How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

Ok. This is going to be a long story and I’m not looking for any judgment. My husband and I started having a lot of problems when he was deployed the first time. We ended up separated and started going through the process of getting a divorce. In that time I started seeing someone who is Air Force National Guard-working on active duty orders. After some time I ended up getting pregnant. Long story short-he and I stopped seeing each other.

My husband came home and we ended up working things out after a very long time. My son is almost 2 years old now and my husband takes care of him and always has since before he was even born. My husband is the one that signed the birth certificate. The sperm donor has never paid a dime of child support or had contact with him other than a few pictures because I for some stupid reason almost felt sorry for him.

ANYWAYS! He has a no contact order against him that he has gotten in trouble for violating before. He sent me a message today telling me that he is saving money up to take me to court for rights to see the child and to change the name on the birth certificate. Like I said, he has never done anything for my son and is NOT the kind of person I want my son around. Hes an alcoholic with a lot of health issues. I’m not even sure how he is still military. Last I heard he was being taken off active duty orders. Is he still under military orders as far as the no contact order goes? If I get a restraining order can that keep him from coming after us for rights? I need some help here. My husband and I have a great family now and things are greater than they have EVER been. Him somehow weaseling back into my life is the very last thing I want right now. Sorry-I know I was rambling.

Me and my husband are going thru a rough patch (his family has decided that im not a good wife or mother!!) and he has decided to agree with them. he says that he wants to seperate and for me to file for child support.

Does anyone know of any good Child Support websites for Texas or is all the same in every state?

i just want to know my rights, he and his family keep threating that they are going to take my daughter and my son (when he is born) away from me because of things i did in high school (6yrs ago, before kids and marriage). he smokes pot and so does him mother, his father is an alcoholic and has terrible anger problems.
he got so mad one time at my daughter for playing he threw a hammer and almost hit her in the head and all he could say was “she shouldnt have been in my Fu*king way”

Please i dont need any negative responses i get enough from him and his family i just want to know my rights?
Me and him have tried to talk and work on our problems but his MOTHER wont allow us to. If he is on his phone with me and she finds out. She will grab the phone and hang it up and not give back to him until he promises that he wont call me back.

he wont give up his rights unless child support is stopped which is okay with me the only problem is i get medicaid for my child. i was told that if child support is stopped the state will stop my medical coverage for my son; is this true. my son does not want to see his father because os alcohol/drug and domestic abuse issues.
to the person who called me a low life i would like you to know that i am a nurse and do work and probably make more than you. and the reason my son is on medicaid along with other ins. is because of his midecal problems so don’t be too quick to judge.

My son is almost 8 years old. His father has not seen him in almost 3 years. He has not attempted to contact him or my family. While his father and i were together we (my son and i) were physically and emotionally abused. His father is alcohol and drug addicted. At one point we had a restraining order against him. He has never in my sons life paid for done anything to benefit him. My son is now happily being taken care of by my fiance and i. Would I have to face my son’s father in court? What steps would i have to take to get his rights taken away? If we do have to go to court, would he be able to find out where I live now?

My son is almost 8 years old. His father has not seen him in almost 3 years. He has not attempted to contact him or my family. While his father and i were together we (my son and i) were physically and emotionally abused. His father is alcohol and drug addicted. At one point we had a restraining order against him. He has never in my sons life paid for done anything to benefit him. My son is now happily being taken care of by my fiance and i. Would I have to face my son’s father in court? What steps would i have to take to get his rights taken away? If we do have to go to court, would he be able to find out where I live now?

my son was a passenger in a car where the driver was underage(18) (my son is 20) and there was another passenger (21yrs old) and they had been stopped for speeding. The officer asked if there was any alcohol in the vehicle. They responded and told him there was a bottle of rum under the seat. My son was the only one issued a violation for possession of alcohol, and the officer never took the bottle from them. The officer called the next day and asked me whether my son’s age was 20 or 21 because he may have issued the wrong violation if he is under 21. Doesnt that make the document void? Im going down to the police station today because it all seems very fishy. Just wondering if anyone knows the laws about a passenger getting in trouble for alcohol and no one else got in trouble

My ex filed for divorce in Az; I didn’t contest it & I allowed him to have full custody of both of my sons. 3 years later, he moved to Las Vegas, NV & didn’t tell anyone until almost 4 years later. In the mean time, I moved home to Va & ever since then he has refused to allow me to visit my boys. He is an alcoholic (he has DUI’s) & has had many arrests in the past 10 years. He fled AZ because he has warrants there & owes someone 7yrs. of back child support. My child support to them is current (it goes directly to AZ). I don’t know anything about NV or where to file to get my rights inforced. I believe that the boys would be better off with me so that there dad can get the treatment he needs. Can someone help me, this is just not fair to my boys or myself?
I am low income & do not have the money it will take to hire an attorney. Do you know anyone who will take my case for free or someone out there who just wants to do a good deed like Oprah?

