My husband and I have four children, now all grown. After our youngest moved out, I left my husband. All during the marriage I asked and pleaded that he clean up. He would often lie to me, saying he quit, but I found out after the fact that he was indeed still using. My husband and I have been seperated for three years — I can not afford to pay for a divorce and he just assumes we will be back together any time now. My husband did attend treatment for three months after I left him, but every time I see him (family functions, etc) he is having a ‘few’ drinks . At our son’s wedding on Friday night he became intoxicated and my children felt it was my duty to bring him home — as he is my husband. I refused and left the reception. What can I do? They don’t get it.
I think I need to clarify why I can’t afford a divorce. We had a business together, which failed, and we owe nearly a half million dollars. Bankruptcy is an option — but I would have to file on the corporation to clear that debt — which is much more costly than a simple personal bankruptcy. I have been searching high and low for a job — I have earned only a few thousand dollars this year. I can barely afford to eat — much less hire an attorney. So, it’s really not bullshit as one person stated. It’s a financial nightmare, combined with alcholism. I truly don’t need critism – had enough of that to last a life time — I need constructive advice.
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My son is addicted to alcohol. I think it’s best that he finally went to an addiction treatment center. I want to know how I can look for one.
My son is addicted to alcohol. I think it’s best that he finally went to an addiction treatment center. I want to know how I can look for one.
Its not happening for a while but in november there is going to be a night or 2 where i have to leave my son, he will be 16 months old at the time. I have never left him before so im worrying about it already.
Anyway, my mum smokes and she ALWAYS has a few glasses of wine a night, there have been times where i have asked her to take me somewhere in the evening and she makes my dad do it because she HAS to drink. She denies being an alcoholic but we (me and my partner) believe she is. She also goes to bed very early, around 7.30-8.30 everynight and my son doesnt usually go to bed until 9pm at the earliest, it can be anywhere from 9-12pm depending on his mood. She also NEVER listens to what i say for him, i have a set routine and she will not stick to it. I go there every saturday and she wont listen to me about anything.
She called me and i told her about these nights we have to go out and leave him and she asked who will be looking after my son and i told her that my cousin said she would like to do it (her sister has 2 kids that she looks after a lot so i trust her). However he doesnt really know her very well, he would only see her maybe once a month and thats only for maybe 2 hours. I dont have any other friends or family he could stay with, so im not sure what to do.
My mom called me yesterday and told me that my uncle is furious with his son (my cousin) because he told a local paper that his father did crack cocaine when he was younger and that his brother sold drugs. Apparently it truly happened years ago… he is 37 now.
He was featured in an article about graduating from college later in life… so overall it’s a good story.. our family is furious now that he told the reporter his father did crack and and his brother sold drugs.
Would you air your parents dirty laundry to make yourself look good? Should my family be ticked off enough to not attend his graduation or graduation party?
Now that his father has changed his life and has a good job and new friends he is afraid of losing them along with custody of his young daughter
Just wondering why my son was able to loose weight faster than my husband, when they started diet at same time. My son feels its the alcohol that made him fat and that is something he cut out along with flour and sugar.
just bought a drug testing kit for cocaine for my son. The website calls it a COC test. I have heard that cocaine is really only detectable in the form of benzoylecgonine, a metabolite produced only when cocaine has been used.
Q: do all COC tests look for the metabolite benzoylecgonine
My son will not stay at home because I told him to stay away from his girl friend who I know is a crystal meth user. Now I only hear from him when he needs something. They stay any where and dont work she getd state aid. I think he is now using the drug
A nephew, age 46, wants to move in with me for a while as he was put out of his home. I let him stay here once before because he can really be nice but he can and often is verbally abusive, a total slob, will do nothing around the house, disappeared for days on end without calling, When he showed up he would sleep for two days. He’s really smart but doesn’t seem to want to do anything for himself. He does day work for a temp agency when work is available.
I want to be helpful but am afraid to go through the hell I went through with him the last time. I don’t know anything about drugs but it seems there must be some answer to this problem.
