Since before the baby and for the 14 months, I have been helping a lot….. I am the mother of the son…. She is a server, and 35, her ex boyfriend according to my son, broke up with her because of heavy drugs? My son told me this before he got together with her.. (Perhaps a year after she broke up with ex) A friend of hers told me she had been a heavy drug user when they lived together.. The question: I have been baby sitting while she went to work, at night, my son is also a server- After she started back to work about 3 months ago, she stayed out and did not come home till 3 in the after noon, I went over, as my son called me. When she comes home from work, she is smelling of alcohol. Then, last week, she did the same thing, but we were meeting at her mothers at 4 for a barbeque, and she said in front of her mother she had only got home at 3 in the after noon, her mother said nothing, so next day, I told her I was not able to stay overnight anymore at her place, as needed my sleep
and that gladly have the baby at my apt, condo, which I own, and have a babys bed , She said no, so it has been a week, she has not called, I told my son , I thought she was an alcoholic, and maybe even abusing drugs. Is once a user, always ,until one gets help, she baths the baby maybe once a week, the baby does not sleep in a crib, but in bed with her, and her clothes are all over the floor, for 6 months, I keep saying to my son, to do something about the mess. What do I do, Do I go to a lawyer, She is also on anti depressants for 10 years, my son is 30, and does not want to talk about it,,,,,
Her mother said nothing about her staying out all night. Also , the ex boy friend is hanging around when my son goes to work. My son is oblivous. He did tell me he pays all the bills, and she spends her money on her self. Does this sound like she set up my son to have a baby at 34(my son is 30) and he will be paying child support while she parties with her ex… should I or he see a lawyer, Do you see any concern? Drugs Her older sister just went to a rehab hospital for a year after spending 40, Thousand of her familys money, the sister is 40, HEr sister was using hard drugs, and has 2 boys 12 and 10,,, help , Am I over reacting? Should I stay out of it, but I have spent a lot of time with my grandaughter , and said to bring her to my condo, she said she does not want her to come to my place…. I have made it very easy for her…. I have done too much…… so now, should I see a lawyer about perhaps what i know,……..
So, my son should have to grow up, I agree, and hopefully he will let me know of any doubts , as he already has , hopefully my grandaughter will be walking soon, she is 15 months and not walking, any concerns I have my son filters me out,,,,,,thanks,
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My ex and I are no longer together and now he wants custody of our son. This is just being done to get back at me. I am in no way an unfit mother and have already raised my oldest son on my own, who is now 18 years old and away at college. He wants to win custody so he can avoid paying child support and wants to send my son to Africa to be raised by his mother. He has 2 jobs and works 6 days a week. He has no other family in this country to help raise my son. He seems to think he will win because he has a good job. I am not working and I am a nursing student with a large wonderful family and love my son dearly. I am a very very good mother, no record no abuse no drugs no alcohol, nothing. Can he actually win custody and take my son to Africa? We have a pending case in court now. I have addressed this point in court. Will they take his side over mine and let him send my son away?
Started dating this guy in high school, we both moved when i went to college. everything was great. 2 1/2 years into it i find out he’s been cheating since the beginning. keep in mind he also has a felony record, drug and alcohol problems, and is a chronic liar. ever since i got pregnant, he’s been faithful and tried to change the rest. we have again moved, and he’s holding a good job, off drugs, and doing well with the alcohol. He’s a great dad, when he wants or has to be. but otherwise, he’s pretty selfish and childish. the more time i spend thinking about leaving the less hard it seems. i really do want to salvage the relationship for my son, but i know that getting into a bad marriage is worse than no marriage at all. i’m really sick and tired of being his mom too. he’s never lived on his own and can’t take care of his own bills and needs, how can i expect him to take care of me and our son? not much time to decide!!! stay and get married, or leave and be a single mom. i know i can
