How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

I have long since gotten rid of the SOB but one year it was his birthday, we were living paycheck to paycheck & unfortunately I really had nothing to eat (other than cereal) but one of those “Pasta Roni” box dinners since I couldn’t afford to go shopping until pay day which was Friday & this was a Tuesday. Before I could EXPLAIN that I’d take him out that Friday he grabbed me by both arms & pushed me real hard against a wall & called me a beyotch.

Like I said I hope I never see him again & it wasn’t the only time but he never hit me with closed fists. It was always pillows, remote controls or he’d throw objects at me. Was this abuse. Could I have sent the SOB to jail? Damn I wish I had! I also later found he was smoking crack & before I left I threatened to tell his ex wife so he’d never see his kids again. I wish I had done that too. I also once heard him tell his 5 y/o son to “shut up b4 he broke his arm”. Doesn’t that sound like child abuse? I guess I should consider myself lucky I am OUt of that situation but I feel guilty for not doing more: like getting those kids from him but i didn’t think it was my business…or was it?

make that 2 questions & sorry for the Length

and I am sure that his father may argue this. I don’t want to keep my son from his father at all, but I am wanting to accept a job offer out of state, and if I stay in California, I don’t think it will be healthy for my son. His father is an alcoholic, and just got his 3rd DUI. He still continues to drink, and refuses to get help. He says he’s getting help, but he’s referring to his court ordered classes that he takes with the DUI school! He is still drunk some nights when I call him.

How will the court approach the alcoholism, and can I use that as a reason that I don’t want him to have full custody? I’m totally all for visitation, and have done all I can to ensure and support their relationship, but I have seriously had it with the drinking and don’t want my son around it! What can I do to ensure that he isn’t exposed to it?

We have no formal or court ordered custody agreement, only a child support judgement. I have decided that until his father gets professional help for his alcoholism, that I will not allow him to take him from where we live, back to his home. He can only come here and visit with him. If he pursues this in court, do I have a right to request he have only be allowed visitation in my son’s primary home (mine). It doesn’t necessarily have to be supervised, just away from the alcohol. Aside from his alcoholism, he and I are probably as close as people can be without being together. We both love our son very much, and care for eachother very deeply. I have no problem with him being in my home, thats not the issue, I just don’t want his son growing up around a drunk. I don’t want him to have a lifetime of dissapointments because his father can’t get his act together. He hasn’t been a threat as of yet, but who knows…it can only get worse if he doesn’t get professional help.
I have physical and pretty much legal custody of my son. His father is an alcoholic and wont to go to rehab..?
We have no formal or court ordered custody agreement, only a child support judgement. I have decided that until his father gets professional help for his alcoholism, that I will not allow him to take him from where we live, back to his home. He can only come here and visit with him. If he pursues this in court, do I have a right to request he have only be allowed visitation in my son’s primary home (mine). It doesn’t necessarily have to be supervised, just away from the alcohol. Aside from his alcoholism, he and I are probably as close as people can be without being together. We both love our son very much, and care for eachother very deeply. I have no problem with him being in my home, thats not the issue, I just don’t want his son growing up around a drunk. I don’t want him to have a lifetime of dissapointments because his father can’t