The babys father and i have been dating off and on for almost 2 years. He has cheated on me numerous times.. i cant even count on both hands and those are just the ones i know about not to mention the lying, verbal and emotional abuse, and even a few physical encounters that i will admit i started. Since ive been pregnant he has started using cocaine heavly and recently got off probation and has started smoking weed again. He has a house full of people and all but his grandma and his younger siblings are using some sort of drug. His mom lives there and is so into tweak its not even funny. I dont want him to have custody of my child because his house is disgusting there is really trash everywhere and the dog goes to the bathroom in the house not all of it gets cleaned.. there is plenty of violence drug use profanity and abuse of every kind in this home and i dont want my son raised in a mess that way. how can i prove to the courts that he is an unfit father and should not have custody?
Also he has warned me that if i try to take his son from him he will fight dirty and he can guarentee that he will drop clean.. so if he already plans on quitting for an extended period of time so that he will drop clean for the courts how can i catch him unprepared? i have also used cocaine 2-3 times during my pregnancy. i know there is no good excuse for it but i felt that he would like me or want to be around me more if i did. believe me i regret it everyday but im afraid he will use that against me. i want his name on the birth certifcate becuz im only 17 and i will need his help finacially. again please help if you can its very important to me. thanks ASHLEY
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My husband and I have been married for 5 months now, and he has a 2 year old son with his past “hook up”. There was a brief “relationship” for about a month or two simply because he found out she was pregnant. The father could have been him or 2 other guys (shows you how contained she is)…. Blood tests showed that my husband is in fact the father. We have had him since he was about 6 weeks old every weekend. We have custody papers stating that she has full physical custody, but we share joint custody. Since he was born, she has moved 9 times, a couple of times she never told us her new address (which is contempt of court according to the papers). While she was pregnant, she told my husband that she would never quit smoking weed. She just moved an hour further away with her on again off again boyfriend who is clearly on drugs (nasty teeth, myspace reference to drugs and so on) We even found a nude picture of our son on her public myspace page! We printed it and went to the police station. There was to be more investigation, and we notified DHS, who then went to her house and TOLD her that we were having her myspace investigated, so she should make it public. Her status, which I can still see, changed to “NAME thinks little girls should keep their noses in their big fat boyfriends butt cracks”. We still believe that she and her boyfriend are on drugs, but do not know if we can demand a drug test on her. Our current lawyer has been no help, as his wife is fighting cancer, and he is trying all he can to stay out of court.
His mother never calls when we have him for any amount of time to check on him, and if she does call, it is always about money. She does not have a highschool education, and has even attempted to take the GED exam 2 times and still has not passed. She has no steady employment, even when she worked at her father’s store. She has threatened us and shown her ugly side several times (which we have documented) She has been late for pick ups and drop offs several times also, and has even forgotten what day it was when we called. He usually has a full diaper, and is filthy like he hasnt taken a bath when we pick him up. We also noticed lots of plaque on his teeth when we pick him up. He has gotten sick with her several times, and it has been severe a couple times, and she says shes taken him to the doctor, but has no documentation… How does a doctor miss pneumonia and say that the child is “fine”??? Anways, please give me some advice or some support as of what to do!?!
I forgot to also add that we are to split medical bills 50/50, and she owes us over $1,000 so far. She says she will pay but never does.
She has also lost custody of her older daughter to her parents for being unfit. Shouldnt that be held against her?
Sorry, it was a paternity test, not just a blood test! He is the father!
My son is in a Drug and Alcohol Rehab and has been for 3 months. To work the program, he is looking at 18 months to complete it. So far he is doing good, but often gets depressed. He was addicted to Crack. Crystal Meth and Alcohol. I am not at all familiar with the drugs. If he completes the 18 months, what is the likelihood that he will go back on drugs and what are the long term side effects on his mind and body? He was using for 8 years. And I haven’t seen him in 8 years because of this. We talk on the phone and I send him what he needs until he is own his own. Can someone enlighten me on the chance of getting my ole son back to normal? Thanks so much!
I forgot to mention that my son is 32.
Where my son is, they will not give him any medications. They do not believe in it.
