her, completely OBLIVIOUS to her pain.
She IS MOST DEFINITELY A TROUBLED WOMAN, with her drugs and alcohol problems. And now this ! Imagine how she feels, and what this may do to her. Her son’s death also sounds VERY SUSPICIOUS, like DRUG USE !
Do you visit Yahoo Message Boards and what do you think about them ?????????
Details (If you care): Okay so, my friend wanted to get high, and this trailer trash ************, who claims to be the Zodiac Killers son, says that he can clean her pipe out w rubbing alcohol, put the stuff on a plate and when the rubbing alcohol evaporates from the resin that they can smoke it. Is that true? bc I told her that I will buy her an 8th and soak it in rubbing alcohol, and then we can let it evaporate, we’ll roll a blunt/ joint and if she smokes it and doesnt get sick, then I’ll pay her 100.00
Details (If you care): Okay so, my friend wanted to get high, and this trailer trash ************, who claims to be the Zodiac Killers son, says that he can clean her pipe out w rubbing alcohol, put the stuff on a plate and when the rubbing alcohol evaporates from the resin that they can smoke it. Is that true? bc I told her that I will buy her an 8th and soak it in rubbing alcohol, and then we can let it evaporate, we’ll roll a blunt/ joint and if she smokes it and doesnt get sick, then I’ll pay her 100.00
Details (If you care): Okay so, my friend wanted to get high, and this trailer trash motherfucker, who claims to be the Zodiac Killers son, says that he can clean her pipe out w rubbing alcohol, put the stuff on a plate and when the rubbing alcohol evaporates from the resin that they can smoke it. Is that true? bc I told her that I will buy her an 8th and soak it in rubbing alcohol, and then we can let it evaporate, we’ll roll a blunt/ joint and if she smokes it and doesnt get sick, then I’ll pay her 100.00
My own mother will not acknowledge the plight of single mothers who were left by their husbands. Her attitude wouldn’t bother me, if she didn’t fill my kids head with garbage claiming we’re “mentally ill” or not good wives for obeying our husbands and we probably did something offensive and needed to be “put back in line” as she states in referring to physical violence. She blames the women.
She thinks that those who work outside of the home should be reported as neglecting our children, I have a flexible self-employed job that revolves around the children, making only about 15% of my previous salary, but I understand others don’t have that luxury, and she thinks you are irresponsible and should have your kids taken away. She feels we should go out and get another husband. I think it’s irresponsible for me to do this at this point – all my attention needs to go to these kids. I don’t date.
She has threatened me several times over the past ten years to take away my kids, right in front of them, for no good reason, and it upsets the children. Yet she won’t even take care of them for a weekend – my father will, he sees it, but he bows at her feet and won’t stand up to her. I have a child neglect charge on me while they were visiting her years ago because she would let them go out on their own. Don’t worry, they don’t stay alone with her anymore, I don’t get any break, I think it was deliberate, yet more importantly, I think some damage has been done to the kids. We are always afraid of losing their family & home. It’s a terrible way to live and I can’t seem to stop it.
When I ignore this stuff, I tend to get a phone call that my father is sick, isn’t going to make it, and we run up to be at his side just to find it was a ploy. My sister is an Attorney who takes her side, runs background checks on me and anyone who comes near me. So she looks legitimate to the kids sometimes and they don’t know what to think. They love their Grandfather, and want to have contact with him, yet she interferes constantly. He won’t exclude her to spend time with the kids. It has to be both of them or nothing. This is their only family. I’ve been trashed to the rest of my dysfunctional siblings because I left and turned out to be “normal”.
So that’s an idea of what I’m facing – could you help me out here?
Give me a list of what you’ve lost, both material and otherwise.
If you have any stories comparing how you were treated before and after, please explain.
You don’t need to go at this with too much intelligence. She’s never worked a day in her life, dirt poor farmer’s daughter, married wealth, my father raised us and her girls were her slaves, boys were kings, and she had hired help when girls left her household. Her sons are alcoholics, drug addicts and other things I won’t list, whose wives support them, so simple answers, that are not of foul language would help the most.
I may use some of your responses to show children – I need to get their heads on straight about this so that my boys can have respect for women and someday have happy marriages, etc.. She’s setting them up and I don’t have anyone else to back me up here. They are confused sometimes and need some guidance from outside sources. Yes, we have a male family counselor I took them to, and he thinks I do a fantastic job on my own, said I was “not just another dime-a-dozen single mom” and feels society has shafted us. But the minute we walk out of his office reality settles in. It confuses the children.
