How Do I Get My Son Off Drugs?

Hi there. I really need some help here. My sister found out not super long ago that her fiance was cheating on her with other women and leading a double life behind her back. Drugs and alcohol factor into this. Basically, the fiance would rather put getting high or drunk and sleeping around before my sister and the two kids they had out of wedlock. The fiance has since moved out of the home and is living on his own.

My big concern is my sister’s oldest child that she had with this guy, a 6 (almost 7) year old son. Since this whole thing went down, poor Dawson has been showing signs of anger and resentment towards his father. Do I blame him? No, and the reason why is because I can relate to what Dawson is going through (when I was Dawson’s age, my father abandoned me in favor of cocaine). Still, it bothers me to see my little nephew so unhappy, and I’d hate to see him grow up as bitter and resentful towards his father as I am towards mine. Is there anything I can do to help Dawson?
I really want to help Dawson cope with this, but I don’t know how without projecting my feelings of resentment, anger and disappointment towards my own father onto my sister’s ex. What can I do to help my nephew?

please tell me what site to find the proper info on letting toddlers take even little sips of alcohol. is dangerous. I know that I’ve read that it can cause big problems. He’s the biggest A-hole on the planet and he won’t listen to me. I need proof.

My sister and her husband just had to remove their 18 year old son from their home due to his extreme anger and threatening violence to them, especially to his mother and her pets. He has dialated pupils often, flares out with inexplicable anger/rage, and they just found something called a “crusher” in his truck. Does anyone know what a “crusher” is used for? Does this sound like meth or crack or something else?

My pregnant girlfriend is a recovering meth addict that is doing very well with her recovery.Every single adult in her immediate family are meth addicts. We don’t like the thought of snitching but we tried everything else. We allowed her 19 yr old nephew and mother to move in because they were homeless under the terms that no drugs would be brought into our home.Despite our efforts we continuosly caught her nephew smoking ice in the basement and in the bathroom. He was meeting people down the street to buy and sell drugs. I tried talking to him about it but when that didn’t work I slapped him a few times and put him out for the night. We would’ve just kicked him out for good but his disabled grandmother who was staying clean would have left too and became homeless and strung out again if we did so.I was worried at work and scared in my own home cuz I never knew what was in it. I didn’t know what else to. We decided that turning him in would save his life. Are we wrong?

He lost his cusines to foster care , his drug addict mom came back into his life and then in feburary of 07 his dad (who is biologicaly his grandfather) died. I know he is not a bad kid. The life he has had would be hard for an adult to cope with . he is doing what he feels he has to to survive. I need to know how to help him .there is alot more to his story i could right a novel . but any suggestions would help and please dont condem him . thats part of the reason he is where he is now .
he was not born to be bad
my parents adopted him from my sister they have had him since birth his real dad wants nothing to do with him

My new found sister is supposedly a recovering drug addict. She has numerous boyfriends and is not as responsible as she can be. She has moved from her previous city to where I am to be close to the only family she has. (we both share the same dad and her mother passed away 5 years ago)She has been here only 3 and half weeks and already has had to move into 2 homes. My husband and I are at our wits end. I would like to find something to have her sign if she becomes unable to care for the 3 children she has. Her 2 year old is suffering from severe hair loss.I donot wish to do anything legal until I can tak custody of the children. If anyone can help.I would greatly appreciate it. Thank You,
Cathie

My 15 year old nephew grew up in South Central Los Angeles with his Grandmother. He met his father & aunts last year. He’s been in & out of trouble & schools. A few months ago, he lost his dad’s (my brother-in-law) i-Pod, and was accused of being a “drug addict,” kicked out of his dad’s house, and told never to return (just because of an i-Pod!!). My wife (his blood-related aunt) & I brought him home with us Easter Day 2008. Now, he’s excited about doing distance schooling and working from home. He’s anxious to prove himself to us. We know all the potential he has to succeed, and all the love and respect he shows us. He’s a great kid that’s just had some really bad, big-city-luck.

