My counsins father committed suicide 9 years ago. He went down to the basement and blew his brains out. They still live in this house. She sees him all the time. Sees him going up and down the stairs and sees him sitting in the living room. They hear a lot of noises in the basement. Her mother brought in a psychic who said that he did make it over to the other side but he is just coming to visit. My cousin sits alone in the basement with a ouija board trying to talk to him. No we are not alcoholics or drug addicts and this is for real. I heard on Sylvia Brown that sometimes people do not know they are dead and you need to tell them that they are & and to go to the other side. Do you think he is just visiting here or do you think he could be stuck here. He was a wonderful guy but he had a lot of problems. Also, a friend of mine went over there with her 4 year old son and he said “mommy look at that man on the couch”. Many people in the family see him there. Thanks.
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I have to write a something (it can be anything as long as it meets the criteria) for my English class. We have to write osmething based on the poem “We Real Cool” by Gwendolyn Brooks (THE POOL PLAYERS. SEVEN AT THE GOLDEN SHOVEL. We real cool. We Left school. We Lurk late. We Strike straight. We Sing sin. We Thin gin. We Jazz June. We Die soon.”). We’re supposed to tell about the life of one of those pool players twenty or so years later.
I decided to do a letter convincing kids to stay in school. This is what I have so far:
Dear students,
A long time ago, when I was about your age, I dropped out of school to play pool and drink with six friends. It was a huge mistake. We didn’t realize it at the time, we were just a bunch of carefree kids, but soon enough, we would know of the terrible consquences.
It was about five years later when we found out how wrong we were. We were adults now, we had to grow up, get jobs, support ourselves because no one else would. But we couldn’t. We didn’t have educations, we were high school drop-outs and failures. Two of my friends committed suicide because they were so hopeless. Another developed liver disease from the beer and couldn’t afford treatment. He died several months later, in great pain and agony. So it was just me and three others, Jon, Bob, and Bill. Jon moved far away, and I’m not sure what happened to Bob.
So I was left with Bill, whom I went to rehab with for many years. After I got out, I worked at several dead-end jobs that paid minimum wage, trying to save up for college.
After several years of cleaning public restrooms, I finally made enough money to put myself through a couple semesters of community college. I continued working, and soon I was in medical school. I became a nursing assistant, and then a doctor.
I may have a somewhat happy of an ending but Bill didn’t do as well as I did. Bill refused to work, begging his parents for money, but they didn’t want to give money to their lazy, alcoholic, drop-out son. He became homeless, and now stands on street corners begging for a couple of quarters from whoever walks by.
Of course I was to blame for what I got myself into, but it probably never would have been as bad if I had a family. My mother died when I was young, and my father cared more for alcohol than he did for me. I used to dream that my father would actually be a father. And because of that, I don’t want to be a father, either, and I have no family still.
I’m not sure how to end it. I know it should say something about staying in school, because that’s the purpose of my letter, but I don’t know how to say it without sounding cheesy and cliche, like “Stay in school and don’t drink” etc.
Any advise on how to end it? Or what improvements can I make to my writing? Anythin at all is appreciated!
Please and thank you!
Raney, first, sorry that it took me so long to respond (and I doubt you’ll ever read this, but whatever), and LOL, no, this has never happened to me. I’m thirteen and I’m just trying to write this based on what I’ve seen in movies and such…
People, seriously, this is not a personal experience! I’m laughing so hard now, this is just a story! XD
At least I’m convincing…
I have to do a project for English class, based on the poem We Real Cool by Gwen Brooks. I have to tell about the life of one of the drop-out teens twenty or so years later. I’m doing a letter to children, convincing them to stay in school. I htink there are some typos and grammar mistakes, and maybe my writing isn’t so fabulous, so I need someone to help make corrections 
But keep in mind that I’m only in 8th grade, so please don’t be cruel.
And also keep in mind that this is FICTION, an assignment for school. Some people last night thought it was about my life… And well…
Here it is:
Dear students,
A long time ago, when I was about your age, I dropped out of school to play pool and drink with six friends. It was a huge mistake. We didn’t realize it at the time, we were just a bunch of carefree kids, but soon enough, we would know of the terrible consquences.
