My mom is wasted. She is upsetting me and I really am not sure what to do.. When she was with my dad, she was uptight, very christian like, and a perfectionist.. when I was 18, the same month I graduated High School they split up… they both moved away…. she took my sister with her, right before I had my son, she returned… Atfirst I knew she changed, and I thought it was VERY good at first I thought it was for the better.. She was a bit more relaxed, still acted like a Sincere Christian although I noticed she actualy drank alcohol.. which was fine.. NOW… I get home from work and she is WASTED, tonight she is BEYOND wasted.. talking in weird voices and just sprawled out on the couch.. my son (5 years old) thinks its funny, but she is making comments to him which I think are Unappropriate, although he doesn’t seem to understand them.. He doesn’t have school tommorow, and instead of bringing him to his DAD Mom and Dad (they always watch him when he is off) I thought she might enjoy a day with him… NOW she is telling him ” Why do I have to watch you tommorow” ” I don’t know if I want you to stay home tommorow with me” She is playing guilt trips on him and acting like she is crying saying.. ” You don’t like me” making him start to cry and beg her for approval.. HELLO.. an I the ONLY PERSON that thinks this is wrong??? I told him to leave her alone.. and I told her to stop.. NOW.. she Upset my son.. he doesn’t understand whats going on.. She is yelling at me calling me stupid cause I told him to leave her alone, I finally got her in her room and I locked her door.. I don’t need this stress.. now he is in his room in a time out for calling me stupid.. and I feel bad for punishing him…?? ** Adding on.. I am not a uptight Christian type, I am relaxed, I enjoy my alcohol.. but getting wasted I feel if anything is for the bar scene or hanging with your friends.. Not Alone.. on a weekly basis..
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My son is very lonely, no friends, leaves apart, no drugs, no alcohol. He can’t hold a job for more than 3 months I don’t know why. He always broke I have help him sometimes with rent but I can’t do this any more. I want to stop but I’m so scared that he loose his place I’m always worried about him. What to do? let him alone to be responsible no mattjer wjat? He dosn’t tell
me what’s going on. is like he try to do the right things and then sometnings happen.I want my some happy.
Heres the deal in a nut shell. Last december son in law was arrested on AG. Domestic battery against my daughter and grandchildren. And last month arrested for manf/del/ of cocaine He later informed us that he wants no interest to the home/property. There is a no contact order still in effect, he now serving 5 + years in Ill.D.O.C. My daughetr needs help in removeing this person from all aspects to the home. , in Illinois you have to have both parties sign to list home on market. How can this be done, he is a drug user and a complete #^!@#. My daughter has rights along with my grandchildren, why would he still get half , both are on the title. We need an attorney who will help us as my child and grandchildren have been through the mud and they are suffering from the efficts still to today. ANY ONE , HELP US .
A study started in April with a man who for most part of his life has suffered as an alcoholic – when i first called on him he had been dry for 4 weeks & decided that instead of slamming the door in our faces (something he usually did) he thought he’d ask some questions a great discussion ensued & after a few rv’s a study was started. We were racing through the bible teach book with him asking loads about different things along the way. He attended meetings almost immediately too. He stopped his study in August due to pressure from his girlfriend – anyway, i kept in touch (as i knew he didn’t have alot of moral support with his alcoholism from friends or family) in November he turned up at the hall again just out of the blue decided his girlfriend was holding him back from drawing closer to Jehovah. We never saw him much in Dec, he had his sons b’day & Xmas etc., but i saw him today – in a complete mess – his son has been taken from him, he tried to kill himself not sure what to do?
He is completely heart broken – i am not sure exactly what has happened – i did not want to pry as i could clearly see that he was distraught with what’s happened – yes he has slipped up and i know that when he was sober he was a very kind and loving father to his son and that he was a good worker in his job and someone with great potential. My husband and I are going to call and see him on Saturday but i feel that i should pop over and see him sooner – tomorrow even? Was going to make him some soup so that he has something to eat? What else do you suggest i can do to help this man. He is so completely broken -he did say he was going to attend an AA meeting tonight but he has no transport should i have taken him? I really am at a loss.
