How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

people that I could really confide in at an early age. (13). I was very private and kept to myself alot. Over the years I still have not found many females that are truly openminded and can accept a crossdressing guy in there life. Its not like we chose the lifestyle. I believe we have different DNA aspects of our personalities that are deep inside us, A male alcoholic has a son, the chances are better he will also be an alcoholic. Like an adictive personality. I think its alot about how we deal with and interpret the dreams the thoughts and the feelings we have about the different issues in life. The path we take the steps we step get us to where and who we are in our life. If people knew the truth about crossdressing males, they have probably had more issues with depression and thoughts of suicide than any other “group” in life. All they want is to be accepted. and not made to feel like they are less of a human than anyone else. So It would be nice to at least hear from females that are or can be accepting of a crossdressing guy. Even just as a friend, you dont need to marry any. Just be a friend to them, If you can.
I am not here looking for sympathy at all. I just wish that people would not go thru their day to day life trying to make themself feel better by putting others down and judging them because they are not up to someones idea of social perfection, or whatever lame social profile they try to fit people into.

My son is 17 . Though he never really claimed that he is atheist, but I think he is or atleast in few years he will be open about it, coz I dont see him participitating much in religious ceremony or even coming to church along with us(family). Even our pastor asks always why doesn’t our son doesn’t come to church along with me , my husband and 14yr old daughter. Thing is if i leave beside his view on religion or god, he is very good soon like anyone could wish for. He is very good in studies and always ranks in top 3 in his class, he has bright mind and he wants to study medicine later, which we are proud of. He is not into drugs, alcohol or even smoking, sometimes when my husband is little over drunk my son doesn’t like that and he always ask his dad to drink in limit. Not always, but whenever he free from his studies he always help me in daily chores , he is very loving to his young sister, and I have seen him always talking to my daughter that she has to be serious in studies and if has any problem come to him . I mean he is very good child, but what just bugs me he seems to not believe in god and doesnt practice our religion much, though he is always helpful to needy ones and gives respect to everyone. People always come to me saying that I have brought up my son really good, he is my pride. So should i really be worried if he turns out atheist or maybe agnostic ? my friends tell me i should be strict with him, but i don’t feel too and even my husband is not pushy about it. what should i do ?

JP and I get along great but he drinks and I don’t want that ‘action/shyt’ around my son. Worse when he drinks he doesn’t get a hangover because he’s an alcoholic. Even though I care about him, am I wrong to just walk away? The pain won’t go away but when he’s at our place I just have a really bad feeling in my gut. Anyone????

I’m a functional alcoholic, as of right now, i haven’t drank in 10 days (which sux) but for me, that’s quite an accomplishment, I’m stressed like crazy, I’m a dad, just moved to a big city with my sister and her husband, I have an anxiety disorder, and I have been dumped, cheated on, my son’s mom is crazy, won’t let me barely even talk to my son over the phone, and I have found that when I drink, I just forget about the crap going on and it calms me down alot. I have never been late for work because of drinking, never drank on the job, I don’t carry a flask around, just when I have downtime, I love throwin them back, I brew beer, I know everything about it, I love alcohol…the way I look at it, what’s the problem? Everyone has their vices?? right? gimme input
i read the answers so far, I can’t get drunk, then wake up, drink water and go run a few miles…i’m a vegetarian, eat healthy, I just always seem to turn to the booze when stressed
sorry, I CAN get drunk, then run the next day

To make the community stay down. Like African American/ Hispanic communities to keep from interfering…?

I heard some of this from rappers’ songs like “My President” by Young Jeezy that hinted:

“…For some strange reason my son is addicted to polo’s”
I don’t know if this is in direct contact, but sounds like it has some relation….

and Kanye West said in the song “Crack Music”:

“How [did] we stop the Black Panthers?/Ronald Reagan cooked up an answer,”
Inferring that Ronald Reagan intentionally put drugs in the ghettos

My dad, an educated man, says that it [might] had happened. And that white leaders keep African Americans under the influence so THEY don’t have any influence.

Is it a true or could it really have a POSSIBILITY to be true?