It was about five years later when we found out how wrong we were. We were adults now, we had to grow up, get jobs, support ourselves because no one else would. But we couldn’t. We didn’t have educations, we were high school drop-outs and failures. Two of my friends committed suicide because they were so hopeless. Another developed liver disease from the beer and couldn’t afford treatment. He died several months later, in great pain and agony. So it was just me and three others, Jon, Bob, and Bill. Jon moved far away, and I’m not sure what happened to Bob.
So I was left with Bill, whom I went to rehab with for many years. After I got out, I worked at several dead-end jobs that paid minimum wage, trying to save up for college.
After several years of cleaning public restrooms, I finally made enough money to put myself through a couple semesters of community college. I continued working, and soon I was in medical school. I became a nursing assistant, and then a doctor.
I may have a somewhat happy of an ending but Bill didn’t do as well as I did. Bill refused to work, begging his parents for money, but they didn’t want to give money to their lazy, alcoholic, drop-out son. He became homeless, and now stands on street corners begging for a couple of quarters from whoever walks by.
Of course I was to blame for what I got myself into, but it probably never would have been as bad if I had a family. My mother died when I was young, and my father cared more for alcohol than he did for me. I used to dream that my father would actually be a father. And because of that, I don’t want to be a father, either, and I have no family still.
If I had a second chance, I would definitely stay in school. Even though I turned out alright, I’m sorry about what happened to my friends. The whole experience just isn’t worth it. The best, wisest choice is to stay in school, and I hope you students do so.
Sincerely,
Michael Samson
What do you think?
Thank you!
[Sorry it's kinda big.]
Oh, and where it says “I used to dream that my father would actually be a father.” should read “I used to dream that my father would actually be a father, but that dream never came true.”
cathrl: Thanks! I changed it to “eventually”.
But my English teacher’s not that picky. I think she’ll just be pleased that I actually did it. (Not that I don’t usually do my work, it’s just that my peers aren’t that great… lol.. huh… yeah…)
Basic Info:
My ex is in her late 20′s, she’s a recovering drug addict (cocaine). She’s a bit volatile and has some serious personal issues, including being sexually abused by a family member. She has two children. One of which is mine. Ever since our split where she attempted to take her life, she has been in the court, fighting for custody with myself and the other father. In addition to that she was living with her mother in a ranch out in the country.
At first she was able to keep the eldest as long as she wore an ankle bracelet and passed random drug/alcohol tests. And my lawyer negotiated alternating weeks with our child. One week me one week her.
The summer:
Her eldest went to vacation with his father and his family in may. As has happened every year before he spends the entire summer and then returns about a week before school starts.
In the meantime her goal was to get an apartment. The worst thing she ever could have done in my opinion. Soon she was asking me for money for daycare for our son, her youngest.
Because she had to pay for the week he wasn’t there. I gave it once that’s it. After all i had to pay for the week he wasn’t at the daycare he attended when he was with me.
Apartment Life:
I visited her apartment a couple times, hell i helped her move in. We had tried working it out off and on, but nothing solid ever materialized. In fact we were supposed to start going to counseling today. Anyway, she started hanging out with a pair of lesbians and taking my son with her. My son has told me that the one lesbian really hurt his feelings because she told him that he wasn’t cute. In addition to that, he has told me, of his own free will no coercion needed, that his mother routinely drinks with these women. Now that is a blatant violation of our temporary visiting agreement.(don’t remember the exact name for the document). In addition to that she’s been claiming that i’ve molested him. Which only brings back memories of when she was using. I’m worried. I’ve even found beer in her fridge and texts telling her to go to the bar. If anyone has ever done cocaine or know of people who have, drinking and cocaine often go hand in hand.
New information:
I wondered why it was that the eldest hadn’t returned one week before school started. She lied to me and told me that they were going to pick him up two days before school started. B.S. Turns out, two weeks earlier she failed three alcohol tests and the court demanded that she sign the child over to the father. I haven’t gotten my hands on this agreement and the only reason i know that it took place is because the grandmother of the eldest has a relationship with my mother. My mom called to see what happened. That’s what we found out. Not to mention
TRO:
In light of this new information and the evidence i’ve seen and my son has witnessed, i have asked my attorney to get a restraining order put on her. as this is my week. I’m not sure if I can get him to do it in time. But I hope so. And I’m going to push for me to be custodian.
My questions:
Due to the fact, that I don’t know the whole situation, am I doing the right thing? Could I be over reacting? Or is this just God telling me that something is going wrong and my child may be in danger? Does anyone have any thoughts or comments?
