How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

My wife and i had a fight earlier today because she thinks i am over protective of my son like possessively protective but i disagree. My wife is my 2nd wife because my 1st wife became an alcoholic shortly after our son was born so i divorced her and got custody of my son well when she had our son over for one of her visitation she got drunk and sent our three year old son to the hospital for a week. So yes needless to say i am very protective of my son and my wife is pregnant with a baby boy and today she just i guess noticed or decided to bring it up and it caused a fight. She thinks i need to let her adopt my son and she thinks i need to be less protective of him but i do not agree. Advice? I wont let her punish him i wont let her take hi places i wont let him play around a lot

to make a long story short, after two months of dating, i asked my girlfriend of 2 months to marry me. everything was fine with our relationship up to that point but their was an underlying sense of uneasiness on my part. she was hooked on prescription medications and could not sleep unless she took 4 pills every night.they were for anxiety, depression, migraines, and back pain. taking up to 50 loritabs a month. i guess that i was so caught up with my emotions with her that i did not see the warning signs that were waving in my face.does taking all those pills alter your personality over time , making her insecure and paranoid? I never gave her any reason to be insecure I was loyal and compassionate and very much in love with her but she still had trust issues with me. her 22 year old son was also going to move in with us while he was going to college for three more years. being 47 years old and her being 43, i felt that he should be on his own.also she made almost 40,000 dollars a year and was always broke asking me for money just to make the rent payment. i always have been financially responsible. it has been nearly 4 months since the split and i have made no attempt to contact her so i guess that i am ready to move on but i still miss her . she was a beautiful person but after 4 failed relationships,i guess that i made the right decision to call off the engagement. i guess my question is the drug abuse and the long term affects it would have on her, and if i did the right thing. jeff

Okay, I am a step mom to 9 month old Chris. Anyways, his mother called his dad and demanded we let her see him. The thing is she signed over all of her rights when she didn’t complete rehab. So my fiancé Jay, has full custody. Well she found out where we lived and showed up at 6 am today. We called the cops and had her arrested for breaking a restraining order. Should we have let her see him or did we do the right thing. Btw she is a meth head.

please don’t answer if you’re a right wing Christian or a member of the Temperance Union

My husband is a control freak. He hit me like 7 years ago but promised he would never do it again – which he hasn’t. For the most part we have a good life, he works steady, etc – but he does really enjoy telling people what to do (mainly me).
His 17 year old son just had a son and he has now decided we are moving 1800 miles away to be near his family. This wouldn’t be a problem but we have 6 dogs, 3 of which we have bred in the past for extra income until we figured out the over-population problem, the last one we took in was a rescue and a former bait dog.
I have recently become ill with MRSA – which is obvious due to patches across my face. I used to think I was okay looking but now I feel so down about myself even though it was not my fault that I have this (I am so paranoid people will look at it and say eew herpes, but it’s not!!!!) I had worked until it became active and now I am “off schedule” so I am relying on my husband for income. I am told this will become active at least 7-8 times a year.
With this move he is saying that we can only take 2 of the dogs – meaning I will have to either find homes or have the other 4 put down. I am sick over this. He’s only doing it because he “has” to set a rule for me to make a decision, because otherwise I would be excited about moving to a warmer climate, the sun would be good for my skin (helps kill the infection) and the warmer climate would be good for my back which mainly becomes bothersome in winter months.
I do not want to put these dogs down, I’ve had to do so in the past with an injury and I still haven’t gotten over it. I have told him we could easily keep them out doors in the warmer climate and rotate a couple in the house at time (all are house-trained and fur is short). Nope, his way or no way. These dogs are grown and members of the family, it is really hard to rehome older dogs. We have been together 10 years and as I say, things have gotten better but there is still obviously a problem. We broke up a few years ago for about 3 days when I had a really good job and during this time he slept with a co-worker – because he was “hurt”. I found out months later by accident when we were getting along well again and I got back at him for that (because I was “hurt” too).I have learned to never trust him again in that regard because of how I didn’t figure it out the first time. You know I actually fear that if I didn’t go with him, he would hook up with the same **** just to make a statement to me…..My pride tells me one thing – don’t take a chance of letting her “win” (or any of the others that there may be)…..My head says to try to keep the house going here and keep the animals (but I’m not sure how I can do that with an infectious disease taking over my body) and if somebody else gets him, good riddance, have fun making him happy!!!….but my financial situation tells me I have no choice, I have this “plague” and no income.
I was already so depressed over this situation with the MRSA, and my husbands work cutting all insurance over a year ago so I am struggling to get meds and feeling gloomy from it all and now I have this new battle to try to tackle. I really kind of want to slit my wrists but I don’t have the courage to do so and I don’t have the right kind of pills here that would just let me go to sleep and not wake up. Otherwise I would really consider it right now. Normally he gets mad, and will back down on something if I make a valid point, this he will not, it’s an extra burden on me, my head is swimming right now. The dogs are pit bulls btw – sweet, smart and friendly with people and animals but you can understand the problem I may have trying to find them a new home. Oh AND 2 of hubby’s brothers do drugs – I think one is rarely employed and does “ice” when he has the chance (not sure if that is meth?) and I think the other one does crack but continues to work and makes decent money. That is another factor in this, I don’t mind my husband drinking but don’t want this other crap to become an issue either if he hangs out with his “bro’s” on the weekends.Also the house we live in now, we are buying land contract and will be “ours” in 2 years. I know the owner would continue the agreement in my name if I could manage the $500.00 payment. Hubby said his “non-user” brother that tends to avoid the other brothers though he lives close by had a house for rent but now he’s not sure how to get ahold of him so we don’t even necessarily have “that” house but he will find an apartment. I asked if he doesn’t even know where we are going to live how does he know that he can even have his two dogs? – but there’s no arguing with him and I am going nuts in a depressed funk. I am sorry to ramble but I just may be heading to a nervous breakdown over this and he says he’s moving in 2 weeks – he would like for me to come but I have to “follow his rules”.
again – how do I leave with no income???? I have always been a hardworker prior to this but do you want me even handing you a hamburger with a noticable infectious disease across my face???