This is a real question btw I’ve been wondering for a long time

I 1st met my boyfriend 2yrs ago, he had just stopped doing meth and had even been in jail months before because of it. he said he had quit because he realized how much it messed up his life and all the things he lost because of it. well here recently he has befriended this guy at work, he told me the guy has offered to get him meth and he told him no, but here lately he’s been acting odd. he’s been salting a big companys parking lot when it snows because its part of his job, well here lately he’s been licking his lips alot, saying his whole body hurts, and one night he had to stay up all night scraping and salting this companys parking lot, he worked for over 24hrs straight without sleep, he slept when he got home. but i looked at his phone last night cause him and his new “friend” have been texting and calling each other alot. one of the texts he asks his friend “is there anymore of that good around?” and another one he asks “whens the snow coming?”. i confronted him about this and he denied it all. he said i should trust him more than that, and that i dont understand how him and his friend text each other so i shouldn’t accuse him. he said he licks his lips cause they are staying chapped because he works out in the cold weather so much. but just tonight we were having dinner at his moms house and he was talking alot, she said “son, your hyper as hell” and he just made the excuse that he was happy to be able to spend time with us cause he’s been working so much. he still eats and sleeps, but i remember him telling me a long time ago that he had learned to do that when he use to smoke it cause his mom and boss was onto him, so he started eating while he was on it. do you think he’s on it? how can i tell? i’m sure he will be sure to keep any texts that refer to drugs deleted. i want so badly to think he’s not lying, but i have a very bad feeling about this. what are the signs that he’s on any kind of upper at all? like coke, meth or crack? please dont leave me smart@ss replies. i told him to begin with if he ever did meth again i would leave him in a second and never speak to him again.
another thing i forgot to put is that he’s been sweating like crazy, even when its not hot in the house, he blames it on being out in the cold weather so much that his body temp is messed up.

Eg. An alcoholic single mother who has to explain to their daughter why they need to be taken into care.

Eg. A woman dying of AIDS who has to tell her young son that he has inherited the condition.
I was looking more for a negative event.

I have been married to a wonderful lady with a charming 9 year old daughter for going on 3 years now. Her daughter doesn’t necessarily have a father because he’s serving a life sentence on a laundry list of drug trafficking felonies.

For 3 years afterwards, her mother dated a lowlife scumsucking worm that would beat her right in front of her daughter, AND would beat her daughter as well. In one extreme case when she was packing to leave, he walked around twirling a gun saying, “Guess I’ll be going to prison soon.” Afterwards, she met me, and finally had the courage to leave. Now for a year after she left, we didn’t hear from him, but now for the past two years, he consistently contacts our stepdaughter with text messages saying how much he misses her, or leaves gifts at outside our door for her….always signing his name as “Daddy” (that ***REALLY*** pisses me off!) and inviting her to go parties or whatever. Appallingly enough, my wife buys this bribery hook, line, and sinker, and allows this to continue, saying, “Maybe he’s a changed man…people do change” (That rationale is exactly why she stayed 3 years with his abuse)

Now he’s asking to take her and my wife on a shopping trip with his son, and my wife is agreeing. Personally, I’m livid because I hate women abusers worse than the KKK hates blacks, and I see this as nothing more than manipulation to slowly work his way back into my wife’s life. Most of all–that child doesn’t need maggots like that in her life! My wife says it has nothing to do with me, and that he’s not hurting anyone. What is your stance, and what should I do about this?
Shawna: Check the first paragraph again. The ex ISN’T the girl’s father. Her real father is in prison