All great answers. First response, I agree with. However my attorney is always so damn busy. As far as my son being an “informer”, that’s not the case. I try my best not to ask him any questions about his mother. But he offers up information. It seems at least to me that he had his feelings hurt pretty badly when that woman told him that. I’m pretty sure he wasn’t being cute, but that’s just not right to say that to a child. I appreciate everyone’s comments/opinions here. I guess the main purpose for me was just to get the feeling that I wasn’t doing the wrong thing here.
Thanks.
I’m trying to stay positive but…
please bear with me
I’ve gotten where I am today because of the decisions I’ve made as a person. I’m 21 years old and I falling behind in the race of life. I’m not the son of parents of responsible natures and any noticeable work ethic. No, I’m the bastard son of an alcoholic woman who brought another five children into the welfare life. Ask statisticians and those with common sense where I’m most likely to end up. Of course I’m not without blame. I hashed out against the circumstances for most of my life only to worsen my own. I’ve been through a lot of stuff because of it.
I called the authorities on my abusive lifestyle in the 6th grade, my family was dispersed into foster care. I excelled in foster care. But then I was given the opportunity to go back to my own family and I did. Eventually I was placed on probation in jr. high and violated the rules. I went to a juvenile facility a city. I excelled there as well. A year or so later I was released to my mother who managed to get all of her children back. Then as she started slipping into her old ways so did I and I ended up in jail. I was there four months keeping completely to myself. Then I got out and had no place to go so I moved in with a childhood friend I disowned for street rat associates.
I lived with him and his mom until I graduated high school two years behind my original class. By then things were going sour at the house between the three of us, partially because of the tension between the mom and I. We did some things we weren’t supposed to together. I graduated with flying colors if i may say so myself. I actually received a scholarship, lead a musical, and ended up in a great relationship with a teacher no less! But my life….what, who, why, how was I even here?! I hadn’t even thought of college, I didn’t know the way of the world, I had no idea how to be an adult.
My relationship with the girlfriend was adulterous and caused problems, I had no clear direction when I got to college and ended up flunking out. Spent that summer homeless most of the time and got back into the school only to get booted this time because I still had no idea what I was doing and got back into smoking and drinking! Now I have a little over 100$ in the bank and my rent is going to be due in a couple weeks along with utility bills and I have no job! On top of that 14k in debt for nothing! The relationship is rocky and she has two daughters, I always said to myself I’d become more than this for my own family and life and I intend to.
I am seriously F’d up right now!!! Someone please help me out?
KEYY: boyfriend:mike girlfriend:kathy baby:joe
okay, can anyone help me. now my moms friends son is a alcoholic. when mike(the son) gets drunk mike gets mean. now mike and Kathy idk. but mike abuses her. so saturday night mike got really drunk and gave kathy a black eye and in that act “accidently” hit there 8 month old baby boy joe. they stayed with us for 2 days. today she was supose to go to her friends house to live with her untill the court day or going back home. well around 6:30pm. a guy she though was her friend came to pick her up to go to her friends house. but instead of taking her there he took her to mikes house. we called kathy to see if she was okay at the time she was, she said she was. so we went to the house just to make sure. and kathy and her so called friend were sitting on the porch. we got back home and realized we had her phone charger. so we called her and she said shed me by with her friends boyfriend to pick it up around 10. well at 10:03 i texted kathy and asked if she was still coming to get her charger. she never answered the text. then 10:23 rolled around and my mom decided to call her and tell her that she was about to go to sleep and that kathy needed to come and pick up her charger. she never answer. then my mom called kathy again and it went right to voicemail. at this time we were really worried. so we decided to go to mikes house to see of they were still there, well they park in the back so my brother went back there to see if the cars were there. mikes car was and also the friends. he came back and told us. then as we were heading to the end of the street mikes mom showed up. and turned into mikes drive way. she saw us and my brother walking the oppisite way as us. at this time we called 911. the police came and just went upto the door and knocked. thats it! the didnt answer. ofcourse not they know the police are there and mike and kathy arent supose to have contact. btw kathy has full custody of joe. we called the state police, the city police, child services, the magistrait what else can we do we are in fear of kathy and joes life. he has threatend to hurt joe before to get back at kathy. PLEASE HELP!
I already asked this question…but I need more opinions…from kids & parents.
-My son has gone to school high 3 times this week
-He brought alcohol onto school gronds and given it to his friends
-He has also skipped school after lunch everyday this week.
