about it all weekend. With daddy drinking, Mommy ignoring them, And Aunt yelling at them. I pulled in to get them Firday noght and the 3 of them ran and got in my truck the Adults never even came out to see who was there and got the kids. I called them when I got home and told them kids were with me. They never even answered the door when I rang the bell. The kids said Aunt was busy and mom was sleeping, and dad was not home yet. Real worried I guess.
My 16 year old son left school campus for lunch. During that time he took a shot of Jack Daniels with a friend and then returned to school. While talking with a teacher, she smelled the alcohol. The school priciple was notified who in turn called the police to breathalyse my son. To sum it up, my son now is facing an expulsion. What are his rights?
Its for my son and I would like to know what I can do to keep his friends interested in the party. Alcohol is not an option. 10PTS for the best suggestions.
A son’s letter to Daddy..
A father passing by his son’s bed room, was astonished to see the bed was nicely made, and everything was picked up.
Then, he saw an envelope, propped up prominently on the pillow.
It was addressed, “Dad.” With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter, with trembling hands.
“Dear, Dad. It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing you. I had to elope with my new girlfriend, because I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom and you.
I’ve been finding real passion with Stacy, and she is so nice, but I knew you would not approve of her, because of all her piercings, tattoos, her tight Motorcycle clothes, and because she is so much older than I am.
But it’s not only the passion, Dad. She’s pregnant. Stacy said that we would be very happy. She owns a trailer in the woods, and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. We share a dream of having many more children.
Stacy has opened my eyes to the fact that marijuana doesn’t, really hurt anyone. We’ll be growing it for ourselves, and trading it with the other people in the commune, for all the cocaine and ecstasy we want.
In the meantime, we’ll pray that science will find a cure for AIDS, so Stacy can get better. She sure deserves it!!
Don’t worry Dad, I’m 15, and I know how to take care of myself. Someday, I’m sure we’ll be back to visit, so you can get to know your many grandchildren.
Love, your son,
Derrick
P.S. Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at Tommy’s house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than the school report that’s on my desk. I love you!
My son graduated high school this year and we need help planning and coming up with ideas for the party. Family friends, his friends, and relatives will attend so we need activities for all ages. Also any decor ideas/special touches would be helpful. His colors are greens, browns, and blues–he’s a nature lover.
**No ideas involving alcohol please.**
He doesn’t miss work at all and continues with his daily activities. He drinks alot when he plays golf. He is drinking more and more. There are so many nights when I come home from work and he is drunk. I absolutely hate it!!! I also hate being with him in public when he is drunk. I am at my wits end. Should I leave him. I have a 19 year old daughter in college and a 16 year old son that is a junior in high school. I’ve been to alanon and read every book on alcholism. I have prayed and prayed I just cannot come to terms with it. I have a good life except for this that eats at my soul. Help!!
18 months ago a colleague of mine had her drivers license suspended due to parking tickets (and I suspect a possible DUI); I offered to take her and her son to/from school and work thinking it would be temporary. Now, the situation continues. I know her drivers license has been reinstated, her car is drivable, yet she continues to ride with me without any explanation of when she will resume her past driving responsibilities. I happen to know her salary because I do the books at work. I know what she receives in child support and how much her rent is. She has sufficient funds to live on; she is addicted to alcohol & drugs and spends a lot of her $$ on her habits. I am now feeling like I am being taken advantage of. She cries “poor mouth” yet leaves her son with her ex when it suits her so she can indulge her vices. Her Mother also works with us and the situation is complex. What to do? I don’t want to be an enabler but I feel bad for her 4 year old child. Any suggestions?
I filed for an expedited hearing in Washington administrative courts. My son was denied enrollment in an alternative high school without benefit of an IEP meeting. The letter denied enrollment because of a perceived disability, ADD. The rules for expedited hearings say no continuances may be granted, the district was given continuances at every hearing by the Judge from Sept. to Feb.