My son is almost 8 and doesn’t know that daddy isn’t his birth father. He’s never met or even seen his birth father. At the time he was born his father decided he didn’t want anything to do with him. Since then I got married when my son was 3. I met my husband when my son was just under 1 year old. So to him my husband has always been his dad. My husband adopted him when he was 4 and we kept it a secret since he didn’t know anything anyway. I would just like some input on when is the right time to tell my son about this. I don’t want to traumatize him!! He’s a great kid and I also don’t want his biological father back in the picture because he’s an alcoholic. My son has a daddy and to me that’s enough! They’re great together and have a strong bond, but I don’t want his biological father to hurt his feelings by not wanting him. Please help a concerned mommy!!

Ok I really don’t want people to just snub this off and tell me to go to eat a big mac or something. I’m really curious…. (plus, haven’t really been hungry, just food doesn’t appeal to me like it used to)

For the past 6 days I haven’t been really eating.
Day 1: 1/4 cup of Grape nut Cereal with little milk
Day 2: 2 sour Skittles
Day 3: 4 sections of the caned mandarin oranges
Day 4: 1/2 a small baked potato plain (my ex made me)
Day 5: Nothing
Today:Nothing yet but I’m thinking another 1/4 cup of grape nuts

But I have been binging on coffee (two half and half’s one pack of sugar), when I say binge I mean I had a cup glued to my hand, and when it wasn’t coffee it was a bottle of water.
I also have been very active, walking and jogging everywhere, cleaning like crazy, hiking, playing with my son, just none stop movement.

I already know that when you don’t eat right your body goes into ‘hibernation’, your metabolism slows down, your body munches on your muscles to get fuel before it gets rid of the fat, that the first few pounds you loose are water weight and poo.

What I want to know is, if I continue like this for a long time, will I continue to loose weight and what are the major harms it will cause me? Like any health problems (not like malnutrition, or anemia which I already have) but real health risks?
Cause I’ve been..
light headed
dizzy
weak (all my muscles feel sore)
blurry vision at times
tired, all I want to do is sleep (that’s why the coffee)
random nausea
headaches in the front of my head
hard to focus on things
sometimes when I stand up I get white dots and tunnel vision
Out of breath really REALLY easily (like I walk up a flight of stairs and I’m floored)
shortness of breath
my balance got worse
I have 3 marks on my back, they’re redish, don’t itch, or hurt, just are there, like a red bruise, but without the pain.

All of this I can deal with for a while longer while I loose weight but it won’t lead to serious problems right? Like I’m not going to pass out, get taken to the hospital and have them tell me I’m dying right? And are there any tips on how to bring myself back to eating regular without gaining it all back?

I have a 2 year old son his father and I divorced about 7 months ago. I was awarded sole physical custody. My ex-husband is a drug and alcohol user, he lives with his parents now and does not work and I do not feel comfortable with my son being around him. With the custody that I have do I have the right to keep him away?