Ok I have a four year old step daughter and six year old step son and my husband and I have an 11 month old together, not to mention I am 18 weeks pregnant with our second together. My husband says that I am crazy and that I try to separate the children which in fact is not my intent but I try to make him understand that I do my best to make everything as equal as possible when they are here but that its not a perfect situation and that the family will always be divided in a way because his kids are here one week and at their mothers the next. my husband does not pay child support (its in the papers) at all and thats why we have them 50 percent of the time but its really bad this way because the kids have no stability. i believe they need to be at both places for longer periods of time or one of us needs full custody. anyways my step daughter who i believe is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong gets into things when she knows she is not supposed to. she got into some school supplies of mine in a shoe box on my desk (she was snooping) and took out 3 safety pins at some point while i was going to the bathroom and dropped them in her brothers play pen. I discovered them thankfully before anything happened but i think it was resentment or jealousy towards the baby and/or acting out for attention that she doesnt get from her dad who has pawned them off on me from day 1. i told my husband that she knew better and he says well maybe she is slow (she was born addicted to meth because of her mother) and needs to be tested. i just find it hard to believe that she is slow considering she does not show signs of developmental delays and also i think her older brother might have put her up to it. he lied to my face when i asked him about it. he said he did not know anything. their dad (my husband) talked to them but my husband insists that i am crazy because i think they are out to get me. am i crazy for even thinking that. i believe that at 4 and 6 almost 5 and 7 that they can be manipulative and that they are not stupid. i am not saying they are out to get me or hurt our son but i do think this possibility should be checked into and also having her tested for developmental delays. but my husband just goes into blaming mode. the girl was spanked for what she did last night and they were both grounded to their rooms for a few hours today after we found out they were both lying and were checked on often. i find something very wrong with the fact that when i asked her why she did it after she finally admitted to me that her only answer was cuz. and then her brother to boldly lie to my face. i think they both need serious counseling and i think my husband is trying to turn the problem around on me and say that i am the problem. the whole situation is bad in of itself and i dont know what to do any more. my husband doesnt even think its a big deal to tell their mother what they did and i think its a serious issue that needs to be nipped in the butt now and he some how thinks that i am a bad person and crazy also cuz they wont tell me the truth but they will him well gee i wonder why!!! they are not my biological children and they know that and they resent being shuffled between two places, what else could it possibly be? and to those of you who say you married the kids too, well thats fine and dandy but my own flesh and blood could have been killed and that makes me not want to have those kids in the house if their father can not control them or get them help. i dont think im crazy for wanting that and i do my best to treat them the same but they need to show me respect too and i feel my husband should be on my side and respect my wishes especially since he leaves those kids with me 95 percent of the time because he works more and when he is home he is watching tv among other things as long as i am here. im fed up what should i do? i dont want something worse to happen next time if those kids dont get help and he realizes the seriousness of this situation.
the kids have rules and their own spaces at our house…i resent the situation and my husband for allowing it to be the way that it is…and my husband changed a lot since we got married expecting that everything in our family is to be “normal” and that i am their mother (meaning take her place when they are here) and i think the kids resent that….and the girl was snooping through my things the box was up higher on my desk where she would have had to have gotten a chair to climb up there and grab it. they have been known to be sneaky like that before. i left the room for 2 min to go to the bathroom…the baby was in his play pen. and the kids have also been warned time and time again how dangerous small objects and toys are to babies. HELLO?
Ok I have a four year old step daughter and six year old step son and my husband and I have an 11 month old together, not to mention I am 18 weeks pregnant with our second together. My husband says that I am crazy and that I try to separate the children which in fact is not my intent but I try to make him understand that I do my best to make everything as equal as possible when they are here but that its not a perfect situation and that the family will always be divided in a way because his kids are here one week and at their mothers the next. my husband does not pay child support (its in the papers) at all and thats why we have them 50 percent of the time but its really bad this way because the kids have no stability. i believe they need to be at both places for longer periods of time or one of us needs full custody. anyways my step daughter who i believe is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong gets into things when she knows she is not supposed to. she got into some school supplies of mine in a shoe box on my desk (she was snooping) and took out 3 safety pins at some point while i was going to the bathroom and dropped them in her brothers play pen. I