At the same time I found out my ex was using meth and I filed for custody of my 3 kids. The district claimed I had made threats of phsical violence against district employees, and filed for intervenor status in the custody of my children. They submitted 3 letters aledging that I made these threats and their request was granted. At the trial the author of the letters admitted under oath that I had never made these threats. They felt treatened by my presense at the IEP meetings. The Courts have violated our rights to due process. I have been jailed for 4 days, cannot get a job, lawyers cost to much. HELP!!!
I am the father not the mother. My son was denied enrollment because of his perceived disability. That is why I filed the expidited hearing with the court. The district sided with the mother because she wanted all of the educational decision making power. The district felt theatened because I knew what my sons rights were and filed a complaint against them.
He has been waiting and working to get into the high school he is in. They only accept so many students each year and you have to earn the right to go there. My son is a good student and has never gotten into any trouble before. Saying this as his mother i am sure people will say that i am just in denial, but he really is a good kid and has a good head on his shoulders. Last week i received a call from the school that he was found drinking in shop class. Now he might be getting kicked out of the school he worked so hard to get into. He said it was the first time he has never done this before. i believe him, but i am concerned about it. alcoholism runs in my family and when i was his age i was already an alcoholic. Does anyone know if there is anything i can do to make sure he doesn’t go down that road. We always talk and he knows i am there for him whenever he needs me, but i know he is at the age when his friends have more influence on him than i do sometimes. i just want a better life for him then i had and i am hoping someone might have some ideas to help prevent this.
So my son just has told me he has been offered cocaine at school and another time from the same boy in his grade which is 8th. He wonderfully said no!! I know he doesn’t want to be involved but should I report this to the school..l just based on what my son said with no evidence?
I don’t know this boys parents… so any advice would be welcomed.
Thanks!!
I have a son in 10th grade who is NEVER motivated. He always gets 1 or 2 F’s. We’re trying to stress the importance of getting his diploma. Before we were stressing the importance of college and the good grades, but now we’re stressing the importance of a diploma. He’s a GREAT son and we have NEVER have problems with him, however he’s always had a lack of enthusiasm. He’s just like his dad with a real laid back type of personality. He has a caring heart and everything. He’s never gotten into drugs or alcohol. He’s an all-in-all great 16 year old. Nothing really bothers him or phases him and that kinds of worries me. Any good suggestions or books I can read how to help him get excited about something? Thanks.
He am real dumb. he keep on forgetting how to math. what can me do to help? him smoke meth but it not helping yet.
My son is a senoir in high school. He has been dating this nightmare of a girl. Her dad is an alcoholic, who sweeps floors in a strip club. This girl was obviously way more experienced than my son, who only had one girlfriend before her. She has controled his every move since day one.
We are in a much higher income level than they are. The second my son turned 18, this family convinced him he should ‘do the right thing’ and marry her, even though he is still in high school and doesn’t have a job.
All we knew was he and some friends had a party at her house, rather than going to the prom. He did come home that night. He has been coming home every night, like normal only a bit later.
Two months after this ‘party’, I found wedding invitations in his room. He got beat red, and couldn’t look at me, but told me they had a pretend wedding.
After asking around, I found out differently.
What are they up to? Can they somehow get money out of me and my husband from this?
I have recently attended my sons 10th grade Open House and the parents received a survey regarding how they felt about this. I was wondering what you think? Thanks for your help…
Now he doesn’t have anyone to hang out with.. He was supposed to go to a friends house whose parents were out of town this weekend.. There was going to be tons of girls and alcohol there.. Im worried my son won’t be popular anymore.. Its all Tom Brady’s fault!
I have a son with ADD. His visits out of state with my ex-husband ruin his progress at school. Why should I let my son be pulled out of school for an extended weekend on Labor Day just one week after school goes back for the fall? This ex-husband has drug and alcohol problems, untreated bipolar, untreated abuse issues in his past…..
My son has never had to interrupt his school year before since I am primary residential parent. Due to my desire to marry again, I didn’t fight hard enough to have full custody (the state we lived in then had joint justody by default) and now regret it….
Labor Day is not a specified visit date per the divorce decree anyway….
BTW, ADD is usually what kids with bipolar are diagnosed with because of their age. Sorry but ADD has nothing to do with bad parenting……Spanking makes bipolar and autistic kids worse, explorer idiot. Just move if you don’t like kids!