The principal just told me about all of this today and he told me my son would be suspended for 7 days.
I’m going to be working everyday in the next 7 days except Sunday.
How can I make sure he stays out of drugs, alcohol, etc while I’m gone.
KIDS & PARENTS: If you were in this situation (kids) how would you be punnished? and (parents) how would you punnish your child?
My husband and i is going through divorce ….. and we have 4 year old son ….. i dont trust him arround my son …… he is alcoholic and i think he is useing drug as well….. iam so afraid when my son is in the car with him what i he is drunk and driving ……. is there any way that the court gives him to visting time so he doesnt see him at all ? what should i do ….
i dont want him to see my son
help me 
iam residence of california
My son is an alcoholic and his liver function is abnormal.He continues to drink and i’m watching him slowly kill himself.I was told that i can’t do anything about it because he is a functional alcoholic.He goes to work every day and he is’nt doing any harm to anyone but himeself. Is this true that i have no control?I can’t keep sitting back and watching him do this to himself.Can i help save his life?God please help me.
A 33 year old woman who I have met professionally 3 times is flirting with me. She is divorced and has two kids. She wants me to meet her son, is bringing me special sweets I like from her home town, and asked for my phone number, said “that’s great!” when I told her i was single, and she is a really hot looking scorpio gal and makes lots of sexual innuendo jokes and has a killer smile.
She got divorced recently (maybe within a year or two) and she doesnt allow the ex to se her kids cause he doesnt support them. She said she has gone through tough times emotionally, mentally &financially &her ex was alcoholic. her son told her 2remarry.
She lives with her kids & works full time. When we parted last she hugged and did a cheek kiss on me & was in 2much ecstasy while doing it.
I am single w/out kids. I find her attractive. I appreciate the interest.
Im a vegetarian & never drink/drugs. Shes been veg off on (but not presently).
I have hesitation due 2 kids?
COMMENTS? TY
Hesitation due to kids doesnt mean I wouldnt accept them (havent met them), but that I wouldnt want to start a relationship without their approval, but then I wouldnt make a commitment until I got to know her and them all better. So it is catch 22! Anyone with experience at this that had a positive experience? Very sticky situation. I am mostly concerned for the kids cause I also had this happen to me as a kid (parents divorced) and know that it caused me lots of hurt feelings that I didnt express at the time.
What should be the progression?
1. see her quietly
2. decide on her
3. meet the kids
4. decide on the package
???
Or kids first and then try and then decide?
No easy answer I see.
(I am in the U.K.)
My son works for a large company which he joined after dropping out of university because one of the subject areas was too difficicult. It is a menial task, stacking shelves, and staff morale is low. Last year, he and a colleague took some video of them doing stupid teenage things at the back of the warehouse, away from other members of staff and the public. This included such pranks as jumping in a pile of wrapped mattresses, racing in shopping trolleys (carts in the U.S.). These videos were posted on YouTube. No problem, until the Area Manager was told about them. He has now been suspended on full pay whilst an investigation is held. Apart from this incident he has never been late, never left early, worked hard, extra hours when requested. He does not take drugs or dring excess alcohol.
If you were HR, what would you do?
What is his best defence, if any?
As an aside, the company have a problem getting staff as the pay and conditions are poor.
Making things short as possible:
I have had full custody of my son since he was a year old. Father has not wanted much to do, has been abusive and neglectful in the past to both me and our son who is now 6. I had a restraining order against the father and then had him arrested again for violation of that restraining order. This was in the beginning of 2004. Father was then arrested twice in March 2004, once on cocaine charge and another for fleeing and eluding a police officer on a 1 ½ mile chase going 105 mph. He was arrested and charged, but was already on probation. Some how he only received house arrest for these things.
Anyway, even though the grandparents have always enabled their son, my sons father, they have always protected my son and put his best interest at heart. I agreed to let the supervised visitation be within the grandparents house under the supervision of the grandparents. Still his father didn’t want much to do with our son. Well, sometimes he did, sometimes he didn’t. He hasn’t ever gave him a bath, got him ready for bed, put him to bed or any of those things. Eventually, the order was changed allowing the father visitation rights without supervision from time to time as mutually agreed by me. He went on to sometimes spending time with him to all of a sudden spending time, then taking him to his girlfriends house to sleep over with her son behind my back. I didn’t make any issue out of it until my son told me that he wasn’t fed all day, daddy was bye bye and his girlfriend was sleeping. So, my son and this two year old were left unsupervised and unfed. I immediately contacted the grandparents and THEY told the father that my son would have to stay with them.