discovered them thankfully before anything happened but i think it was resentment or jealousy towards the baby and/or acting out for attention that she doesnt get from her dad who has pawned them off on me from day 1. i told my husband that she knew better and he says well maybe she is slow (she was born addicted to meth because of her mother) and needs to be tested. i just find it hard to believe that she is slow considering she does not show signs of developmental delays and also i think her older brother might have put her up to it. he lied to my face when i asked him about it. he said he did not know anything. their dad (my husband) talked to them but my husband insists that i am crazy because i think they are out to get me. am i crazy for even thinking that. i believe that at 4 and 6 almost 5 and 7 that they can be manipulative and that they are not stupid. i am not saying they are out to get me or hurt our son but i do think this possibility should be checked into and also having her tested for developmental delays. but my husband just goes into blaming mode. the girl was spanked for what she did last night and they were both grounded to their rooms for a few hours today after we found out they were both lying and were checked on often. i find something very wrong with the fact that when i asked her why she did it after she finally admitted to me that her only answer was cuz. and then her brother to boldly lie to my face. i think they both need serious counseling and i think my husband is trying to turn the problem around on me and say that i am the problem. the whole situation is bad in of itself and i dont know what to do any more. my husband doesnt even think its a big deal to tell their mother what they did and i think its a serious issue that needs to be nipped in the butt now and he some how thinks that i am a bad person and crazy also cuz they wont tell me the truth but they will him well gee i wonder why!!! they are not my biological children and they know that and they resent being shuffled between two places, what else could it possibly be? and to those of you who say you married the kids too, well thats fine and dandy but my own flesh and blood could have been killed and that makes me not want to have those kids in the house if their father can not control them or get them help. i dont think im crazy for wanting that and i do my best to treat them the same but they need to show me respect too and i feel my husband should be on my side and respect my wishes especially since he leaves those kids with me 95 percent of the time because he works more and when he is home he is watching tv among other things as long as i am here. im fed up what should i do? i dont want something worse to happen next time if those kids dont get help and he realizes the seriousness of this situation.
she and her brother have been warned time and time again that small toys and objects are not for babies. they have rules and boundaries in our house. they knew better unless obviously there is some mental issue with the girl because of her mothers meth use. my husband forces me to pretend that we are a “normal” family and that i am the kids’ mother and he doesnt deal with the real mother..guess who has to do it? ME and i dont think its right. i dont resent the kids. i resent him and the situation he has made for our family. a lot of things changed when he married me he expected me to basically take the total place of their mother and i dont think they like that and thats why i feel they are being resentful….you cant you people see that?!
medication. He went to with drawl all of my grandmas banking account funds an hour after she died.
I am paying rent to my mom because I make a monthly check for satisfactory disorder, and bi polar. Satisfactory is a terrible disease. I have to wear my head phones when I leave the house and have loud music on at home so I don’t hear the voices that insult me. I also have agoraphobia and I was molested when I was 4. But I am not gay and it wasn’t my fault.
I pay my mom rent, I do the dishes, and I promised that I would always be by her side and never let her go to a nursing home. And no woman I’m dating ever will get in the way. She is my oldest aunt, she adopted me when I was little. My real mom died from hepatitis when she was 51.
How can I be the perfect son, despite my limitations? I go to culinary school, and this is my second semester, but I only took 9 credit hours. I also go to my moms work early and vacuum, pledge stuff, take out all of the trash. And I bought her some coffee that is from Star bucks. And I bought her her favorite kind of candles. And I may have given someone two valium 10′s, but that is only allegedly.
Now the main thing is I love my mother. The death of my grandma hurt me. I went to Kinko’s and got her picture from her youth hanging in a frames right in front of the computer. I just never want to be mean to my mom and I know I won’t because it is not in me. I hate meth now. Please give me some answers on anything in my life.
Schitzoaffective disorder I was trying to say.
I am prescribed the valium for agoraphobia, general anxiety disorder, panic attacks.
TY ok, it’s just very important that I make my mother as comfortable with the stress of her work, and because she adopted me. And she hates no one.