My questions:

Now that we have him, how do I LEGALLY enroll him in school? How do I take him to the optometrist to get glasses? How do I take him to a doctor’s office to get a really good check-up? and on WHO’S insurance? His dad’s? or his grandmother (right now SHE has legal custody

We Are Running Out OF Time
Please Hear US!
My niece 10yrs & nephew 12yrs were taken from their crack addicted mother and their father who is not addicted to anything; the court claims the father neglected to keep the children safe; although their mother didn’t use drugs in front of them; she was actually never at the residence; she would disappear for days; then return home and sleep all day; their father would provide for the children every need; however Georgia DFCS said they were being deprived and took both my niece and nephew into state custody. My sister has all but given up on getting her children back; she’s refused to go into treatment; their father was instructed to take residence elsewhere. DFCS didn’t contact us (the immediate family) during their investigation nor did they contact us after the children were taken into custody. After being notified by my the father; myself and another sister submitted to a back ground check, finger printing & drug screening with hope that DFCS would consider placing the children with us. We passed the test; however, we were told that the father had first choice; however, there is a process that he would have to go through before he could get the children out of foster care; things such as moving out; he did that; he moved in with his brother; after he complied to their request; he was later told he had to attend parenting classes that were assigned to him by DFCS ; all of which could take months; possibly years.
The father is 69 yrs old; he suffered from 3 minor strokes in the past; however, he recovered; he’s in good shape. But with stress of dealing with his children being in foster care could possibly bring on another stroke. I believe he remained healthy and strong for his children and now that they are gone; I don’t know what would happen; I’m afraid his health will deterate ; he cries every time I talk with him; he’s worried and he’s under an extreme amount of stress and pressure. He’s willing to do what ever it takes to bring his children home and he’s fully capable of taking care of his children. But if we continue to wait any longer, I’m afraid we may have to deliver yet some more bad news to his children/my niece and nephew. It’s enough to know that their mother is gone; it would be horrible to loose their father.
We, the immediate family and the father has requested that DFCS place the children with us; As stated above DFCS told us that we will have to wait….Why can’t my niece and nephew be placed in our home (Aunt) instead of foster care until their father comply with DFCS request? We won’t the children home with us; they need their father and their father needs them, they need to be in an environment they are familiar with; and family members they have known since birth.
Someone please help us immediately….Jessica & Jamal would like to come home. Jessica is a straight “A” honor student and I feel the longer she’s away from home the more it will effect her in a negative way. Jessica is actually counting the days; the last time we spoke she told us she had 26 days before she can come home; she’s holding on. I can tell in her voice that she’s holding on; she’s trying her best to be strong…I can also hear in her voice that she’s cracking. her brother Jamal is a very polite boy…he loves his X-Box and Play Station games; he’s funny and out going; DFCS recently told us that he may be placed on medication…we requested that they get a second opinion; we begged that they get a second opinion; but the longer he’s in DFCS the more time DFCS will have to do what they feel is best. January 23, 2009; Jessica called her father from school crying; Jamal has started to act out in school. These children need help ASAP! Someone please help us…I’m begging for help….I’m usually on the computer day and night search for someone to give us some advice. We need you right now. These children were not in immediate harm; they have a addicted mother; that’s the only crime, and the children and their father paying the price.
We are not looking for money; we need advice, we need to be heard !
I’m begging that someone out there hear me before it’s to late. To late for Jessica; Jamal and their father. Someone please help us; PLEASE……Don’t let this story be another DFCS error/horror story TITLED: THE JESSICA & JAMAL DFCS HORROR
PLEASE WE NEED THE COMMUNITY HELP!
WE NEED TO BE SERIOUSLY HEARD.

Aunt
Merissa Young; Arenda Young & D’Quilla Young & Mr. Charles Lackey
youngmerissa@yahoo.com; arenday@bellsouth.com

My brother is a drug addict so his wife divorced him and took her newborn son with her. My brother signed over his rights and she had someone else adopt him, and in the process cut the rest of my family including me out. I was really close with her, but even closer with my nephew. I really bonded with him, since I was her labor coach, one of the first one’s to hold the baby, and she lived with me with her son for 2 weeks after he got out of NICU. Anyways watching the birth, going through all that, I just got so attached to him, plus I had a miscarriage the day before he was born, and I was numb to it for a few days I think because I tried to focus on him, but now I am grieving two losses. I am starting fertility treatments soon, not because of my nephew I have always wanted a family, but secretly I’m hoping it will help me to eventually…get busy with my own child and kind of forget about the pain of losing my nephew a little. Do you think it will help?