So, a long time went on now my son is six. Dad has all of a sudden been spending time with our son again. He has a new girlfriend again, so evey time he gets a new one, he tries to act like the all American dad. Anyway, I haven’t said anything to him. I have always encouraged a good healthy relationship. Well, the dad always seems to mess up. The past few times my son spent with his dad the following has happened:
My son has been saying the F word and a couple other swear words. He doesn’t hear it in our house. I think that I have respectfully done my best to raise him right so far and he is a great kid. My son informed me that his dad says those words all of the time and my son actually asked him if he would stop saying those bad words. Fathers response to that was, “I will say whatever the heck I want to” I don’t grill my son when he comes home. He and I have a wonderful relationship. A few other issues I have are: His dad told him that the cops have been following him and around eveywhere and my son has told me that a cop followed them to the store and daddy’s girlfriend yelled at the cop for harrassment. The last time my son was up there, I picked him up and he told me that daddy kicks girls. He said that his daddy and his girlfriend got into a huge fight and his girlfriend was crying and yelling not to kick her. This is not safe and not a happy environment that my son is used to. I hate to be mean, but no wonder my son calls me and says that he is home sick. I have always encouraged him to go up there but from now on I think I will let it up to my son and will tell the grandparents that dad is not to take my son by himself. Any suggestions??
Everything was always fine when the dad was not allowed to take him places, but then he wouldn’t spend time with him which I am starting to believe that is what’s best. I won’t leave it up to my son. I will do whats best. Thanks for the advice except for Spike. Yeah, very uncalled for. So, you blame the good parents instead of the bad parents that choose not to change? Sounds like my sons father. Yep, you are just like him. A LOSER!!!
Everything was always fine when the dad was not allowed to take him places, but then he wouldn’t spend time with him which I am starting to believe that is what’s best. I won’t leave it up to my son. I will do whats best. Thanks for the advice except for Spike. Yeah, very uncalled for. So, you blame the good parents instead of the bad parents that choose not to change? Sounds like my sons father. Yep, you are just like him. A LOSER!!!
My son is on their honeymoon and wants to live with them. The new wife has a lot of money and a fancy black sports car which I cannot compete (nor do I want to) with. My 12 year old son is enamoured with this new life style. How do I cope with the pain?
In october my fiance’s EX (babymomma) hid her pregnancy had a child Little did we know she was on crystal meth Her son and her both tested positive for crystal. CPS took her son away and gave temp custody to HER mom. since the custody was 50/50 with my fiance and his EX, CPS called him to come get his daughter or she would be in the care fo CPS. He got her and hte court granted temp full custody.in November they went back to court,she was a no show and they granted my fiance full custody. Court said If she completeed 6 months of rehab she can go and see if she can get visitation. Its been 6 months and still not complete. We would let her go to her grandmas house since the Ex was not allowed near the boy. and we trusted the grandmna and took her word. We just found out the Ex moved in witht he mom and they tried hiding it from us and tellin the lil girl to not tell us. well she did. we plan on cutting ties but what are the gmoms rights? also the mom getting visitation or custody?
Mind you we have a 2 bedroom apt VERY nice with just him, myself, my daughter and her. The EX lives in a run down 2 bedroom apt with like seriously 7 people living there. HSe has not completed her treatment… but if she goes to court what are her chances?
i also want to adopt her,, she calls me mommy and im the one that cares for her and lives with. How do i go about in doing that?
My son, 25 in LA County. In 2001, he joined the military and married a young girl that was living with me because her mother was an alcoholic. She was 17, but got her mother’s signature to marry.
While overseas serving in Iraq, he came home to find his wife was screwing around with another guy on the base. He went AWOL, refused to go back to the base and was released on “Other than Honorable” terms.
He went back to her. They were up here at my house one day and Ry picked up her cell phone and found a picture of his wife giving a guy a “Lewinsky”. He hit her. I called the Sheriff. He was arrested and never did his probation and was arrested again. This time doing almost a year in prison.
While he was in prison, his darling wife got pregnant with yet a different guy’s kid. She has since given the child up for adoption. Yes, there are drugs involved. Wife got on meth while son was overseas…Ryan got on them too. There have been MANY drug arrests and theft arrests made on the wife. Only one drug arrest on my son.