Tootie – please have some sense – i don’t care if this man doesn’t want to be a Jehovah’s Witness – i just want to make sure he is not successful in trying to kill himself again – he has lost all that was important to him – clearly you have no idea – go and read a bedtime story!
If anyone else wants to be clever – he chose his girlfriend over his study because his girlfriend felt threatened by me – which was stupid because i am married and at the time i was studying with him was heavily pregnant with my third baby!!! – he was not emotionally strong enough to do both things that he wanted to do – i.e., continue seeing his girlfriend and continue learning about the bible truth!!!
Thanks debbie – i was going to give one of the elders a call who actually gave him a job when i first started the study with him.
my husband is a JW and he text him a few mins ago and he told us he managed his AA mtg which is great – an elder who is close to him too is going to go and see him tomorrow so that is good also. thanks to my fellow JW who have answered thus far.
A study started in April with a man who for most part of his life has suffered as an alcoholic – when i first called on him he had been dry for 4 weeks & decided that instead of slamming the door in our faces (something he usually did) he thought he’d ask some questions a great discussion ensued & after a few rv’s a study was started. We were racing through the bible teach book with him asking loads about different things along the way. He attended meetings almost immediately too. He stopped his study in August due to pressure from his girlfriend – anyway, i kept in touch (as i knew he didn’t have alot of moral support with his alcoholism from friends or family) in November he turned up at the hall again just out of the blue decided his girlfriend was holding him back from drawing closer to Jehovah. We never saw him much in Dec, he had his sons b’day & Xmas etc., but i saw him today – in a complete mess – his son has been taken from him, he tried to kill himself not sure what to do?
He is completely heart broken – i am not sure exactly what has happened – i did not want to pry as i could clearly see that he was distraught with what’s happened – yes he has slipped up and i know that when he was sober he was a very kind and loving father to his son and that he was a good worker in his job and someone with great potential. My husband and I are going to call and see him on Saturday but i feel that i should pop over and see him sooner – tomorrow even? Was going to make him some soup so that he has something to eat? What else do you suggest i can do to help this man. He is so completely broken -he did say he was going to attend an AA meeting tonight but he has no transport should i have taken him? I really am at a loss.
Tootie – please have some sense – i don’t care if this man doesn’t want to be a Jehovah’s Witness – i just want to make sure he is not successful in trying to kill himself again – he has lost all that was important to him – clearly you have no idea – go and read a bedtime story!
If anyone else wants to be clever – he chose his girlfriend over his study because his girlfriend felt threatened by me – which was stupid because i am married and at the time i was studying with him was heavily pregnant with my third baby!!! – he was not emotionally strong enough to do both things that he wanted to do – i.e., continue seeing his girlfriend and continue learning about the bible truth!!!
Thanks debbie – i was going to give one of the elders a call who actually gave him a job when i first started the study with him.
my husband is a JW and he text him a few mins ago and he told us he managed his AA mtg which is great – an elder who is close to him too is going to go and see him tomorrow so that is good also. thanks to my fellow JW who have answered thus far.
A study started in April with a man who for most part of his life has suffered as an alcoholic – when i first called on him he had been dry for 4 weeks & decided that instead of slamming the door in our faces (something he usually did) he thought he’d ask some questions a great discussion ensued & after a few rv’s a study was started. We were racing through the bible teach book with him asking loads about different things along the way. He attended meetings almost immediately too. He stopped his study in August due to pressure from his girlfriend – anyway, i kept in touch (as i knew he didn’t have alot of moral support with his alcoholism from friends or family) in November he turned up at the hall again just out of the blue decided his girlfriend was holding him back from drawing closer to Jehovah. We never saw him much in Dec, he had his sons b’day & Xmas etc., but i saw him today – in a complete mess – his son has been taken from him, he tried to kill himself not sure what to do?