Ok I have a four year old step daughter and six year old step son and my husband and I have an 11 month old together, not to mention I am 18 weeks pregnant with our second together. My husband says that I am crazy and that I try to separate the children which in fact is not my intent but I try to make him understand that I do my best to make everything as equal as possible when they are here but that its not a perfect situation and that the family will always be divided in a way because his kids are here one week and at their mothers the next. my husband does not pay child support (its in the papers) at all and thats why we have them 50 percent of the time but its really bad this way because the kids have no stability. i believe they need to be at both places for longer periods of time or one of us needs full custody. anyways my step daughter who i believe is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong gets into things when she knows she is not supposed to. she got into some school supplies of mine in a shoe box on my desk (she was snooping) and took out 3 safety pins at some point while i was going to the bathroom and dropped them in her brothers play pen. I discovered them thankfully before anything happened but i think it was resentment or jealousy towards the baby and/or acting out for attention that she doesnt get from her dad who has pawned them off on me from day 1. i told my husband that she knew better and he says well maybe she is slow (she was born addicted to meth because of her mother) and needs to be tested. i just find it hard to believe that she is slow considering she does not show signs of developmental delays and also i think her older brother might have put her up to it. he lied to my face when i asked him about it. he said he did not know anything. their dad (my husband) talked to them but my husband insists that i am crazy because i think they are out to get me. am i crazy for even thinking that. i believe that at 4 and 6 almost 5 and 7 that they can be manipulative and that they are not stupid. i am not saying they are out to get me or hurt our son but i do think this possibility should be checked into and also having her tested for developmental delays. but my husband just goes into blaming mode. the girl was spanked for what she did last night and they were both grounded to their rooms for a few hours today after we found out they were both lying and were checked on often. i find something very wrong with the fact that when i asked her why she did it after she finally admitted to me that her only answer was cuz. and then her brother to boldly lie to my face. i think they both need serious counseling and i think my husband is trying to turn the problem around on me and say that i am the problem. the whole situation is bad in of itself and i dont know what to do any more. my husband doesnt even think its a big deal to tell their mother what they did and i think its a serious issue that needs to be nipped in the butt now and he some how thinks that i am a bad person and crazy also cuz they wont tell me the truth but they will him well gee i wonder why!!! they are not my biological children and they know that and they resent being shuffled between two places, what else could it possibly be? and to those of you who say you married the kids too, well thats fine and dandy but my own flesh and blood could have been killed and that makes me not want to have those kids in the house if their father can not control them or get them help. i dont think im crazy for wanting that and i do my best to treat them the same but they need to show me respect too and i feel my husband should be on my side and respect my wishes especially since he leaves those kids with me 95 percent of the time because he works more and when he is home he is watching tv among other things as long as i am here. im fed up what should i do? i dont want something worse to happen next time if those kids dont get help and he realizes the seriousness of this situation.
she and her brother have been warned time and time again that small toys and objects are not for babies. they have rules and boundaries in our house. they knew better unless obviously there is some mental issue with the girl because of her mothers meth use. my husband forces me to pretend that we are a “normal” family and that i am the kids’ mother and he doesnt deal with the real mother..guess who has to do it? ME and i dont think its right. i dont resent the kids. i resent him and the situation he has made for our family. a lot of things changed when he married me he expected me to basically take the total place of their mother and i dont think they like that and thats why i feel they are being resentful….you cant you people see that?!
isnt is amazing that just cuz of the fact that i say they are my step children people automatically assume i dont love them?!!? i am tired of being blamed for shit that just isnt true..unless you are in the situation or a similar situation you just cant really fathom the whole deal completely. our society is really screwed up by the media and old crappy fairy tales like cinderella and hansel and gretel…get real people and grow up…thanks to those who understand my frustration and pain…but im some how a horrible person if i am upset because they are my step children….maybe i should have never mentioned step and you woulda maybe spoke differently….i dont think its fair that people feel they need to be treated better or differently because they are step children who are put upon. BULL SHIT those kids are shown plenty of attention at our household by me…how come none of you think their father has a problem…hes the one that doenst pay attention to them!
isnt is amazing that just cuz of the fact that i say they are my step children people automatically assume i dont love them?!!? i am tired of being blamed for shit that just isnt true..unless you are in the situation or a similar situation you just cant really fathom the whole deal completely. our society is really screwed up by the media and old crappy fairy tales like cinderella and hansel and gretel…get real people and grow up…thanks to those who understand my frustration and pain…but im some how a horrible person if i am upset because they are my step children….maybe i should have never mentioned step and you woulda maybe spoke differently….i dont think its fair that people feel they need to be treated better or differently because they are step children who are put upon. BULL SHIT those kids are shown plenty of attention at our household by me…how come none of you think their father has a problem…hes the one that doenst pay attention to them!