My husband is an alcoholic, and my son has ADD, he’s 20 years old living on his own. I try and do things for my husband and my son and all I get from them is cussed out. Tonight, I got
stranded at the grocery store, alone. I had called a cab, and waited an hour in howling freezing winds. There was no place to get out of the wind because the store closed and locked up. I was the only soul standing in the parking lot and waiting. I even was so distressed
I called the police (business line) and requested that an officer come over and help me as I felt like I was getting frostbite and no cab in site. My husband doesn’t have a trac phone or just doesn’t give a damn to get one (he’s “afraid to talk on the phone”??). So I called my son. My son said “WTF What do you expect me to do about it?? I don’t have a car! But his girlfriend does. He cussed me out and hung up on me. It
hurt so bad. When I came home I told my husband I was going to send a letter to the town editor about the lousy cab service we have, and he said don’t do that and I asked why? Was he
afraid of people’s opinions. I told him that maybe if he had been with me, it would have been better as I could have been mugged or raped, etc. or dying of “exposure” even though I was bundled up. Why do they treat me like this?
I’m 55 years old and have been married to my husband for 33 years but I’m getting to the point where I wonder if I’ve made a terrible mistake. Also I think he was mad because I didn’t bring his beer home. What should I do. I have always
felt that I’m not pretty or attractive although I try to be for my husband, but my husband doesn’t want to look good for me. He lets his beard and hair grow long, doesn”t take care of his hygiene
anymore, I’ve begged him to get help but he won’t. I’ve threatened to leave him, but I’m scared of living alone. What do I do???

My husband is an alcoholic, and my son has ADD, he’s 20 years old living on his own. I try and do things for my husband and my son and all I get from them is cussed out. Tonight, I got
stranded at the grocery store, alone. I had called a cab, and waited an hour in howling freezing winds. There was no place to get out of the wind because the store closed and locked up. I was the only soul standing in the parking lot and waiting. I even was so distressed
I called the police (business line) and requested that an officer come over and help me as I felt like I was getting frostbite and no cab in site. My husband doesn’t have a trac phone or just doesn’t give a damn to get one (he’s “afraid to talk on the phone”??). So I called my son. My son said “WTF What do you expect me to do about it?? I don’t have a car! But his girlfriend does. He cussed me out and hung up on me. It
hurt so bad. When I came home I told my husband I was going to send a letter to the town editor about the lousy cab service we have, and he said don’t do that and I asked why? Was he
afraid of people’s opinions. I told him that maybe if he had been with me, it would have been better as I could have been mugged or raped, etc. or dying of “exposure” even though I was bundled up. Why do they treat me like this?
I’m 55 years old and have been married to my husband for 33 years but I’m getting to the point where I wonder if I’ve made a terrible mistake. Also I think he was mad because I didn’t bring his beer home. What should I do. I have always
felt that I’m not pretty or attractive although I try to be for my husband, but my husband doesn’t want to look good for me. He lets his beard and hair grow long, doesn”t take care of his hygiene
anymore, I’ve begged him to get help but he won’t. I’ve threatened to leave him, but I’m scared of living alone. What do I do???

I met him 35 years ago. I was 19 he was 22, We drifted apart and had other relationships,we ran into each other and resumed our relationship. We were marred for 13 years, He was a good provider,hard worker. But he has a sexual addiction to porn and prostitutes. We went through threapy.but it did not help him so we divorced. He remarried,but we continued to see each other. She was a good woman ,but she passed away from cancer in july. Now, he continues to see me, but I also found that he is seeing a crack addict. hestays at my apartment sometimes and I,m falling in love with him again. But, I,m afraid for his safty. He has been showing risky behaviors, such as allowing this crack addict to stay at his home. I will not stay there out of respect for his deceased wife. He has valuables and documents lying around indicating what his finances are. I.m afraid for him. But he doesn’t seem to care for himself anymore. He drinks,smokes ,uses crack. I’ve told his 35 year old son,what to

I met him 35 years ago. I was 19 he was 22, We drifted apart and had other relationships,we ran into each other and resumed our relationship. We were marred for 13 years, He was a good provider,hard worker. But he has a sexual addiction to porn and prostitutes. We went through threapy.but it did not help him so we divorced. He remarried,but we continued to see each other. She was a good woman ,but she passed away from cancer in july. Now, he continues to see me, but I also found that he is seeing a crack addict. hestays at my apartment sometimes and I,m falling in love with him again. But, I,m afraid for his safty. He has been showing risky behaviors, such as allowing this crack addict to stay at his home. I will not stay there out of respect for his deceased wife. He has valuables and documents lying around indicating what his finances are. I.m afraid for him. But he doesn’t seem to care for himself anymore. He drinks,smokes ,uses crack. I’ve told his 35 year old son,what to

my son is now 5 yrs old and hes coming to the age where he realises things. I dont know what to do when the time comes to talk to him about his real father. His bio father was a bum, afterabout 7 months when my son was born, i asked him to leave he did cocaine and was an avid drinker, i told him he could still visit my son but he hardly ever did, and then he moved to oregon, after that he became involved w a 17 yr old & got her preg. About 2 yrs later i became involved w my fiancee and thats who he knows as dad. he loves him dearly and i dont want him to hate his “dad” and me for not telling him the truth. what do i do?