He is completely heart broken – i am not sure exactly what has happened – i did not want to pry as i could clearly see that he was distraught with what’s happened – yes he has slipped up and i know that when he was sober he was a very kind and loving father to his son and that he was a good worker in his job and someone with great potential. My husband and I are going to call and see him on Saturday but i feel that i should pop over and see him sooner – tomorrow even? Was going to make him some soup so that he has something to eat? What else do you suggest i can do to help this man. He is so completely broken -he did say he was going to attend an AA meeting tonight but he has no transport should i have taken him? I really am at a loss.
Tootie – please have some sense – i don’t care if this man doesn’t want to be a Jehovah’s Witness – i just want to make sure he is not successful in trying to kill himself again – he has lost all that was important to him – clearly you have no idea – go and read a bedtime story!
If anyone else wants to be clever – he chose his girlfriend over his study because his girlfriend felt threatened by me – which was stupid because i am married and at the time i was studying with him was heavily pregnant with my third baby!!! – he was not emotionally strong enough to do both things that he wanted to do – i.e., continue seeing his girlfriend and continue learning about the bible truth!!!
Thanks debbie – i was going to give one of the elders a call who actually gave him a job when i first started the study with him.
my husband is a JW and he text him a few mins ago and he told us he managed his AA mtg which is great – an elder who is close to him too is going to go and see him tomorrow so that is good also. thanks to my fellow JW who have answered thus far.
A study started in April with a man who for most part of his life has suffered as an alcoholic – when i first called on him he had been dry for 4 weeks & decided that instead of slamming the door in our faces (something he usually did) he thought he’d ask some questions a great discussion ensued & after a few rv’s a study was started. We were racing through the bible teach book with him asking loads about different things along the way. He attended meetings almost immediately too. He stopped his study in August due to pressure from his girlfriend – anyway, i kept in touch (as i knew he didn’t have alot of moral support with his alcoholism from friends or family) in November he turned up at the hall again just out of the blue decided his girlfriend was holding him back from drawing closer to Jehovah. We never saw him much in Dec, he had his sons b’day & Xmas etc., but i saw him today – in a complete mess – his son has been taken from him, he tried to kill himself not sure what to do?
He is completely heart broken – i am not sure exactly what has happened – i did not want to pry as i could clearly see that he was distraught with what’s happened – yes he has slipped up and i know that when he was sober he was a very kind and loving father to his son and that he was a good worker in his job and someone with great potential. My husband and I are going to call and see him on Saturday but i feel that i should pop over and see him sooner – tomorrow even? Was going to make him some soup so that he has something to eat? What else do you suggest i can do to help this man. He is so completely broken -he did say he was going to attend an AA meeting tonight but he has no transport should i have taken him? I really am at a loss.
Tootie – please have some sense – i don’t care if this man doesn’t want to be a Jehovah’s Witness – i just want to make sure he is not successful in trying to kill himself again – he has lost all that was important to him – clearly you have no idea – go and read a bedtime story!
If anyone else wants to be clever – he chose his girlfriend over his study because his girlfriend felt threatened by me – which was stupid because i am married and at the time i was studying with him was heavily pregnant with my third baby!!! – he was not emotionally strong enough to do both things that he wanted to do – i.e., continue seeing his girlfriend and continue learning about the bible truth!!!
Thanks debbie – i was going to give one of the elders a call who actually gave him a job when i first started the study with him.
my husband is a JW and he text him a few mins ago and he told us he managed his AA mtg which is great – an elder who is close to him too is going to go and see him tomorrow so that is good also. thanks to my fellow JW who have answered thus far.
If:
The father’s been an alcoholic for all his life and is having liver failure b/c of it?
The father says that he doesn’t wan to risk his sons life for his own mistakes, he’d rather “check out” then risking his son. However, the son WANTS to donate a portion of his liver so that father may survive….to either continue drinking again or maybe, perhaps, change his life around.
The liver would grow back in 6 – 8 weeks anyway, right?
This is a VERY difficult decision. What should be done?