I have had custody of my 5 year old nephew for the last 2 years. I had to fight in court for a long time to get that. MY sister (step) who is a complete drug addict keeps threating to take me to court and take him away from me. It has been almost a year since she has even seen him. Although I doubt she will ever clean up enough to get him it scares me to think she “could” one day just take him away because she is the biological mother. Is there a way that I can adopt and her lose all rights to him?

My now ex sister in law has cut my whole family out of her and her sons life (he is 1). i haven’t seen him since he was 1 month old. My brother is a drug addict, I supported her divorcing him, but she ended up deciding she cannot “fully” cut my brother out of her life and move on unless she cuts us all out. My brother happily signed over his parental rights. I always had hope she would talk to me again and I’d see my nephew again, but I found out today that she is getting married and that her fiance actually adopted my nephew right after my brother gave up his rights. Now it’s pretty much sunk in there is no reason she would ever talk to me again. I was really attached to her and especially to my nephew, because I was her labor coach I was there when the baby was born and was one of the first people to hold him, and we just were extremely close during her whole pregnancy and after. I also had a miscarriage right around when my nephew was born, and I think that made me more emotional too. I just am having a hard time dealing with this. I’ve tried to contact her many times over the past year and she just ignores me. How can I move on?
while i appreciate the sympathy, some advice on how to move on would be nice. i already blame my brother plenty, but that doesn’t help me move on.

My brother is an alcoholic and drug addict. He is NOT a suitable guardian for his son (my nephew), and told me he would be happy for me to take the boy off his hands.

My nephew is now four, and I want to become his guardian. But I have no money at all for any legal fees or anything like that. Is there any way I can become his guardian without getting the courts involved? I’m afraid that if I don’t go through the proper channels I’ll run into difficulty later with schools and stuff like that.

I know that if my nephew carries on living with his father he will have a terrible life. His father neglects him and really has no interest in his welfare. I really want to help, but I do know how to go about it.

Please help. Thank you very much.
I live in Vermont and my brother lives in New York. Also the mother is not in the picture, she ran away just after my nephew was born. Thanks.

My nephew who is only a few months old makes me rethink my sober life (I’m 19). When ever I see him or my sister and brother in law I want to not drink or use drugs. I only use at night. But whenever I see them I always think of getting messed up that night. Like today, I’m really drunk but I’m also constantly thinking about earlier today when I wasn’t and they were talking to me about being sober. Just the thought of what my brother in law has gone through (he lost an older brother to drugs, his younger brother is addicted and his mom is also addicted) has made me want to not drink or use drugs. But I have been since an earily age. Why is this situation making
me want to be sober at all times? I know I only get fucked up at night but hearing his own struggles with alcohol and his familes has made me feel bad when I get drunk or fucked up..what would do this? Seeing my nephew makes me want a kid…even after seeing the bullshit he does to them. I would think it would keep me away from wanting kids…why do I want it more?

the mother is a drug addict i have no kids but have been trying to get him and his sis for years. my nephew is not only physical but verbal w/ us. I want to help but do not know what to do. Do not get me wrong I love everything that I have I just want more for this child some advice would help. thank you

March 12th was the 5th Year my dad has been gone.
He passed away because of his 15+ years of drug usage, along with a few other things…

So For this Anniversary, we had a family dinner with all the kids and grand kids, but my sister and her son couldn’t make it..
So After the nice evening My mom and i decided to go out to her house to make sure everything was okay. Where she proceeded to tell us her son, who is 20 is now addicted to drugs and she couldn’t come because he was all F*ucked up and stood her up.

So Long story short we’ve spent the last weak looking for him, he hasn’t come home, we’ve checked all his hangouts and Still can’t seem to catch up with him.. + He is now dating a 33yr old drug addict who is married.

Anyways, he has been my best friend and even though we haven’t always gotten to be together we are tight and i love him very much.. Im so worried.

Any Advice would help on how to find him and help him get back on track, off the streets and off the drugs?!

Or is this out of my hands?

I need help trying to figure out how to go for Custody of my 19 month old nephew. My brother is the baby’s father but my brother and the baby’s mom aren’t together. The baby lives with his mother, his grandmother and great grandparent’s. We feel as if tho the mother and other grandmother are neglecting the baby. The baby’s mother is 16 years old and my brother is 18.