My husband is a control freak. He hit me like 7 years ago but promised he would never do it again – which he hasn’t. For the most part we have a good life, he works steady, etc – but he does really enjoy telling people what to do (mainly me).
His 17 year old son just had a son and he has now decided we are moving 1800 miles away to be near his family. This wouldn’t be a problem but we have 6 dogs, 3 of which we have bred in the past for extra income until we figured out the over-population problem, the last one we took in was a rescue and a former bait dog.
I have recently become ill with MRSA – which is obvious due to patches across my face. I used to think I was okay looking but now I feel so down about myself even though it was not my fault that I have this (I am so paranoid people will look at it and say eew herpes, but it’s not!!!!) I had worked until it became active and now I am “off schedule” so I am relying on my husband for income. I am told this will become active at least 7-8 times a year.
With this move he is saying that we can only take 2 of the dogs – meaning I will have to either find homes or have the other 4 put down. I am sick over this. He’s only doing it because he “has” to set a rule for me to make a decision, because otherwise I would be excited about moving to a warmer climate, the sun would be good for my skin (helps kill the infection) and the warmer climate would be good for my back which mainly becomes bothersome in winter months.
I do not want to put these dogs down, I’ve had to do so in the past with an injury and I still haven’t gotten over it. I have told him we could easily keep them out doors in the warmer climate and rotate a couple in the house at time (all are house-trained and fur is short). Nope, his way or no way. These dogs are grown and members of the family, it is really hard to rehome older dogs. We have been together 10 years and as I say, things have gotten better but there is still obviously a problem. We broke up a few years ago for about 3 days when I had a really good job and during this time he slept with a co-worker – because he was “hurt”. I found out months later by accident when we were getting along well again and I got back at him for that (because I was “hurt” too).I have learned to never trust him again in that regard because of how I didn’t figure it out the first time. You know I actually fear that if I didn’t go with him, he would hook up with the same **** just to make a statement to me…..My pride tells me one thing – don’t take a chance of letting her “win” (or any of the others that there may be)…..My head says to try to keep the house going here and keep the animals (but I’m not sure how I can do that with an infectious disease taking over my body) and if somebody else gets him, good riddance, have fun making him happy!!!….but my financial situation tells me I have no choice, I have this “plague” and no income.
I was already so depressed over this situation with the MRSA, and my husbands work cutting all insurance over a year ago so I am struggling to get meds and feeling gloomy from it all and now I have this new battle to try to tackle. I really kind of want to slit my wrists but I don’t have the courage to do so and I don’t have the right kind of pills here that would just let me go to sleep and not wake up. Otherwise I would really consider it right now. Normally he gets mad, and will back down on something if I make a valid point, this he will not, it’s an extra burden on me, my head is swimming right now. The dogs are pit bulls btw – sweet, smart and friendly with people and animals but you can understand the problem I may have trying to find them a new home. Oh AND 2 of hubby’s brothers do drugs – I think one is rarely employed and does “ice” when he has the chance (not sure if that is meth?) and I think the other one does crack but continues to work and makes decent money. That is another factor in this, I don’t mind my husband drinking but don’t want this other crap to become an issue either if he hangs out with his “bro’s” on the weekends.Also the house we live in now, we are buying land contract and will be “ours” in 2 years. I know the owner would continue the agreement in my name if I could manage the $500.00 payment. Hubby said his “non-user” brother that tends to avoid the other brothers though he lives close by had a house for rent but now he’s not sure how to get ahold of him so we don’t even necessarily have “that” house but he will find an apartment. I asked if he doesn’t even know where we are going to live how does he know that he can even have his two dogs? – but there’s no arguing with him and I am going nuts in a depressed funk. I am sorry to ramble but I just may be heading to a nervous breakdown over this and he says he’s moving in 2 weeks – he would like for me to come but I have to “follow his rules”.
again – how do I leave with no income???? I have always been a hardworker prior to this but do you want me even handing you a hamburger with a noticable infectious disease across my face???