I want to keep my baby but the father of the baby (who I’m currently living with but not dating) thinks it’s better to give the baby up for adoption, that it is the right thing to do. When he first found out he though abortion was the right thing but I wouldn’t have anything to do with that, then he went on a huge “I need to hide and I’m scared so I am not going to talk to you about anything” binge. He wouldn’t come home til 3 am or later. Then one night I fell and since then he has been home more and helping with me. I have my family here for me as support, but he hasn’t told anyone in his. He wanted to wait til I decided on if we were keeping him or if we were giving him up for adoption. Then about a couple weeks ago I told him I wanted to keep him and didn’t think adoption was the best option for him.

Now today (about 2 to 3 weeks before our son is born) he tells me that he still thinks we should give him up for adoption. That I am only thinking of myself when I say I think it’s best for him that we keep him.

I don’t know what to do anymore. ADVICE some one please.

I have been taking care of my 8 year -old for almost 2 years, his mother lost her parental rights and the father’s on the verge of losing his. The father is a drug addict and violent to his wife and animals. Well, if he wanted his son, he would have complied with dhs and do what they ask him to do and they would try to get supervised visits with his son. Well, the father doesn’t want to lose his parental rights and he does go to his court hearings. However, we told dhs we would like to adopt my nephew and its best if the father loses his rights. The father wants to give us legal guardianship because he wants to have his son unsupervised and don’t want to under go treatment. We worry about my nephew, we don’t want him to grow up in violence and drugs, we don’t want the father out of his life, we want him to see his son supervised, birthdays, holidays etc, we sent pictures, let them talk on the phone, letters, he doesn’t call anymore and he never write. Am I wrong to ask for termination?

A little background…we currently live nearby my mom and dad who each have some serious issues with each of their lives. My dad has been addicted drugs for years and will take off for days threatening suicide. This has been going on for years and is wearing on me. My mom constantly thinks something is wrong (health wise) with everyone, including my 2 year old son. She’s constantly judging others and talking behind their backs. My husbands family is very stable and pretty “normal” family. With many nieces and nephews for my son to play with a move across the country to be around more positive people sounds like a good idea. I’m tired of dealing with my parents issues and don’t really want my son to grow up and be around that. Am I just overeacting about a move and just running from the problem? I don’t want to abandon my parents, but they lean on me a lot and I’m exhausted.

I am writing this to get some answers so I wont feeling guilty. Or sick to my stomach about this, My spelling is not great so i hope you can understand. My daughter is 18 I have no control any more over her no more. Now I like to start with this. In 1994 I was married and adopted a 2 year old girl named Trinity she was already my wife’s child. The first day I meant Trinity she has never seen me before. She called me Dada it made me feel really good she sure was beautiful. I was married for 6 months things were starting to go down hill really fast and to fast. My wife started to drink and having sex with other men and with their wife’s and doing drugs. She was starting to come home really late when i had to go to work. Starting to D U I’s going to jail spending a lot of time with her friends because she was bored at home. I had to do cook, clean babysit my daughter or she was at her grandma and grandpa house while I was at wot work. Mom would always call and convince Trinity to stay Grandparents house.

Okay now the story is going to get even better, 2003 I finely said no more I could not handle this no more. I told my wife that I need a divorce. Grandma came over and had my sign a temporary custody papers so I can work graveyards. SO I thought. Well she lived grandma for 4 years, in July in 2008 she had 4 heart attacks in one month not cool so we thought. I went to see her and to she how was doing. Found out that my daughter will be living with aunt and uncle. Man I was really upset and looking forward to having her move in with me and my wife that I am truly happy with. I wanted to find someone that would take Trinity my daughter in and have her now how it feels to have a mother that loves her. I thought grandma would want that for her granddaughter. I need to back up here a year and a half ago grandma said that you would have to have alot of money to pay for a lawyer to get you daughter to live with you. So don’t even try and take her. and that her son and daughter in law will get her in our well. Me and my wife was very up set.

Well her aunt and uncle had a really bad time with her trying to teach her the right way it did not work with them. I get a phone call from her she was really upset wanting to move in with us. That she could not handle her aunt no more. I did not understand why they were not getting along. So I said yes I been waiting for the longest time to have her move in. Okay she moved in June of 2007she turned 16 years of age in May 3rd.Bad timing 16 years old. Well a year and 4 months later okay here we go. We thought we could trust her, Me and my wife took a 3 week vacation and had everything hooked up so if she needed food money for gas it was bad all the dishes were dirty and on the table. There were red stains in the carpet plates and cups all over the floor. O and by the way i did end up sighing custody papers to have her live with me. But any ways our freezer was shut off and all the meat and other food was spoiled and there was water 6 inches deep. Orange juice was all over the outside walls and all over our patio. We had found beer cans, wine battles and drugs hidden in her room and behind our big T.V. So I found a place to see if I could get some help for her and get her a second chance in life and maybe we could be a family.