I have indeed forgiven her, I can’t carry around her hatred, but it’s not stopping.
Thank you in advance, and stay strong.
Thanks folks – Yeah, mom’s this way, but dad has literally begged me to let the kids be in his life, I’m always giving second, thrid, fourth chances – turning the other cheek, taking the high road, etc., my bad. I haven’t told you the worst as I may show some of this to the kids and I don’t want to completely trash another human being. I pray for her.
I do not want to chat with anyone unless they are an AA or NA member. I am desperate for help. I have a problem with alcohol and I need support and advice from someone in the program. I just want to talk to someone who has been through or is going through the same problems I have. My email is christyandzach50@yahoo.com My 10 year old son is zach and I need help in this area of alcoholism. Please please email me if you have it in your heart to talk. I need help. I need to talk to someone. Thank you. christy
my dad (grandmas son) died a month ago from a freak electrocution accident at work. He was the most beautiful, happy, nice, and caring person in the world. His death has come as a shock to everyone and there are really no words to describe our painful and devastating loss.
I am only 19 and still have my whole life ahead of me, but my grandma is 85. She only has one other son who is a homeless alcohol (who doesnt care at all) and she doesnt have a husband. We can not take care of her but I feel so bad. She has fallen on the ground and been to the hospital twice because she is so depressed and her health is deteriorating after my dads death.
What can I do to help her, it breaks my heart to see her like this. He was such a good son to her. In fact, she was visiting him from Europe when this whole accident happened.
I lost a baby boy 5 years ago to SIDS. It has been a struggle for me. I am now engaged to a different girl. There seems to be a serious problem with her but I don’t know how to put my finger on it to fix things. Our relationship was great for a couple months. Then she suddenly started getting angry, aggressive, violent, and insisting that I was a meth addict. Everytime she came back home we were okay for a couple days, and then suddenly I would say something that would make her angry, and she would start accusing me of smothering my baby, sleeping while my baby died, using my dead child as an excuse. She says I don’t care about him because I am sad that he died, she says that if I really gave a **** I’d talk about his life, even though that is hard because of trauma. She tells me that my son died purposely because he couldn’t stand to live with me. Just like my fiance claims she feels, and that’s why she needs to leave me. Someone please, what is going on? Am I really as messed up as she says?
I satisfied all the requirements to get my daughter back from
DCFS, yet they would not give her back. They told me I could raise one child but not two, which is bogus. My little girl has been stuck in the foster care system since age 7 and now she is 15. I had some health problems which were temporary and resolved, and they still would not return her to me. A few months ago I read in the paper that the public defender that I had was arrested for being part of a cocaine ring in the county where my case was held. Please let me know what I can do now to get her back. Can I get a new hearing?? I will also add that I have been good enough to raise a healthy and happy high functioning autistic son during this whole time and he is now 20. So for then to claim I am unfit is just bull. I know my daughter loves us and misses us terribly!! Help!! I live in Illinois.
He’s 22 and a college student and just doesn’t have much of an appetite. He just keeps getting thinner. Is this something to worry about? He has no other symptoms and seems happy and healthy. No drug use or alcohol, and no depression.
from the beginning ..me and my sons father have been together onn and off for 2 years we have an amazing lil 11 month old boy. a week ago he went on a drinking binge with his friends and became a diff person ignoring his family nd me for 3 days ,.. nd then he left me saying that he loves me but isnt in love with me nd that there was someone else (but just bc he said theres someone else doesnt mean there is he used it as a cop out b4 nd according to his mom nd sis hes hasnt been hanging out with ne one else hes been home after work everyday) but even the way he spoke to me was so different so mean he never spoke to me like that b4 ever… right b4 this all happened he was tellin me he loved me everyday nd how he couldnt wait to see me nd the baby that weekend how much he missed us.. his mother told me that she knows how much he loves me she didnt kno why he was doing this and all week he was braggin that we were coming down that weekend nd i was gonna have my new car ( he lives in pa nd i moved back to ny b4 the baby was born).. so im just so confused why just overnight he would throw us nd everything we have been through away.. nd the past couple of days he has been textin me asking what the baby is doin i wont answer him his mom said he asked her if she talked to me cuz i wont answer him she said he was worried about us.. does he want to come back , will he come back, will we be a family again ?