Ok I have a four year old step daughter and six year old step son and my husband and I have an 11 month old together, not to mention I am 18 weeks pregnant with our second together. My husband says that I am crazy and that I try to separate the children which in fact is not my intent but I try to make him understand that I do my best to make everything as equal as possible when they are here but that its not a perfect situation and that the family will always be divided in a way because his kids are here one week and at their mothers the next. my husband does not pay child support (its in the papers) at all and thats why we have them 50 percent of the time but its really bad this way because the kids have no stability. i believe they need to be at both places for longer periods of time or one of us needs full custody. anyways my step daughter who i believe is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong gets into things when she knows she is not supposed to. she got into some school supplies of mine in a shoe box on my desk (she was snooping) and took out 3 safety pins at some point while i was going to the bathroom and dropped them in her brothers play pen. I discovered them thankfully before anything happened but i think it was resentment or jealousy towards the baby and/or acting out for attention that she doesnt get from her dad who has pawned them off on me from day 1. i told my husband that she knew better and he says well maybe she is slow (she was born addicted to meth because of her mother) and needs to be tested. i just find it hard to believe that she is slow considering she does not show signs of developmental delays and also i think her older brother might have put her up to it. he lied to my face when i asked him about it. he said he did not know anything. their dad (my husband) talked to them but my husband insists that i am crazy because i think they are out to get me. am i crazy for even thinking that. i believe that at 4 and 6 almost 5 and 7 that they can be manipulative and that they are not stupid. i am not saying they are out to get me or hurt our son but i do think this possibility should be checked into and also having her tested for developmental delays. but my husband just goes into blaming mode. the girl was spanked for what she did last night and they were both grounded to their rooms for a few hours today after we found out they were both lying and were checked on often. i find something very wrong with the fact that when i asked her why she did it after she finally admitted to me that her only answer was cuz. and then her brother to boldly lie to my face. i think they both need serious counseling and i think my husband is trying to turn the problem around on me and say that i am the problem. the whole situation is bad in of itself and i dont know what to do any more. my husband doesnt even think its a big deal to tell their mother what they did and i think its a serious issue that needs to be nipped in the butt now and he some how thinks that i am a bad person and crazy also cuz they wont tell me the truth but they will him well gee i wonder why!!! they are not my biological children and they know that and they resent being shuffled between two places, what else could it possibly be? and to those of you who say you married the kids too, well thats fine and dandy but my own flesh and blood could have been killed and that makes me not want to have those kids in the house if their father can not control them or get them help. i dont think im crazy for wanting that and i do my best to treat them the same but they need to show me respect too and i feel my husband should be on my side and respect my wishes especially since he leaves those kids with me 95 percent of the time because he works more and when he is home he is watching tv among other things as long as i am here. im fed up what should i do? i dont want something worse to happen next time if those kids dont get help and he realizes the seriousness of this situation.
Yes and like i said she could have a developmental delay but i find it hard to believe but im not ignoring that possibility. i think her and her brother both need counseling. they both were warned time and time again how dangerous small toys and objects are to babies. it was not like they were not told. they are old enough to know the difference IF THERE IS NO MENTAL ISSUE. this girl is supposed to be in kindergarten in less than a year. hello?
Yes these children have their own space the girl has her own room for christs sakes. the baby and the other boy share a room because we only have three bedrooms. they are never treated like they are extras. the only way they would feel that way is the fact that they are shuffled by the choices of their BIOLOGICAL MOTHER AND FATHER which i am not. that is that. plain and simple. i have expressed my concern to both of them and guess what? they think its just fine for the kids. some parents eh? my husband did not have this custody until we had been together for awhile. so its not like i knew it would all be like this. ok
Now wait a minute…i left to use the bathroom for 2 minutes…what do u expect me to do..take them all to the bathroom with me and for your information my step daughter went searching through my things. when she knew that she is not supposed to do those things…. she is not a toddler she is almost 5 (4 years and 11 months)!!! and the other kid is almost done with 1st grade not kindergarten (he’s almost 7)! and spanking is not illegal especially if the intent was not to harm them or leave marks which i didnt! so dont judge my parenting i asked a question. THANK YOU.