My ex filed for divorce in Az; I didn’t contest it & I allowed him to have full custody of both of my sons. 3 years later, he moved to Las Vegas, NV & didn’t tell anyone until almost 4 years later. In the mean time, I moved home to Va & ever since then he has refused to allow me to visit my boys. He is an alcoholic (he has DUI’s) & has had many arrests in the past 10 years. He fled AZ because he has warrants there & owes someone 7yrs. of back child support. My child support to them is current (it goes directly to AZ). I don’t know anything about NV or where to file to get my rights inforced. I believe that the boys would be better off with me so that there dad can get the treatment he needs. Can someone help me, this is just not fair to my boys or myself?
I am low income & do not have the money it will take to hire an attorney. Do you know anyone who will take my case for free or someone out there who just wants to do a good deed like Oprah?

My son is 2 years old. when he was 2 months old his dad left us to never see him again.

He never called or came around. which is great.
I moved out of town and I finally came back for good. His family does not call me to ask about the baby or any thing on holidays or birthdays. which is ok cause I don’t want them around. (I just want to say that to show you that they don’t come around.)

Ok so I moved back right, I am going on 3 years with my fiance we want to get married and doing the family thing.

I want to know if I can go to court and say that his bi-logical father can never come and be like “Hi, I am your dad”, nOt the one that raised you for all this years.

I have talked to him he said that he will not come into our lives for the sake of not confusing the boy with having 2 dads.

But I just want something on paper that says he is legally mine and only mine.

oh yeah he ws in jail for beating up his niece and he cannot be around 16 and younger children, he has no job, no car, no education, no place to live and is a recovering alcoholic and drug user.

What can I do to insure that we will not come around and want to see him or try to get shared custody?

also how can I change his last name to mine?

So, I’m 5 months pregnant and my unborn son’s father has never been around. When I contacted him to tell him the gender of the baby, he said, “I didn’t realize you were still pregnant”. We were together for 8 months and decided we wanted kids. Two weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he dissapeared and reappeared with a girlfriend (girl’s are stupid. Who would date a guy with an unborn child on the way?) Anyway, he is STILL not around. I have all these emotions and needs for an expected mother, and he refuses to return my e-mails or phone calls. He asked for ultrasound pictures. When I brought them to him he hardly even glanced at them. He has a DVD made of the ultrasound which I want back, but I don’t even want to see him. It took me a week to get over my rage after seeing him last time. It has been 5 months (minus the ultrasound visit) since I’ve even seen him. I ran into him and his girlfriend in public, and he dissapeared…as usual. I don’t deserve this. I know he is an alcoholic and I don’t want my child around that. I want to ask him to relinquish his rights so I can not always wonder what he’s doing and why he isn’t calling ona 24/7 basis. Is it wrong of me? This resentment and dissapointment is already too much, I couldn’t imagen the issues when my child is actually born.
First off, the father can sign to give up his rights. Secondly, I am also talking about the option of soul custody. I understand all the legal crap. To spare details in a lenghty message I didn’t go on and on.

Also, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN’T WANT TO BE AROUND, OTHERWISE HE WOULD!!! DUH!!! I am not pressuring him. I hardly EVER contact him. Read people!!! I contacted him to invite him to the ultrasounds, which he declined. And contacted him to tell him his an asshole. And once more to tell him it is what it is, and I’d like him to be there, yet still NO ACTION!!!

So, I’m 5 months pregnant and my unborn son’s father has never been around. When I contacted him to tell him the gender of the baby, he said, “I didn’t realize you were still pregnant”. We were together for 8 months and decided we wanted kids. Two weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he dissapeared and reappeared with a girlfriend (girl’s are stupid. Who would date a guy with an unborn child on the way?) Anyway, he is STILL not around. I have all these emotions and needs for an expected mother, and he refuses to return my e-mails or phone calls. He asked for ultrasound pictures. When I brought them to him he hardly even glanced at them. He has a DVD made of the ultrasound which I want back, but I don’t even want to see him. It took me a week to get over my rage after seeing him last time. It has been 5 months (minus the ultrasound visit) since I’ve even seen him. I ran into him and his girlfriend in public, and he dissapeared…as usual. I don’t deserve this. I know he is an alcoholic and I don’t want my child around that. I want to ask him to relinquish his rights so I can not always wonder what he’s doing and why he isn’t calling ona 24/7 basis. Is it wrong of me? This resentment and dissapointment is already too much, I couldn’t imagen the issues when my child is actually born.
First off, the father can sign to give up his rights. Secondly, I am also talking about the option of soul custody. I understand all the legal crap. To spare details in a lenghty message I didn’t go on and on.