The son loves the father too much to let him die and WANTS to do this, but the father won’t. So difficult 
Son is 21 y/o
Father is 47 y/o
My husband has a child from a previous relationship. His son’s mother and him were never married. The mother of the child has a HORRIBLE crystal meth addiction. The mother got a charge for burglary but then dropped dirty to crystal meth 3 times at a probation meeting a was sentenced to prision. The child lived with us while she was in prision. My husband was in the middle of getting custody and had already filed for child support when she got out of prision and took him out of our babysitters house while we were at work? She has now filed for child support against him and he is paying her 450 a month child support. She takes that money and buys meth and then 2 days after she gets her child support she calls asking him to buy diapers. The child has a burn on his leg as a result of a meth pipe. She will not let my my husband see him at all unless she is present. Everytime we see his son he has not had a bath in days. We have called the abuse hotline twice. How do we get custody of him?
I live in Kansas City MIssouri, The day the women got out of prision she called the police and said that her child was in that home and wasn’t supposed to be. The police took his son out of that home and gave him to her. When my husband got off work he called the police and they told him that they don’t interfere with child custody cases. So we called internal affairs with the police department and got the 2 police officers suspended from the force. This women walked out on my husband when she was 2 months pregnant and said she was getting an abortion then called my husband when their son was 2 months old to inform him he had a son. She smoked crystal meth until she was 8 months pregnant and was even in rehab for it while she was pregnant. as soon as she had their son she was right back at it. She is so out there on meth that she thinks her teeth are meth and smokes them. My husband and I have never done drugs. We live in a safe and VERY clean home. She lives at home with her mom.
She is 26 with 4 kids and the oldest being 12. She stays at her mom’s house with all four of her kids. Her house is so dirty and disgusting we have turned it in because their is black mold in the house. The whole reason that she is angry and not letting my husband see their son on his own is because when she was in prison we took him to live with us and she expected us to let him stay there with her mom. And only come see him every weekend. That’s not going to happen. Any parent that cares about their kid wouldn’t let them live in that kind of enviroment. Like I said before We live in a very clean stable home. My husband has never had a criminal record. He has only had one speeding ticket. I need help with this situation it is so confusing. I could keep going on with all the things this mother does but it would take days
And to add one thing she does not and WILL not work. She collects welfare which makes me really upset because my husband and I have to work to support our children but she don’t. My husband and I have a son together and I have a litlle girl from a previous relationship. She uses my tax dollors and the child support to buy drugs and then turns right around and says he needs something. She always has her hair and nails done and dresses fairly nice but their son and all her other kids haven’t had a bath. She has name brand clothes while her kids wear shoes from walmart. As a parent don’t you put your children first?
My son is active duty Army with 9 years service. He is divorcing his wife, due to her drug addiction and child neglect. She failed a court-ordered drug test 2 weeks ago by showing positve for cocaine, and there have been 2 complaints of child neglect made to Texas’s Children’s Protective Services. CPS is planning to take the children away from her and put them in foster care. How can he get a discharge so that he can care for his children, instead of them going into the foster care system. One child is special-needs infant with neurological issuse requiring visits to pedicatric neurologist. I am the grandmother but can’t care for them, due to my age and my medical issues (heart and circulatory problems)
My son is active duty Army with 9 years service. He is divorcing his wife, due to her drug addiction and child neglect. She failed a court-ordered drug test 2 weeks ago by showing positve for cocaine, and there have been 2 complaints of child neglect made to Texas’s Children’s Protective Services. CPS is planning to take the children away from her and put them in foster care. How can he get a discharge so that he can care for his children, instead of them going into the foster care system. One child is special-needs infant with neurological issuse requiring visits to pedicatric neurologist. I am the grandmother but can’t care for them, due to my age and my medical issues (heart and circulatory problems)
My son is active duty Army with 9 years service. He is divorcing his wife of 8 yrs, due to her drug addiction and child neglect. She failed a court-ordered drug test 2 weeks ago by showing positve for cocaine, and there have been 2 complaints of child neglect made to Texas’s Children’s Protective Services. CPS is planning to take the children away from her and put them in foster care. How can he get a discharge so that he can care for his children, instead of them going into the foster care system. One child is special-needs infant with neurological issues requiring visits to pediatric neurologist. I am the grandmother but can’t care for them, due to my age and my medical issues (heart and circulatory problems)
Ok, I’m in a tight spot and I need to get some thing off my chest. Any input is greatly appreciated. Well here it goes. I am 31 years old. My wife is 45 years old. She has a history of substance abuse. She used to shoot heroin and smoke cannibals on the streets 24/7 when she was my age.