Now wait a minute…i left to use the bathroom for 2 minutes…what do u expect me to do..take them all to the bathroom with me and for your information my step daughter went searching through my things. when she knew that she is not supposed to do those things…. she is not a toddler she is almost 5 (4 years and 11 months)!!! and the other kid is almost done with 1st grade not kindergarten (he’s almost 7)! and spanking is not illegal especially if the intent was not to harm them or leave marks which i didnt! so dont judge my parenting i asked a question. THANK YOU.
also…the baby could have put those safety pins in his mouth and choked and died. whether or not she was trying to kill him i dont know how people would not think she needs help.
by the way the safety pins were in a box out of their reach (up higher on my desk)…meaning they must have climbed something to get to them…so obviously they were looking through my things….i never said that they were trying to kill the baby but tell me why that is not possible? please any body show me a reference PLEASE!
i appreciate some of the answers with compassion here and logical explanations but how many of you are actually in a step situation? or blended family?
i am 24 years old 25 on friday
isnt is amazing that just cuz of the fact that i say they are my step children people automatically assume i dont love them?!!? i am tired of being blamed for **** that just isnt true..unless you are in the situation or a similar situation you just cant really fathom the whole deal completely. our society is really screwed up by the media and old crappy fairy tales like cinderella and hansel and gretel…get real people and grow up…thanks to those who understand my frustration and pain…but im some how a horrible person if i am upset because they are my step children….maybe i should have never mentioned step and you woulda maybe spoke differently….i dont think its fair that people feel they need to be treated better or differently because they are step children who are put upon. BULL **** those kids are shown plenty of attention at our household by me…how come none of you think their father has a problem…hes the one that doenst pay attention to them!
My son is 5 months old and he is 18 pounds… hes not fat.. just solid.
He eats like 44 ounces of formula per day which is ALOT. and im not rich… he is going through it like water.. every like 3 or 4 days which is pathetic!!!! I feed him rice cereal for breakfast and 1st stage foods at 9.
Im just wondering when i should feed him to get him off this INSANE formula binge!!!
thanks guys!!
OKay… thanks guys.. im not sure what WIC is… im from canada.. i get baby bonus tho.
Should i start feeding him first stage foods at lunch as well?
OKay… thanks guys.. im not sure what WIC is… im from canada.. i get baby bonus tho.
Should i start feeding him first stage foods at lunch as well?
I am adopting my 3 month old nephew from my drug addicted sister who can no longer care for him. The issue is, I have never had kids!! I did this as a favor out of love since i do not want the kid in foster care or to be adopted out to strangers. I financially cut it, and the CPS approved of me after doing a background check. I am reading up on baby books, but nothing tells me the one thing I want to know!!
WHAT IS A TYPICAL DAY LIKE WITH A 3 YR MONTH OLD AND HOW TO GET IT ON A NORMAL SLEEP SCHEDULE???? WHAT DO I DO WITH IT BESIDES CHANGE DIAPERS AND DO BABY TALK? WHEN DO I MAKE BOTTLES? HOW DO I MEASURE FORMULA CORRECTLY??? I know i need to get it into a sleep schedule since the books say 3 months is the age for that, and I know he needs to learn to self-soothe and sleep alone and nap only twice a day. JUST HOW DO I SCHEDULE THE DAY OUT PROPERLY? LIKE WHEN TO WAKE HIM, WHEN TO PUT HIM TO SLEEP, HOW TO MAKE BOTTLES WHEN HE IS AWAKE ALL THE TIME??
Thanks!
The mother is a known meth user. Is in a home for mothers on meth ,but is always breaking the rules.This has gone to court 2 times sents Jan. but the judge keeps letting her keep him in the home with her. My son has done drug tests orderd by the courts and has passed all of them. She is do to get out of this home soon to go back to a roommate who is a user. Please help.
My sons have to go stay with their dad for a month during the summer and while he was there in July my son said his dad went and bought a lot of beer and they sat and drank it one night….my x is not being a parent and i think this is some kind of abuse…my x even knew about my son drinking at a friends this weekend and didn’t even call and tell me about it. My son said he told his dad and his dad said “just don’t do anything crazy”…i had a police officer come and talk with my son and explain the consequences and i hope it helps…but i don’t know what to do about this x…my son hates me because i have rules…i don’t want my son to grow up being a alcoholic like his father. And my son is very hateful toward me, because he says all i do is harp. And he gets mad and very physical..i told him i would take him to therapy but he said if i tried it he would just run away.
My father -in-law is an alcoholic and has been very moody lately. If we are there for 5 hours he will have about 10-15 drinks. Im not comfortable being around someone like this so obviously I don’t want my son around it. Are there any nice ways i can stop going over there with him?