It took me two months to find it I was able to have our church help pay for it and me and my wife payed some to get her help. Well we took her there and boy it was a nightmare. And we said our good buys she said that she loved my wife and hugged her good buy. But she said F#@ you and flipped me off and said I will never see you again and want nothing to do with you. One month later we had family therapy over the phone. She said she loves us and misses us and all the work she was doing and going to try and graduate from high school there. And on our first visit she huged us and kissed me for the first time she had never kissed me before that made feel really good.

Well 8 months later she turned 18 we went and got her so she can come home. We had made plains to go to Montana for my in-laws 50 year Anniversary. Plus our family reunion for a week and half. Our therapist said perfect make sure she does not have a cell phone and any contact with friend it’s your family time together. well on our way home we Trinity had a family mamber getting baptized and Grandma and Grandpa were there. Well her aunt came up to us and told us maybe she not tell you but i going to tell you any ways Grandma gave her a cell phone and put her on their contract. It was one of those new touch screen phones. Well they said it was for her birthday and bla bla bla about it. i told them That she can’t have it she was not aloud to have one on this trip and she is all ready on a contract with us and she all ready has a new phone from last year. well uit was free and had a really good deal. I did not want to argue with her about it but a was v

My half sister was 20 yrs older than me but she was still always there. she was a drug addict then committed suicide. at the funeral i didnt even cry because my half brothers girlfriend said he should be sadder because he knew her for 40 years and i only knew her for 18. i loved her and wished i had done something to help her. do i have a right to be sad or should my grief take the backseat to my parents, brothers and nephews?

My son is almost 8 and doesn’t know that daddy isn’t his birth father. He’s never met or even seen his birth father. At the time he was born his father decided he didn’t want anything to do with him. Since then I got married when my son was 3. I met my husband when my son was just under 1 year old. So to him my husband has always been his dad. My husband adopted him when he was 4 and we kept it a secret since he didn’t know anything anyway. I would just like some input on when is the right time to tell my son about this. I don’t want to traumatize him!! He’s a great kid and I also don’t want his biological father back in the picture because he’s an alcoholic. My son has a daddy and to me that’s enough! They’re great together and have a strong bond, but I don’t want his biological father to hurt his feelings by not wanting him. Please help a concerned mommy!!

My sons dad is an alcoholic and doesn’t have a place to live. I don’t allow him in my place because of his drinking. He has court ordered visitation. Could I get in trouble for breaking that? Because if something happens to my son because of him I could get in trouble.

I rented this house and after signing the year lease, he told me that the ac doesnt work. Then he tells me we cannot put in window units b/c they could crack the cheap vinyl windows. Then we had to fix all the plumbing b/c of leaks, and slow drains. He will not reimburse for any work done, and says he is giving us a break on our second dog, b/c he charges $50.00 a pet. Second dog is a chi/ boston ter mix. Now the ceiling fan in my sons room is smoking and sparking. I am afraid its going to catch fire again. He said he will not replace it, just dont use it.

Does it sound like i have a slum lord, and what steps can i do to protect my deposit?

I love my sister very much but she’s a f*** up. At 18 she had twin baby girls. She was going to college and doing pretty well and she had twin babies at that time. She hooked up with a drug addict who rubbed off on her. She quit school, she lost her children because of it. But she’s married to the creep now and have a son with him. I’m worried about her son. Her husband is a drunk, a drug addict, a gambler, he’s abusive and when I went to stay with them for a while he even started picking on me. Throwing things at me, being verbally abusive and he even started accusing me of doing drugs in his house and having sex in his house. My sister’s reaction was, “I don’t want to hear it.” He’s messed up her life and I fear for the child. My sister has chosen someone exactly like my mother’s husband who we had to live with and grow up around. I had hoped she was smarter than that. I’m so angry with her but I don’t know how to voice my anger and tell her to leave him. She needs to leave him. Help

I am 22 years old I am with a guy who is 32. We have been together for a year and we have went through hell. He is emotionally abusive and we both have been physically abusive. I have two kids. He is the father of my son. I was pregnant and he put his hands on me I got a restraining order against him. He has a problem with smoking crack when he is high and drunk he is dangerous. He is in prison now he left me pregnant and went to jail. Now that he is clean he wants to be a father to his 6 week old son. I dont know what to do I dont know how to deal with this. He promises that he will never touch another drug or drink that he just wants a normal life. I dont know if it is jail talk or is he serious… please help me

My sons dad is an alcoholic and doesn’t have a place to live. I don’t allow him in my place because of his drinking. He has court ordered visitation. Could I get in trouble for breaking that? Because if something happens to my son because of him I could get in trouble.