My husband is an alcoholic, and my son has ADD, he’s 20 years old living on his own. I try and do things for my husband and my son and all I get from them is cussed out. Tonight, I got
stranded at the grocery store, alone. I had called a cab, and waited an hour in howling freezing winds. There was no place to get out of the wind because the store closed and locked up. I was the only soul standing in the parking lot and waiting. I even was so distressed
I called the police (business line) and requested that an officer come over and help me as I felt like I was getting frostbite and no cab in site. My husband doesn’t have a trac phone or just doesn’t give a damn to get one (he’s “afraid to talk on the phone”??). So I called my son. My son said “WTF What do you expect me to do about it?? I don’t have a car! But his girlfriend does. He cussed me out and hung up on me. It
hurt so bad. When I came home I told my husband I was going to send a letter to the town editor about the lousy cab service we have, and he said don’t do that and I asked why? Was he
afraid of people’s opinions. I told him that maybe if he had been with me, it would have been better as I could have been mugged or raped, etc. or dying of “exposure” even though I was bundled up. Why do they treat me like this?
I’m 55 years old and have been married to my husband for 33 years but I’m getting to the point where I wonder if I’ve made a terrible mistake. Also I think he was mad because I didn’t bring his beer home. What should I do. I have always
felt that I’m not pretty or attractive although I try to be for my husband, but my husband doesn’t want to look good for me. He lets his beard and hair grow long, doesn”t take care of his hygiene
anymore, I’ve begged him to get help but he won’t. I’ve threatened to leave him, but I’m scared of living alone. What do I do???

Here’s the story:

It all started when I was 17. I used to play football for my high school and we all know what happen when you are an athlete….Girls,sex, friends and etc….

Until the day I met this girl, I used to have a good sexual life. But for some reasons this girl was never ready to give herself to me and I couldn’t force her to do anything stupid because I loved her and I didn’t want to put my football career at risk. My friends, told me to let her go but somehow I just couldn’t do it. Girls used to ask me to come over and keep them company, keep them warm but I never did.

I spent over 9 months without having sex with her, I never cheated on her, and never masturbated( BELIEVE IT OR NOT). People didn’t believe me when I told them I never masturbate in my life. Girls used to tell me every boys do it, so stop lying.

And one day, it happened…..I remember I was wondering around the house and I stumbled across this Porn video at my house, my parents went out and I took the movie to my room…… After a while I started touching myself and bamm again it happened….. I won’t lie to you, it did feel good, not better than sex but it was good.

Then the next day I started all over again and again and again. What started as an experience became an addiction real quick. I even downloaded movies from the net, I couldn’t spend a day without watching one. I heard it was better to do it with lotion, so I used some.

But it was always the same thing, the same feeling, ( U feel good for a while then it all stop, it wasn’t the same thing as sex and I was pissed at myself and mostly pissed at my girlfriend, because of what she transformed me into).

For some reasons, my girlfriend was never ready, so I did the most terrible thing in my life, I broke up with her and moved on with my life. I thought this decision was going to make me feel better, but it was just bull sh*****.

I hooked up with this girl for a while and sex came back to my lifestyle but masturbation didn’t want to leave. Even while I was with this new girl, I’d still masturbate everytime I had a chance. Worst thing is, I started to pick the right movie to do such thing. My favorites movies are the lesbian ones and I’m not talking about any tipical lesbian movie, I like the one with a strap on.

As you can see, because of this one girl, I became something that I’m ashamed of. I became an addict, not to drugs or pills or even sex but to porn and masturbation. I wanted to contact a therapist about it or even go to some group session but I didn’t have and still don’t have the courage to do so…..what would my parents think of me when they find out their beloved son is addicted to porn and masturbation.

And this girl who is the caused of all my mysery thanked me by sleeping with one of my close friend. She told me it was a pay back. Pay back from what, you never gave me anything. She wasn’t ready for me but she was ready for him. And she left me with a disease and an addiction.

