It’s two girls … and I just feel the older (woman) would get the younger (teenager) into stuff that they don’t need to be into.
BQ: Would you let your son/daughter hang out with someone that’s of legal age and can purchase alcohol/cigarettes for them?
On the way home from work tonight my father in law stopped at the store bought a beer and drank all of it while driving the six minute drive home from the store. It is not the first time this has happened. He told us it was normal and everyone does that? Do they? Are we all being too uptight to be concerned about this? He drinks alone, he hides beer all over the house, he fights with his wife about how he can drink if he wants to – its his right. It seems to us he has a problem. Plus, he is the son of two alcoholics, grandson of one and nephew of two others. My husband is worried that Dad is following in their footsteps, are we concerned for no reason?
We showed him your answers and he insists it is not a big deal. He started blaming others for his actions and then walked out and refused to listen or speak about it. He said he knows he does not have a problem. Is it denial?
Hey everyone, I’m 29w2d pregnant with #1. I used to drink (not heavily) before I became pregnant, and all I’ve seemed to crave for the past 2 days are rum & beer. I feel horrible for admitting that, but is that normal to crave stuff like that? I’m definitely not going to be drinking any at all while pregnant, my son means more than that to me. Has anyone else experienced similar cravings? Thanks!
My ex and I split up nearly 2 years ago. He had been seeing our son nearly every week and said that when he left he left me “not our son”. Well, I haven’t heard from him for the past 4 months. I’m very confused and pretty livid for my son. He asks about him and I’m not sure what to say. I tell him that his father loves him and that I know he misses him.
Some people have mentioned that he’s probably in a new relationship but I still can’t understand how that would make him want to totally cut off all communication with his child who he was actively involved with up until 4 months ago.
I wonder if it could be drugs? He was very inconsistent over the summer when he was watching him. Would show up late most days, couldn’t seem to get himself up on time and would call with every excuse in the book day in and day out. He’s 35 years old and I know he did Meth recreationally before we got together, when he was 23. But he didn’t do that when we were together.
However, in the past year he’s lost his job (was fired after working there for 8 years) due to being late all the time. Said he was denied unemployment. And he’s just hanging out with 21 year old girls and has 2 bachelors living with him now.
I’m just trying to understand how someone can so completely change. I wonder why he wouldn’t be reachable or interested in seeing his own son for so long?
How can men (or people) do this to their children? Last we talked we were amicable and all was civil.
I have seen my ex driving around town, so he’s not incarcerated. He acts like he doesn’t see me. I texted him 3 months ago. Never heard back from him. I see that he’s adding friends to his facebook page, so I know he hasn’t fallen off the planet and isn’t in jail or worse.
Hello, I never post here, but I am so angry/distant/frustrated etc that I figured maybe I need input instead of sullen time by my self. So here goes, I gave my old car (that still ran and wasn’t a bad car all and all) to my husbands long time friend and his new wife so they had a way to get around with there two year old son. I have been waiting on the title that I lost to get to me so I could make it official for them. Today my husbands friend started calling and harassing about how he needed the title and so on. After three calls I find out the reason why my husband keeps running out of the room to talk is because he found out his buddy traded the car I gave them for meth. My husband once confronted did tell me most of the story though I think some details have been left out….I guess my question is, should I feel the way I do right now? Is my reaction normal? Or is my husbands thought “well the way I look at it is that it was given away so it doesn’t matter, it was given to him” (the friend) the more normal reaction. Worse yet, the guy they gave it to got it impounded, and I am living in a different state. I just have this horror story running through my mind of police at my door or some impound bill being sent to me. Am I the only person alive that would feel used and angry about this sort of thing?
My ex and i weren’t married, but we had a child together. He is an alcoholic, and was never there for me or my son. He wasn’t even there when my son had surgery at 3 weeks old. I finally got the courage to leave him. Now after 6 months my ex wants to see him. i am going to let my son visit, but everytime i think about it I start crying. Is that normal? Should I let my son go visit? What do I do?
My ex and i weren’t married, but we had a child together. He is an alcoholic, and was never there for me or my son. He wasn’t even there when my son had surgery at 3 weeks old. I finally got the courage to leave him. Now after 6 months my ex wants to see him. i am going to let my son visit, but everytime i think about it I start crying. Is that normal? Should I let my son go visit? What do I do?