I’m eighteen almost nineteen years old and my life is such a mess, all my life i have been raised by my gran due to my mums drug addiction and from a very young child i seen everything to do with drugs and alcoholism and understood all the ins and outs to it ..reality to me has been very clear all my childhood. My dad walked out on me and hasn’t returned as his new wife doesn’t accept me as family and so he didn’t even send me a card for my 18th or a xmas present last year… so i have been living with my gran .. and also in the household lives my uncle who is a binge drinker and gambler .. we had an argument a few days ago and he attacked me .. their was a riot in the house however i didn’t phone the police as my gran didn’t want to go to court against her own son and i respect my gran and didn’t want to put her in an awkward position so i decided to leave .. after a few hours i got so worried leaving her with my uncle that i returned to the house .. however she wouldn’t throw him out as he didn’t have any were to go. Through out all this for the last 2 years i have been seeing this guy and ive been really close to him .. we practically love one another however i have been keeping him a secret from the family as he is 40 ..i know its wrong but u cant help who you fall in love with ..he found out and says i was either to get out the house and stay with him for a while or hes phoning the police . .at a point he even said he was coming to speak with my gran about the situation. I tried explaining to him that i would prefer it if we broke all contact as im too stressed out and our situation isnt helping and he says he has my house number and friends numbers .. he could phone at any time but i need to learn to trust him.. however .. im constantly on edge every day. He bought me xmas presents and says i was to get a train to his house to collect them and he would drive me back with them.. but then i have the stress of explaining to my gran where i will be for 5 hours and how im going to get a sack full of presents from a secret lover into the house! i was so under stress with keeping secrets and trying to keep the peace and make everything ok with the family .. to make matters worse .. my so called ”best friends” havnt phoned or texted me in 4 weeks.. they found out about what my uncle done and didnt even bother to come and see if i was ok.. plus they all drive and one lives downstairs from me .. when i text them i get no reply .. also its my birthday 4 days after xmas and none of them have contacted me when i asked them if they would like to go for a meal for my birthday .. im paying .. im on the verge of having a breakdown .. im in such a mess and so confused .. i feel depressed and betrayed by everyone .. i don’t know what to do or who to turn to.
My now ex sister in law has cut my whole family out of her and her sons life (he is 1). i haven’t seen him since he was 1 month old. My brother is a drug addict, I supported her divorcing him, but she ended up deciding she cannot “fully” cut my brother out of her life and move on unless she cuts us all out. My brother happily signed over his parental rights. I always had hope she would talk to me again and I’d see my nephew again, but I found out today that she is getting married and that her fiance actually adopted my nephew right after my brother gave up his rights. Now it’s pretty much sunk in there is no reason she would ever talk to me again. I was really attached to her and especially to my nephew, because I was her labor coach I was there when the baby was born and was one of the first people to hold him, and we just were extremely close during her whole pregnancy and after. I also had a miscarriage right around when my nephew was born, and I think that made me more emotional too. I just am having a hard time dealing with this. I’ve tried to contact her many times over the past year and she just ignores me. How can I move on?
while i appreciate the sympathy, some advice on how to move on would be nice. i already blame my brother plenty, but that doesn’t help me move on.
He is a 7 yr. old boy and the father is an alcoholic who drinks heavily every single day, cuts himself when he drinks, and is often passed out and naked. He is on welfare, and no one can see him getting better. The mother doesn’t know this is happening, what to do, can she get custody for her son after she didn’t get it the first time around.
long story short my drug addict brother married and had a baby and i got really close with his wife we called each other sisters and with my nephew as he is my first nephew and my brother screwed up the marriage and she took off and cut my whole family out of her life including me. i have tried to contact her she ignores me. tomorrow is my nephews birthday his first birthday and i havent seen him since he was in NICU. i am just so depressed i miss them so much and im not sure how to cope
he has been fighting for custody for his son, the love of my life. missed his court date yesterday and she got full custody. then he steals 200.00 from his girlfriend and blows it up his nose. i put him in treatment when he was 18. my only thought is i will never be able to see that beautiful boy and i am just dying inside. help!!!!! i just want to give up with him. he has hurt his family so many times. i am to the point of kicking him out of my life. he is my only son and i have always been there for him, but, now i don’t know.
he has been fighting for custody for his son, the love of my life. missed his court date yesterday and she got full custody. then he steals 200.00 from his girlfriend and blows it up his nose. i put him in treatment when he was 18. my only thought is i will never be able to see that beautiful boy and i am just dying inside. help!!!!! i just want to give up with him. he has hurt his family so many times. i am to the point of kicking him out of my life. he is my only son and i have always been there for him, but, now i don’t know.
everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.