Also, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN’T WANT TO BE AROUND, OTHERWISE HE WOULD!!! DUH!!! I am not pressuring him. I hardly EVER contact him. Read people!!! I contacted him to invite him to the ultrasounds, which he declined. And contacted him to tell him his an asshole. And once more to tell him it is what it is, and I’d like him to be there, yet still NO ACTION!!!

So, I’m 5 months pregnant and my unborn son’s father has never been around. When I contacted him to tell him the gender of the baby, he said, “I didn’t realize you were still pregnant”. We were together for 8 months and decided we wanted kids. Two weeks after I told him I was pregnant, he dissapeared and reappeared with a girlfriend (girl’s are stupid. Who would date a guy with an unborn child on the way?) Anyway, he is STILL not around. I have all these emotions and needs for an expected mother, and he refuses to return my e-mails or phone calls. He asked for ultrasound pictures. When I brought them to him he hardly even glanced at them. He has a DVD made of the ultrasound which I want back, but I don’t even want to see him. It took me a week to get over my rage after seeing him last time. It has been 5 months (minus the ultrasound visit) since I’ve even seen him. I ran into him and his girlfriend in public, and he dissapeared…as usual. I don’t deserve this. I know he is an alcoholic and I don’t want my child around that. I want to ask him to relinquish his rights so I can not always wonder what he’s doing and why he isn’t calling ona 24/7 basis. Is it wrong of me? This resentment and dissapointment is already too much, I couldn’t imagen the issues when my child is actually born.
First off, the father can sign to give up his rights. Secondly, I am also talking about the option of soul custody. I understand all the legal crap. To spare details in a lenghty message I didn’t go on and on.

Also, HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN’T WANT TO BE AROUND, OTHERWISE HE WOULD!!! DUH!!! I am not pressuring him. I hardly EVER contact him. Read people!!! I contacted him to invite him to the ultrasounds, which he declined. And contacted him to tell him his an asshole. And once more to tell him it is what it is, and I’d like him to be there, yet still NO ACTION!!!

if my sons so called father has been abusive towards me around my son but has never hurt my son but has hurt me with him in the room and spit in my face and pushed me with my son in my arms and is an alcoholic and a pill head and his name is not on the birth certificate and has had a DNA test down without my consent
what i his rights to my son and can i stop from him seeing my son ever and his parents too.

My ex husband has taken up friends neighbors that he rarely would hang around with while we were married due to the fact my ex was/is a recovering alcoholic and all they do is drink and party.
Now that he is friends with them he wanted to take my 6 year old son around them and out camping in their mobile home. When I heard this I held my son from that visitation but here is the main reason why I did not let my ex take him.
About 3 months ago their house was raided for drugs. It was a very big deal. The whole street was closed no one could get down the street unless you showed proof that you lived there or your car would be searched. They did find drugs and stolen property at the home and they are now up on charges and facing jail time.
Now am I wrong or would any parent in their right mind not let this happen? I will not let my son ride around in a mobile crack house with a bunch of drug dealing drunks. Also does anyone know how I can permanently prevent this from happening in the future?

if my sons so called father has been abusive towards me around my son but has never hurt my son but has hurt me with him in the room and spit in my face and pushed me with my son in my arms and is an alcoholic and a pill head and his name is not on the birth certificate and has had a DNA test down without my consent
what i his rights to my son and can i stop from him seeing my son ever and his parents too.

Background: I’m a Christian, depending on your definition of one, but I consider myself one.

I don’t support gay rights, but I’m most certainly not afraid or hateful of gays. I have participated in day of silence (look it up if you don’t know) for two years now and plan to do it this year as well. I’ve also been mistaken for gay more than once because of who I hang around ><

I believe hating somebody because they are different to you (Christians to Gays, Everybody else to Christians) is horrible, appalling, and unreasonable.