He got out yesterday, the have me listed as a “victim” which is crap! I was never in any danger and I told the Sheriff that! How do I get that removed so that he can come see me without threat of being re-arrested? Also, he pleaded guilty to all charges…he shouldn’t have. Hell, I would have hit her too! How do we fix this thing?
He brought home divorce papers from the prison. Thank you God. Maybe I can have my family back and stop this nightmare that this girl has put this family through. He wants his life back. I would sell my soul to give it to him.
Please help us.
ALSO!! This girl is a gorgeous psychopath. She can convince anybody of anything. She looks like a young Kathrine Zeta Jones and most police, in my experience fall for that gorgeous innocent act every time. It drives me nuts. Don’t you guys do any training on psychopaths and other mental illnesses? Don’t you know she’s evil incarnate and what does the girl have to do before she gets some real time?
And more: Is there a way to get this expunged from his record? Hellz Bellz, I’ll testify! Also, I have to have her in my life, I have custody of their two children and always have.
I need help… Here’s the story. I know it’s a little long but please read it.
My Mom left my brother and I when I was 13 (he was 15 1/2). She just up and left us. She said she had a mental breakdown and just couldn’t handle us anymore (we were very bad kids, raised by our abusive, alcoholic father. He just left us home alone most of the time so we were not well behaved and had zero structure when we went to live with her). My brother and I were separated because we had to go live with friends. I ended up in foster care. Long story short my brother lives in WA State and I ended up in Virginia. My Mom now lives in NY. I visited my brother 5 years ago that was the last time that I saw him. I’ve seen my Mom once when my son was born in 2009. It’s been over 10 years since we’ve all been together (since she left us). My Mom is very sick. She has pancreatitis very bad… she is 60 and we don’t believe she will live longer then 5 years. Money is tight for all of us (my Mom lives off of disability because she can’t work). My brother offered to fly her out to see him and his family. They really wanted me to come. They will not have the money to fly my Mom back over there and my Mom definitely won’t have the money to go there on her own ever. I believe this is the only oppurtunity for all 3 of us to be together again. My Mom and I have never met my brothers 2 kids and my brother has never met my son or husband. I feel like we can gain some type of closure to some things that happened by this trip and I think it’s something I need to go to. Here is the dilema. My husband is out of state for training for his job. He won’t be back until after my Mom leaves WA. My brother offered to pay half my ticket if I come but my husband said he doesn’t feel comfortable with me taking my son on his first trip a lone and that he wants to be there to experience his first big trip- it’s something he doesn’t want to miss. He’s also afraid there may be some type of drama since our family has had so many issues. My husband grew up in a very religious home and half the stuff my family did seems outrageous compared to his family so he doesn’t fully understand the situation and that it is not going to be bad at all. This is a good thing. I can go and leave my son… but my son is 5 months old and exclusively breastfed. I do NOT want to be away from him. I will not be away from him for that time (only 3 or 4 days but still). So I can not go… or leave my son with my in laws and go by myself. I feel like my husband is being selfish and I don’t agree with his reasoning. Please help on this situation…
I need help… Here’s the story. I know it’s a little long but please read it.
My Mom left my brother and I when I was 13 (he was 15 1/2). She just up and left us. She said she had a mental breakdown and just couldn’t handle us anymore (we were very bad kids, raised by our abusive, alcoholic father. He just left us home alone most of the time so we were not well behaved and had zero structure when we went to live with her). My brother and I were separated because we had to go live with friends. I ended up in foster care. Long story short my brother lives in WA State and I ended up in Virginia. My Mom now lives in NY. I visited my brother 5 years ago that was the last time that I saw him. I’ve seen my Mom once when my son was born in 2009. It’s been over 10 years since we’ve all been together (since she left us). My Mom is very sick. She has pancreatitis very bad… she is 60 and we don’t believe she will live longer then 5 years. Money is tight for all of us (my Mom lives off of disability because she can’t work). My brother offered to fly her out to see him and his family. They really wanted me to come. They will not have the money to fly my Mom back over there and my Mom definitely won’t have the money to go there on her own ever. I believe this is the only oppurtunity for all 3 of us to be together again. My Mom and I have never met my brothers 2 kids and my brother has never met my son or husband. I feel like we can gain some type of closure to some things that happened by this trip and I think it’s something I need to go to. Here is the dilema. My husband is out of state for training for his job. He won’t be back until after my Mom leaves WA. My brother offered to pay half my ticket if I come but my husband said he doesn’t feel comfortable with me taking my son on his first trip a lone and that he wants to be there to experience his first big trip- it’s something he doesn’t want to miss. He’s also afraid there may be some type of drama since our family has had so many issues. My husband grew up in a very religious home and half the stuff my family did seems outrageous compared to his family so he doesn’t fully understand the situation and that it is not going to be bad at all. This is a good thing. I can go and leave my son… but my son is 5 months old and exclusively breastfed. I do NOT want to be away from him. I will not be away from him for that time (only 3 or 4 days but still). So I can not go… or leave my son with my in laws and go by myself. I feel like my husband is being selfish and I don’t agree with his reasoning. Please help on this situation…
I have to ask some questions to 5 people for a project. Please answer.