My ex and i weren’t married, but we had a child together. He is an alcoholic, and was never there for me or my son. He wasn’t even there when my son had surgery at 3 weeks old. I finally got the courage to leave him. Now after 6 months my ex wants to see him. i am going to let my son visit, but everytime i think about it I start crying. Is that normal? Should I let my son go visit? What do I do?
well my mum is an alcoholic and thank god she has not drank for 4 years,i am 24 she is 46. I have seen alot in my young age and i have not forgotten much of these so called “incedents” which i feel have scarred (as in left a scar)on me for life. Im basically saying the things i have seen are the things ADULTS SEE in pubs and clubs, DRUNK PEOPLE TALKING SH*T and being abusive. I also have had very bad experiences in my life from the random men my mum chose and bad choices she made, but its not her faullt because 24 years ago she knew nothing about alcoholism and with so she did not know what one of her binge drinking sessions” which meant she was drunk for litterally a whole week without sobering and keeping a bottle of wine on her bedside locker for when she eventually woke..and all of this was going on from the time i was about 6 months old until 4 years ago when i had my 1st son. As i said she is off it 4 years now. But the trauma of what happened to me will never leave me because her boyfriend that moved in with us when i was 12 sexually abused me. and i can never forget that, i scream inside myself every day and i feel like no counciler can help, they just listen and talk shit. I am now a mum of a 4 and 2 year old and going out with my now fiance 7 years and i am so uncomfortable having sex, sometimes its ok and most of the time i feel dirty, i cant shake this feeling even though my partner loves and respects me i hate the way i feel sexually. Is there any cure or am i just a statistic! i feel like my life is plumiting out of control because i can not controll my feelings, wen im up im up but when im down im DOWN
Okay, a little more depth about this question- I feel like I am like way different then everyone else because well I look at things differently then anyone else. My logic seems to make sense to me and only me and no one else can understand what and how I come to my conclusions. Honestly, I have found absolutely no one who can relate to me. More over, I look at death as a not bad thing-to me, death doesn’t matter. Even if it is a loved one who you care about greatly and just you say “Oh my god, I couldn’t live without you.” or something like that like I just don’t seem to have that same view on life. Everyone is so careful about everything and doesn’t wanna take chances but then they are also hypocritical because they say also that life is short so live it. And I look at rules, laws, restrictions, everything that is around me, and I think it is the dumbest thing, but no one else seems to understand my logic behind these realizations. For instance, drinking age in america. I am 15 years old. I don’t really like to drink, and I don’t like the taste of alcohol but I think that it is ridiculous that the drinking age in america is 21 years old. This is the reason why most of the teens in america die from alcohol related deaths. They aren’t allowed to drink in public, so they stock up, and binge drink and get really f**ked up. This to me is like retarded because if the drinking age was 15 like it is in france then there wouldn’t be this problem of binge drinking with teens. Does anyone else understand that? So far, everyone that i have talked to about it is like “You’re really stupid Dane” (that’s my name…) and so yea. My parents rules are so terrible and I just cant stand them. My mom is SO safe and doesn’t let me do anything. I mean, seriously. I know it is the parents jobs to protect your child, but this is just ridiculous what she does. I cant even get started on that cause I’ll just keep blabbering on about how much I hate it. I, myself, am a outgoing, not thinking teenager. I do the stuff I do, then think about it later. I almost never back out of anything unless it means certain death and I can see it that way. Like jumping onto a bottle of dry ice of extreme pressure. I was dared to do that but I backed out because the danger issue of that is huge. But other things like jumping off of a 15 foot cliff on my old school hard tail mountain bike I do not deny because it looks and sounds fun to me. I of course got hurt on that one but I didn’t care. I did it anyways and didn’t think about it. Even though I am like this, I am still very responsible. I don’t drink, I don’t do drugs, I am like the purest teen there can be now days without being nerdy (sorry if that offends anyone). Haha anyways, seems like I got a little carried away here. Well if anyone reads all the way through this, be sure to answer the question if this is a normal thing or not normal and if I am a bad person for thinking the way like I do…? And if my morals are straight… I’ve been told I’m like the devil’s son the way I think about how death is not a bad thing and how reckless I am and how I don’t think about things. Anyways thank you so much for answering, if you answer. Haha that is all. xoxo
My son swears he is not doing drugs and he gets soooo frustrated with me. I do know he drinks.