It’s been almost 2 years guys and I still can’t stop masturbating. So you can tell me it’s normal, you can tell me it’s ok to do such thing but I won’t accept it. I can’t spend a day without watching porn, when I’m working I can’t wait to get home to go watch porn. I have a list all the free sites where I can watch any porn for free.

This is not ok in my eyes but I CAN’T STOP. I even stop going to Church because I’m so ashamed of myself. Every night, I asked God to help me but I’m still doing it.

And somehow, I feel better to finally talk about it here and I hope your answers will help me find a better way to deal with this thing.

Thank You

I gave birth to my first son 10/4/92. I hemmoraged from placento abrupto. I was on morphine for ten days. I was sent home with my precious baby with mega drug refills. I became hooked on hydrocodine which is my own fault. I began calling in my own refills acking like I was a nurse. I am appauled at my behavior but because of this I have been on probation for 14 years. It’s killing me. I’m due to get of in 07 but this probation thing has taking a big time toll on my life. I have tried two times to get out of this world…didn’t work. I really need some help but not pitty. Who do I talk to?

Long story short, me and my ex were addicts.got our first son taken from us due to us being addicts and our rights were terminated.had our second kid and he was taken into foster care.our third died and she was only 6 month gestation.our fourth was delivered at 7 months due to my ex going on a heroin binge and OD.she was born addicted but otherwise healthy.ive gotten custody back of my second and i had custody of my fourth since the OD.my ex died one day after she was admitted to the er due to heart failure (one day after our fourth was born)

this happened 13 months ago.

since finding out about our fourth pregnancy, ive gotten clean and have been clean ever since.i have a stable job and a good job at that (thanks to never being caught up in jail by the drugs) and I rent a three bedroom house.Ive started seeing this girl and I think she might be the one.she is a nurse and she also works for the peace corps so she is defiantly a good influence.she also has a little boy my sons age and they get along great.both of my kids are doing great.hannah doesn’t show any complications from her traumatic birth or the drug use and she is actually a pretty smart little girl.

but trouble is brewing with my ex’s cousin, the one that fostered and then adopted my first kid.she has filed for custody of my two kids claiming that i am a drug addict, that i am unfit and that i caused my third baby’s death by making BS story that i punched my ex after getting her high and pushing her down the stairs because she was cheating on me which never even happened in the first place.

she further goes on to say that i am not a good father and i can never give them what they deserve.that she is married and have a nice christian household to raise the kids in.

my question is, how far can she get with the load of crap? Ive had my job for 7 months.We are drug tested every month, so they would already have that on record.my house is clean, probably the only good that came out of being a addict and it stuck lol.my kids are happy and thriving.after school, they go to my moms until I get off work.yes, they may not have their mom in their life, but they are doing just fine.I never corrupted her, she was already doing drugs when i met her but i do know that this was recently wihtin a years time and i dont know how the courts will take to it.

any suggestions?

OK so my aunt has been really sick for more than 2 weeks and isn’t getting better but won’t go to the doctor. She’s been puking a lot and has diarrhea and is really weak and her face broke out in little blisters, but that could have been an acne flair up. Everyone figured it was a virus but her husband and teenage son haven’t caught it so it can’t be something contagious. Besides her and her son barely leave the house enough to catch anything. My aunt is in her early 50′s, Caucasian, pretty overweight, and smokes. She also has a binge drinking problem and a prescription pill problem, but she hasn’t had any alcohol or pills for days because she can’t keep anything down, exept in the past few days she has been able to keep down a steak egg and cheese fast food biscuit, a baked potato, and some salad. I don’t know her family history because she’s not my blood aunt. I’m getting really worried and just wondered if anyone knew what it might be?
Yeah, I know her lifestyle sucks but this all happened so suddenly…and if it was a virus/infection her son would have caught it. He’s been caring for her

I just got one of those new fountains from hammack and schleimer and have NO idea what to put in it. I need a good recipe for my son’s 1st birthday party. (NO PULP)
No recipes with ice cream because I don’t think the fountain can have ice cream in it because it will clog up.