1: What are some of the reasons you choose to drink alcohol?
2: If you don’t drink what are your reasons?
3:When did you start to drink? What were some factors that caused you to start?
4: Do you think the age of purchasing alcohol is right? what are your reasons?
5: (if you have kids) What are some of the responsibilities you feel you have as a parent when your sons/daughters drink alcohol?
Stage 3 to die with alone! He was charged with domestic assault on 08-24-2007 after nearly 30 yrs of being together! I am an orphan with a sis in CA et a sis in Cedar Falls, but that f-er turned 2 of my 3 sons against me by his drunken/drugged mind that I WAS THE 1 WITH THE PX! I see 0 lite, 7 would rather be dead than to be homeless, jobless, dying, et grieving 4 our GOOD YRS, et 4 my sons! Please help me 2 find the Strength 2 keep getting up each day! His name is ‘RED’ or Dennis J. Conrad from Brandon, Iowa et was raised by a drunken, child molesting father, et a mother that did not PROTECT her babes! My man’s best friend served time 4 raping a mentally challenged female, et his other best friend turned on me as he’s “scared shitless” I’ll tell his wife Judy that he smokes pot with my man! BFD! What a puss! My man was great til he learned 2 cook meth with his friend, ‘BUD’ & that’s when the physical abuse 1st began! I cannot keep up this fight without support & he’s taken it
I need help… Here’s the story. I know it’s a little long but please read it.
My Mom left my brother and I when I was 13 (he was 15 1/2). She just up and left us. She said she had a mental breakdown and just couldn’t handle us anymore (we were very bad kids, raised by our abusive, alcoholic father. He just left us home alone most of the time so we were not well behaved and had zero structure when we went to live with her). My brother and I were separated because we had to go live with friends. I ended up in foster care. Long story short my brother lives in WA State and I ended up in Virginia. My Mom now lives in NY. I visited my brother 5 years ago that was the last time that I saw him. I’ve seen my Mom once when my son was born in 2009. It’s been over 10 years since we’ve all been together (since she left us). My Mom is very sick. She has pancreatitis very bad… she is 60 and we don’t believe she will live longer then 5 years. Money is tight for all of us (my Mom lives off of disability because she can’t work). My brother offered to fly her out to see him and his family. They really wanted me to come. They will not have the money to fly my Mom back over there and my Mom definitely won’t have the money to go there on her own ever. I believe this is the only oppurtunity for all 3 of us to be together again. My Mom and I have never met my brothers 2 kids and my brother has never met my son or husband. I feel like we can gain some type of closure to some things that happened by this trip and I think it’s something I need to go to. Here is the dilema. My husband is out of state for training for his job. He won’t be back until after my Mom leaves WA. My brother offered to pay half my ticket if I come but my husband said he doesn’t feel comfortable with me taking my son on his first trip a lone and that he wants to be there to experience his first big trip- it’s something he doesn’t want to miss. He’s also afraid there may be some type of drama since our family has had so many issues. My husband grew up in a very religious home and half the stuff my family did seems outrageous compared to his family so he doesn’t fully understand the situation and that it is not going to be bad at all. This is a good thing. I can go and leave my son… but my son is 5 months old and exclusively breastfed. I do NOT want to be away from him. I will not be away from him for that time (only 3 or 4 days but still). So I can not go… or leave my son with my in laws and go by myself. I feel like my husband is being selfish and I don’t agree with his reasoning. Please help on this situation…