To make a long story short, I took her from a small city and moved her up to my home town. She still continued to use drugs, but not as much. She has ran up all my credit cards without my consent to get money for drugs. She goes on binges, then stops for 10 months or so, before repeating.
We have a 7 year old son. He is autistic, but doing very well in school. The problem is my wife is very verbally abusive to him and me all the time. She has to be in control all the time. She can be sweet when everything is going her way, but when it is not, or I stand up to her, she goes ballistic. This includes physically attacking me, scratching me, throwing things at me, and punching me when I’m not looking.
Yet she is the one that always claims she is the victim. I have been with her for 10 years and I’m at my wits end, but she is a VERY vindictive, ruthless woman, and I am afraid to leave her. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I am literally afraid of her.
I have to hide in my room and do everything in secret. She can talk to whom ever she wants, but I can’t have any friends without her going into a jealous rage, and even threatening any friends I have had over the years.
My concern of leaving is my son. I do not know what will happen to him if I leave. I have to type really quiet or she’ll kick in my door to see who I am typing too. That’s how controlling she is. I feel like a prisoner.
There is a lot more but I am going to end this post now. I’m at a loss of what to do. I feel like my life is slipping past me and I am stuck in a miserable situation with no way out that wont hurt everyone drastically.
I’m literally considering waking my son up one night in the coming week and flying out to relatives in California just to get some down-time. As much as I’m depressed with it all, I really don’t want to get the police involved but there is a gun in the house.
In the past I shot rifles on a Thursday afternoon as a hobby with two friends. I have a license and all but I don’t know where it is. About three months ago I came home and the inventory room where I’ve kept it for several years was moved around. The rifle is gone and whether it’s in the house or not at this stage, I’m unsure but I haven’t mentioned it to her.
I better end this now. Any advice is much appreciated, thank you in advance for the replies. I’m sorry if this is not the right section.
Desperate Dan.
I asked this question a couple of days ago but it has been deleted. I live in a building that has 2 apartments in it. I live on the bottom floor and have been here for 3 years. A couple has moved upstairs about 10 months ago and they smoke. I have no problem that they smoke in their own house but the smoke comes in my house. I really dont like smelling cigarettes at 5:30 in the morning and all day long. I am more concerned about my 2 young boys smelling the second hand smoke. The other morning my son was getting ready for school and started to cry. I asked him what was wrong, he said mommy I smell smoke and I dont like it. My heart dropped. I have put spray foam in all of the cracks. I also have spray and candles that I use but I dont want my kids to inhale that also, and besides that don’t work either. I have talked to my landlord and she don’t know what to do. I really dont want to move this apartment is very nice and affordable for me. WHAT CAN I DO?
What is wrong with some of you people I ask a question and get called CRAZY. If I’m so crazy then HOW DID I PASS A SYC. TEST TO BE A CORRECTION OFFICER. If your going to be smart about the question then don’t answer it. I DON’T CARE IF YOU DON’T BELIEVE ME I LIVE WITH THIS EVERY DAY YOU DON’T. I thought that I would get some answers that were going to help me, INSTEAD I get answers from smart —–.
How long will it take him to feel good if quitting cymbalta, clonazapam, suboxone, cocaine, alcholol, xanax and oxycontin, how long will his withdrawal be?
He is in a medical detox but I could only afford ten days and I am thinking he will need more then that with the amount of things he is coming off, I am just worried because they do not seem to be worried about it but I think he needs longer
He is trying to get clean and I will make sure he does but don’t think jail is the place, does anyone have suggestions?
My son, Matt, has been drinking since he was 16 and I would like him to be sober again. He’s not talking to me about it because he would say that I am not always around. And he’s also failing in school. I don’t even know who his friends are. He needs help and I don’t know how I can help him if he keeps pushing me away. Please tell me how I can convince him to get alcohol rehab.