I believe acts of homosexuality to be immoral and unnatural, but that seems like a smaller problem to me, compared to everything else in the world and it does NOBODY any good to bash gays for that and it only makes us seem more ignorant and intolerant

So to my fellow believers in Christ: Could you love your neighbor please? Whether they are gay or not? God doesn’t hate gays, they are still his children, he loves all. Yes, they are sinners, so are you, you are all equal in the eyes of God. My brother is Catholic, yet openly(ish) gay but I don’t follow him around telling him God hates him. So please please please, stop making us look bad by persecuting those different than you. Turn the other cheek. =D

To my fellow Christians are intolerant hypocritical stupid liars that follow a magical fairytale book people: Try not to stereotype all of us and try not to be ignorant when making accusations. Yes, I am shocked some of us will kill gays for Jesus, it disgusts me. And I know we don’t live up to what we preach, but we try to teach the world good morals and try to live up to them. If an alcoholic father tells his son to stay away from booze, does that make him a bad person for saying that? No, he’s trying to help his son be a better person. God is not flawed, his people are. Instead of passing laws to shut us up, remind those who will listen what they need to do.

Anyways, that’s my little rant, go ahead and flame me. <3
Ah, Well, I’m getting alot of people asking why I did Day of Silence

I did it because of the gays that were killed because they were killed. Put it this way, I do it to stand up against hate, not to stand up for rights.

“The goal of the Day of Silence is to make schools safer for all students, regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity/expression. In a Harris Interactive study on bullying, students said two of the top three reasons students are harassed in school are actual or perceived sexual orientation and gender expression.”

It’s not to stand up for gay rights, contrary to popular belief. =D

Even though he was just recently arrested for possesion of meth but swears to everyone he is clean now but you can tell by looking at him he’s nit.

I am sub-leasing with the tenants of the 4 bedroom house month to month. They are a couple and they are on the master lease. They always argue and they throw wild parties and the boyfriend is doing cocaine. I also have a 15 year old son. Now i talked about moving out but the the girlfriend wants me to stay. Now am i able to withhold half the rent until they change there ways and make the living situation habitable? Please give me some legal advice.

My ex boyfriend is trying to get visitation on our 2 year old son. I really don’t trust him because he is an alcoholic and he’s very irresponsible. I fear of him taking him by himself and drinking around my son and driving while my son is in the car. And my ex still stays with his grandma which is not a good environment. There is junk and trash all over the place. And inside their is too. I mean really poor environment. I told him if he wanted to see his son he can see him at my house. But he refused. I’m not trying to keep him away from our son, i just don’t trust him by himself with him. If he takes me to court what can i do to get supervised visitations? By the way i’m the state of GA.
By the way he only thinks he suppose to pay child support and do nothing else for our child. My family basically helps all the time. And he does nothing but cause drama.

I have been a single mother for upwards of 13 years, in that time my ex has paid little to no child support and at most he has seen my son about 5 times a year. He is an alcoholic don’t keep a job and is very verbally abusive towards my son. It has gotten so much worse since I recently got engaged. Last month it really started to hit the fan, I let my son go with his Grandma to their family reunion with the specific instructions that he was not to go anywhere especially with his father, that if his father wanted to take him anywhere he would have to talk to me first and that she was not to let my son go until she heard it was ok from me, well she didn’t listen to my direct instructions and let him go to a place where his father goes to party all the time, during which time the ex gave my son a drink of liquor (really not good) then he tells my 14 year old that I said it was ok to go home with him for a week (never talked to me) so (son) called me to make sure at which time I told him no that he needed to be dropped off to me. Ex tells son he is old enough to make his own decisions that he don’t have to listen to me and g-ma agreed with father…I let son go for 3 days, the next weekend comes and father wants to take son to a picnic at an amusement park..I say he has to be home by 6pm because we had to go up north..father’s girlfriend says no prob..I get a call at 6:02pm that the are still at park not going to make it..that they will bring son up north when done..I call back at 7 no answer on cell..8:30 son calls still at park not ready to leave yet..i say ok I want you up there in about 2 hours Its 1½ hour drive..get another call at 10:10 just leaving park and not coming up north..long story short, big argument ending with son being delivered..around 11:30pm..son gets to me and tells me that father was calling me bad names and that father wants to be physical with my fiance (not good) this last week school started and I called ahead to let them know that son would not be in school, that we would be out of town..no prob..father finds out and when he sees son with friends he (chews his a**) as father puts it for not being in school, instead of calling and talking to me, son calls me in shambles, my mother confronts father because I was gone and father tells my mom that son don’t need meds he takes for ADHD and that he will take son to his doctor, also that son should have been in school that father would have driven him if necessary! father don’t have drivers license, due to drinking and driving. Father gets into fight with girlfriend and tells son to grab clothes and takes him up north after having a couple. father also told girlfriend when mad that he would “knock her teeth down her throat” in front of son…very not happy!!! What do I do, Do I have a legal right to deny visitation? Should I call P.S. on father? not sure where to go with this! I don’t trash father in front of son its not his fault, father is always putting son in bad place between he and I…