- The baby constantly comes over here and clothes that are too small when he does have clothes that fit (His clothes are 0-3 months, 0-6 months and newborn when he is 19 months old)

- The baby’s mother’s mother is a drug addict and even lost a baby from doing heroine and crack while she was pregnant

- The baby’s mother’s mom lost all her kid’s (She has 5 that are living, she lost four of them and doesn’t legally have custody of the baby’s mom)

- The baby’s grandmother almost had my nephew taken from her when she was pulled over for driving and doing drugs with him in the car

- The baby has cuts and bruises everytime he comes over our house

- The baby’s mom constantly tells my mom she doesn’t want to be a mother and she can have the baby

- The baby has come over covered in fleas

- When the baby was 3 months old he had a playstation 2 fall on his head and his mom didn’t tell my mom right away because she didn’t want my mom thinking she was a bad mom so the baby ended up not going to the hospital until a few hours after it happened

- They falsely accused my family of Child neglect and lied and told us that they were told we couldn’t see him until child serives said it was okay and the lady from child services who was our case worker told us she never said that

- They once lied about the baby having surgery just to get us to watch him

My mom is worried about going for custody because the babys grandmother threatened her before saying if she tried going for custody that she would make sure she dragged it out and we wouldn’t see the baby for two years. How can I go about going for custody and making sure it doesn’t take long for us to get the baby? We thought about going for custody and asking if the baby could stay with us until the custody battle was finished, how does that work and how do they decide where the baby stays while we are trying to get custody? We are worried they are going to lie again after they find out we want custody and try to say we can’t see him.

He is my nephew and he lives with me. I take care of him and make sure that he has everything that he needs and wants. My brother is a drug addict and he does not take care of any of his kids. My nephew was adopted by my brother and his ex wife and neither of them seem to care about him. I have been taking care of him all his life. I want to adopt him and he does not want to ever leave me because for once in his life he has a stable home. He is only five years old and has been through more than any child should have to go through.

5 years ago, my sister’s son was taken from her after a very bad drug binge. I was granted custody of him, which was a dream come true seeing as I had a hysterectomy when I was 22 and, was never able to have the family I dreamed of, especially after my husband left me when I could not have children. My sister has been and, in my eyes will always be an addict.

Although, I have remained estranged from her for the last 5 years she has begun to try and wedge her way back into our lives, citing that she has cleaned herself up. I know it’s all lies, all the lying and stealing she did to me proves she never really cared for me or her son. I gave her numerous chances and, she blew them all.

Now she is trying to regain custody of her former son and, I don’t want her to. He is my son now and, my miracle. I would rather drive the heroin needle into her arm myself then hand my 6 year old back over to her. I’ve begun the process to legally adopt him, in order to stop her but, is she a serious contender to get custody back?? I’m worried, I want her to have no part in our lives.

My nephew has suffered alot. My brother left him when he was 5 years old. My brother wants nothing to do with any of his kids but that is another story…anyways his mother is an alcoholic and drug addict and has neglected him ( no food, has left him at school til 6pm) you get the point…well he is now staying with me and my daughter, but i have noticed he lies alot, pretends to not know things, and is very manipulative. What should I do!!

I know that sounds stange.. but my nephew who is 3 monthes old is in the custody of his grandma.. ( me and my sister have different dads) my sister is horrible addicted to drugs, and just got sentenced to 5 years in prison.. they gave custody to her grandma.. i know she loves this child and all but she raised my other nephew who is the worst behave child i have ever met.. she is not able to take care of these children properly. shes over 300 pounds and in a wheel chair.. she doesnt have any money.. and the house is infested with so many cats, and 3 huge dogs.. it smells so bad of cat pee in there it makes me sick.. i am in no posistion myself to take care of a child.. im only 19 and struggle everyday to pay my bills.. but why would the state give her custody.. she cant take care of these children… she calls me and asks me to bring diapers because he doesnt have any.. i dont have any money either.. .but i somehow manage to get the money to get the diapers.. and when i get there.. the baby literally has NO diapers left but the one he has on… somone would love to adopt a baby and take care of it.. but I cant just make the state take the baby away… i dont know what to do…
cupidgirl- shes not my grandma.